Speaking as a man. And possibly one of the only celebate men on here (if you believe all the profiles lol) And also being and ex officer and a very honest speaking gentleman. I'm not sure you will like what I have to say but the fact is, maybe not as many guys are turned on by "large" ladies as you might think. I have tried to say it as sensitively as I can, but I'm affraid its true.
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y are bbw treated second best at clubs
I think if bbw show the same confidence as other "thin" women they will probably be treated the same.
I am a BBW lover and what I find is that many bbw tend not be as relaxed about there bodies as others which sometimes make sex not as good. I have been with both types and I can honestly say it down to the particular individual and how confident they are about their body.
I am a BBW lover and what I find is that many bbw tend not be as relaxed about there bodies as others which sometimes make sex not as good. I have been with both types and I can honestly say it down to the particular individual and how confident they are about their body.
My opinion in clubs is that alot of men Of Course are gonna look first for the women they see time after time on porno movies.. 99% of the time slim and model like.. Acting out a guys fantasy without conditions..
So they go to a club looking for exactly that!
Then when they realise that in our 'real' world.. a majority of Real ladies, are a size 16+ They probably feel deflated But still wanna empty their sac somewhere
P.s. Im a BBW but never felt 2nd best, tho I fully accept Im not everyones cuppa tea same as not 'just anyone' will do for me either.
Minxie :rascal: xx
So they go to a club looking for exactly that!
Then when they realise that in our 'real' world.. a majority of Real ladies, are a size 16+ They probably feel deflated But still wanna empty their sac somewhere
P.s. Im a BBW but never felt 2nd best, tho I fully accept Im not everyones cuppa tea same as not 'just anyone' will do for me either.
Minxie :rascal: xx
Master of Sex
It's because a lot of men are shallow and are easily led by the meeja into thinking that only thin ladies can be sexy.
I know plenty of very confident BBW's. Get yourself to a BBW social or BBW Room party at Chameleons. You'll find plenty of confident, sexy BBW's.
I know plenty of very confident BBW's. Get yourself to a BBW social or BBW Room party at Chameleons. You'll find plenty of confident, sexy BBW's.
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Speaking as a man. And possibly one of the only celebate men on here (if you believe all the profiles lol) And also being and ex officer and a very honest speaking gentleman. I'm not sure you will like what I have to say but the fact is, maybe not as many guys are turned on by "large" ladies as you might think. I have tried to say it as sensitively as I can, but I'm affraid its true.
Personally I think that is aload of rubbish, I believe theres alot of men out there that are turned on by the ''large'' lady. Ok maybe they wouldnt go down the local with their mates and cheer on the larger lady walkin to the bar, but i rekon theres alot more guys than you think that are into BBW's
Ive never felt 2nd best at a club, there is always some one for everyone out there and yes when you go to a club you cant always be everyones cup of tea whether you fat, thin, small boobs big boobs etc. If you have the confidence you can always have the upper hand in any situation.
Quote by miss_morecockI won't ... I'm quite fussy.
I have never had a problem Size 18 ..guys (mostly) will S**g anything ..on the other hand i'm much more particularConfidence and flirtyness goes along way though
However, weight isn't an issue for me, it's about how you present yourself - sexiness can be many things. I love curves and big boobs ... I also like slim girls too.
Not a lover of the term bbw though - not all big women are beautiful and I think the label is a bit too 'political' for me, and almost like it's a default. I also don't like skinny girls being called stick insects - that's also derogatory ... all women are real women, and beauty can manifest itself in loads of ways.
Sexpert
Personally I think it is very much a matter of the female's attitude. I class myself as a BBW; I have never in my memory been "thin". I accept that some men will like me, some men won't. But if I go to a club thinking no one is going to want to fuck me because i'm fat, then men tend not to approach me. But if I go there with the attitude that I may see a cock I fancy, I tend to find men approach me.
I have seen this happen at Chamelons and at other clubs. A stick insect barbie doll with a face like a black wet monday getting passed over for a woman weighing three times the barbie simply because she accepts who she is and knows exactly what she wants and goes after it.
And the term "BBW", can mean "Big Beautiful Woman", or "Big Bodied Woman", "Big Bouncy Woman", or "Big Bitch Woman" - its all about her attitdue.
Finally as Mr Domino often says to me when I'm not feeling happy about my size
"There will be people who like you and people who don't, but thats what makes us all individual"
I have seen this happen at Chamelons and at other clubs. A stick insect barbie doll with a face like a black wet monday getting passed over for a woman weighing three times the barbie simply because she accepts who she is and knows exactly what she wants and goes after it.
And the term "BBW", can mean "Big Beautiful Woman", or "Big Bodied Woman", "Big Bouncy Woman", or "Big Bitch Woman" - its all about her attitdue.
Finally as Mr Domino often says to me when I'm not feeling happy about my size
"There will be people who like you and people who don't, but thats what makes us all individual"
Quote by domino_2All of those work for me at times
And the term "BBW", can mean "Big Beautiful Woman", or "Big Bodied Woman", "Big Bouncy Woman", or "Big Bitch Woman"
Buuuut it's like saying RAC stands for Royal Ambulance Club ... Of course it doesn't, you can call it that if it makes you happy, but it still stands for what it stands for.
All I'm saying is don't define yourself by a phrase ... like "bald is beautiful" ... it might look good on some blokes, but not on everyone.
However, I agree with you on everything else ... if you feel beautiful, then you are - it's as much a state of mind as it is anything else. Besides, if you like yourself and other people like you, then who really gives a shit what anyone else thinks?
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Sex God
As a female who has swung when I considered myself to be very large and also when no where near as large, I have to say, I got more 'attention' when I was larger than smaller.
I think that alot of men go for the 'package and not just a certain look or certain size. That package often includes confidence in your own body and accepting what you are. Confidence and being happy with what you have, is something which, to me, just oozes sex appeal and it has sod all to do with size, shape or any other physical attribute.
I think that alot of men go for the 'package and not just a certain look or certain size. That package often includes confidence in your own body and accepting what you are. Confidence and being happy with what you have, is something which, to me, just oozes sex appeal and it has sod all to do with size, shape or any other physical attribute.
Sexpert
I'd agree with the Majority here. BBW or not I find attitude really sexy and if you come over as sexy then you are. Of course confidence doesn't come out of a can so it requires a leap of faith or a particularly raunchy outfit. Actually now I say both is good :-)
If you think BBW get treated 2nd rate try being a single bloke.
If you think BBW get treated 2nd rate try being a single bloke.
Orgasminator
I'm a BBW........ dont matter wot size a woman is, its wot inside that counts........... yes there be some that dont go for BBW and thats there choice....where as some men do go for BBW and thats there choice........ god if we was all the same, it be a boring world.
Sex God
hiya mr b here married to mrs b and shes a fine bbw i also have a lot of female friends who class themselves as bbws now not wanting to seem provocative but dont you all pay too much attention to what makes a good looking woman i say go to clubs and take a look at the guys now with ya hands on ya hearts can ya really say bbws should be judged
i like meeting people and having fun and i like women to be the same now really how many of you could sit comfortably with judge not less ye be judged huh
i like meeting people and having fun and i like women to be the same now really how many of you could sit comfortably with judge not less ye be judged huh
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It's because a lot of men are shallow and are easily led by the meeja into thinking that only thin ladies can be sexy.
I know plenty of very confident BBW's. Get yourself to a BBW social or BBW Room party at Chameleons. You'll find plenty of confident, sexy BBW's.
Why are they shallow? In that case aren't we all!? I know that Diane & I won't meet just anyone. We have to find them relatively attractive. So for you to call people who don't like big women shallow is a bit hypocritical to me. I know we've said no to people because to us they were just plain ugly to be brutaly honest. I wouldn't say that makes us shallow. We just have our own preferances just like some people don't like big women. It's not just big women either, there's a lot of women who don't like big men to.
I can understand what your saying about being left to feel like 2nd best but I can only imagine you've felt that way because you've noticed someone do just what you've said.
Go to a slim woman who said no and then comes to you.
In that instance If that's how you felt then you should just tell him no. I don't think we've noticed it happen to us but to be honest if it did we'd just take it in our stride. After all we know we're not models and it's only natural to make a move for the person you are most attracted to. Bearing in mind that it's a swinging club and we don't always get to know the people we have fun with so a lot of it is from physical attraction. Let's face it if they are then told no you can't expect them to then not try with someone else. I would expect them to have a little decorum and not just blatently bounce from one to the next as they got rejected! If we noticed them doing that then we may tell them no.
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Speaking as a man. And possibly one of the only celebate men on here (if you believe all the profiles lol) And also being and ex officer and a very honest speaking gentleman. I'm not sure you will like what I have to say but the fact is, maybe not as many guys are turned on by "large" ladies as you might think. I have tried to say it as sensitively as I can, but I'm affraid its true.
Personally I think that is aload of rubbish, I believe theres alot of men out there that are turned on by the ''large'' lady. Ok maybe they wouldnt go down the local with their mates and cheer on the larger lady walkin to the bar, but i rekon theres alot more guys than you think that are into BBW's
Ive never felt 2nd best at a club, there is always some one for everyone out there and yes when you go to a club you cant always be everyones cup of tea whether you fat, thin, small boobs big boobs etc. If you have the confidence you can always have the upper hand in any situation.
I respect your honesty charlie88, unfortunately kinky I have to agree with him. Yes there are a lot of men who are turned on by the larger lady but the point he was making is the majority would prefer a slimmer women/man (remember a lot of women don't like big men either) and I don't mean a catwalk model type! If given the choice of a healthy size or someone who is (I don't like to use the term) obese then I'm pretty confident that the majority or the UK population (remember this is my opinion and that I work in a predominantly male environment and that 51%=majority) would prefer the slimmer person.
Kinky If given the choice to sleep with a chipendale or an overweight, middle aged man who would you choose? Remember we're talking about physical attraction here not personality.
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Speaking as a man. And possibly one of the only celebate men on here (if you believe all the profiles lol) And also being and ex officer and a very honest speaking gentleman. I'm not sure you will like what I have to say but the fact is, maybe not as many guys are turned on by "large" ladies as you might think. I have tried to say it as sensitively as I can, but I'm affraid its true.
Personally I think that is aload of rubbish, I believe theres alot of men out there that are turned on by the ''large'' lady. Ok maybe they wouldnt go down the local with their mates and cheer on the larger lady walkin to the bar, but i rekon theres alot more guys than you think that are into BBW's
Ive never felt 2nd best at a club, there is always some one for everyone out there and yes when you go to a club you cant always be everyones cup of tea whether you fat, thin, small boobs big boobs etc. If you have the confidence you can always have the upper hand in any situation.
I respect your honesty charlie88, unfortunately kinky I have to agree with him. Yes there are a lot of men who are turned on by the larger lady but the point he was making is the majority would prefer a slimmer women/man (remember a lot of women don't like big men either) and I don't mean a catwalk model type! If given the choice of a healthy size or someone who is (I don't like to use the term) morbidly obese then I'm pretty confident that the majority or the UK population (remember this is my opinion and that I work in a predominantly male environment and that 51%=majority) would prefer the slimmer person.
Kinky If given the choice to sleep with a chipendale or an overweight, middle aged man who would you choose? Remember we're talking about physical attraction here not personality.
Bloody hell i go away for a bit and look what happens you lot start getting all serious
But and as you lot know i like big buts lol here is my point of view on the club v's bbw topic big or small it all depends on what clubs you go and who you go with and what you expect like someone did say earlier in this thread cameron you need to get on some of the bbw nights and i do have to agree with chris it is down to physical attraction at 1st but a personalty does help alot ...........Right can we all get back to doin what we do best pervin and shaggin :lickface:
:grin: As many of you know im a cock hungry lady :twisted: :twisted: iv been to different clubs on different days not just bbw nights and i always seem to have lots of fun be it at the end of the night or at the start, and wouldnt go with any man or woman that i didnt find attractive... i do have to agree tho that is has a lot to do with confidence and different people find different things attractive ... like for instance the fact that Mr Wade is giveing me his botty next time :moon: massive turn on :lol:
be it at the end of the night or at the start, and wouldnt go with any man or woman that i didnt find attractive... i do have to agree tho that is has a lot to do with confidence and different people find different things attractive ... like for instance the fact that Mr Wade is giveing me his botty next time :moon: massive turn on :lol: Quote by cameron44
r point is yes wev been on bbw nights had fun but go on nrom nights we get thecold shoulder till end of night wen the slimmer women have gone and the men need a quicky before going home wev even had men get of in mid shag to go to a barbie who just laughed at mrs cam to us all ppl are same slim barbie to size 24 bbw just wish some ppl wouldent treat the larger woman diffrent they do have feelings like the rest thank you b
I can see why you would be annoyed at someone getting off mid shag to move to someone else! That is massively dissrespectful. Unfortunately your going to get people like that at clubs. I'd guess they're the people who have just come in for fuck after they've just been to the pub for a couple and aren't what I'd class as swingers. Unfortunately the only thing you can do is make a mental note of them and tell them where to go if they try it on next time! Make sure you pass it onto your friends as well so they can tell him to do one as well! If the barbie laughed then she deserves a slap as well!
In my view when you go to a club there may be a lot of people that don't particularly appeal to you, that doesn't give you any write to belittle them or dissrespect them like that. I'd say part of swinging is about accepting people on face value and respecting them whether you find them attractive or not.
As for you having fun from start to finish of the night Diane, thats because your a dirty slut and everyone knows it! ;)
Sex God
Quote by Chris-1977
In my view when you go to a club there may be a lot of people that don't particularly appeal to you, that doesn't give you any write to belittle them or dissrespect them like that. I'd say part of swinging is about accepting people on face value and respecting them whether you find them attractive or not.
Sorry to cut up your post, and even though I do agree with all you said, wanted to highlight the part above. Respect for others is, as you say, sod all to do with a persons size, height, sexual orientation or any other physical or mental factor. Every one of us does initially deserves to be respected until we do or say something which takes away that right, then we should receive it from other. If people cannot at least have the common curtousy to do that, then why the hell should any of us give them the same level of respect back.
Everyone as their own likes and dislikes, and whereas some people will admit that physical attraction is not necessary for swinging, a lot of others, including me, will say it is essential. I could not play with someone who did not attract me. However, I can honestly say that size is not something that normally effects my attraction to a person. I find large, medium and small people all attractive, and find that it is the general package which initially attracts me.
As for the decision between a Chippendale or a middle aged, over-weight male, well I honestly cannot answer, as it would depend which one was more attractive, had the nicest smile, who made me feel comfortable in myself and who had that naughty glint in their eye.
We cant take it personally just because someone does not find us attractive and does not want to play with us. We all have our own likes and dislikes and attraction to another person is not necessarily something we have control over, it is (I think) a natural reaction to another person which (in my little world) happens totally out of my control.
Cameron, all I can say is stuff to Mrs-Needs-to-get-a-life-barbie and the males who decide to move along to their next conquest. You need to go for the males/couples/females who do appreciate you for what you are and not for a label. Their loss, not yours
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In my view when you go to a club there may be a lot of people that don't particularly appeal to you, that doesn't give you any write to belittle them or dissrespect them like that. I'd say part of swinging is about accepting people on face value and respecting them whether you find them attractive or not.
Sorry to cut up your post, and even though I do agree with all you said, wanted to highlight the part above. Respect for others is, as you say, sod all to do with a persons size, height, sexual orientation or any other physical or mental factor. Every one of us does initially deserves to be respected until we do or say something which takes away that right, then we should receive it from other. If people cannot at least have the common curtousy to do that, then why the hell should any of us give them the same level of respect back.
Everyone as their own likes and dislikes, and whereas some people will admit that physical attraction is not necessary for swinging, a lot of others, including me, will say it is essential. I could not play with someone who did not attract me. However, I can honestly say that size is not something that normally effects my attraction to a person. I find large, medium and small people all attractive, and find that it is the general package which initially attracts me.
As for the decision between a Chippendale or a middle aged, over-weight male, well I honestly cannot answer, as it would depend which one was more attractive, had the nicest smile, who made me feel comfortable in myself and who had that naughty glint in their eye.
We cant take it personally just because someone does not find us attractive and does not want to play with us. We all have our own likes and dislikes and attraction to another person is not necessarily something we have control over, it is (I think) a natural reaction to another person which (in my little world) happens totally out of my control.
Cameron, all I can say is stuff to Mrs-Needs-to-get-a-life-barbie and the males who decide to move along to their next conquest. You need to go for the males/couples/females who do appreciate you for what you are and not for a label. Their loss, not yours
Exactly my view and so elequently put ;)
Sex God
well i have had nights at clubs where i have said to mr b i am obviously too fat to fuck as no interest has been shown and other nights where i have been actively sought out for fun and oddly enough not on BBW nights as it goes
attraction is all subjective i agree with chris' point that we should not expect to be found attractive or played with cause i can honestly say there has been many a night we have sat at chams n i haven't found one single guy there fuckable in fact the last visit we had i was moaning to mr b that it seemed to be OAP night inaudibly i may add but moan i did now should i be hung drawn n quartered because i didn't find them attractive HELL NO so why should they be so just cause they didn't find me attractive
my advice is to learn to accept that not everyone can find you attractive just as you don't find everyone attractive embrace the fact you are different and stand out then hold ya head high and enjoy that fact cause once ya confidence starts to shine then your attractiveness will blossom
sexiness is not a body size/shape its a state of mind
attraction is all subjective i agree with chris' point that we should not expect to be found attractive or played with cause i can honestly say there has been many a night we have sat at chams n i haven't found one single guy there fuckable in fact the last visit we had i was moaning to mr b that it seemed to be OAP night inaudibly i may add but moan i did now should i be hung drawn n quartered because i didn't find them attractive HELL NO so why should they be so just cause they didn't find me attractive
my advice is to learn to accept that not everyone can find you attractive just as you don't find everyone attractive embrace the fact you are different and stand out then hold ya head high and enjoy that fact cause once ya confidence starts to shine then your attractiveness will blossom
sexiness is not a body size/shape its a state of mind
id wonder what the female view on this is for larger guys... i've been given the brush off on a few ocasions to see the lady start playing with a trim slim fella that has just arrived... some time ive though oh fuck it but other times its really hit my confidence... i guess thinking rationally i should be cool with it and go with the 'oh well' approach..
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id wonder what the female view on this is for larger guys... i've been given the brush off on a few ocasions to see the lady start playing with a trim slim fella that has just arrived... some time ive though oh fuck it but other times its really hit my confidence... i guess thinking rationally i should be cool with it and go with the 'oh well' approach..
I think 'and no it didnt hurt'
that women have to find the male attractive and like it was said earlier there is somebody for everyone,different people find different shapes,sizes,colours attractive,There does have to be a physical attraction for me to want to them, In clubs i tend to move from one guy to the next not because one is better looking than the other, i just like trying different cocks :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: Sex God
Quote by TomHasWood
id wonder what the female view on this is for larger guys... i've been given the brush off on a few ocasions to see the lady start playing with a trim slim fella that has just arrived... some time ive though oh fuck it but other times its really hit my confidence... i guess thinking rationally i should be cool with it and go with the 'oh well' approach..
My view on this is exactly the same I said for the ladies, I have to be attracted to the person, but that attraction is not based on their size. However, I will say that it is not very often that I find VERY slim males attractive, but anyone from 'normal' (which is an horrible and very subjective word) can certainly fit into my 'attracive' group.
Sod to their size, I want sex appeal, and for me, that is not a certain look or a specific size :twisted:
Warming the Bed
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id wonder what the female view on this is for larger guys... i've been given the brush off on a few ocasions to see the lady start playing with a trim slim fella that has just arrived... some time ive though oh fuck it but other times its really hit my confidence... i guess thinking rationally i should be cool with it and go with the 'oh well' approach..
I think 'and no it didnt hurt'
that women have to find the male attractive and like it was said earlier there is somebody for everyone,different people find different shapes,sizes,colours attractive,There does have to be a physical attraction for me to want to them, In clubs i tend to move from one guy to the next not because one is better looking than the other, i just like trying different cocks :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:Your just bloody greedy chick
But I agree with what you say... There is someone out there for everyone.... I know a lot of women that find bigger men attractive... my mum being one of them but im afraid shes off limits :) My general attitude when going to a club is that im here with friends im gonna let my hair down and enjoy myself... and if someone takes my fancy then its a bonus... if not then there are plenty of other opportunitys. xxxx 