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Quote by gaggy
Tops? Care to explain?
Mal
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Never heard of it before, although that doesn't mean it's new. Where does it come from?
By the way, Malcolm, can you redo your location in your profile to read 'Lancashire?'
Mal
By the way, Malcolm, can you redo your location in your profile to read 'Lancashire?'
Mal
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Mal 
- tops, you know t-shirts, jumpers, sweatshirts etc... oh no,soz, wrong tops - never been that good with clothing....
A top is someone who does the shagging and is not shagged - is that right?
- tops, you know t-shirts, jumpers, sweatshirts etc... oh no,soz, wrong tops - never been that good with clothing....A top is someone who does the shagging and is not shagged - is that right?
Casanova
Quote by gaggy
How strange !! :shock:
A few possibilites perhaps :
Spinning toys
A few spare 'T' shirts
Lids to jars !!
Trumps cards played in the school play ground
Formal hats ?
All very strange
Dan
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I've lead such a sheltered life. i can be so niaive about these sexual terminologies. 
But you still haven't changed your profile location
Mal
But you still haven't changed your profile location
Mal
It originates in the BDSM world. A "top" is the dominant one, supplies, a "bottom " receives. Some people are flexible in that they can play top or bottom and "switch" another term you might come across.
It's not just shagging, it can mean anything where one is the pro-active and one the passive if you like. Not too unlike active and passive in homosexual/bisexual males.
It's not new, it is well known within and without the BDSM community and if anyone fancies expanding their sexual knowledge try reading Forum magazine, it has information on all aspects of sex and is a great read (no I don't have shares or work for it, or it's publishers..lol) and it is amazing what we all can learn!!!!
God I love this lifestyle, it is so diverse!!
Stu of the "Fran & ...." variety.
It's not just shagging, it can mean anything where one is the pro-active and one the passive if you like. Not too unlike active and passive in homosexual/bisexual males.
It's not new, it is well known within and without the BDSM community and if anyone fancies expanding their sexual knowledge try reading Forum magazine, it has information on all aspects of sex and is a great read (no I don't have shares or work for it, or it's publishers..lol) and it is amazing what we all can learn!!!!
God I love this lifestyle, it is so diverse!!
Stu of the "Fran & ...." variety.
Sexlightened
We also a cpl from Lancs but we also no the tops which is hills which is the hills and the country side never new sex could be called the tops that def a new one to us, lololol we also do outdoor fun so if anybody wants to drop us a line then plz do so
Is this tops?
Gaggy, I expect my bottoms to be a little more deferential when they humbly beg my attention. Your brusque and ill mannered approach displeases me. If you modify your behaviour sufficiently, I may deign to notice you. Your pathetic attempt to appease me by disguising your sex is not enough, you will naturally be whatever sex I tell you to be.
I suspect I may have confused two issues here, does passive really have to be the same as sub? - It must be just as easy to be dominant by doing nothing?
(Thinks - this may be a boys thing, getting your own way by doing nothing - we call it sulking )
lhk
Kat
Gaggy, I expect my bottoms to be a little more deferential when they humbly beg my attention. Your brusque and ill mannered approach displeases me. If you modify your behaviour sufficiently, I may deign to notice you. Your pathetic attempt to appease me by disguising your sex is not enough, you will naturally be whatever sex I tell you to be.
I suspect I may have confused two issues here, does passive really have to be the same as sub? - It must be just as easy to be dominant by doing nothing?
(Thinks - this may be a boys thing, getting your own way by doing nothing - we call it sulking
)lhk
Kat
Quote by Heather
I've never come across a vanilla that claims to be either a top, bottom or switch...
You learn something every day.
In the fetish scene that we know, which I have to admit is limited! We have found that alot of couples do like to switch to give each other the best of both worlds. However we do believe you are more one way than the other.
Im sure the devoted tops or bottoms, Dom's and subs...call them what you will, would say you cant switch, but it works for us :twisted: :twisted:
:lol: :wink: :wink: Love Fran
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Hey Kat - you'd make it real big in the BDSM world with your way with words - I bet you've got a whole gang of subs on their knees waiting now, you big tease, you! 8)
being dom by doing nothing sounds like a great plan to me - really appeals to the lazy streak in me... you know, the tall dark silent type - well it worked for Clint Eastwood :inlove: , so why not me....
....so all you bottoms, watch out, I'm coming!!!!!! :grin:
being dom by doing nothing sounds like a great plan to me - really appeals to the lazy streak in me... you know, the tall dark silent type - well it worked for Clint Eastwood :inlove: , so why not me....
....so all you bottoms, watch out, I'm coming!!!!!! :grin:
Warming the Bed
Comment above from fran and stu is spot-on: couples that switch can often that way ensure that eachother's experience is rewarding ....
my own take on this is that you really cannot expect to be a stylish, skilled and effective top/dom/domme without at least some experience/time spent in bottom/sub role .. and that is a view shared by many friends, those fully in 24/7 lifestyle and those who like to pay a visit to power-exganged relationships for a change now and again
best regards to all
The Kent Host
my own take on this is that you really cannot expect to be a stylish, skilled and effective top/dom/domme without at least some experience/time spent in bottom/sub role .. and that is a view shared by many friends, those fully in 24/7 lifestyle and those who like to pay a visit to power-exganged relationships for a change now and again
best regards to all
The Kent Host
Sex God
OK, yes, many people switch and that is fine for them if they like to play different roles. However, I don't think it is necessary for a dom or a sub to play the other role just so that they can develop their skill and understanding of their partner. When I role play I'm always dom, there is no way in this world I could ever fit into a sub role. That is not cos I'm opposed to it or feel it is any way negative, it is simply not me. I don't think my ability to dominate is affected in any way cos I've never wished to play a sub role. All that said, I've never considered myself a top! :shock:
Quote by bluexxx
Hey Kat - you'd make it real big in the BDSM world with your way with words - I bet you've got a whole gang of subs on their knees waiting now, you big tease, you! 8)
Problem is - people keep calling my bluff! (Jags 
)Quote by BlueCos you can only manage one out of 3? :twisted:
being dom by doing nothing sounds like a great plan to me - really appeals to the lazy streak in me... you know, the tall dark silent type - well it worked for Clint Eastwood :inlove: , so why not me....
lhk
Kat
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Ahem - well, one out of three ain't bad! No, actually - I'm tall(ish), have dark hair, and when I'm at my most dominant I use very few words - it's all in the action and poise you see.... :shock:
Sex God
Soz gaggy, looks like your thread's been hijaked... 
You didn't give much info in your orginal post... are you looking for males, females, groups, or are you not bothered? You might be better giving a bit more info about yourself then people will take you more seriously. Also, try the fetish section of the photo ads, there are a lot of poeple into BDSM who advertise there.
You didn't give much info in your orginal post... are you looking for males, females, groups, or are you not bothered? You might be better giving a bit more info about yourself then people will take you more seriously. Also, try the fetish section of the photo ads, there are a lot of poeple into BDSM who advertise there.
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....so all you watch out, I'm coming!!!!!! :grin:
Hmm - heard that before recently!!
I've never considered myself top! :shock:
You're always top in my book, Blue
Mal
