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seems to be a lot of animosity towards single guys on here
Quote by jake400
why? should be fairer, a lot fairer. afterall, there are plenty of single guys on here, like me. Im always reading stuff like, 'no single guys' not on, not on at all.
Stop fretting it m8
I'm a single guy and I seem to do ok on here.............guess it depends what you're looking for eh?
I'm on here for the social side more than anything else.
I have never had any probs making friends
If people don't want single guys then thats their decision.............I have personally met about 1,000 people from here...............but that is socially....................the ones I have "played" with I can count on one hand...................as I said........depends what you are looking for.
I am VERY happy with the time I have spent on here.
After all..........it's more about being a community than an "easy shag" site eh??
hope you find what you are looking for.
Marcuso
Sexpert
As a single guy myself - i have to speak in defence of the "allegations"!
I found nothing but help and friendliness on here so far. Yes there are some ads that "bar" single guys, but as has been pointed out already there are ads banning single women too - and some that ban couples even!!!.
One thing ive learned on here is that if you read the posts, learn from them, be polite and have a lot of patience - then you will have a much better chance of getting whatever it is you are looking for. What this site isnt - is a pick up joint for single guys who think every couple or single girl is here for their pleasure (and before anyone calls this post hostile - i didnt mean it in that way - just making the comment)
Have patience - have fun
I found nothing but help and friendliness on here so far. Yes there are some ads that "bar" single guys, but as has been pointed out already there are ads banning single women too - and some that ban couples even!!!.
One thing ive learned on here is that if you read the posts, learn from them, be polite and have a lot of patience - then you will have a much better chance of getting whatever it is you are looking for. What this site isnt - is a pick up joint for single guys who think every couple or single girl is here for their pleasure (and before anyone calls this post hostile - i didnt mean it in that way - just making the comment)
Have patience - have fun
Sex God
why is it 'not on'? people are allowed to advertise in the categories they choose. Some seek single men, some don't. What's the problem, you may be able to find a couple or single female looking for a single male if you can be bothered to look - don't expect them to come running to you. Oh, and your post re: what you seek, is quite specific (girls in Leicester area between 18 and 25), so why is it ok for you to rule out vast swathes of people but others can't? Give the site a chance, you've only been here a few days !
I have to agree with the above add, u can't say its not on if people choose not to meet single men, u want a woman of a certain age they don't want single men, i mean ur shooting urself in the foot b4 u start cause about 90% of women on here i'd say are over 25 never mind where they live lol
To be honest i personally find single men unreliable, i used to meet single guys off here but will no longer as i have been let down so many times by then, and b4 u all jump on me i know not all guys are the same as i have met some very nice single guys but the times wasters out number the nice ones, so now i will only meet guys who come with a reff. as being genuine lol maybe others have had the same problem and thats why they shy away from them i dunno! but seeing as 99% of fems in cplz and single fems on here bi i think u'll find they are after women as a being a woman after a woman its not as easy as going 2 a pub to find someone, at the end of the day you have to take the times to get to know people, build up a trust as women on here are not just a easy shag that will swoon at any offer tho i think a lot of the new guys who come on here think we are, like it was mentioned above most genuine people like the social side get to know people then see how things go, not a hi how are u fancy a shag later!! lol
Anyway off me soap box now
To be honest i personally find single men unreliable, i used to meet single guys off here but will no longer as i have been let down so many times by then, and b4 u all jump on me i know not all guys are the same as i have met some very nice single guys but the times wasters out number the nice ones, so now i will only meet guys who come with a reff. as being genuine lol maybe others have had the same problem and thats why they shy away from them i dunno! but seeing as 99% of fems in cplz and single fems on here bi i think u'll find they are after women as a being a woman after a woman its not as easy as going 2 a pub to find someone, at the end of the day you have to take the times to get to know people, build up a trust as women on here are not just a easy shag that will swoon at any offer tho i think a lot of the new guys who come on here think we are, like it was mentioned above most genuine people like the social side get to know people then see how things go, not a hi how are u fancy a shag later!! lol
Anyway off me soap box now
Sex God
WAHHHHhhhhhh!
I'm a single guy and can't get shagged ffs.... I've been here two milli seconds and the ladies here (most of which have great sex lives and don't need anyone else to give them a good shagging they choose to let other people spioce things up for them ) don't want to climb into my 1970's unwashed yfronts and ravage me constantly for an entire weekend without expecting a single orgasm in return.
wahhhhhh, I'm soooooo badly done to.
Get real, complaining you are so badly done to wont make a jot of difference, just get on with things like the other umpteen successful single guys here.
Sex God
Quote by Libra-Love
Have a chat with the newbie single male in the cafe who got laid by his 8th post :grin: :
Ah well, some guys are in the SH Premiership. Me, I'm more the Eagle Bitter United Counties League! :cry:
Mike.
Sex God
go sell your self instead of having high expectations ,things dont come easy in life you got to work for them,before you end up sounding like the many who come to expect great thing after one or two posts. 
Sex God
Quote by Libra-Love
Have a chat with the newbie single male in the cafe who got laid by his 8th post :grin:
Also have a chat with a few blokes from the dogging forum who have got laid without posting anything at all, well, except a few PMs
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: 
Warming the Bed
im still a newbie and im a single male only been here for a short time but i had my first meet last night so it can be done! you have to patient and try to get to now people which is what im trying to do (take this oppotunity) hi to all oh i think it helps if your a decent chap/ honest & reliable and also vwe can swing it some times?
so it can be done! you have to patient and try to get to now people which is what im trying to do (take this oppotunity) hi to all oh i think it helps if your a decent chap/ honest & reliable and also vwe can swing it some times? Freckled bird, i dont think saying on my post 'girls 18-25 in leicestershire' is ruling out vast swathes of people, to put it like that. I think its just a generalisation in the area i live in, to make it easier for me to contact people, as they would be closer living in leicestershire. and as for the '18-25' thats my age range, and the reason why i want straight females is because i am neither Bi or homosexual, not that there is anything wrong with that, but because I don't find it appealing.
And yes, i suppose the social side is more important, if not more important than just a 'quick meet' as this is a community, not a pick up post.
cheers.
And yes, i suppose the social side is more important, if not more important than just a 'quick meet' as this is a community, not a pick up post.
cheers.
A lot of very interesting answers.
I would say the most important thing you have to rememebr is that as with most things in life, you only reap from what you put into things. Put in your time hear on SH, get to know people and let them get to know you. Remember trust has to be a worthy component in any meetings, so if you have not put in your time getting to know people "how can they trust you"?
Goold Luck
Respect
Joe
I would say the most important thing you have to rememebr is that as with most things in life, you only reap from what you put into things. Put in your time hear on SH, get to know people and let them get to know you. Remember trust has to be a worthy component in any meetings, so if you have not put in your time getting to know people "how can they trust you"?
Goold Luck
Respect
Joe
Sex God
The point is, not that you are limiting your choice with regards to area/gender/age, rather that you are complaining because other people are doing EXACTLY the same thing by ruling out single men. How can you say it's 'not on' for people to do that when you are doing just that?
And yes, I firmly believe that there is a HUGE swathe of people who fall outside your specification!
And yes, I firmly believe that there is a HUGE swathe of people who fall outside your specification!
Sex God
shit now gota sell me guns 
Quote by jake400
Freckled bird, i dont think saying on my post 'girls 18-25 in leicestershire' is ruling out vast swathes of people, to put it like that. I think its just a generalisation in the area i live in, to make it easier for me to contact people, as they would be closer living in leicestershire. and as for the '18-25' thats my age range, and the reason why i want straight females is because i am neither Bi or homosexual, not that there is anything wrong with that, but because I don't find it appealing.
And yes, i suppose the social side is more important, if not more important than just a 'quick meet' as this is a community, not a pick up post.
cheers.
FFS..............have I got to go into agony uncle mode again.
Jake Have a read of these three links........one is by me another is from the ever-present roger and the other one is from a womans viewpoint on single males. I really do think that you need more patience. Having been on here less than a week and already pissed off quite a few of the established members.
Just sit back and relax and read and digest the links I am posting........then have a few days to construct yourself a good ad and maybe you might just get a few replies.
I'm willing to give everyone a second chance.....so are a few of the others..........just use it wisely please.
Marcuso
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/20451.html
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/13919.html
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/advice/single-men.html
Sex God
Quote by jake400
why? should be fairer, a lot fairer. afterall, there are plenty of single guys on here, like me. Im always reading stuff like, 'no single guys' not on, not on at all.
I don't want to meet single guys. What's unfair about that? If you're going to tell people who they should or should not be having sex with, you're going to last about five minutes mate. There was a bloke in a club with a crowd of us a few weeks ago demanding that single blokes be given a chance. As it happens, we do have a chance. A very good one if we have the wit to shut our gobs for a minute and look around, but focussing your attention on people who aren't interested in you and getting all upset about it is going to get you nowhere fast. Don't concern yourself unduly with people who don't want to meet you - they have as much right to their preference as you have to yours.
Quote by jake400
why? should be fairer, a lot fairer. afterall, there are plenty of single guys on here, like me. Im always reading stuff like, 'no single guys' not on, not on at all.
I think people might say 'no single guys' on their ads and profiles because otherwise they would get bombarded with one-liner, unimaginative and quite frankly, cold replies, complete with umpteen unsolicited cock pix that clog up their PC.
Its easy to meet single guys. I could get a shag in sainsbury's if I wanted one, if i really really wanted one...my ad says no single guys because I want it to. And because I get enough PMs from nice guys who take the trouble to poitely and wittily introduce themselves.
The animosity that you claim exists is perhaps more of a general defence mechanism against single guys who expect everyone to shag them and pamper to their oh-so-important needs.
You sound like a kid sulking in a playground because you cant ALWAYS have hold of the ball.
Happy shagging. x
Quote by SunBunny
my ad says no single guys because I want it to. And because I get enough PMs from nice guys who take the trouble to poitely and wittily introduce themselves.
Now I wonder how many idiots are going to take that as a reason to ignore "no single guys" notices in adverts from now on... because obviously it only means the other single guys?
Ah, probably they were already...
my ad says no single guys because I want it to. And because I get enough PMs from nice guys who take the trouble to poitely and wittily introduce themselves.
Now I wonder how many idiots are going to take that as a reason to ignore "no single guys" notices in adverts from now on... because obviously it only means the other single guys?
Ah, probably they were already..
Yes they do ignore it I suppose, but an ad is an ad and PMing someone to say hello is very different...its often an extension of a forum chat and not seen as a pick-up.
No single guys on my ad means no single guys, I am not looking for single guys, not for sex anyway. If they ignore me I will ignore them....My point was that it is my choice, and not Jake's...
Now I wonder how many idiots are going to take that as a reason to ignore "no single guys" notices in adverts from now on... because obviously it only means the other single guys?
Ah, probably they were already..
Yes they do ignore it I suppose, but an ad is an ad and PMing someone to say hello is very different...its often an extension of a forum chat and not seen as a pick-up.
No single guys on my ad means no single guys, I am not looking for single guys, not for sex anyway. If they ignore me I will ignore them....My point was that it is my choice, and not Jake's...
Sex God
Quote by Libra-Love
predate me
Yes, looking at your join date and mine, seems I do
OUCH,,,sharper than a samuri sword. :D :D :D 