The reason I like to think that I'm swinging as a single rather than just shagging is that I like to feel like I'm part of something as opposed to me being better than 'vanillas'. The world at large is geared around couples, try booking a holiday, a restaurant table, even going to the pub as a single and you'll know what I mean. I'd hate to feel I was being looked down on here as well merely because I'm not part of a couple.
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1-2-1/Swinging
This thread made me a little angry at first to be honest and i've kept out till now. I know PL said it was just a question on the meaning for debate but sat here i felt it another anti single thread when i first saw it.
Thats not the case due to singles looking for couples but some of the posts made me wonder sometimes.
It reminded me of my works christmass party last year where out of 39 i was the only single there even down to an empty seat next to me at the meal. I felt odd and awkward during the meal but ok once the band and disco kicked in when we sat willy nilly and thats much like now, i feel like i'm at that table, but that will pass. Well it allready has thats why i left my post till now.
I like the spirit of this place and the welcome feel in general and the closeness of it all. But sometimes i also get fed up of it just like anything else.
Thats just what thoughts i've had during the course of this thread.
It's no different to me whether im a swinger or what ever else you want to call it i like it here what ever comes along.
Thats not the case due to singles looking for couples but some of the posts made me wonder sometimes.
It reminded me of my works christmass party last year where out of 39 i was the only single there even down to an empty seat next to me at the meal. I felt odd and awkward during the meal but ok once the band and disco kicked in when we sat willy nilly and thats much like now, i feel like i'm at that table, but that will pass. Well it allready has thats why i left my post till now.
I like the spirit of this place and the welcome feel in general and the closeness of it all. But sometimes i also get fed up of it just like anything else.
Thats just what thoughts i've had during the course of this thread.
It's no different to me whether im a swinger or what ever else you want to call it i like it here what ever comes along.
Sex God
Quote by PoloLady
Is the activity of meeting people for 1-2-1 sex swinging?
I am not asking if you think the people that meet for 1-2-1 sex are swingers - I am asking what you think about the activity itself... is that swinging?
The way I understand it is this:
If anyone meets anyone else for sex it is called "having sex" whether it's 2 meeting 1 or 2 meeting 2 or 1 meeting 1.
The swinging comes into play I think when you "swing" from one partner to another either as a couple or as a single with others who do the same. :smile2: but then again, I could be wrong
Quote by goose35
This thread made me a little angry at first to be honest and i've kept out till now. I know PL said it was just a question on the meaning for debate but sat here i felt it another anti single thread when i first saw it.
I mean no offence.....
May be your own issues made you read it that way.
Being single myself (and being extremely partial to shagging - without feeling the need to dress it up as something with a frilly name) I am not sure how it could appear to be an anti-single thread?
Sex God
Quote by Scandal
I couldn't care what anyone calls what i get up to.
I think "swinging" is an historical term that dates back to 70's wife swapping. I'd say it refers to people in relationships having sex with others on a concentual basis.
Things have moved on and because recreational sex is almost a national pastime I don't really see the relevance in linguistic pedantry.
It is what it is to whoever is doing it at the time!
Can't see a problem with that myself
Quote by the_Laird
I couldn't care what anyone calls what i get up to.
I think "swinging" is an historical term that dates back to 70's wife swapping. I'd say it refers to people in relationships having sex with others on a concentual basis.
Things have moved on and because recreational sex is almost a national pastime I don't really see the relevance in linguistic pedantry.
It is what it is to whoever is doing it at the time!
Can't see a problem with that myself
I Concur
Earthy xx
Quote by PoloLady
This thread made me a little angry at first to be honest and i've kept out till now. I know PL said it was just a question on the meaning for debate but sat here i felt it another anti single thread when i first saw it.
I mean no offence.....
May be your own issues made you read it that way.
Being single myself (and being extremely partial to shagging - without feeling the need to dress it up as something with a frilly name) I am not sure how it could appear to be an anti-single thread?
No offence was taken like you say does it really matter what the label is.
I didn't say it "was" an anti single thread it just initially felt like that to me anyway.
The bit in red sums it up. My issue being i allways read things like that. And the rest of my post was just saying that it passes hence why i posted now.
The rest of my post summing that up in that im a glass half empty sort. Angry was probably too strong a word but i was a bit miffed as to why i needed a label.
