Not new here but may as well be

7 Sep 2011

Embarrassed to say that i have been on here a while so i understand well the difficulties everyone faces meeting people whether its females getting tons of obnoxious pestering mail / couples not able to find the holy grail and in my case single males struggling to seen and/or heard. So i would not be surprised if no one reads this - i thank those that are still on this page now
I think i am quite normal, ok looking. I write individual messages and am pretty courteous. Basically i try and be myself on here without turning into a crazed stalker. Maybe i should not be surprised that no one ever replies or gets in touch with me as i have the same problem in the real world.
But if anyone could spare some time to check my profile and provide any tips i would be very grateful. Just thought it might be useful to get some feedback before i either leave or Jekyll and Mr Hyde it and turn into a stalking angry single male on here. thanks again

7 Sep 2011

i think it's quite easy myself.
but anyway maybe change your name. people might be scared your going rob them or something wink

7 Sep 2011

well been on here (on and off) since 2005 and still no meets ha. dont know why i keep coming back. thanks and fair point on the my username lol its was meant more as an oxymoron'ic' joke. should change the name to loseroflove to make it more accurate.
nice to here someone isnt having the same problem.

7 Sep 2011

positive attitude is the way forward. really women and couples don't want here you are struggling.
be yourself, enjoy the site. if profile not working change writing. *even take of the photos with women with silly faces..
loseroflove good luck smile

7 Sep 2011

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Quote by gangsteroflove
well been on here (on and off) since 2005
nice to here someone isnt having the same problem.

perhaps your best move would be just to join in on chat rooms and stop trying to portray some thing that your not, just be your self and peeps will either like you for your charm, humour or looks. chating on here is easier than chating up young fillys in the local clubs, so just chill. wink

8 Sep 2011

thanks for all your replies. only thing i can say is that there are too many cool guys on here that get unnoticed. thats life!
I cant but help be negative been wondering around here (on and off) for 5 years nd tried everything (forums,chatrooms). Few times my 'charm' has worked the profile in question has ended up being fake and trying to sell me something or escort. Only thing left for me to do is stop wasting my time and leave. Wish you guys better luck!!a

8 Sep 2011

My advice is go into chat room that is soon to have a social/meet..get a invite, go along , most are v friendly and nites are always a good laugh... That will break the ice!!

8 Sep 2011

Quote by aldersbrook
My advice is go into chat room that is soon to have a social/meet..get a invite, go along , most are v friendly and nites are always a good laugh... That will break the ice!!

Great advice smile

xxx

8 Sep 2011

Quote by gangsteroflove
thanks for all your replies. only thing i can say is that there are too many cool guys on here that get unnoticed. thats life!
I cant but help be negative been wondering around here (on and off) for 5 years nd tried everything (forums,chatrooms). Few times my 'charm' has worked the profile in question has ended up being fake and trying to sell me something or escort. Only thing left for me to do is stop wasting my time and leave. Wish you guys better luck!!a

Realistically you haven't tried everything. Prior to this thread you have only posted about a dozen times over 5 years. You have had the opportunities to attend social events, but it is still up to you to make the effort to attend. Same with the swingers clubs. You've talked about it, but it is still up to you to go, even if it is on your own. If you really put the effort in, then you may have had more success. Playing the 'poor me' card is even less likely to help your cause.
It is all up to you and what you do, rather than what others may do for you. It is exceptionally rare for members to be knocking at your door, you make your own opportunities.
Hope that helps.
Mal
wink

10 Sep 2011

Couples appear to looking for thye Holy grain or a george Clooney character

10 Sep 2011

lots of other guys are having the same problem,look at theads on here for meets and no one replies. One guy had 60 peeps look at his thread and not one taking him up

10 Sep 2011

IMHO people place far too much stock on their profile, adverts, and posts in LMU. Let's be realistic here: everybody's got a profile, quite a lot with ads. And if you're posting in LMU and being ignored, doesn't that speak volumes?
The real secret is simply "getting known". The single guys who are getting the meets are the ones using chat, posting regularly in the Cafe, and getting out to socials. It's the only way to make yourself stand out from the crowd. A few words on the screen doesn't tell people who you really are. Getting involved and having conversations does. :thumbup:

14 Sep 2011

Quote by Cubes
The real secret is simply "getting known". The single guys who are getting the meets are the ones using chat, posting regularly in the Cafe, and getting out to socials. It's the only way to make yourself stand out from the crowd. A few words on the screen doesn't tell people who you really are. Getting involved and having conversations does. :thumbup:

Dammit cubes shhhhhhh :gagged:
We cant all stand out from the crowd - otherwise its just the same crowd just 5 steps forward! :lol2:
It is good advice though, if you join in the rest of the site not only can you raise your profile and learn a lot from the more experienced and active members, but you can also find some interesting peoples and have a laugh too ;)
It took me a while before I accidentally figured this out, now I have all the fun I need and am not even actively seeking more (doesnt mean Im not open to approaches from the right people :rascal smile

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14 Sep 2011

"Couples appear to looking for the Holy grain or a george Clooney character".I didn't know George Clooney was a single bi-fem, well you learn something new everyday................lol, sorry ,couldn't resist.