Having a girly conversation at work today. As you do!!
The conversation took to one night stands, and how many we'd all had. So I thought I'd bring it to here.
Now I'm not curious about numbers. What got me thinking was a comment made by one of the girls:
" I don't do 1 nighters because I'm too embarrassed to wake up next to them in the morning."
She added, she'd love to do them more, but she can't face waking up to them in the morning, because of the stuff they did the night before.
Now I've had plenty of 1 nighters. And I don't feel embarrassed. I have a couple of panics thinking, 'what if they wake up in the morning and realise I'm pig ugly, but they were so pissed last night, they didnt care.' Sort of a coyote ugly thing!
But this has never stopped me doing it. If anything I've kind of used them as a morale boost. I admit to feeling the same way when I meet someone through swinging.
So my question to you all, is how do you feel about 1 nighters, has your attitude changed since you grew older?? Just various musings on the subject I guess!!!
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i have never had a 1 night stand and to be honest i have know idea how i will feel about it when i do. I know i will because i want to experiance more things i might never do it again, and it might make me feel really shit in the morning, as i have always been faithful.
I dont have a problem with them per-sey ? as long as it was not done because they were to drunk. I would refuse to have sex with someone if i thought they were to drunk, and especially if it was a potential one nighter.
I dont have a problem with them per-sey ? as long as it was not done because they were to drunk. I would refuse to have sex with someone if i thought they were to drunk, and especially if it was a potential one nighter.
Sex God
Quote by redangel
Having a girly conversation at work today. As you do!!
The conversation took to one night stands, and how many we'd all had. So I thought I'd bring it to here.
Now I'm not curious about numbers. What got me thinking was a comment made by one of the girls:
" I don't do 1 nighters because I'm too embarrassed to wake up next to them in the morning."
She added, she'd love to do them more, but she can't face waking up to them in the morning, because of the stuff they did the night before.
Now I've had plenty of 1 nighters. And I don't feel embarrassed. I have a couple of panics thinking, 'what if they wake up in the morning and realise I'm pig ugly, but they were so pissed last night, they didnt care.' Sort of a coyote ugly thing!
But this has never stopped me doing it. If anything I've kind of used them as a morale boost. I admit to feeling the same way when I meet someone through swinging.
So my question to you all, is how do you feel about 1 nighters, has your attitude changed since you grew older?? Just various musings on the subject I guess!!!
pfffft, who would wake up next to you and think your ugly? noone. They'd be thrilled x
1 night stands are great if both parties go away happy....and i've never woken up and gone omg gotta chew my arm off to get away....i agree i think it's moral booster and get rid of that pent up sexual frustation........great........thing is as i've got older (i'm 32) they have become a bit of a scarse thing.
maybe i'm just getting uglier in my old age *wipes away a tear*
:lol: :lol:
Reacher
maybe i'm just getting uglier in my old age *wipes away a tear*
:lol: :lol: Reacher
Sex God
So is it just me who doesn't do one night stands then?! 
I've had a couple in my younger years but to be honest they just didn't do it for me... I posted the last effort elsewhere... but it explains my reasons for not doing it EVER again!!
Boxing Day 2004...
Been chatting to this guy on MSN for a couple of months... he'd come home to his parents for Christmas and suggested we meet up. I thought why the hell not! In hindsight I should have thought twice!
I met him in the pub, we had a couple of drinks and chatted. He told me of past experiences with girls, etc. and I probably should have ran a mile then but hey... I was horny and when he said he was particularly well endowed it seemed a shame to let his incessant chatter get in the way! (Yes I know... pot, kettle, black!)
Off we went back to mine and got down to it! Talk about self pleasure??! He's doing me from behind and when I looked round the look on his face as he watched his cock disappearing inside me was something I'll sadly never forget. That was all he was concerned with... no thought for whether I was having a good time or what I thought but this expression of pure concentration with his tongue sort of folded over in his cheek like that was going to make him fuck me harder!!
Anyway... I went along with it for the sake of the possible orgasm that never happened, surprise, surprise! So we chatted in bed, as you do, and we talked about fitness and at that point I was pretty conscious of my body and said that I was walking back and forth to work in an attempt to lose my spare tyre and he said...........
Wait for it..... exact words.....
"You could come down to London and visit me.... when you're thin"!!!! :shock: :shock: :shock:
I wish I'd thrown him out there and then but as a female when you put yourself in a situation with someone you don't know particularly well I was concerned that I didn't know if he'd turn into some mad git and I'd end up in a worse situation. So I went to sleep and chased him out first thing the next morning, cringing at my stupidity and wanting to smack him round the chops!
I didn't hear from him again thankfully until one day about a year later I get an email saying "Hi, how're you?" The temptation to write back "still too fat for you" was overwhelming but I rose above it and pressed delete! :D
So there was the death of the one night stands in my life! Never again!!
I've had a couple in my younger years but to be honest they just didn't do it for me... I posted the last effort elsewhere... but it explains my reasons for not doing it EVER again!!
Boxing Day 2004...
Been chatting to this guy on MSN for a couple of months... he'd come home to his parents for Christmas and suggested we meet up. I thought why the hell not! In hindsight I should have thought twice!
I met him in the pub, we had a couple of drinks and chatted. He told me of past experiences with girls, etc. and I probably should have ran a mile then but hey... I was horny and when he said he was particularly well endowed it seemed a shame to let his incessant chatter get in the way! (Yes I know... pot, kettle, black!)
Off we went back to mine and got down to it! Talk about self pleasure??! He's doing me from behind and when I looked round the look on his face as he watched his cock disappearing inside me was something I'll sadly never forget. That was all he was concerned with... no thought for whether I was having a good time or what I thought but this expression of pure concentration with his tongue sort of folded over in his cheek like that was going to make him fuck me harder!!
Anyway... I went along with it for the sake of the possible orgasm that never happened, surprise, surprise! So we chatted in bed, as you do, and we talked about fitness and at that point I was pretty conscious of my body and said that I was walking back and forth to work in an attempt to lose my spare tyre and he said...........
Wait for it..... exact words.....
"You could come down to London and visit me.... when you're thin"!!!! :shock: :shock: :shock:
I wish I'd thrown him out there and then but as a female when you put yourself in a situation with someone you don't know particularly well I was concerned that I didn't know if he'd turn into some mad git and I'd end up in a worse situation. So I went to sleep and chased him out first thing the next morning, cringing at my stupidity and wanting to smack him round the chops!
I didn't hear from him again thankfully until one day about a year later I get an email saying "Hi, how're you?" The temptation to write back "still too fat for you" was overwhelming but I rose above it and pressed delete! :D
So there was the death of the one night stands in my life! Never again!!
Sex God
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Sex God
Quote by PoloLady
Personally speaking... I can't really see a great deal of difference in principle between hooking up with someone on here for the first time (which may also be the last - remembering the no strings, no commitment thing) and a one-nighter
No... I don't suppose there is a huge difference... I guess I've just been very lucky so far!
Quote by Dirtygirlie
So is it just me who doesn't do one night stands then?!
I've had a couple in my younger years but to be honest they just didn't do it for me... I posted the last effort elsewhere... but it explains my reasons for not doing it EVER again!!
Damn i was about to send you a pm :lol:
no but seriously you could have went out on a few dates with this guy and the same could still have happened when it came down to the nitty gritty, just a thought.
Sex God
Quote by solofun
So is it just me who doesn't do one night stands then?!
I've had a couple in my younger years but to be honest they just didn't do it for me... I posted the last effort elsewhere... but it explains my reasons for not doing it EVER again!!
Damn i was about to send you a pm :lol:
no but seriously you could have went out on a few dates with this guy and the same could still have happened when it came down to the nitty gritty, just a thought.
your profile says your a straight male....is it lies !? :shock:
Quote by Drewxcore
So is it just me who doesn't do one night stands then?!
I've had a couple in my younger years but to be honest they just didn't do it for me... I posted the last effort elsewhere... but it explains my reasons for not doing it EVER again!!
Damn i was about to send you a pm :lol:
no but seriously you could have went out on a few dates with this guy and the same could still have happened when it came down to the nitty gritty, just a thought.
your profile says your a straight male....is it lies !? :shock:
why would i lie about my sexuality? is there a point to this or do you fancy me
:D :D :D Sex God
i read the post wrong, i thought it said you went out on a date with a guy....which would mean you were bi or gay...but your not
pitty x
pitty x
Sex God
Quote by kvs4fun
sorry that really made me laugh
To be fair it makes me laugh in a cringing kind of way now but what a twat he was!
Hya Redangel.. firstly may I salute you on your Meatloaf wording.. a girl after my own heart! I was never confident enough to have a one night stand with strangers when I was single plus I was very much wanting loving relationships at the time and was into "making them wait". I did have three one night liaisons but they were all with men I already knew.
And don't go putting yourself down, a man waking up next to you would be delighted and prob. stay for breakfast!
One-night-stands on a 1-2-1 basis is not something I'm really into doing. Not because I'm shy or worried or anything like that, but because I find sex with somebody I have gotten to know and maybe even slept with before is usally a lot more satisfying.
However I feel differently about being out on the prowl with a playmate and ending up having fun with her and a stranger - that's a totally different experience in my opinion.
However I feel differently about being out on the prowl with a playmate and ending up having fun with her and a stranger - that's a totally different experience in my opinion.
Quote by Kiss
One-night-stands on a 1-2-1 basis is not something I'm really into doing. Not because I'm shy or worried or anything like that, but because I find sex with somebody I have gotten to know and maybe even slept with before is usally a lot more satisfying.
However I feel differently about being out on the prowl with a playmate and ending up having fun with her and a stranger - that's a totally different experience in my opinion.
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Surely everyone whos meet on this site must have had 1 nighters? you can't get on with everyone you meet and i find it hard to beleive that someone on the site has always had sex more than once with everyone they have met
Personally i'd not bothered if i meet someone more than once or not 1 nighters are fine with me
Personally i'd not bothered if i meet someone more than once or not 1 nighters are fine with me
Quote by naughtynymphos1
Surely everyone whos meet on this site must have had 1 nighters? you can't get on with everyone you meet and i find it hard to beleive that someone on the site has always had sex more than once with everyone they have met
Personally i'd not bothered if i meet someone more than once or not 1 nighters are fine with me
ne'er a truer word
has e'er been said
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Quote by Dirtygirlie
"You could come down to London and visit me.... when you're thin"!!!! :shock: :shock: :shock:
the guy was obviously mad..youre lush!
I think that 1 night stands are a bit of a waist of a time, i think the difference with meeting someone of here is there is at least a bit of communication before hand, and a desire to be with that person...
When you have been drinking you often may end up in a situation you regret in the morning, which can make you a bit more careful next time..
for me its about that "heat"/ passion to really get someone you want in bed..but heat is better when not alcohol induced..when that passion is there you try harder with the other person and it aint just about getting your rox off...i know i know, im a guy thats what i should wana do, but believe it or not, i really enjoy the woman enjoying herself..
Anyway, ive had my rant!! really interesting thread though, and when ive discussed with my mates its really a split vote on whether they are good or bad..
Quote by Drewxcore
pfffft, who would wake up next to you and think your ugly? noone. They'd be thrilled x
Thank you hun
Quote by jaymar
Thanks hun!!
And don't go putting yourself down, a man waking up next to you would be delighted and prob. stay for breakfast!
very big thanks :kiss:
Although if he stayed for breakfast, with my cooking he'd never come back!!!! lol
Quote by aj1980
"You could come down to London and visit me.... when you're thin"!!!! :shock: :shock: :shock:
the guy was obviously mad..youre lush!
I think that 1 night stands are a bit of a waist of a time, i think the difference with meeting someone of here is there is at least a bit of communication before hand, and a desire to be with that person...
When you have been drinking you often may end up in a situation you regret in the morning, which can make you a bit more careful next time..
for me its about that "heat"/ passion to really get someone you want in bed..but heat is better when not alcohol induced..when that passion is there you try harder with the other person and it aint just about getting your rox off...i know i know, im a guy thats what i should wana do, but believe it or not, i really enjoy the woman enjoying herself..
Anyway, ive had my rant!! really interesting thread though, and when ive discussed with my mates its really a split vote on whether they are good or bad..
I have to disagree, not all one night stands result from heavy drinking, and not all one night stands result from picking someone up from a bar without uttering a work then home for nsa sex, some people strike up a conversation, chat away all night, dance and generally get along but are not looking for any commitment, and me personally, I would rather speak to someone face to face than via a PC screen as no matter how often you speak to someone online you can never tell what that persons like until you actually meet them face to face, text has no expression and can be read differenty in all cases, and if it is nsa sex your looking for is there really a difference as to wether you meet someone from here or in a bar? For all you know they could be a member. Just a thought.
Sex God
Having thought about this for a couple of days I've worked out in my head what I think I mean... whether I can get it down here and make it sound right is another story altogether!
Simply put (in my head) I think of a one night stand as meeting some bloke in a bar and taking him home, shagging him silly and then chucking him out in the morning never to be seen again.
I don't consider swinging with someone, even if it does only happen once to be a one night stand. I know this may not make sense (again, it does in my head!) but kicking round here I chat to people and have some sort of banter with them, build up a friendship and go from there. When we meet then maybe it does only happen once but for me it's not as clinical as the pub theory mentioned before.
Perhaps the arse I met after chatting on msn was a particularly bad example... actually no perhaps, he was a twat!
I generally don't do meets from ads or casual sex in that it all happens on the same day, i.e. first contact, exchange of phone numbers and then meet. I guess I just like something different. Rightly or wrongly it works for me. :smile:
Simply put (in my head) I think of a one night stand as meeting some bloke in a bar and taking him home, shagging him silly and then chucking him out in the morning never to be seen again.
I don't consider swinging with someone, even if it does only happen once to be a one night stand. I know this may not make sense (again, it does in my head!) but kicking round here I chat to people and have some sort of banter with them, build up a friendship and go from there. When we meet then maybe it does only happen once but for me it's not as clinical as the pub theory mentioned before.
Perhaps the arse I met after chatting on msn was a particularly bad example... actually no perhaps, he was a twat!
I generally don't do meets from ads or casual sex in that it all happens on the same day, i.e. first contact, exchange of phone numbers and then meet. I guess I just like something different. Rightly or wrongly it works for me. :smile:
Quote by redangel
So my question to you all, is how do you feel about 1 nighters, has your attitude changed since you grew older??
As far as I am concerned if they happen they happen, I don't go out looking for a one nighter, but I rarely turn them down either ;)
The only thing that concerns me-and here it differs from my swinging experience-is in the vanilla world sometimes the person wants more than just the one night, (which can work for some people) but with a one-off meet with a swinger there is less likely to be that issue.
Sex God
Quote by earthchild
yes i have done the one nighters many times both in vanilla life and in swinging.
sometimes all you need is a damn good shag :twisted:
EArthy xx
Couldn't agree more! And when you both know it's only one night then it can add to the whole experience - no inhibitions, no small talk and an opportunity to be totally selfish..... mmmmm - some of my favourite memories in fact!
But then I've not put myself in a position where I was drunk or unsafe, so perhaps that's why the rose-tinted specs can stay on!!
Noladreams30 xx
Most of my one nighters were quite enjoyable, over the years. I think I was used as much as being the user. So it was a fair enough average.
The majority were spontaneous one nighters, others were arranged withint a short period of time. Having time to make arrangements is very nearly like swinging, except the potential for strings could occur deliberately or quite naturally. Whereas with swinging you know it won't.
The majority were spontaneous one nighters, others were arranged withint a short period of time. Having time to make arrangements is very nearly like swinging, except the potential for strings could occur deliberately or quite naturally. Whereas with swinging you know it won't.
Quote by noladreams30
yes i have done the one nighters many times both in vanilla life and in swinging.
sometimes all you need is a damn good shag :twisted:
EArthy xx
Couldn't agree more! And when you both know it's only one night then it can add to the whole experience - no inhibitions, no small talk and an opportunity to be totally selfish..... mmmmm - some of my favourite memories in fact!
But then I've not put myself in a position where I was drunk or unsafe, so perhaps that's why the rose-tinted specs can stay on!!
Noladreams30 xx
oooh finally i find you on the site,
say hello to the mad loon for me
Earthy xx
Sex God
Quote by earthchild
oooh finally i find you on the site,
say hello to the mad loon for me
Earthy xx
Will do!!
And hello to you too!
Nola xx
