The year 2003 was to be a great year for me with my working life coming to an end in December. However the greatness was not to be. What with a big “C†scare and other minor problems the year seemed to be going down hill fast.
By August things in the work place where getting out of hand, so I thought, and stress was beginning to take a hand in the sickness league and also being noticed by my seniors. Comments where being made about my state of mind and my abruptness to other work colleagues. These things you yourself do not notice and you plod on with your daily routine. Things came to a head when my Line Manager (a nice bloke) called me into the office for a private chat. The outcome was for me to have a few days off and chill out for a while. The chat was recorded as per company policy but what followed was “Off record†and not noted on any document.
His words were “Have a look at this web site when you get some time, it may help to calm you down a bitâ€. The web site was “SwingingHeavenâ€. He could not have given me any better advice and from then on things seemed to change both in work and in my head.
Yes, I know SwingingHeaven is a “Sex site†but at my age sex was the least of my worries. I hung around the site as a guest on numerous occasions watching the banter and friendliness that went with it in the Chat Room. “This is the place for me†I thought, so after one or two pvt’s and people accepting me as a guest I took the plunge and joined a very merry, jovial and friendly community in October 2003 and have no regrets in doing so.
I was still a bit down health wise and having a Hernia Op did not help things along. To help get over this I put body and soul into making friends in the Chat Room and becoming a part of the furniture. I soon made plenty of Chat Friends but three (a cpl and a single Lady) will always stay put in my heart. They, more than others, gave me the determination and strength to carry on into the next year. The next year was the first Northwest Munch, a vanilla experience I shall never forget. What a party ! And what people!. However it was marred by the news, a week before, that I had a shadow on the left lung. Yes, now I was looking for the sympathy touch but did not want anyone to know on the night of the Munch. This is where my single friend came into play. Without her knowing the story she helped me through a bad patch and I will always love her for that. Five days after the Munch I had the news from the hospital that I was clear of any problems with my chest. Shortly after, I was invited to Durham by the “Cpl†for a weekend stay. That was the icing on the cake and it proved to me just how sincere people are. I love them both as friends for the trust they gave me.
Two Munches and a party have passed and my single friend, Candyfloss, and I have done many miles between us and have gone down many roads and are closer now than ever before. We have been in tears over part of our lives and have been in stitches over things like Bacon Butties and have chatted for many hours on SwingingHeaven and on MSN and put both our lives and the world to right. We don’t chat as much as we used to, but I suppose that is what Friendship is all about. She has left a very large footprint on my heart and I just hope it never fills up with dust from lack of use.
Candy my love, I thank you hun for your friendship and above all your trust and sincerity. XXXX. When will I see you again?.
I have made this post for two reasons, = firstly, I may not be on the Site for much longer and secondly to prove to the doubters that there can be love and frienship without Sex.
Fred
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Keep you pecker up Fred. You've left me stunned, all I can do is wish you the very best for the future.
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Fred mate , this post is special , and deserves to be stickied for all future members to see. They sound like great people , and you sound like great people too . Hope you dont leave as there can never be enough server space for decent folk here , if you do decide youve had enough may the road rise up to meet you and the wind be at your back . As someone thats had scant experience of you I can sense you deserve the good things .
Peace
G and Silky xxxxxxxx
Peace
G and Silky xxxxxxxx
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Nice post Fred.
Good luck. :cheers:
Good luck. :cheers:
Sex God
fred :cheers:
lovely post fred, and agree with the sentiments 100%. you were one of the first handful of people to make me feel welcome in the chatroom, so ta for that!
hope you ain't leaving us just yet. it's not so easy to leave you know! ;)
my best
neil x x x ;)
lovely post fred, and agree with the sentiments 100%. you were one of the first handful of people to make me feel welcome in the chatroom, so ta for that!
hope you ain't leaving us just yet. it's not so easy to leave you know! ;)
my best
neil x x x ;)
Thats one of the best posts ive read on here and it shows what a great person you often mentioned you when we first started on here as you were one of the people she enjoyed talking to the most.
I hope you stay around the place for a while,it needs good honest people like you do leave us soon i hope you have a wonderful life.
I hope you stay around the place for a while,it needs good honest people like you do leave us soon i hope you have a wonderful life.
Sex God
A lovely post , i wish i could put real feeling into words like that . Good luck in what ever you do , stick around for a little while longer though eh ! 
.xx
.xx All I can say fred my ear is how you have always been such a perfect gentleman and like many othrs I am sure you were for me at some of the difficult times I have ahd over the past year or so.
Whatever you decide to you will alway be in my heart as one of the people who made it alot asier when I first joined.
All the best hun whatever happens
Olive
Whatever you decide to you will alway be in my heart as one of the people who made it alot asier when I first joined.
All the best hun whatever happens
Olive
Bugger! Looks like I'll be going back to using NHS Direct for medical advice now :cry:
Never met you Fred, but crossed posts with you many times. If you go you'll be missed, but you'll never get out the door completely so we're bound to hear from you again once in a while.
Good luck with whatever route you take in life.
Cueball.
Never met you Fred, but crossed posts with you many times. If you go you'll be missed, but you'll never get out the door completely so we're bound to hear from you again once in a while.
Good luck with whatever route you take in life.
Cueball.
Fred, you don't know me from Adam (Who's Adam 
)
But I just wanted to say, reading your post gave me a lump in my throat but also a feeling of pride you could say.
For you to feel able to write what is a very personal account of your happenings and put it on here and receive such warm responses from others shows both what a genuine and warm person you must be and how the communitity on here can show real feeling and emoition.
All the best in whatever you do
)But I just wanted to say, reading your post gave me a lump in my throat but also a feeling of pride you could say.
For you to feel able to write what is a very personal account of your happenings and put it on here and receive such warm responses from others shows both what a genuine and warm person you must be and how the communitity on here can show real feeling and emoition.
All the best in whatever you do
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Fred, you don't know me from Adam (Who's Adam
But I just wanted to say, reading your post gave me a lump in my throat but also a feeling of pride you could say.
For you to feel able to write what is a very personal account of your happenings and put it on here and receive such warm responses from others shows both what a genuine and warm person you must be and how the communitity on here can show real feeling and emoition.
All the best in whatever you do
What he said ...... Good Luck to you Fred with whatever you do
Sex God
Wonderful post Fred, and it was great chatting with you at the Leicester munch, when we finally got to chat properly. All the best for the future....
Mike.
Mike.
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Fred,
What a thought provoking and sincere post. I can certainly relate to a lot of what you say. Being a member of SH can change people's lives - and for the better.
I hope you do decide to stay - it's great having you around the place.
Take care, whatever you decide to do.
Sorry but I couldn't put it in better words.
:therethere: :therethere: :therethere: :therethere:
Dawn xxxxx
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Fred, you have a pm
Tracy-Jayne
Fred, you have a pm
Tracy-Jayne
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Hi Fred, Met you briefly at Marcuso's, and figured you were a nice guy, nothings changed mate. You do what you feel is best, but you certainly have a lot of friends on this site, and well that says bucket loads.
All the best and enjoy.
Wilki
All the best and enjoy.
Wilki
Hi all
I am astounded by all your very heartwarming and well meaning posts and the numerous e-mails I have received over the past week.
What a great bunch of people: I could not wish for better.
My intention was to leave the site in a kind of “Stealth†manner and fade away gently and become one of the many past members.
After reading all your posts and e-mails for about the millionth time you have persuaded me to stay for a while longer. It will be a privilege to do so, but in a quieter mode.
I am now finding it hard to find the words (this has to be a first) to say “Thank You†to all.
From a very humbled Fred:-
Hello again people
I am astounded by all your very heartwarming and well meaning posts and the numerous e-mails I have received over the past week.
What a great bunch of people: I could not wish for better.
My intention was to leave the site in a kind of “Stealth†manner and fade away gently and become one of the many past members.
After reading all your posts and e-mails for about the millionth time you have persuaded me to stay for a while longer. It will be a privilege to do so, but in a quieter mode.
I am now finding it hard to find the words (this has to be a first) to say “Thank You†to all.
From a very humbled Fred:-
Hello again people
Sex God
I cant believe I missed this post from you Medic
Your post reflects your personality babes your a great person to know. And ive been priviledged to have met you on several occasions.
Im so glad your gonna be around for a while longer. The place wouldnt be the same without you
Love n hugs
Vicky
Your post reflects your personality babes your a great person to know. And ive been priviledged to have met you on several occasions.
Im so glad your gonna be around for a while longer. The place wouldnt be the same without you
Love n hugs
Vicky
Sex God
good grief, where have I been to miss this one? :shock:
Fred,
I'm glad you have decided to stay a while longer. I fall in and out of love with this site on a regular basis now, but it's always nice to come back to friendly faces and a few nice PM's every now and then ey!
Best wishes and hugs.
Gem. x
Fred,
I'm glad you have decided to stay a while longer. I fall in and out of love with this site on a regular basis now, but it's always nice to come back to friendly faces and a few nice PM's every now and then ey!
Best wishes and hugs.
Gem. x
