Hi everyone,
First of all I just want to say what a supportive site this is - it has some amazing members!!
I live in the Tameside/Stockport area of Greater Manchester and want to try more. I've been on the site for a while but only really been watching and chatting! I feel confident enough now to Actually try new things over just talking about them! As a single 27 YO I realise it may be hard in clubs but I really wanna give it a go! I know the top rule is to be respectful which I always will be. Can anyone give me some advice about clubs though, which ones are good and why? Also what can I expect there, what actually happens... I have my own ideas bit I'm sure I've dreamed them up :-)
Thanks in advance everyone,
Dav
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Northwest Swinging - good club advice....
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under Entertainment in the :: Clubs section (look to the left of your screen)
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/clubs/?sortField=club_location&sortDirection=asc will find them, plus more info and people's reviews
Hope this helps
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/clubs/?sortField=club_location&sortDirection=asc will find them, plus more info and people's reviews
Hope this helps
Some of the club reviews are out of date tbh, but as a single male albeit a lot older than you who lives in NW England and has over time been to many of the NW clubs I'd advise the following.
First wherever the club is always be respectful and don't go there expecting action, or simply follow a woman/couple in the hope that something will happen. Sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn't, many couples say they want to be talked to, but in practice many treat single males with suspicion because they have had bad experiences in the past. Having said that many couple/ladies love some good chat, and from that you may well get an invite to take part in whatever they wish to do.
Each club has different zones, an example is Xtasia which although in West Brom is a well laid out club. It has a couples only room which is obvious what that means, then a seated area with couples only, couples with invited single males, anyone and a dark room. In the anyone area things may well happen but normally you would be invited to join in, whereas in the Darkroom, well it's expected that anyone in there is a full participant without the need to ask!!! The clubs in the NW aren't so formal but in effect the rules are the same and you'll discover by going there what area means what!!
The clubs in the NW vary, and in actual fact go in and out of fashion too. each attracts it's own mix of clientelle, eg Adam & Eves in Eccles would be much more likely to find ladies who like the attention of 1 or more guys but consequently less ladies there, whereas Cupids in Swinton has a mix of couples who like couples only, couples who only play with each other and couples who are more than happy to involve a few or even many guys.
Nights vary too, Friday and Saturday are the busiest but as with any club it really depends who turns up on the night. A busy party night might see less action for a single guy than a quiet Monday with a couple who want a lot of fun from the few guys that are there that night.
Ultimately you pay your money and take your chances. Clubs are ruled by the lady guests who attend, if you pay them total respect you may have the night of your life or you may go home thinking what might have been but over time you'll have fun on a few or several occasions depending which club you find that you like.
When you've been to a few maybe you'd like to post back on here what your thoughts are
First wherever the club is always be respectful and don't go there expecting action, or simply follow a woman/couple in the hope that something will happen. Sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn't, many couples say they want to be talked to, but in practice many treat single males with suspicion because they have had bad experiences in the past. Having said that many couple/ladies love some good chat, and from that you may well get an invite to take part in whatever they wish to do.
Each club has different zones, an example is Xtasia which although in West Brom is a well laid out club. It has a couples only room which is obvious what that means, then a seated area with couples only, couples with invited single males, anyone and a dark room. In the anyone area things may well happen but normally you would be invited to join in, whereas in the Darkroom, well it's expected that anyone in there is a full participant without the need to ask!!! The clubs in the NW aren't so formal but in effect the rules are the same and you'll discover by going there what area means what!!
The clubs in the NW vary, and in actual fact go in and out of fashion too. each attracts it's own mix of clientelle, eg Adam & Eves in Eccles would be much more likely to find ladies who like the attention of 1 or more guys but consequently less ladies there, whereas Cupids in Swinton has a mix of couples who like couples only, couples who only play with each other and couples who are more than happy to involve a few or even many guys.
Nights vary too, Friday and Saturday are the busiest but as with any club it really depends who turns up on the night. A busy party night might see less action for a single guy than a quiet Monday with a couple who want a lot of fun from the few guys that are there that night.
Ultimately you pay your money and take your chances. Clubs are ruled by the lady guests who attend, if you pay them total respect you may have the night of your life or you may go home thinking what might have been but over time you'll have fun on a few or several occasions depending which club you find that you like.
When you've been to a few maybe you'd like to post back on here what your thoughts are
Orgasminator
Not done clubs yet, always wanted to but its hit and miss so.....
good luck and nothing ventured nothing gained
good luck and nothing ventured nothing gained
Orgasminator
Just seen this thread... sorry for not replying before.
UKmale has given some brilliant advice, and i could not have put it better myself. So maybe just a couple of things to add... I'm basing my advice on Cupids in Swinton, as that's the place i've been going to for 10+ years.
Go in the evening, not the afternoon. Sure some people go in the afternoon, but it's much more hit&miss than an evening. At Cupids Tuesday is usually a good, busy-ish evening as well as Fri & Sat.
I know you will have expectations, but try to see your first trip as a fact-finding mission... to suss out how it al works, what the different rooms are, etc. If you have no expectations, you can't be too disappointed & can only be pleasantly surprised!
When you arrive, make sure you get a tour of the club. Cupids always do this - and I'm sure others do too.
If you find it hard to make conversation at the bar, or in the lounge, go in the sauna or jaccuzzi - even if on your own. You may find a couple join you & that's a good chance to chat. Also - if you don't want to leap into conversation with couple at the bar, chat to the staff. Others will join in and you'll soon find you're talking to the woman with the huge norks who you you were really fancying!!
:lol:
If you're watching a couple playing,and not sure if you can join in... either let someone else make the first move, of if it's just you, move closer slowly & quietly... then maybe just gently touch the lady's arm or leg. She may move your hand away, or she may let you carry on - but nothing is so off-putting as an unwanted guy leaping straight in & being told where to go!
Above all - be yourself, be ready to join in, but remember you have not paid for sex, you've paid to get into club, and you still need to flirt, charm or impress your way to encourage a lady to allow anything more.
HAVE FUN!! and let us know how it goes...
UKmale has given some brilliant advice, and i could not have put it better myself. So maybe just a couple of things to add... I'm basing my advice on Cupids in Swinton, as that's the place i've been going to for 10+ years.
Go in the evening, not the afternoon. Sure some people go in the afternoon, but it's much more hit&miss than an evening. At Cupids Tuesday is usually a good, busy-ish evening as well as Fri & Sat.
I know you will have expectations, but try to see your first trip as a fact-finding mission... to suss out how it al works, what the different rooms are, etc. If you have no expectations, you can't be too disappointed & can only be pleasantly surprised!
When you arrive, make sure you get a tour of the club. Cupids always do this - and I'm sure others do too.
If you find it hard to make conversation at the bar, or in the lounge, go in the sauna or jaccuzzi - even if on your own. You may find a couple join you & that's a good chance to chat. Also - if you don't want to leap into conversation with couple at the bar, chat to the staff. Others will join in and you'll soon find you're talking to the woman with the huge norks who you you were really fancying!!
:lol: If you're watching a couple playing,and not sure if you can join in... either let someone else make the first move, of if it's just you, move closer slowly & quietly... then maybe just gently touch the lady's arm or leg. She may move your hand away, or she may let you carry on - but nothing is so off-putting as an unwanted guy leaping straight in & being told where to go!
Above all - be yourself, be ready to join in, but remember you have not paid for sex, you've paid to get into club, and you still need to flirt, charm or impress your way to encourage a lady to allow anything more.
HAVE FUN!! and let us know how it goes...
Orgasminator
Quote by Elliemaecouple
Hi we go to Cupids a lot and we like single guys to talk to us there is nothing worse than when hubby gos to get a drink some single guy comes and asks if i want to go into a a couple we both need to be comfortable with a single guy , Ellie x
Hi Ellie,
Not sure if we've met, but please do say "Hi" next time you and your other half see me in Cupids. Like you - always happy to chat, even if that's all I end up doing.
Manchester_Man
We have been to Club Manchester, Silk, Xanadu, Fun 4 Two (Preston),
Liasons, Partners, Cupids, Townhouse and Chameleons.
The first four have all closed down but of the rest, we prefer Cupids and Partners due to their handy location not far from the motorway.
Either are OK for a single guy but Cupids may have the edge as it has a proper bar and is more pub-like and it’s easy to get chatting to other people at the bar. Liasons wasn’t our cup of tea because we didn’t like the fact that the private rooms could not be locked from the inside but they also have a good bar area that should be good for a single guy for socialising and meeting people.
Partners is good and has a lounge area where I have seen people socialising but not as much as the clubs with a bar area. Townhouse is very nice, well run and also has a bar area where people are friendly and chatty.
The other consideration is that from our point of view as a couple who only play with single guys, if a couple like the look of you, then the chances are they will approach you.
We have also found that most single guys who are genuinely friendly and make an effort to chat to couples, will usually end up having some fun, even if it’s not the couple that they first started talking to. Don’t be too shy but don’t be too pushy. It’s about getting the balance right and then just going with the flow. Obviously, the more times you visit clubs, the more you get to know people and therefore increase your chances of having fun. Put the effort it and you will be pleasantly surprised by the results!
Liasons, Partners, Cupids, Townhouse and Chameleons.
The first four have all closed down but of the rest, we prefer Cupids and Partners due to their handy location not far from the motorway.
Either are OK for a single guy but Cupids may have the edge as it has a proper bar and is more pub-like and it’s easy to get chatting to other people at the bar. Liasons wasn’t our cup of tea because we didn’t like the fact that the private rooms could not be locked from the inside but they also have a good bar area that should be good for a single guy for socialising and meeting people.
Partners is good and has a lounge area where I have seen people socialising but not as much as the clubs with a bar area. Townhouse is very nice, well run and also has a bar area where people are friendly and chatty.
The other consideration is that from our point of view as a couple who only play with single guys, if a couple like the look of you, then the chances are they will approach you.
We have also found that most single guys who are genuinely friendly and make an effort to chat to couples, will usually end up having some fun, even if it’s not the couple that they first started talking to. Don’t be too shy but don’t be too pushy. It’s about getting the balance right and then just going with the flow. Obviously, the more times you visit clubs, the more you get to know people and therefore increase your chances of having fun. Put the effort it and you will be pleasantly surprised by the results!
