We are a new couple in the Sheffield area and would like to try a club for the first time. Does anyone have recent personal experience that would help us decide where to go.
Imprtant factors for us are:
not too close to Sheffield!
Couples only
Somewhere we wont' be pressured to full swing - we only want soft
Reasonable number of couples
Any ideas?
Alternatively, we might try a private party, so long as the above criteria were still met.
Thanks
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Sex God
Hi GarethandSarah, welcome to the forums. Im definately not the best person to help when it comes to clubs but it might be worth checking out the clubs and parties section of the site (look at the top of the page, or try the following link)
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/clubs/index.html
Most clubs do have couples nights, so it might be worth checking out their websites and seeing the best nights to go, and as for soft swing, you only do whatever you feel comfortable with.
Really hope you have fun, and Im sure someone else will be along shortly to give you some better advice
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/clubs/index.html
Most clubs do have couples nights, so it might be worth checking out their websites and seeing the best nights to go, and as for soft swing, you only do whatever you feel comfortable with.
Really hope you have fun, and Im sure someone else will be along shortly to give you some better advice
we were in a similar position to you so we went from doncaster to a swingers hotel at blackpool yes there was a few single males there but the hosts told us that would be the case but that we would be able to go at our own pace and join in or not In the end we had a great weekeng and i had my first sex with a guy with john my hubby watching and it was fantastic unfortunatley john didnt get to have sex but we have been back a few times since and had 2 full same room swaps and we think it is the best way to go about it hope it all works out for you marie and john docaster xxxxxxxx
I think NWC's advice is pretty spot on :thumbup:
You should never feel pressured into anything. Eitherof you.
As was said, perhaps you should make sure you only go on couples days/nights.
Discuss and agree your "rules and boundaries" - which are set in stone, and which aren't; and how you will deal with a third party trying to cross them BEFORE YOU GO, should the need arise.
I'm in two minds as to whether the "private party" route is the best for a first time experience, but I'll take advice from she who must be obeyed, and maybe come back to it.
Btw - for purely selfish reasons (stir crazy) if you wanted to meet for coffee and cakeybun one day to chat freely without any pressure - or opportunity, drop me a PM.
You should never feel pressured into anything. Eitherof you.
As was said, perhaps you should make sure you only go on couples days/nights.
Discuss and agree your "rules and boundaries" - which are set in stone, and which aren't; and how you will deal with a third party trying to cross them BEFORE YOU GO, should the need arise.
I'm in two minds as to whether the "private party" route is the best for a first time experience, but I'll take advice from she who must be obeyed, and maybe come back to it.
Btw - for purely selfish reasons (stir crazy) if you wanted to meet for coffee and cakeybun one day to chat freely without any pressure - or opportunity, drop me a PM.
Warming the Bed
When choosing a venue for a first visit, consider whether you will feel more comfortable in a sauna club or disco based club.
A sauna club will be a more "full-on" experience, but dress code is usually towels for the gentlemen and towels or lingerie for the ladies as soon as you walk through the door.
At a disco type club you will be able to wear clothes you would normally wear to a disco or you could "dress to impress" with something a little more risque. You will be able to see the type of actoin that is going on without any pressure to join in if you don't want to. On the other hand you may ..........
Either way, good luck and have a fun evening.
A sauna club will be a more "full-on" experience, but dress code is usually towels for the gentlemen and towels or lingerie for the ladies as soon as you walk through the door.
At a disco type club you will be able to wear clothes you would normally wear to a disco or you could "dress to impress" with something a little more risque. You will be able to see the type of actoin that is going on without any pressure to join in if you don't want to. On the other hand you may ..........
Either way, good luck and have a fun evening.
Sexpert
well ive heard there a nice one near leicester it been very popular with cpls i know which i know has very nice atmosphere and the food is good and no sticky carpets
if you look up in the swing club list you will see them all listed goodluck have fun
if you look up in the swing club list you will see them all listed goodluck have fun
Sex God
Quote by GarethSarah
We are a new couple in the Sheffield area and would like to try a club for the first time. Does anyone have recent personal experience that would help us decide where to go.
Imprtant factors for us are:
not too close to Sheffield!
Couples only
Somewhere we wont' be pressured to full swing - we only want soft
Reasonable number of couples
Any ideas?
Alternatively, we might try a private party, so long as the above criteria were still met.
Thanks
You sound like us about three years ago....................
We went to partners in Bury on a Sunday night and found it to be a nice quiet way of introducing ourselves to Swinging. There were about 20 couples in that night and I still remember our amazement at being so close to so many naked people all enjoying themselves.
Choose a spacious Club where you can find your own privacy in case you need it and choose a quiet night to begin with. As you become more confident and more at ease with it all you may choose to broaden your horizons and get to appreciate other busier nights though having to deal with single men in some Clubs can sometimes be frustratingly annoying.
All in all we still prefer couples nights for a really relaxing non pressurised night but we can also enjoy ourselves when their are single guys around as well.
As previously mentioned - choose carefully between 'wet' themed clubs or 'pub' type clubs as both give you different experiences. We like to get naked asap and like that feeling of liberation even before we start playing so prefer 'wet' themed venues.
Don't worry about swapping or getting in too deep - we have never swapped in three years and probably never will - there is never pressure to do this and not everyone wants to anyway.
Just take a bottle of wine and your sense of humour and you will be fine.
Forum Virgin
Hiya
Just a little about our experiences. Firstly research the clubs web sites etc as to facilities, dress code etc - then go for it. lol
The most important thing to do is to discuss with each other "do's and don'ts" - this isn't easy when you actually at the venue and things are going on around you. We have been to a few clubs and parties and always had a great time, with the exception of the first time lol. We'd not discussed fully with each other our own rules and hence ran into a few problems and arguments. Never did that again! Rules can be re-negociated you know lol.
Couples only nights are a must if you are not into the single guys, who i'm sorry to say can be a problem if you let them. Mostly they will ask and when turned down will walk away but if you not sure how to handle things make sure its couples only night to save any problems. Single guys take note, ask not just wank near someones ear!!!!!
You never have to do anything, there is no pressure on anyone from anyone. Even the dress ethics ..... most have a policy of removing clothing but towels are always provided and worn covering up whichever bits you want - if you're a bigger than average person (height or width) ask for a bigger one at the door or take your own, they dont mind. Take a clip if you're worried about it falling down pmsl. Lots of women (me included) dont feel "dressed" in a towel so find it much more sexy to walk around in heels and underwear (guaranteed to get you noticed) tee hee. If the fem is worried about being approached when on her own, stay together .... its that simple.
It's a great atmosphere ......... no pressure to have sex with others if you dont want and often all the "playing" gets you in the mood so just play with each other, just as horny.
Smile at people, chat and have a laugh. Respect people and they will respect you back.
Have FUN and relax ...... no one bites!!!!!!!!! Its lovely being surrounded by all sorts of people, into all sorts of things and talking about sex openly and without worrying that it might offend someone.
Chameleons in Darlston, West Mids is brilliant. Saturday after is couples only. Great people, great fun and great sex!!!!!!!!!
Best of all .........enjoy the experience of being with each other and getting turned on together. We've never come home disappointed ..... not always cause we've played with others but because we've had fun together and chilled (or got steamy).
Happy clubbing!!!!!!!!
Ali xxxxxx
Just a little about our experiences. Firstly research the clubs web sites etc as to facilities, dress code etc - then go for it. lol
The most important thing to do is to discuss with each other "do's and don'ts" - this isn't easy when you actually at the venue and things are going on around you. We have been to a few clubs and parties and always had a great time, with the exception of the first time lol. We'd not discussed fully with each other our own rules and hence ran into a few problems and arguments. Never did that again! Rules can be re-negociated you know lol.
Couples only nights are a must if you are not into the single guys, who i'm sorry to say can be a problem if you let them. Mostly they will ask and when turned down will walk away but if you not sure how to handle things make sure its couples only night to save any problems. Single guys take note, ask not just wank near someones ear!!!!!
You never have to do anything, there is no pressure on anyone from anyone. Even the dress ethics ..... most have a policy of removing clothing but towels are always provided and worn covering up whichever bits you want - if you're a bigger than average person (height or width) ask for a bigger one at the door or take your own, they dont mind. Take a clip if you're worried about it falling down pmsl. Lots of women (me included) dont feel "dressed" in a towel so find it much more sexy to walk around in heels and underwear (guaranteed to get you noticed) tee hee. If the fem is worried about being approached when on her own, stay together .... its that simple.
It's a great atmosphere ......... no pressure to have sex with others if you dont want and often all the "playing" gets you in the mood so just play with each other, just as horny.
Smile at people, chat and have a laugh. Respect people and they will respect you back.
Have FUN and relax ...... no one bites!!!!!!!!! Its lovely being surrounded by all sorts of people, into all sorts of things and talking about sex openly and without worrying that it might offend someone.
Chameleons in Darlston, West Mids is brilliant. Saturday after is couples only. Great people, great fun and great sex!!!!!!!!!
Best of all .........enjoy the experience of being with each other and getting turned on together. We've never come home disappointed ..... not always cause we've played with others but because we've had fun together and chilled (or got steamy).
Happy clubbing!!!!!!!!
Ali xxxxxx
