Between a “Swinging coupleâ€, a couple who have an open relationship, and a couple who play away from home? Because I have to be honest, at the moment I am a tad confused, (not hard to do, just stick me in a round room and tell me to pee in the corner and I’ll be occupied for days)
(Hi all by the way) ..
OK, here is what I used to think,
A swinging couple do their thing together as a couple, tell each other EVERYTHING, and generally go for the soft, hard, same room, separate room type options, but together (hence swinging couple)
A couple in an open relationship are just that, OPEN, ie again, they tell each other everything, but play separately, for reasons of their own, and enhance their relationship by talking to each other about their escapades, fantasies etc.
A couple who play away from home, imho, are those who carry out their activities furtively, don’t talk to each other about their secret desires, and certainly don’t tell their partners anything about what they have been up to.
Well, that’s what I used to think, and I know this is a huge generalisation, but I think you get the gist of the question, its just that certain events have led me to try and rethink my views, and wondered if anyone could give me some input on the subject.
Thanks all
Pete
In my book, a Swinger is just someone who enjoys recreational sex outside the so-called "normal" monogamous relationship. No other definition needed, that I can see. No need to force people into boxes or sub-categories, or we'd be here forever. Everybody's different, thank God.
Well personally i think:
A. A swinging couple is a couple in a long tearm relationship/married who meet other/go to clubs etc, be it alone or together or manybe a bit of both, but only meet to put a little extra in their sex lifes, and always with the concent of each other.
B. I always see a open relationship in two ways, fiirstly more as friends who shag but do not consider themselves to be in a serious relationship with each other and secondly maybe a married couple who has run their course but have decided to stay together for whatever reason, maybe kids, money etc but who lead thieir own lives and meet who they choose.
C. Playing away is just that, its not swinging in any way is just people who can't make a commitment and want their cake and eat it.
now these are only my views on the subject and i guess theres no real right or wrong when it comes to an opinion
OH, OK, sorry I should have known better. Really this is my mistake,
Hi, I'm Pete, partner to Caron_sw, formerly known as Katie_n_John, have been around here for quite some time ................................ :doh: now understand the reluctance .
ok ok an excuse ........... erm, its early and i have a hangover ............... sorry guys, wasn't thinking
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