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Hi I'm looking for your help, I'm a single guy and I'm ready to visit a swinging club I've been reading all the info on here but don't know which one to visit, I know it's better to go as a couple but unfortunately I'm not in that position. Is it ok to go to these places and watch what is happening or would i be asked to leave.
Sometime I would also like to try and get involved with the action but probably not on my first visit.
Do you think it would be better to try and meet a couple from here first maybe?
So I would appreciate your advice,
Thanks
Curtain
Thanks ste for your reply, I'm really looking forward to it. I found a place called eureka have you ever tried?
I'm quite a skinny young looking guy will I look out of place among a room full of beefcakes?
What you must remember then is that not everyone fancies beefcakes, Mrs T for one.
Keep your expectations at a sensible level, be polite and be yourself.
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I'm quite a skinny young looking guy will I look out of place among a room full of beefcakes?

And also... the other guys there will be a real mixture. It's not a bodybuilding contest by any means!!
If you just take your time and start off watching, then take your lead from the other people around you - rather than barging in - you'll be fine. You've had some great advice above, too.
We've all started out on this path at some time, and been the slightly nervous newbie!!
Take the plunge - have fun - and maybe come back onto this thread & let us know how you got on?
Curtain,
Why not go to eureka's when there's an SH social, at least you'll meet a few of the site regulars and have something in common to talk about.
See:-
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/419027.html
As it's a 'social' night in a club - no problem in being a single male. lol
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Thanks for your help everybody, you all seem nice so hopefully everybody there would be like you guys. I didn't know there was an sh night there so will have a look into that.
I will let you know how it goes, will probably try after Xmas when I'm back home.
Thanks again
Ps. Was even thinking of trying the bi night as i have a bicur side, would I be in deep water with that though?
Hi curtain, try kestrel during the day weekdays to give u gentle intro. If u make it a Monday after 6 is bi night. Everyone's friendly there. Good luck. Oh and my one tip don't touch without asking ;-)
Hi missy, kestrel... Not heard of that one sounds good then, I will have a look a look at their site.
Thanks for your post
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Hi missy, kestrel... Not heard of that one sounds good then, I will have a look a look at their site.
Thanks for your post

It's Abfab, same venue but naked daytime ;-)
Will there be many people there during the day?
Depends on the day and week. If u want to stay late mon ties or weds, if u want bit busier mon (later bi night) or weds. Sundays can be busy too. But as with all days depends sometimes on the weather as a lot is outdoors, pool tubs dungeon etc. mon n weds nights they have the house open so not so much an issue if it's freezing :-)
as a general rule if you cant pull in the real world its unlikely you will in the swinging world women dont suddendly change their expectations of a partner
as someone has already said friendly chatty flirty guys do best
Cheers Mitzi, what a wise head on such young shoulders ;)
hey there great post
we are a couple and going to Eureka for the first time on the 10th Jan..for the first time at any club..we are looking to get chatting with a single guy so hope there are people around like you to chat with.....bit nerve wracking i know