Yes, obviously any mentor system would need "small print" to make it quite clear that any abuse would not be tolerated. It's still fraught with possible dangers though, and maybe more trouble that it's worth. Newbies asking reasonable questions in the cafe get a sympathetic response from the regulars anyway - I have exchanged PMs with people before to answer their newbie questions, and I'm sure many others have too. Maybe that's good enough.
Mike.
I`m happy to adopt. It`ll give me yet another inbox to spam! :mrgreen:
Venusxxx
Count me in
I was chaperoned on my first fetish night by a lovely lady who knew most there - certainly made me feel a whole lot more at ease.
As a relative newbie couple,albeit regular poster on the forum, can I ask what is wrong with the way things are at present?
From a purley personal point of view, we made the effort to get to know folks via posts, PM's and MSN which has allowed us to build up the friends we have on here.
Everyone that we have spoken to or approached for advice etc have been very forthcoming and helpful as we have hopefully been if asked a question by those newer than us and I'm sure we'll all agree that is the beauty of this community.
Glasgow will be our first munch and we are sooo looking forward to meeting in person those we have gotten to know of late. Personally I think that the mentoring of newbies could throw up a lot more problems than it would solve and the answer to calming nerves of those joining would be to continue to be as helpful and welcoming as we normally are.
For new comers all I would advise is to make the effort to fit in and get to know people...........it will be rewarded.
the Laird
Kinda happens on the forums anyway, doesn't it? I know I've had a fair few 'latch on' to me, after I helped them out once.
But for Munches? I dunno. I kinda enjoyed the Baptism Of Fire aspect.
Sounds a bit like 'prima nocta'
As a 'mature' newbie, I must say that I like the thought of being mentored.
I agree that it is up to us to make the effort to get to know peeps and become known, and should expect to be ignored if we don't. But it is sometimes nice to know that there is someone there just to say Hi and answer stupid questions etc. Personally speaking I have had a couple of really nice PM's but I am a littled worried about being seen to harass someone who has taken the time to say welcome.
Oh well thats my view anyway.
Available for adoption !!
Lydia xx
I've no idea what form the mentoring system would take, but knowing the workload of the Mods I have no doubt they would be looking for established regulars to volunteer.
For a newbie, having a mentor to ask questions of would be brilliant, and ease them in nicely.
Some regulars would be excellent at it, some would be crap. For me, it is not something I would feel confident or capable of doing, and I would worry about it. - To the extent that I would not want to be involved.
Which would not be a problem in itself.
Except, how many times am I going to have to say 'no' to newbies who are nervous enough as it is, have spent ages composing the PM to ask me to be their mentor, only to have me throw it back in their face.
I would not enjoy being involved in a mentoring system for the site, and would feel a right miserable shit for feeling that way.
Kat
I think a thread for newbies to ask for a mentor would be nice, no `in your face` knockbacks then.
Venusxxx
Yep, I'll go with that!!!
So if any of you want me just say. I'm happy to adopt current members too :twisted:
iam a newbie can i be a guinea pig please
So is it a thread for volunteers or a thread for newbies to ask for mentors???
Adopt a newbie!
. But i also met another person at the munch who made me feel very comfortable and I found it very reasurring to know that both these people were on hand to give me any advice I needed.
