Thanks for all the replies to my ad yesterday, even though some of them did state the obvious..lol
Having been on and off the scene for the last 14yrs, I'm well aware of how things work, but I was merely stating..especially in Scotland..how can I put it..HOW CRAP THE SWINGING SCENE IS!....or is it just me?
Yes I've did all the club and party things and again ..if you are single..irrespective of how good looking you are its still hard to score..am I right or wrong?
And as for the timewasters of which there are plenty..but on the other hand it is a big step for some people..especially for jealous partners..lol
I just cant be bothered with all the chasing around...thank god I have a life..albeit a pretty boring one..lol
So to all you guys out there..KEEP TRYING and to all you LADIES and CPLS out there..COME AND GET US!!
Thanks again for reading this notice and I hope to meet some of you swinging about.
Al
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Wow!! A response..lol
You are still missing the point
Think of the forum as a bar/club – introduce yourself and get talking to them and then something might happen, but, as in real life it might not. It must surely be a better tactic than marching in and announcing how good you are and that most in the room are timewasters.
As for Scotland being crap – there are a number of regular contributors in the café from north of the border – have you bothered to try to get to know them?
If not being bothered with the chasing around means not being bothered to make the effort to get to know people then give up now.
Think of the forum as a bar/club – introduce yourself and get talking to them and then something might happen, but, as in real life it might not. It must surely be a better tactic than marching in and announcing how good you are and that most in the room are timewasters.
As for Scotland being crap – there are a number of regular contributors in the café from north of the border – have you bothered to try to get to know them?
If not being bothered with the chasing around means not being bothered to make the effort to get to know people then give up now.
I feel sorry for single guys though. There arent many proper horny babes and they get snapped up and kept.
I will stay single because I like my life and have enough experience not to compramise it.
I can see where your rage
comes from, my boy mates have felt the same in the past and many have settled for a lifestyle less than they wanted because something is better than nothing.
It actualy hurts to want this way of life and either not get it or get it in little bits. a stretched mind never goes back and ignorance can be bliss. I think we can forgive a little vented rage, its us peeps with the extreme emotions that make our community.
Listen mate keep on being different and revel in your freedom.
I will stay single because I like my life and have enough experience not to compramise it.
I can see where your rage
comes from, my boy mates have felt the same in the past and many have settled for a lifestyle less than they wanted because something is better than nothing. It actualy hurts to want this way of life and either not get it or get it in little bits. a stretched mind never goes back and ignorance can be bliss. I think we can forgive a little vented rage, its us peeps with the extreme emotions that make our community.
Listen mate keep on being different and revel in your freedom.
Sex God
Hmmm i'm inclined to agree with happycat on this; this post definitely gave an impression of Al not having taken in the sentiments expressed in the first thread he started. Oh, and hinting that people on here don't have a life won't really help your cause either.
Granted, but remember he is a person on here and -no dsrespects here- but will be speaking from his own expierience. Sentiments kick in when you feel good and I hope he feels great soon. I like this site because it helps people. I think there is more to it than a great time and contacts, i've been here a few days and have learned already.
Love a discussion tho
Love a discussion tho
Got to say I understand both points of view expressed so far and have sympathies with both - but I do think hayleyw2 makes a very valid point and also hints at the fact that sometimes people can be very quick to judge and impress their own morale stance onto people who may not confirm to 'their' vision of behaviour.
Whilst not advocating anarchy in any shape I do think it's important to take on borad that we are all individuals and all looking for something here on this site - whether it be companionship, friendship, banter, no strings attached sex, sex without partner being aware (who am I to judge other peoples relationships? I know nothing about their lives), dogging, laughs, points of view, challenges to preconceptions ... whatever we may be looking for, it can all be found here.
I do wish that sometimes people would be a little more forgiving and simply agree to disagree or say "Thanks but not for me...hope you find what you are looking for" etc without quite so much of the sarcasm and put downs which only seek to enflame the situation ..... in my humble opinion.
It was from this site that I read the various postings of certain people that made be question some of my own views on matters and their posts were done with such tact, understanding and insight and without a hint of rebuke. I have no wish to embaress people by naming them, but there are some bery fine people on here that in day to day life I would never meet or come across as our worlds are different but I am profoundly glad I have read their posts and chatted with them.
Hmmm just realised I slightly strayed from my original point (sorry peeps) but I do believe (that in this environment anyway) that as I am not qualified to disregard anybodies point of view or stance, I may not like it, I may not agree with it, I may not even want to talk to that person but I should accept their stance .... as long as no physical or mental harm is being done.
Forgive my ramblings.
Whilst not advocating anarchy in any shape I do think it's important to take on borad that we are all individuals and all looking for something here on this site - whether it be companionship, friendship, banter, no strings attached sex, sex without partner being aware (who am I to judge other peoples relationships? I know nothing about their lives), dogging, laughs, points of view, challenges to preconceptions ... whatever we may be looking for, it can all be found here.
I do wish that sometimes people would be a little more forgiving and simply agree to disagree or say "Thanks but not for me...hope you find what you are looking for" etc without quite so much of the sarcasm and put downs which only seek to enflame the situation ..... in my humble opinion.
It was from this site that I read the various postings of certain people that made be question some of my own views on matters and their posts were done with such tact, understanding and insight and without a hint of rebuke. I have no wish to embaress people by naming them, but there are some bery fine people on here that in day to day life I would never meet or come across as our worlds are different but I am profoundly glad I have read their posts and chatted with them.
Hmmm just realised I slightly strayed from my original point (sorry peeps) but I do believe (that in this environment anyway) that as I am not qualified to disregard anybodies point of view or stance, I may not like it, I may not agree with it, I may not even want to talk to that person but I should accept their stance .... as long as no physical or mental harm is being done.
Forgive my ramblings.
There has been no sacasm on this thread - just advice. If Al chooses to ignore it, thats up to him and he and others are entitled to their views.
Al posted bemoaning the fact he cant get anywhere so all frecklebird and ourselves have suggested is as to perhaps why.
Single males are in the majority, it is a fact of swinging life that the odds are stacked against them.
Al posted bemoaning the fact he cant get anywhere so all frecklebird and ourselves have suggested is as to perhaps why.
Single males are in the majority, it is a fact of swinging life that the odds are stacked against them.
I agree with Happy Cats I am a single guy on here and yes it is hard.
It is ok to slag of the swinging scene in Scotland as a non event but it does exist you just have to be patient. Try the Scottish Munch.
Yes this forum is very good, addictive even, I tend to come in here more or less EVERY lunch time. I don't always post anything but I do get a good laugh at some of the stuff in the cafe.
If you are interested in swinging from this site then yes try the cafe, get to know the regular users. Ok I don't always contribute but sometimes I feel easier reading the comments of others rather than making an arsehole of my self and offending ppl.
It pays sometimes to be nice and not offensive.
Now I'm starting to ramble a lot of shit so I'll go
ciao
It is ok to slag of the swinging scene in Scotland as a non event but it does exist you just have to be patient. Try the Scottish Munch.
Yes this forum is very good, addictive even, I tend to come in here more or less EVERY lunch time. I don't always post anything but I do get a good laugh at some of the stuff in the cafe.
If you are interested in swinging from this site then yes try the cafe, get to know the regular users. Ok I don't always contribute but sometimes I feel easier reading the comments of others rather than making an arsehole of my self and offending ppl.
It pays sometimes to be nice and not offensive.
Now I'm starting to ramble a lot of shit so I'll go
ciao
Sex God
Now I'm starting to ramble a lot of shit so I'll go
never mind, you are in the company of many ramblers on here
Quote by hayleyw2
I feel sorry for single guys though. There arent many proper horny babes and they get snapped up and kept.
I will stay single because I like my life and have enough experience not to compramise it.
I can see where your rage
It actualy hurts to want this way of life and either not get it or get it in little bits. a stretched mind never goes back and ignorance can be bliss. I think we can forgive a little vented rage, its us peeps with the extreme emotions that make our community.
Listen mate keep on being different and revel in your freedom.
I agree with this I have loads of mates with partners/girlfriends that we all know are second best..
Quote by roger743
Griffin makes a good point. Also though, first impressions count. If the first impression people see of you is something like "hey I've got a big cock and I want to fuck a hot babe up the ass", people will get a certain impression of you and it'll take you a while to shed that impression.
Never a truer word Roger ...... and I agree with yourself and Happycat and Glasgowllama
My rambling was offered as a general comment rather than aimed at anyone in specific.
Sex God
i think the biggest problem with most of the new people who come online is that they thick that this is a "quick fuck" site....... and then when it doesn't happen they bemoan the fact
which is interesting because for us who have been here a while know that it is the complete opposite....
:) :)
it is just like life where the first impression does make a difference so having one like this and the other one that he put up isn't really going to win friends and influence people.....
and as for there not being much of a scene in scotland... well i am in newcastle and am up there all the time and i can tell you there is.. it is a case of "taking time" which apparetnly is something you are not prepared to do......
sean xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
which is interesting because for us who have been here a while know that it is the complete opposite....
:) :) it is just like life where the first impression does make a difference so having one like this and the other one that he put up isn't really going to win friends and influence people.....
and as for there not being much of a scene in scotland... well i am in newcastle and am up there all the time and i can tell you there is.. it is a case of "taking time" which apparetnly is something you are not prepared to do......
sean xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I'm also new to this forum but have been repling to ads for a number of weeks. My first impression was that I couldn't fail and all I had to do was ask. You only have to read through the ads to realise that this mistake is easily made if your vision is blinkered, like mine was. I've since learnt that the odds are very much stacked against me and could quite easily see myself throwing my toys out of the pram in frustration, so I do have sympathy.
I for one will keep plodding on in hope that at least I can make some friends along the way, and who knows. .......
: I for one certainly don't
I for one will keep plodding on in hope that at least I can make some friends along the way, and who knows. .......
: I for one certainly don't 