Orgasminator
hiya what does a genuine couple have to do to meet genuine people couples or singles let us no
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Sex God
There seems to be lots of comments on this forum about couples who want to meet other couples - just a (very obvious) thought, but why don't you start PMing each other and sort something out? I just love to state the obvious every single day 
Orgasminator
we tried writing to a few people but no replys
I think the problem is some people - and I'm not saying you're one (or a couple) of them as I've seen you around for a while now - but some people give up too easily.
I've seen loads and loads of peeps fly in, flap about not getting any fun, then fly out never to be seen or heard of again and I've only been here a couple of months!
I live in Croydon/London where there are tonnes of swingers and even I have trouble finding exactly what I want... so for you in Devon where the swinger per square mile ratio must me smaller, it surely must take even longer?
Have you tried the ad system at all? Sorry if this is a daft question.... just trying to see if I can help.
Hxx
I've seen loads and loads of peeps fly in, flap about not getting any fun, then fly out never to be seen or heard of again and I've only been here a couple of months!
I live in Croydon/London where there are tonnes of swingers and even I have trouble finding exactly what I want... so for you in Devon where the swinger per square mile ratio must me smaller, it surely must take even longer?
Have you tried the ad system at all? Sorry if this is a daft question.... just trying to see if I can help.
Hxx
Sex God
Jane & Les - I think Heather's right, maybe your location has something to do with your lack of success? I'm not suggesting you up-sticks and move to where there might be more action, unless of course you feel that such a drastic step is in order , but probably you do need to give it a bit more time to meet the right people in your area. I was going to suggest you try meeting people in a club, but I don't think there are any down your neck of the woods 
. I guess all you can do for now is to keep replying to others, and place your own ad too - I'm sure your patience will be rewarded in the end :P
, but probably you do need to give it a bit more time to meet the right people in your area. I was going to suggest you try meeting people in a club, but I don't think there are any down your neck of the woods . I guess all you can do for now is to keep replying to others, and place your own ad too - I'm sure your patience will be rewarded in the end :P All,
It does seem that lots of adverts but little response.
Being a single male, I've placed an ad in the forum, an ad online and replied to a few ads.
I've just also read Heather's note on replying and think I'm doing things ok. I have an advert on SH which tells people about me so I refer then to that for pics / details and don't do the cut / paste thing.
But sometimes I got a reply which I felt wasn't right. One couple wrote back simply stating "facial picture then we might chat" which I decided wasn't nice so didn't pursue it further.
Perhaps we all expect instant meetings not a couple of emails, phone calls and then meetings.
meanwhile, I'll continue to check the forums and the ads for people in my area or will to travel for fun & games, and chat then send an unblurred pic,
Just my 2 pence worth
Phil
(17047)
It does seem that lots of adverts but little response.
Being a single male, I've placed an ad in the forum, an ad online and replied to a few ads.
I've just also read Heather's note on replying and think I'm doing things ok. I have an advert on SH which tells people about me so I refer then to that for pics / details and don't do the cut / paste thing.
But sometimes I got a reply which I felt wasn't right. One couple wrote back simply stating "facial picture then we might chat" which I decided wasn't nice so didn't pursue it further.
Perhaps we all expect instant meetings not a couple of emails, phone calls and then meetings.
meanwhile, I'll continue to check the forums and the ads for people in my area or will to travel for fun & games, and chat then send an unblurred pic,
Just my 2 pence worth
Phil
(17047)
An awful lot of time is wasted not filtering out the idiots / fakes.
This can certainly add to one's frustration.
Most genuinely people have a habit of going out of their way be accommodating and readily able to offer some simple validity checks. It's more often than not the fakes that show a great deal of reluctance to get things out of the way... thus dragging out the 'let's get to know each other' period... they seem to require a lot of pictures and details in order to 'get to know'.
It never ceases to amaze me how people who claim to be willing to share their bed seem reluctant to share a phone conversation. I know it's not always the case, but more often than not... it's an early warning sign.
If the female of the couple is unwilling to speak, then that's another warning sign.
When you use a site such as this, as good as it is, you have to be realistic. Realism means accepting that there will be fake people. Indeed a reasonably high number of them. You either buy into that and work with that fact, or you adopt another strategy... such as visiting a club etc.
It's extremely annoying putting up with investing your time on folk who are either total fakes, or are genuine, but don't play fair... and string you along. That's people for you. Nothing we can do to change it sadly. All we can really change is our ability to deal with it. If you discover you've been had, or time wasted... move on, and smile in the knowledge that at the end of the day they've reached the limit of their little pleasure... they've chatted to you, swapped a few pics... but never met you. Just laugh at them and think of the extra fun you'll be having when you meet other genuine folk.
This can certainly add to one's frustration.
Most genuinely people have a habit of going out of their way be accommodating and readily able to offer some simple validity checks. It's more often than not the fakes that show a great deal of reluctance to get things out of the way... thus dragging out the 'let's get to know each other' period... they seem to require a lot of pictures and details in order to 'get to know'.
It never ceases to amaze me how people who claim to be willing to share their bed seem reluctant to share a phone conversation. I know it's not always the case, but more often than not... it's an early warning sign.
If the female of the couple is unwilling to speak, then that's another warning sign.
When you use a site such as this, as good as it is, you have to be realistic. Realism means accepting that there will be fake people. Indeed a reasonably high number of them. You either buy into that and work with that fact, or you adopt another strategy... such as visiting a club etc.
It's extremely annoying putting up with investing your time on folk who are either total fakes, or are genuine, but don't play fair... and string you along. That's people for you. Nothing we can do to change it sadly. All we can really change is our ability to deal with it. If you discover you've been had, or time wasted... move on, and smile in the knowledge that at the end of the day they've reached the limit of their little pleasure... they've chatted to you, swapped a few pics... but never met you. Just laugh at them and think of the extra fun you'll be having when you meet other genuine folk.
Sex God
Well said! 
This may be compleat nonsense.
Kit and I didn't join the forum to meet people, physically that is. We just came in to explore.
And the people we have ended up chatting too, e-mails and PM's rather than on the forums, have tended to be people who are not asking for meetings, but just contact us to get to know us.
have no idea what all that means, other than lets chat gets you closer to a meeting than lets meet.
:? :?
I talk some crap sometimes!
lhk
Kat
Kit and I didn't join the forum to meet people, physically that is. We just came in to explore.
And the people we have ended up chatting too, e-mails and PM's rather than on the forums, have tended to be people who are not asking for meetings, but just contact us to get to know us.
have no idea what all that means, other than lets chat gets you closer to a meeting than lets meet.
:? :? I talk some crap sometimes!
lhk
Kat
Sex God
Analog, you're talking a lot of sense, but I think it has to depend on your perspective.
When I used to meet guys regularly through the Net, generally I wasn't interested in getting to know them or exchanging much info at all - it was the "stranger" element that did it for me, so getting to know them, whether it my exchanging info or by receiving revealing stories, just didn't work. However, I do that elsewhere now (in clubs mainly), and when I found this forum and began to post on it, I found people who I could exchange sexual (and other) ideas with on an intellectual level, I mean this place attracts folks who are totally on my wavelength :shock: - and that is rare! However, others use the site in a different way to me - just to exchange details, meet and shag, in the way I used to. I think some people are whinging because they are naive to the time it takes to achieve this. Seeing this site as busy may frustrate them because they see a lot of people here, but still no-one replies - as people keep writing! That is because we are all here having fun in our own ways, doing what pleases us (whether chatting, meeting or whatever). For people wanting meets, you really do have to be patient if you want to get what you want. To be blunt, if you want a shag at a specific time on a specific date guaranteed, maybe you would be better paying for it?
When I used to meet guys regularly through the Net, generally I wasn't interested in getting to know them or exchanging much info at all - it was the "stranger" element that did it for me, so getting to know them, whether it my exchanging info or by receiving revealing stories, just didn't work. However, I do that elsewhere now (in clubs mainly), and when I found this forum and began to post on it, I found people who I could exchange sexual (and other) ideas with on an intellectual level, I mean this place attracts folks who are totally on my wavelength :shock: - and that is rare! However, others use the site in a different way to me - just to exchange details, meet and shag, in the way I used to. I think some people are whinging because they are naive to the time it takes to achieve this. Seeing this site as busy may frustrate them because they see a lot of people here, but still no-one replies - as people keep writing! That is because we are all here having fun in our own ways, doing what pleases us (whether chatting, meeting or whatever). For people wanting meets, you really do have to be patient if you want to get what you want. To be blunt, if you want a shag at a specific time on a specific date guaranteed, maybe you would be better paying for it?
I can buy into the 'stranger' element... but then for that I think a club is an easier way to enjoy that aspect. (and safer).
Communication media like this tends to promote 'getting to know'. It's different for men than women to be fair.. women can say "meet me now" and the chances are, some guy will do so. It's less likely the other way around.
Nothing wrong with picking a guy up from the net... it's just (arguably) a little less reliable and more dangerous if it's a quick turn around time from "Hello" to "fuck me now". For me, a club is the optimal place for that type of sex.
Communication media like this tends to promote 'getting to know'. It's different for men than women to be fair.. women can say "meet me now" and the chances are, some guy will do so. It's less likely the other way around.
Nothing wrong with picking a guy up from the net... it's just (arguably) a little less reliable and more dangerous if it's a quick turn around time from "Hello" to "fuck me now". For me, a club is the optimal place for that type of sex.
Some good replies on this thread particularly from the An Kid
Jane, I think location has a lot to do with it as Heather said (Croydon does seem to be a bit of a hotspot in the South ;-) )
Even living within a strike of London and half the home counties, it's still difficult. I posted a very similar thread about 10 days ago, and concluded that my success rate for REPLIES was only about 5%.
I've had my toe (enthusiastically and very actively) in the water for 6 weeks now, and am still looking forward to my 1st real encounter.
So, chin up, keep mailing out, keep advertising, forget about those who lead you on and waste your bandwidth....and I'm sure it will happen.
And most importantly, be genuine, don't compromise yourself
Best of luck xx
Jane, I think location has a lot to do with it as Heather said (Croydon does seem to be a bit of a hotspot in the South ;-) )
Even living within a strike of London and half the home counties, it's still difficult. I posted a very similar thread about 10 days ago, and concluded that my success rate for REPLIES was only about 5%.
I've had my toe (enthusiastically and very actively) in the water for 6 weeks now, and am still looking forward to my 1st real encounter.
So, chin up, keep mailing out, keep advertising, forget about those who lead you on and waste your bandwidth....and I'm sure it will happen.
And most importantly, be genuine, don't compromise yourself
Best of luck xx
Sex God
Analog - yes it is different for men and women in this game . It is easy for a woman to post an ad to say "fuck me now" and get it, but not for a man, unless of course, he wants to meet other men 8) ! To be honest, once I discovered how easy and better it was at clubs I didn't want to meet strangers one at a time any more! Then there's dogging of course - strangers plus risk - the perfect combination :wink: :wink:
. It is easy for a woman to post an ad to say "fuck me now" and get it, but not for a man, unless of course, he wants to meet other men 8) ! To be honest, once I discovered how easy and better it was at clubs I didn't want to meet strangers one at a time any more! Then there's dogging of course - strangers plus risk - the perfect combination :wink: :wink: that the type of people who find you appealing think on a level other than purely sexual.
That will be it.
Question of 'What are you both after' If you are not both after the same thing, it would be pointless flogging the proverbial dead horse just for the sake of it.
we do try to chat but cant get response
blufin, when you say you try to chat, how do you mean?
Sex God
Blufin - try harder, come into the cafe, the mad folks go there :wink: :wink:
:wink: :wink: Quote by jane_les_southwest
hiya what does a genuine couple have to do to meet genuine people couples or singles let us no
I've sent you an e-mail tonight regarding my time in the South West in a few weeks. I can assure you I'm genuine. Just have to see if you like what you see and we can take it from there.
Cheers,
Richard
Sorry... but I think your website is a bit of a turn off... you seem to pose the same pics in all the sections and always in the same sort of constume. Essentially, it needs sexing up a bit... see if you can get Alistair Campbell to sort it out for you.
Honestly... make it more up beat and less drab
Honestly... make it more up beat and less drab
