Join the most popular community of UK swingers now
Login
Time wasters
last reply
12 replies
1.4k views
0 watchers
0 likes
Forum Virgin
Unfortunately you will find, that a lot of singles (mainly single guys) get their kicks from thinking about meeting up, going through the motions of sending messages and getting to chatting etc... and then they lose their courage to go through with it. It does happen, and it is real ball-ache when it happens to you.
BUT, no, the site isn't full of them. There are a fair few, but they can be avoided if you make sure you:
1. Chat via cam so the guy/girl or couple are what they say they are
2. Exchange numbers in advance and make sure you have spoken on the phone and that you have a contact number for them
Also - if they let you down once, maybe give them the benefit of the doubt. I was due to meet with a nice couple a year or so ago, my car broke down on the way AND my mobile seemed to just die on me, so I had no way of contacting them until I was towed home later that night. Needless to say, they were livid with me - but after my explanation and a few more chats, we arranged to meet again and it all went fantastically well. We met up several times afterwards.
So yes, there are a few people who will waste your time on here - but keep chatting and eventually you'll find what you are after
Good luck
BUT, no, the site isn't full of them. There are a fair few, but they can be avoided if you make sure you:
1. Chat via cam so the guy/girl or couple are what they say they are
2. Exchange numbers in advance and make sure you have spoken on the phone and that you have a contact number for them
Also - if they let you down once, maybe give them the benefit of the doubt. I was due to meet with a nice couple a year or so ago, my car broke down on the way AND my mobile seemed to just die on me, so I had no way of contacting them until I was towed home later that night. Needless to say, they were livid with me - but after my explanation and a few more chats, we arranged to meet again and it all went fantastically well. We met up several times afterwards.
So yes, there are a few people who will waste your time on here - but keep chatting and eventually you'll find what you are after
Good luck
Sex God
As Rob said, sadly there are a minority of time wasters - just like there are at work, or in other aspects of life.
It 'pays' to talk with people and get to know them.
Also if they are Shrep enabled, look at their 'feedback', plus if arranging meets then use the Shrep 'create meet' facility as well.
Lots of genuine people on the site, many who you'll meet if you attend one of the Socials or Munchs you'll see posted in this Lets Meet Up forum or via the Events section, plus others within Club Meets and Commercial Events if the club scene is your thing.
It 'pays' to talk with people and get to know them.
Also if they are Shrep enabled, look at their 'feedback', plus if arranging meets then use the Shrep 'create meet' facility as well.
Lots of genuine people on the site, many who you'll meet if you attend one of the Socials or Munchs you'll see posted in this Lets Meet Up forum or via the Events section, plus others within Club Meets and Commercial Events if the club scene is your thing.
Quote by essexrob82
Unfortunately you will find, that a lot of singles (mainly single guys) get their kicks from thinking about meeting up, going through the motions of sending messages and getting to chatting etc... and then they lose their courage to go through with it. It does happen, and it is real ball-ache when it happens to you.
BUT, no, the site isn't full of them. There are a fair few, but they can be avoided if you make sure you:
1. Chat via cam so the guy/girl or couple are what they say they are
2. Exchange numbers in advance and make sure you have spoken on the phone and that you have a contact number for them
Also - if they let you down once, maybe give them the benefit of the doubt. I was due to meet with a nice couple a year or so ago, my car broke down on the way AND my mobile seemed to just die on me, so I had no way of contacting them until I was towed home later that night. Needless to say, they were livid with me - but after my explanation and a few more chats, we arranged to meet again and it all went fantastically well. We met up several times afterwards.
So yes, there are a few people who will waste your time on here - but keep chatting and eventually you'll find what you are after
Good luck
Very good advice
Forum Virgin
Sadly there are a ton of time wasters on here.
I only actually met one person last year from this site and I've already been let down by several people so far this year.
There are some really nice genuine people on here, the trick is finding them!
I only actually met one person last year from this site and I've already been let down by several people so far this year.
There are some really nice genuine people on here, the trick is finding them!
Forum Virgin
I dont know it just seems to be the internet in general at the moment. I only want to meet one lady but just never get a sniff... so to speak 
Forum Virgin
We had a meet arranged for Thursday night just gone...we had seen him on cam, Mrs M had spoken to him on the phone and had texted him several times... but on the day we received an e-mail early in the day to say he couldnt make it as he had been sent to work in another part of the country for the day.
We have given him the benefit of the doubt and arranged again for next Thursday but if he comes back with another excuse then he's blown it....so to speak!
K & C
We have given him the benefit of the doubt and arranged again for next Thursday but if he comes back with another excuse then he's blown it....so to speak!
K & C
Sex God
over the yrs we have been around,,,, we only been let down 3 times....if u find its to much, arrange to meet in a club...that way if they don t turn up u have others to talk too.
we had to let some one down once due to womans problems for a meet..n was told if i cant fuck u i dont want to meet..since then they thought we for gotton them....so when six months on they wanted a meet.....u have to guess what i said :twisted:
we had to let some one down once due to womans problems for a meet..n was told if i cant fuck u i dont want to meet..since then they thought we for gotton them....so when six months on they wanted a meet.....u have to guess what i said :twisted:
Sex God
Quote by ready83
Is this site full of time wasters or wot
Nope!
We have only been members for a few weeks, but had better luck on this site than others. We have had 2 successful meets, and a lot of fun. We are also making friends, finding new places to go and would recommend this site to others.
We find the key is communication; chat first, on here, webcam or by phone for verification, then when everyone is happy pick a time and place.
Keep it simple, keep it fun!
We find the key is communication; chat first, on here, webcam or by phone for verification, then when everyone is happy pick a time and place.
Keep it simple, keep it fun!
Well I spend a lot of time writing replies to ads and answering everything people ask and rarely get any success - so it's not just men that are the problem.
Ok so I'm a 'single man' looking for couples and I know demand far outstrips supply but it is disheartening when you spend a lot of time composing a unique reply to an ad and get absolutely no response back!
I appreciate it's a sellers market and the chances of me actually meeting anyone are slim (I've long since accepted that) but at least show the courtesy to send a polite 'thanks but no thanks' - it's not much to ask and would make such a big difference!
There I've got that off my chest - lol!
Ok so I'm a 'single man' looking for couples and I know demand far outstrips supply but it is disheartening when you spend a lot of time composing a unique reply to an ad and get absolutely no response back!
I appreciate it's a sellers market and the chances of me actually meeting anyone are slim (I've long since accepted that) but at least show the courtesy to send a polite 'thanks but no thanks' - it's not much to ask and would make such a big difference!
There I've got that off my chest - lol!
Forum Virgin
Thanks for the thumbs up Ste and Kez, sound advice from you guys too. I think that is the key, you hit the nail on the head, 'you aren't desperate to meet others'... being overly desperate to meet up (whilst we all have days like it) can lead to conversations with people who you aren't being picky enough over.
You can't do anymore than taking your time and getting to know a person, or a couple, a little bit better
Good luck to all the first-timers out there who feel their time is being wasted. Trust the more experienced members on here and try to get to know more people, even people you don't think you would end up meeting - it is a social site after all.
You can't do anymore than taking your time and getting to know a person, or a couple, a little bit better
Good luck to all the first-timers out there who feel their time is being wasted. Trust the more experienced members on here and try to get to know more people, even people you don't think you would end up meeting - it is a social site after all.
