Now, being an experienced kinda gal, I know that we all like & dislike different things. However, an *intimate* friend of mine doesn't like recieving BJ's. Luckily, I was informed of this by his ex, which saved any potential embarrasment. When I mentioned it to him, he said he "just didn't like the sensation".
I don't think it's a sexual repression type thing, as he himself loves to "dine downstairs." It just struck me that of the (ahem) several blokes i've encountered over the years, he is the first not to jump at the offer of a BJ.
Is there anyone else who doesn't like them? Or is he unique? Come to think of it, is there anyone with any other commonly loved dislikes? (did that make sense?)
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A guy who doesn't like Blow Job's- is he unique?
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Receiving is certainly almost better than giving imo
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Think sassy might be on to something there. I've been on the receiving end of one or two less than inspiring BJ's ;)
Pretty sure that if they were the only experience I'd had, I wouldn't be too keen on going for more.
Maybe whoever tried it on him has been watching to many pornos
I'm sure that if all of us learnt our sexual techniques from porno movies, it would all be immensely LESS pleasurable than it is
Experience tells me that some guys get a sensitive bell-end after various amounts of sexual activity.... some after one bj and a shag, some after the 3rd or 4th shag... but when it happens the sensation of a bj can become uncomfortable or too intense and it is not unusual for them to ask the sucker to stop or at least reduce the suck power and increase the tongue action (some it doesn't happen to at all).
If he is a guy who has a sensitive dome from the off - then may be that is why he doesn't like the feeling of a bj.
If he is a guy who has a sensitive dome from the off - then may be that is why he doesn't like the feeling of a bj.
I love a nice BJ and I can't think of any guys that don't! Mrs DD says the same! but the key word here is 'nice'!!
Some ladies - keen to please no doubt, have sucked away like a cow milking machine on max throttle, I've been in danger of having the lot sucked off! :scared:
Some others have been a little too liberal with the use of teeth, which can also have a slight detrimental effect on the 'wood' effect...
Communication is the key!!! We both enjoy a light snack to say the least but we both agree that a little guidence from your partner on what is their peferences can make all the difference.
Some ladies - keen to please no doubt, have sucked away like a cow milking machine on max throttle, I've been in danger of having the lot sucked off! :scared:
Some others have been a little too liberal with the use of teeth, which can also have a slight detrimental effect on the 'wood' effect...
Communication is the key!!! We both enjoy a light snack to say the least but we both agree that a little guidence from your partner on what is their peferences can make all the difference.
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I would be more than happy to offer my unbiased services to let the ladies of this land practice their BJ skills on my person,if winchwench would like to pass her friends number on to me then I can let her know if she is indeed "doing it right"
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This is reinforcing my thoughts that there are a lot of ladies on here that I would like to meet lol
As to the "going down south" thing, hygiene is critical to enjoyment. I've come up against the dreaded loo paper in the past and was put off the whole thing for a long while ... at least 24 hours lol
As to the "going down south" thing, hygiene is critical to enjoyment. I've come up against the dreaded loo paper in the past and was put off the whole thing for a long while ... at least 24 hours lol
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So Polo your rules do not work for me. It is just sometimes it is waww and sometimes wawwand sometimes arr waw.
1 – it was not a ‘rule’
2 – “various amounts of sexual activity”
Though I imply the sexual activity to be the cause (which includes a pre-meet wank)
ok i will ask the stupid question: I think you are reccomending a pre-meet wank yes ?
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So Polo your rules do not work for me. It is just sometimes it is waww and sometimes wawwand sometimes arr waw.
1 – it was not a ‘rule’
2 – “various amounts of sexual activity”
Though I imply the sexual activity to be the cause (which includes a pre-meet wank)
ok i will ask the stupid question: I think you are reccomending a pre-meet wank yes ?
Nope, and especially not to tender-togger sufferers.
From what I have been told (seeing as I don't have a penis of my own):
Some guys have a pre-meet tug. Some have the pre-meet tug as they always cum fast the first time (so think it makes them look better in bed if they last a bit longer). But if it means your gonna suffer boner-burnout sooner or tender-toggeritis
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I love giving and recieving but don't EXPECT to a partner doesn't want to give me oral that's cool with me.
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What about the other way round? I know of 2 guys who don't like to go "down south" on their ladies - is this common?
much more so, my first husband did that once in the 10 years I knew him (I still have thoughts on his sexuality), it took Jay months to build up my confidence for me to 'let go' and enjoy it, now there's no stopping me.. bring it on!
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So Polo your rules do not work for me. It is just sometimes it is waww and sometimes wawwand sometimes arr waw.
1 – it was not a ‘rule’
2 – “various amounts of sexual activity”
Though I imply the sexual activity to be the cause (which includes a pre-meet wank)
ok i will ask the stupid question: I think you are reccomending a pre-meet wank yes ?
Nope, and especially not to tender-togger sufferers.
From what I have been told (seeing as I don't have a penis of my own):
Some guys have a pre-meet tug. Some have the pre-meet tug as they always cum fast the first time (so think it makes them look better in bed if they last a bit longer). But if it means your gonna suffer boner-burnout sooner or tender-toggeritis
actually Jay used to have one before our very first dates, but not to impress as we hadn't had sex then, it was more to do with the fact he wanted to be able to snog the butt off me without a boner pushing us apart.. of course once we'd consumated our relationship so to speak, the boner was more than welcome!
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Receiving is certainly almost better than giving imo
i disagree with that one.
dont get me wrong i like a woman going down on me, but its not the greatest thrill for me. i would much rather as said earler "dine Downstairs". as i get the enjoyment of seing my partner enjoying themselves and getting off on what i am doing to them.
Thanks for all the comments guys & gals. Several points I'd like to pick up on- but I have no fecking quote button so bear with me!
I haven't tried to give him a BJ, as I already knew his preference. He's quite inexperienced, and I was well aware that he could have found it intimidating. It has crossed my mind that he could be worried he might come very quickly, also that he might just have had dodgy BJ's in the past. I guess I've been wondering if I should try to work my magic, as my BJ skills are legendary, or just accept that he doesn't like it and leave it alone.
The key, I suppose is communication. If I just pounce he'll run a mile, so I need to ask if he would like me to give it a go, and there would be no offence taken if he wanted me to stop.
He happens to be a very keen giver, but I for one have met several guys who don't dine downstairs!
I haven't tried to give him a BJ, as I already knew his preference. He's quite inexperienced, and I was well aware that he could have found it intimidating. It has crossed my mind that he could be worried he might come very quickly, also that he might just have had dodgy BJ's in the past. I guess I've been wondering if I should try to work my magic, as my BJ skills are legendary, or just accept that he doesn't like it and leave it alone.
The key, I suppose is communication. If I just pounce he'll run a mile, so I need to ask if he would like me to give it a go, and there would be no offence taken if he wanted me to stop.
He happens to be a very keen giver, but I for one have met several guys who don't dine downstairs!
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The key, I suppose is communication. If I just pounce he'll run a mile, so I need to ask if he would like me to give it a go, and there would be no offence taken if he wanted me to stop.
I think you're hit the nail on the head there, we can speculate as much as we like about why he doesn't want oral but only by talking it through with him will you find out he real motives.
Sex God
A few people have said they enjoy giving ratherthan recieving.
I'm with them on that - but - I love giving pleasure too, and if 'dining downstairs' (I LOVE that phrase) means my partner can enjoy my response to recieving then I will happily receive. So long as I get to give too.
*** reads it through a couple of times***
I'm pretty sure I know what I meant to say there - hope it makes sense
What I mean is there is pleasure in giving pleasure and pleasure in being given pleasure - omg, that's no clearer. Well, I now what I mean anyway :doh:
I'm with them on that - but - I love giving pleasure too, and if 'dining downstairs' (I LOVE that phrase) means my partner can enjoy my response to recieving then I will happily receive. So long as I get to give too.
*** reads it through a couple of times***
I'm pretty sure I know what I meant to say there - hope it makes sense
What I mean is there is pleasure in giving pleasure and pleasure in being given pleasure - omg, that's no clearer. Well, I now what I mean anyway :doh:
