The Office

26 Oct 2004

Are there any single males or couples who have visited The Office in Bristol? I have checked out the website and it seems that they are very welcoming of single males. My thoughts are that this may be a good place for a newcomer to start looking.
What is the general rule regarding single males and clubs? Will I be accepted, laughed at or frowned upon or just tucked away in a corner and ignored?
I know what you're thinking.........more questions from another stupid man.

27 Oct 2004

I've never been to The Office (no jokes about David Brent), but there is some very good advice about swinging clubs in the advice section of this site, including some helpful stuff about single men in clubs.
See: http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/advice/swingers-clubs.html
Good luck,
Mike.

27 Oct 2004

Thanks Mike, I've already looked there and I know it does seem a great location for single men. They do advertise gready girls nights, although I get the general idea, I would like to know how an evening like that would go. Do the men just stand around waiting to be chosen or is it as it looks like, one big free for all. My fear is of not being invited to join the fun and just hanging around looking and feeling stupid.

27 Oct 2004

I have been to a few GG nights at another club. You are unlikely to be invited to join in anything, for me it was just a matter of joining in some gentle group action and staying with it while it gradually built up to something. Where I have been there have been quite a few guys nervously moving from one room to another, and mainly watching, but if you summon up your courage, make it clear what you would like to do, and at the same time take things coolly, you are more likely to enjoy the fun.
Does this help?
Mike.

27 Oct 2004

Thanks again, so basically if I do cop out as it were, I wouldn't be alone.

27 Oct 2004

No, some guys go just to watch anyway, and the whole focus is on the women, so nobody is really monitoring what any guy is doing or not doing. Anyway the lighting is usually very subdued.
Mike.

27 Oct 2004

In your opinion then would you consider this a good place to start? Is it possible for friendships to be formed in this kind of environment or is the emphasis solely on achieving sexual gratification with no actual connection between the people involed. If for example you were to return to the same venue, with the same people, would the atmosphere be more relaxed because you had met previosly?

28 Oct 2004

Certainly, at the club I have been to there is a bar and normal socialising takes place as well as sex.
Mike.