i am a married woman and in a sexless marriage. I joined not knowing what i wanted fully. Well i know i want a bit of that :-) . I have been in the chatroom and had loads of messages wanting to meet up. Am sure everyone is nice and for real but i still dont feel safe on my own. Swingers places sound perfect for me, even if nothing happens.
But i get the impression its mainly couples and single men, single women are not mentioned. I know i am not single , but how many of the 'single men' are single. Live in the Manchester area
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Warming the Bed
Debs, single women are not mentioned because we are such a rare commodity apparently. 
But I felt same as you and didn't fancy meeting in public so went to a club through a social event and now you can't keep me away lol
See if there's any socials in your area!
If not just give the local club a ring and tell them your coming and would like someone to show you round.
They're much friendlier places than you imagine and they'd love to have you attend!
Have fun!
But I felt same as you and didn't fancy meeting in public so went to a club through a social event and now you can't keep me away lol
See if there's any socials in your area!
If not just give the local club a ring and tell them your coming and would like someone to show you round.
They're much friendlier places than you imagine and they'd love to have you attend!
Have fun!
Warming the Bed
Sorry Just realised I didn't answer your initial concern!
'Single' refers to bodies through the door, i.e. 1 man turns up on his own.
Couples equals a man and woman turns up together!
Of course some of the 'single' men are married, so are some of the 'couples' and not to each other on occassion.
Marital status is not a query at a club, It just helps when refering to 'single and couple' to maintain a good ratio of females and males.
Hope that helps but mail me if you have any other queries
Good luck swinging!
xx
'Single' refers to bodies through the door, i.e. 1 man turns up on his own.
Couples equals a man and woman turns up together!
Of course some of the 'single' men are married, so are some of the 'couples' and not to each other on occassion.
Marital status is not a query at a club, It just helps when refering to 'single and couple' to maintain a good ratio of females and males.
Hope that helps but mail me if you have any other queries
Good luck swinging!
xx
Orgasminator
Good advice Debs...Hope you manage to find what your after
Almost all clubs welcome single females with open arms and discounted entrance prices.
You can go on your own and you would be safe, very safe, no means no at ALL clubs.
If you don't feel confident enough to go to a club alone, you can advertise in here for a couple, another female or a single guy to accompany you, I would suggest you make it clear that it would be a "no strings" arrangement, just mutual company, you may feel like playing with him/her/them when you meet but better to be upfront and honest, until you meet in person you won't really know. The genuine people will be happy to meet and accompany you on that basis.
There are a number of clubs within a 50 mile radius of you, Cupids in Manchester, Partners in Bury, AtlantisEVOLUTION in Stoke and others, take a look at the CLUBS section on the site for information of dress codes, admission fees, opening times etc.
Clubs generally fall into 2 categories .... Wet clubs (emphasis on Jacuzzis, steam rooms, saunas, social areas and play areas, then there are the Nightclub themed clubs which centre around the dance facilities, social areas and play areas, of course some clubs incorporate all of that in one venue.
Have a good think about what your looking for, ie couples, fem on fem only, single males or all of the above lol. Some clubs have specialist nights like BBW, Coffee and Cream, Bi-nights (for bi men and bi women but bisexual fun girl on girl is welcome at all clubs all of the time) Couples and Single female only nights and mixed nights (all single males, females and couples welcome.
Think about your boundaries, for example most people know how they feel about safe sex but the simpler things should be considered ie do you want to kiss during sex, some do some don't it is better to think about things first.
That said you can visit a club 100 times and never play, you play when YOU feel comfortable to do so, until then, socialise, make friends and see what sort of things happen.
If you have any particular questions, feel free to mail me (worked at Chameleons, Utopia, Papillon des Alpes and currently working at AtlantisEVOLUITON so have a little experience ... winks.
And one last thing, I hope this advice helps, if you fancy the Stoke area we would be happy to "hold your hand" but it would be "no strings" we don't judge but don't play with anyone who is playing without thier partners consent and though you may be you haven't clarified that point, besides we are mingers so you wouldn't want to play with us
but we guarantee you a fun, safe night and some new friends.
You can go on your own and you would be safe, very safe, no means no at ALL clubs.
If you don't feel confident enough to go to a club alone, you can advertise in here for a couple, another female or a single guy to accompany you, I would suggest you make it clear that it would be a "no strings" arrangement, just mutual company, you may feel like playing with him/her/them when you meet but better to be upfront and honest, until you meet in person you won't really know. The genuine people will be happy to meet and accompany you on that basis.
There are a number of clubs within a 50 mile radius of you, Cupids in Manchester, Partners in Bury, AtlantisEVOLUTION in Stoke and others, take a look at the CLUBS section on the site for information of dress codes, admission fees, opening times etc.
Clubs generally fall into 2 categories .... Wet clubs (emphasis on Jacuzzis, steam rooms, saunas, social areas and play areas, then there are the Nightclub themed clubs which centre around the dance facilities, social areas and play areas, of course some clubs incorporate all of that in one venue.
Have a good think about what your looking for, ie couples, fem on fem only, single males or all of the above lol. Some clubs have specialist nights like BBW, Coffee and Cream, Bi-nights (for bi men and bi women but bisexual fun girl on girl is welcome at all clubs all of the time) Couples and Single female only nights and mixed nights (all single males, females and couples welcome.
Think about your boundaries, for example most people know how they feel about safe sex but the simpler things should be considered ie do you want to kiss during sex, some do some don't it is better to think about things first.
That said you can visit a club 100 times and never play, you play when YOU feel comfortable to do so, until then, socialise, make friends and see what sort of things happen.
If you have any particular questions, feel free to mail me (worked at Chameleons, Utopia, Papillon des Alpes and currently working at AtlantisEVOLUITON so have a little experience ... winks.
And one last thing, I hope this advice helps, if you fancy the Stoke area we would be happy to "hold your hand" but it would be "no strings" we don't judge but don't play with anyone who is playing without thier partners consent and though you may be you haven't clarified that point, besides we are mingers so you wouldn't want to play with us
but we guarantee you a fun, safe night and some new friends. 
Sex God
Quote by Playwithus1989
Hi, we are new to this but have very persistent desire to try... Anyone can recommend a social in our area where we can meet and chat with some "girly" guys, TVs etc? We are a good looking late 40ies fit educated couple.
For Socials (non-club), then keep an eye on the Lets Meet Up Forum, whilst for things club based then here in Club Meets Forum.
Also might be worth keeping an eye on the Commercial Events Forum for those that are being organised by clubs themselves.
Having said that not all club's have a SH profile, so it might be worth looking at the :: Clubs listing for those clubs near you http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/clubs/?sortField=club_location&sortDirection=asc and checking out their own websites (where links are provided) to see 'whats on'
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Sorry Just realised I didn't answer your initial concern!
'Single' refers to bodies through the door, i.e. 1 man turns up on his own.
Couples equals a man and woman turns up together!
Of course some of the 'single' men are married, so are some of the 'couples' and not to each other on occassion.
Marital status is not a query at a club, It just helps when refering to 'single and couple' to maintain a good ratio of females and males.
Hope that helps but mail me if you have any other queries
Good luck swinging!
xx
in reply to your comments, before i took eye off your boobs lol, and i not like that :-) i just thinking of my safety, especially now in the news etc dont want to say any more. my safety is more important than my sex life, but the clubs sounds perfect , I have phoned and they said they would welcome me but still feel a bit like
i shouldnt be there :-)
Sexpert
Debs, to give you some idea,
We have been to about 15 clubs on the trot in the last 5 months, and we don't think there was one night where there wasn't at least 5 single females there.
You'll find that most clubs are single females and Couples Only on a Saturday, and Friday it tends to be mixed.
If its a good club, a typical mix on a Friday night might be something like 20 guys plus, 5 to 10 Couples and 5 females
A Saturday would typically be around 50 Couples and 5 females.
Jed has recommended some great venues (Mids Couple) above, and it really depends what you want from your night out, if you want a bit of a dance as well as some fun Atlantis is by a mile the best venue in your area for that, and people make an effort to dress up and they get a lovely crowd in too.
Cupids and Cams are more like the type of club where you wear a towel or lingerie, it puts everyone in the same boat from the off, but some people prefer to dress up, or just don't find towels that flattering. Both of those clubs are also good choices though, despite some of the single men having limited conversational ability. (Some of the ones at Chams are very nice though, Cupids was a long time ago for us)
If you need any advice on the topic drop either us or MidsCouple a line, they are also extremely helpful, and they also run a BnB which you can stay at when you visit the club, which can be very useful. They will also run you to and back from the place.
We have been to about 15 clubs on the trot in the last 5 months, and we don't think there was one night where there wasn't at least 5 single females there.
You'll find that most clubs are single females and Couples Only on a Saturday, and Friday it tends to be mixed.
If its a good club, a typical mix on a Friday night might be something like 20 guys plus, 5 to 10 Couples and 5 females
A Saturday would typically be around 50 Couples and 5 females.
Jed has recommended some great venues (Mids Couple) above, and it really depends what you want from your night out, if you want a bit of a dance as well as some fun Atlantis is by a mile the best venue in your area for that, and people make an effort to dress up and they get a lovely crowd in too.
Cupids and Cams are more like the type of club where you wear a towel or lingerie, it puts everyone in the same boat from the off, but some people prefer to dress up, or just don't find towels that flattering. Both of those clubs are also good choices though, despite some of the single men having limited conversational ability. (Some of the ones at Chams are very nice though, Cupids was a long time ago for us)
If you need any advice on the topic drop either us or MidsCouple a line, they are also extremely helpful, and they also run a BnB which you can stay at when you visit the club, which can be very useful. They will also run you to and back from the place.
Warming the Bed
in reply to your comments, before i took eye off your boobs lol, and i not like that :-) i just thinking of my safety, especially now in the news etc dont want to say any more. my safety is more important than my sex life, but the clubs sounds perfect , I have phoned and they said they would welcome me but still feel a bit like
i shouldnt be there :-)
Debs,
Safety is paramount for me too, and in a club if you so 'no' it means 'no' so the ball really is in your hand
Also I went to chams on saturday and counted 17 single fems, us ladies really are catching up with the sexual revolution.
As for 'feel a bit like i shouldnt be there' thats just normal vanilla reaction and I'd be more concerned if you didn't feel nervous/worried about your first time.
Hope you enjoy your visit, keep us posted to how it went.
xxx
i shouldnt be there :-)
Debs,
Safety is paramount for me too, and in a club if you so 'no' it means 'no' so the ball really is in your hand
Also I went to chams on saturday and counted 17 single fems, us ladies really are catching up with the sexual revolution.
As for 'feel a bit like i shouldnt be there' thats just normal vanilla reaction and I'd be more concerned if you didn't feel nervous/worried about your first time.
Hope you enjoy your visit, keep us posted to how it went.
xxx
