It's a good question.
Personally, I think you've answered your own question by saying you're not ready for it at the moment, which leads to the conclusion that an open relationship means complete freedom with no conditions.
However, I've got no experience of it so am not sure I subscribe to the "no conditions" bit. I think it could work where there are conditions but it'd be essential to set out the rules before embarking on the venture.
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except have a sex change :shock:
I think the mistake is a common one of perspective . Theres ,lots of bollocks talked by 'swinging' couples about being strong and solid and having common aims in the scene, but in my experience often each partner has their own seperate and highly individual and expectations and desires from the life style . Thats kewl of course if they share their ideas thoroughly and agree , but thats unfortunately rare . For men it is all too common to try and calculate whats in it for them , and sadly often female partners are traded like pokemon cards " you can lick mine if i can finger yours" . Its my belief that true successful couples long term in swinging are very rare and unusal individuals , and that quanitifying what makes them successful ( if thats the right term) is impossible and certainly not possible by fractions or percentages .
Peace
OK
thank you for those succinct replies, so lets take this (purely hypothetical) scenario one step further.
Now I’m not asking if there any hard and fast rules, as I know there are not, but from a personal point of view, imagine that one partner feels that he / she is ready to progress from a swinging partnership, to an open relationship, but the other is not. How would you deal with this situation?
Personally I would find this a very difficult dilemma, on the one hand I think I would feel quite hurt, maybe deserted even, yet on the other I feel strongly enough for my partner to want her to experience anything she desires. The question is, would I be brave enough to let her go? Or would I dig my heel in, say no, and risk her resentment, even if she did not allow herself to show it?
Sorry if this is all a little philosophical for a Sunday afternoon, but hey, I’m interested in peoples take on this.
It really rather depends what your looking for, me and my hubby swing as singles as well as together and to be honest we have never had any problems with it, we have never done the 'but you had 5 meets last month and i only got 1' thing, its about talking with each other and finding out whats ok, of course i think he would get cheesed off if i met someone every day but to be honest i wouldn't want to meet someone every day as i still have a home life too and that comes first, meeting others fit round my work and family, if people have problems with what they are doing i feel thats down to a lack of communication.
After all is said and done its a question that frankly is unlikely to have any definitive answer , since it deals with very vague and almost abstract terms and concepts that in themselves mean a multitude of things to different people . Id go so far as to say that you have less chance of finding an honest or unbiased answer here than in a less specific forum . Truth is probably very personal , perhaps too personal for anyone to share in a revealing way .they may even be fooling themselves .
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)..... but at the end of the day, she will have loads of choice while the male won't. 
