im sorry to hear this and not suprised at what the police said to you,
Good advice from you Onlyme and from MikeNorth too. If you have any residual feelings you must deal with them.
On a lighter note and following up partyman's lead - I was mugged by a baboon once as well. It was on the Cape in South Africa. We'd just got out of the car and Mrs TE felt what she thought was a dog brush past her leg. Next instant, I looked in the car and this baboon was sitting on the back seat, had opened up our picnic bad and was rifling through it. Cheeky beggar looked at me ham roll and chucked it over his shoulder - obviously didn't like mustard. I banged on the roof of the car and he scarpered with the rest of the bag.
The ranger told me afterwards I was lucky - 'cos if I'd really frightened him he would've shat all over the back seat and that would've made for a very unpleasant ride home apparently.
Onlyone (((((((((hugs)))))))))
Not a nice experience hun and thank heavens one I have never had to go through.
I can understand why you are angry now, you will probably go through a whole range of emotions while you deal with it.
As MikeC mentioned, contact your Victims Support if the police havent put you in touch with them, they will help you get through it.
kaz xx
when i got mugged last year i got a letter from victim support. i called them and some lady came round to see me. she gave me some basic advice and some sympathy, but she also gave me a personal alarm.
just having it in my poession makes me feel a bit safer.
*Hugs* hun......I hope you can move on from this experience and still walk around town with confidence.....
Try calling Victim Support, I'm sure they will be able to help you.
Horrible experience. It's good to see that you're finding the strength to move on from this.
One of the guys that works for me was mugged and beaten a month or so back - he was set on by a gang of four men who punched him to the ground and then gave him a good kicking before taking his phone and running off. He's recovering, thank God. Unusually, the attackers were caught as it was all picked up on CCTV and the Police were able to track the men very quickly. This particular attack seems to have been at least partly racially motivated as they called him a "fucking " whilst delivering the attack....which is kind of ironic as he's Welsh and just happened to have a heavy tan and goatee beard at the time. Bloody morons.
I know you don't want them but my sympathies to you anyway.
A few years ago I was with my ex walking around Havana late at night (yes, I know: how stupid can you be!!!) when someone snatched my ex's handbag off her shoulder. I wasn't aware of anything until she spun around and started running after this guy!!! He lost her very quickly but it wasn't until afterwards that we/she realised that it may have been a very stupid thing to do. What might have happened if we'd caught him doesn't bear thinking about 'cos I bet he wouldn't have given in easily, especially with the prospect of Cuban punishment. And all for a bottle of perfume, a lippy and a hairbrush! She said she just automatically thought "I'm not letting the B***ard get away with that" and went after him.
I am surprised that the police have nothing to go on (ie CCTV) - as someone else said, there seems to be a camera on every street nowadays. Sadly though, I am not surprised at the police response, there's no profit in it for them is there? :dry:
:idea: Bloody hell - Now there's an idea! Pay the police force by criminal arrests/convictions. I bet we'd get crimcams on every street flashing at every crime within a year!!! ........Oh, b***er, to do that we'd all need reg numbers on our head for them to catch the criminals - well it was a good thought while it lasted :doh:
Onlyme, sorry, but you have got my sympathy too - whether you like it or not!
Contacting Victim's Support is certainly a good idea - my girlfriend used to work for them and she says it helped a lot of people. But here is a thought or two to take away and it might help you recover from your ordeal:
Try to think not in terms of being a 'vicitm' of a mugging so much as a 'survivor' of a crime. It may sound like New Age psycho-babble but it can help. Victims are people who suffer through life whereas survivors are people who pick themselves up, dust themselves off and get on with living. Also bear in mind that it wan't a personal attack aimed at you specifically. I know it will feel extremely personal right now but your mugger simply chose a random stranger to attack and was not specifically victimising you.
Sadly - but in some ways 'gladly' - it is not a sign of the times that you were mugged. Life has not got significantly more dangerous for the average person now than it was a few years ago. Please do not go away thinking that you are suddenly in more danger now than you were before. Yes, there are complete a***holes out there who think nothing of taking what they want from who they want but that has always been the case and will always be the case. No doubt you will be hyper vigilant from now on and hopefully you will never encounter anything like this again (if this was the first time in your life that you have encountered crime it is not unlikely that you will go through as many years again without it happening to you). In one way you could view this experience as a £150 lesson in the realities of crime and I have known a lot of people who have paid an awful lot more money than that to learn such courses.
Many people's instincts will drive them to try and confront a mugger but it isn't worth it. Think how much more your life and health is worth than the contents of your handbag or wallet. Be alert, try and avoid trouble but if it comes buy them off. And one last point, if you do have to carry large sums of money around why not put it in your sock or divided up among your pockets so that you don't lose everything in one go.
All the best,
H
), he then brandished a sharp knife and I needed no more persuasion....I gave him my bag with my money, make-up, chequebook etc etc.
) and I wouldn't have been scared shitless. Yeah, I've lost a few quid which is going to be hard to replace but I'm glad and lucky I wasn't hurt.
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but I wouldn't want to lower myself to the gutter with them.
