Sexlightened
Are there ever any munches in the central south coast area?Or should i attempt to organise one?I'm fairly new here so i don't want to step on anyones toes.
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Hi,
from what we can gather, setting up a Munch is no easy task. It takes up an awful lot of your time, energy and no doubt “cash up frontâ€. and you can never be assured of success.
Now we are real newbies to this lifestyle as well so we may be talking out of turn here, but as an ex security advisor who has been involved with small, medium and mega events, John will tell you that there is a huge amount more to it than meets the eye.
The best advice we can give you is, read some of the “Munch†threads, talk to some of the people on here who have “been there, seen it, done it†for guidance on how to….. and take their advice.
That being said, and this has absolutely nothing to do with the fact that we live in the south… honest…. (yea right.), If you do decide to go ahead with it and need a hand, give us a shout, .(the blind will lead the blind lol).
Now over to the professionals.
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from what we can gather, setting up a Munch is no easy task. It takes up an awful lot of your time, energy and no doubt “cash up frontâ€. and you can never be assured of success.
Now we are real newbies to this lifestyle as well so we may be talking out of turn here, but as an ex security advisor who has been involved with small, medium and mega events, John will tell you that there is a huge amount more to it than meets the eye.
The best advice we can give you is, read some of the “Munch†threads, talk to some of the people on here who have “been there, seen it, done it†for guidance on how to….. and take their advice.
That being said, and this has absolutely nothing to do with the fact that we live in the south… honest…. (yea right.), If you do decide to go ahead with it and need a hand, give us a shout, .(the blind will lead the blind lol).
Now over to the professionals.
) Sexlightened
Cheers Katien and well taken,it was an enquiry more than anything but i would be willing to try and sort one out if enough people show interest.I was in catering at a very high level for many years in management.5 star hotels and the like(bragging again).So i have some idea of the probs 're absolutely right about talking to others first.I'm looking at the idea of a meeting of likeminded folks for a social 't need any idiots trying to shag on the premises of wherever i hold it(if i do).Obviously weeding out the morons from the genuine people would be 's see how this thread develops and then i'll take another long look at it.
Altarica,
Definitely think this would be a great idea, so long as there is the support from members of the site and you are able to lessen the risk by asking for deposits for food, etc. We are a little quiet on the south in terms of meetings and munches so this would go some way to redressing that balance. The fun can't all be north of the Watford Gap.
Quite agree that fairly strong advice needs to be given about the social nature of the party rather than anything else. However would be useful to speaking to others here who have arranged them before.
Good luck with it and I hope to be tasting some of the 5 star cuisine in the near future
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All the best.
andyjohnny
Play safe
Andyjohnny
Definitely think this would be a great idea, so long as there is the support from members of the site and you are able to lessen the risk by asking for deposits for food, etc. We are a little quiet on the south in terms of meetings and munches so this would go some way to redressing that balance. The fun can't all be north of the Watford Gap.
Quite agree that fairly strong advice needs to be given about the social nature of the party rather than anything else. However would be useful to speaking to others here who have arranged them before.
Good luck with it and I hope to be tasting some of the 5 star cuisine in the near future
.All the best.
andyjohnny
Play safe
Andyjohnny
Sexlightened
Many many thanks to Katien_n_John and to Andyjohnny for your input.I'm going to look at other munch threads and try to get in touch with those organising them to get some 's a few thoughts that i have had in the meantime though.
Obviously we need to have the munch in a public place to make everyone feel secure and public i mean a private function room at a venue of our don't want to draw attention to ourselves.I feel that it must be made clear to people that this is a social function for people to get to meet up with likemimded souls and not a potential no sex will be tolerated in or on the grounds of the premises of the munch,including the garden(if they have one)or the carpark.I want to choose a place that is of at least a fairly high quality, that we all like and can use you meet someone that you want to fuck so badly then piss off and do it somewhere reason i mention this is that a couple of years ago some idiot in the New forest area calling himself Newforestman posted an open and very explicit post on the net for a meetup in a pub which was splashed all over the front page of the do not need adverse publicity.
Now we're probably looking(hopefully)at people coming from a fairly wide area,so i think that i/we should at least give out some recommendations of where to stay if people will be staying overnight.I don't really drink so i have no objection to ferrying a few people about.
enough folks agree to come then i will get a disco sorted as i think it's a fairly good seeing me strut my funky stuff is always good for a laugh.I used to Dj myself a few years ago and may even do a short set of quality funk tracks guaranteed to make the dead dance{plus it boosts my ego and the dj normally gets laid :P ).As to food.I feel that a buffet would be the way to people really want to fork out(pun intended) for a sit down will of course be a charge for all this and i would want payment up front to show good faith,plus i don't really want to end up out of there is any money left at the end then it will be donated to a good cause.I'm not doing this to make a profit.
Now to the sticky there is plenty of interest then who do we allow to come?Sounds a bit draconian,but what i mean is that we don't, for example, want 2 couples, 1 single lady and 50-60 single males all looking for a with loads of single guys it would either end up like a spotters convention.E.g."Well i remember when i did so and so at so and so."Or as a pissing contest."My cocks bigger and harder than yours and i can fuck 27 women for 3 days solid without losing my erection."An exaggeration, but you get my there is always the potential for violence in a situation like that,particularly where alcohol is involved.
So i would guess that the more couples the better and of course as many single ladies as would like to to single guys,well they are welcome of course, but there will have to be a limit.
I really would like to do this and make it an enjoyable evening for all the would help everyone to get to know different people who have the same interests.
So those are some ideas of mine and any others are more than for taking the time to read to hear from you all :D :D :D :D
Obviously we need to have the munch in a public place to make everyone feel secure and public i mean a private function room at a venue of our don't want to draw attention to ourselves.I feel that it must be made clear to people that this is a social function for people to get to meet up with likemimded souls and not a potential no sex will be tolerated in or on the grounds of the premises of the munch,including the garden(if they have one)or the carpark.I want to choose a place that is of at least a fairly high quality, that we all like and can use you meet someone that you want to fuck so badly then piss off and do it somewhere reason i mention this is that a couple of years ago some idiot in the New forest area calling himself Newforestman posted an open and very explicit post on the net for a meetup in a pub which was splashed all over the front page of the do not need adverse publicity.
Now we're probably looking(hopefully)at people coming from a fairly wide area,so i think that i/we should at least give out some recommendations of where to stay if people will be staying overnight.I don't really drink so i have no objection to ferrying a few people about.
enough folks agree to come then i will get a disco sorted as i think it's a fairly good seeing me strut my funky stuff is always good for a laugh.I used to Dj myself a few years ago and may even do a short set of quality funk tracks guaranteed to make the dead dance{plus it boosts my ego and the dj normally gets laid :P ).As to food.I feel that a buffet would be the way to people really want to fork out(pun intended) for a sit down will of course be a charge for all this and i would want payment up front to show good faith,plus i don't really want to end up out of there is any money left at the end then it will be donated to a good cause.I'm not doing this to make a profit.
Now to the sticky there is plenty of interest then who do we allow to come?Sounds a bit draconian,but what i mean is that we don't, for example, want 2 couples, 1 single lady and 50-60 single males all looking for a with loads of single guys it would either end up like a spotters convention.E.g."Well i remember when i did so and so at so and so."Or as a pissing contest."My cocks bigger and harder than yours and i can fuck 27 women for 3 days solid without losing my erection."An exaggeration, but you get my there is always the potential for violence in a situation like that,particularly where alcohol is involved.
So i would guess that the more couples the better and of course as many single ladies as would like to to single guys,well they are welcome of course, but there will have to be a limit.
I really would like to do this and make it an enjoyable evening for all the would help everyone to get to know different people who have the same interests.
So those are some ideas of mine and any others are more than for taking the time to read to hear from you all
:D :D :D :D Altarica,
Good to see this gaining a little momentum - you seem to have most of the bases covered.
Think the idea of limiting the single males has been used to similar effect at other munches, so people should not be too concerned about this. As a single myself (short term situaion I hope
) it can feel a bit embarrasing when you have to compete with swarms of other males. I personally am put off approaching some females / couples in clubs as they are being harrassed by enough singles as it is. Although we are all ultimately looking for the same kind of fun, it needs to feel comfortable for all. Possibly have a limit of 10 guys, with as many couples / single females as you like.
In terms of the security of the people attending, just wondering if it would be wise for a system of verification where people who want to attend are vouched for by other swingers. Furthermore it may be wise to suggest that no cameras are to be allowed at the event so that any unfortunate exposes are avoided ie stop the press in their tracks such as you've mentioned before.
Would you be able to buddy up with another couple who have arranged a munch like this before so that on the night itself you are able to turn to them should any probems occur? This will give you greaater confidence on the night in dealing with anything untowards. However, I reallly do not think their will be any major problems, but it is best to minimise the risk.
Like the idea of music at the event, you may have someone attending who is willing to share the burden of djing.
In terms of the location Bournemouth is pretty central so this could be an option, as well as some pretty locations in the New Forest. Pubs / restaurants are great here as you probably know.
Anyway all the best and hope the hangover cure has worked - Happy New Year
Andyjohnny
Good to see this gaining a little momentum - you seem to have most of the bases covered.
Think the idea of limiting the single males has been used to similar effect at other munches, so people should not be too concerned about this. As a single myself (short term situaion I hope
) it can feel a bit embarrasing when you have to compete with swarms of other males. I personally am put off approaching some females / couples in clubs as they are being harrassed by enough singles as it is. Although we are all ultimately looking for the same kind of fun, it needs to feel comfortable for all. Possibly have a limit of 10 guys, with as many couples / single females as you like.In terms of the security of the people attending, just wondering if it would be wise for a system of verification where people who want to attend are vouched for by other swingers. Furthermore it may be wise to suggest that no cameras are to be allowed at the event so that any unfortunate exposes are avoided ie stop the press in their tracks such as you've mentioned before.
Would you be able to buddy up with another couple who have arranged a munch like this before so that on the night itself you are able to turn to them should any probems occur? This will give you greaater confidence on the night in dealing with anything untowards. However, I reallly do not think their will be any major problems, but it is best to minimise the risk.
Like the idea of music at the event, you may have someone attending who is willing to share the burden of djing.
In terms of the location Bournemouth is pretty central so this could be an option, as well as some pretty locations in the New Forest. Pubs / restaurants are great here as you probably know.
Anyway all the best and hope the hangover cure has worked - Happy New Year
Andyjohnny
Sexlightened
Andyjohnny,
Thanks for your reply and i most certainly take on board all that you are saying and agree with functions is not a problem as it's what i used to do for a this one has it's own unique potential for disaster and therefore that's why i'm glad i have you guys on board(hopefully).I have sent a PM to Steve the moderator asking for his seems to have lots of experience at this and i could surely use some advice.I'm in total agreement with the camera thing and perhaps all moblles should be checked in at the beginning of the by others is a damn good idea.I will attempt to contact other organisers and get their input.I'm spending too much time on this computer and will come back to this later in the to do something else for a and good luck 
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Thanks for your reply and i most certainly take on board all that you are saying and agree with functions is not a problem as it's what i used to do for a this one has it's own unique potential for disaster and therefore that's why i'm glad i have you guys on board(hopefully).I have sent a PM to Steve the moderator asking for his seems to have lots of experience at this and i could surely use some advice.I'm in total agreement with the camera thing and perhaps all moblles should be checked in at the beginning of the by others is a damn good idea.I will attempt to contact other organisers and get their input.I'm spending too much time on this computer and will come back to this later in the to do something else for a and good luck
:x Sexlightened
Ooooooooops put Mr Angry on there by mistake.
Hi Altarica,
We organised a party in winchester last month, the definition of a munch is open to ALL that is single males included, and also regulars on the site know that munches are a non sexual gathering by definition alone the whole point being to be able to meet and chat without any pressure, you will generally find that people will arrange to stay in the same hotel etc and so carry on the party there.
Also if you advertise it on here you cant actually ask people for money for the event I am fairly sure you can only advertise free events on here, I am sure one of the mods will correct me if I am wrong.
We are hoping to organise another party in march again in winchester so if you want to come along and see what goes on you will be more than welcome,
All the best
Olive
We organised a party in winchester last month, the definition of a munch is open to ALL that is single males included, and also regulars on the site know that munches are a non sexual gathering by definition alone the whole point being to be able to meet and chat without any pressure, you will generally find that people will arrange to stay in the same hotel etc and so carry on the party there.
Also if you advertise it on here you cant actually ask people for money for the event I am fairly sure you can only advertise free events on here, I am sure one of the mods will correct me if I am wrong.
We are hoping to organise another party in march again in winchester so if you want to come along and see what goes on you will be more than welcome,
All the best
Olive
Personally I don't see the need for things like buffets? I go because I want to meet up with friends, not because I'm hungry. If a buffet is laid on FOC, then fair enough, but IMO things start getting complicated if too much is introduced? Mind you, I've never organised a munch, so could be well out on this 
Also, instead of going straight for a function room, how about a venue which is just a pub or something - with the option of a function room, should numbers get too much. If you have a word with the landlord about holding a get together at his pub, I'm sure he wouldn't mind. Then if numbers do increase from some to loads, the function room can come into play - landlord might even give that FOC to balance the place out Failing that, they might let people pay a small entrance fee on the night to cover room hire.
Ask around, to see which places have entertainment on the night you are thinking of holding this munch, might even be some kindly person on here who would offer their disco services :dunno:
As for a squillion (tm Davej) single guys turning up, all with one post to their name - then make it that the function is for active members of the forums/chatroom, cos thats what they're normally for - a bunch of regulars to meet up and have a good night out :D
I would've though the venue was the first thing followed by a date, sort that out and pretty much everything else would follow naturally as and when.
Like I said, all this might be nonsense :lol2: I've not organised a munch, in fact, I couldn't organise the proverbial brewery piss up
Good luck :D
Also, instead of going straight for a function room, how about a venue which is just a pub or something - with the option of a function room, should numbers get too much. If you have a word with the landlord about holding a get together at his pub, I'm sure he wouldn't mind. Then if numbers do increase from some to loads, the function room can come into play - landlord might even give that FOC to balance the place out
Failing that, they might let people pay a small entrance fee on the night to cover room hire.Ask around, to see which places have entertainment on the night you are thinking of holding this munch, might even be some kindly person on here who would offer their disco services
:dunno:As for a squillion (tm Davej) single guys turning up, all with one post to their name - then make it that the function is for active members of the forums/chatroom, cos thats what they're normally for - a bunch of regulars to meet up and have a good night out :D
I would've though the venue was the first thing followed by a date, sort that out and pretty much everything else would follow naturally as and when.
Like I said, all this might be nonsense :lol2: I've not organised a munch, in fact, I couldn't organise the proverbial brewery piss up
Good luck :D
Hiya,
To be honest, it sounds like a great idea. There does seem to be a few newbies on the south coast (me included).
If this was just a munch it would be a great ice breaker for when joining in on the forums. Face to name etc all that sort of stuff.
I don’t necessarily think it has to be excessive, just am excuse for individuals who share the same site and interests to get together.
If it does go ahead, please count me in (dependant upon date). As a single male I do accept the points raised earlier, especially as alcohol will no doubt be involved. Maybe a smaller event may be more in order?
No idea on what the right options are here, but a south coast munch to kick of the new year does sound like a great idea.
To be honest, it sounds like a great idea. There does seem to be a few newbies on the south coast (me included).
If this was just a munch it would be a great ice breaker for when joining in on the forums. Face to name etc all that sort of stuff.
I don’t necessarily think it has to be excessive, just am excuse for individuals who share the same site and interests to get together.
If it does go ahead, please count me in (dependant upon date). As a single male I do accept the points raised earlier, especially as alcohol will no doubt be involved. Maybe a smaller event may be more in order?
No idea on what the right options are here, but a south coast munch to kick of the new year does sound like a great idea.
Some really good feedback coming in here.
We agree that date and location is probably paramount to get sorted first. Would also suggest that as this is your first one, don’t get too impatient and give it plenty of time, perhaps when it gets a bit warmer?
John knows from bitter experience how quick the time goes when trying to organise things, oh and a choice of dates might also be useful to allow for maximum availability.
We like the idea of the disco, or some form of entertainment as this is always a good icebreaker.
Hope this comes off as we are really looking forward to meeting the peeps on here.
We agree that date and location is probably paramount to get sorted first. Would also suggest that as this is your first one, don’t get too impatient and give it plenty of time, perhaps when it gets a bit warmer?
John knows from bitter experience how quick the time goes when trying to organise things, oh and a choice of dates might also be useful to allow for maximum availability.
We like the idea of the disco, or some form of entertainment as this is always a good icebreaker.
Hope this comes off as we are really looking forward to meeting the peeps on here.
Always worth a try Altarica, Kit and I would certainly be interested.
I'd heed what is said about laying our money for food and disco's, as much as possible go for a 'no cost' option. - simply because it gives maximum flexibility to the many people who will really want to go, and book with you, but then have to drop out - and to those who hear about it at the last moment.
I don't think a munch will ever need anything to break the ice, and the chat is so loud the music can not be heard anyway!
To be blunt, I'd say there looks to be enough interest to warrant a bit of time investment, and if it all starts to become more trouble than it is worth - just bail out. The munch organisers are the only one that actually lose anything if this happens, (time, sleep, cost of phone calls, 10 years off your life - that sort of thing) the most the rest of us stand to lose is the few minutes it took us to decide if we want to go.
Mind you, it would be nice to show all the Northern wusses on here that us Southerners know how to throw a REAL munch!
:twisted:
lhk
Kat
I'd heed what is said about laying our money for food and disco's, as much as possible go for a 'no cost' option. - simply because it gives maximum flexibility to the many people who will really want to go, and book with you, but then have to drop out - and to those who hear about it at the last moment.
I don't think a munch will ever need anything to break the ice, and the chat is so loud the music can not be heard anyway!
To be blunt, I'd say there looks to be enough interest to warrant a bit of time investment, and if it all starts to become more trouble than it is worth - just bail out. The munch organisers are the only one that actually lose anything if this happens, (time, sleep, cost of phone calls, 10 years off your life - that sort of thing) the most the rest of us stand to lose is the few minutes it took us to decide if we want to go.
Mind you, it would be nice to show all the Northern wusses on here that us Southerners know how to throw a REAL munch!
:twisted: lhk
Kat
Sex God
Sorry hun think that may be a bit overboard about mobiles, cameras etc. and as to verification, if you set a cut off point for joining that should of the other munches have not needed any verification of people, besides, who's going to check? As you said, you are pretty much a newbie yourself, so people may not trust you to organise one, knowing very little about you - they have only your word as to your credentials as super organiser and dj 
. After all, you could be an undercover reporter yourself, out for the scoop of the year !
Maybe you could attend one of the munches organised by someone else before taking on the mammoth task yourself?
. After all, you could be an undercover reporter yourself, out for the scoop of the year !Maybe you could attend one of the munches organised by someone else before taking on the mammoth task yourself?
Sexlightened
Not been feeling too clever lately,plus i thought that i'd give it a little while to see how the responses for freckleds' suggestion that i may be a reporter,well...................Firstly i wouldn't organise a gig where people will meet me,recognise me and then kick my head in next time they see me for putting them in the ,well nothing actually,just that if anyone wants to meet me purely socially for a drink before we go any further with this then that's fine by i still feel lousy!Yuk!I see we have different ideas about some things like disco etc so i await further suggestions with anticipation(I told you not to use long 'll get sussed).Anyway i'll come back to this when i feel a bit better. Al
Sex God
i wasn't suggesting that you are a reporter, just saying it's a possibility and people wont know either way cos they don't know you, with you being a relatively new member, sorry I didn't mean to offend :cry:
Sexlightened
I realise that people don't really know me,so that's why i suggested someone meeting up for a drink and at least then they will be able to suss me out i should for being offended,well i don't feel too well at the moment and am a bit of a grumpy git,so you'll have to bear with me on this until i feel a bit better.I'm not taking it out on anyone just trying not to post too much and rest :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:
Sex God
awwwww get well soon 
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Quote by altarica
I realise that people don't really know me,so that's why i suggested someone meeting up for a drink and at least then they will be able to suss me out i should hope.
I agree, and as Freckled bird has already told you, by far the best way of doing this would be for you to come along to one of the munches which have already been arranged.
Mike.
