i know im not on me own here but does anyone ever see an ad that really takes there fancy but not reply cos the pics look too good???
self criticism is rife i reckon,i rely now on folks to reply to my own ad but feel i could be missing out loads due to a little lack of confidence.
but this could work in reverse i guess when ppl see my ad(no big headedness intended)
how does it work whether it be my under confidence or has anyone ever seen my ad and been put off??
the answers will benefit everyone i reckon.
rob
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hi robbie, i understand what you meen. ive seen some lovely couples and thought humm no way,
been contacted by guys that are to purfect and thought i dont think id feel comfortable in their beauty lol
im not being picky i liked the way you had written your ad but i dont like the pic that shows your bum, this is only due to the fact that in the background is a lady on cam maybe? doesnt look very descreet. but maybe its not a lady on cam, but id think it was and may think you wernt to descreet?
sorry its late, or is that early and im probally not making much sense.
i say if you fit the bill of what the ad is asking write a personal message and get in touch.
xxxxxxxxxxxx lou xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
been contacted by guys that are to purfect and thought i dont think id feel comfortable in their beauty lol
im not being picky i liked the way you had written your ad but i dont like the pic that shows your bum, this is only due to the fact that in the background is a lady on cam maybe? doesnt look very descreet. but maybe its not a lady on cam, but id think it was and may think you wernt to descreet?
sorry its late, or is that early and im probally not making much sense.
i say if you fit the bill of what the ad is asking write a personal message and get in touch.
xxxxxxxxxxxx lou xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Casanova
Hiya robbie, Lots of people are guilty of not replying to ads due to having lack of confidence. I have very much been there myself and have read heaps in the forums from people that imho look fantastic feeling/doing the same. Like has already been said if you apear to fit the ad then apply. None of us like rejection but is it better to sit wondering about what may be,or take the plunge and see 
Nicky
Nicky
Casanova
:doh: I forgot to say....your ad looks cool to me and imho think that not only was it informative but had a personal feel about it too :thumbup:
Nice bum pic,but can see the image on monitor too :lol2:
But on a personal note being a happy cuddly big bubbly woman, i wish more ads would openly say if they would be intrested/open to a reply from a female of more generous proportions(i apreciate i aint for every one...dam! lol)....after all if they arnt its a waste of both our time isnt it :undecided:
Nicky
Nice bum pic,but can see the image on monitor too :lol2:
But on a personal note being a happy cuddly big bubbly woman, i wish more ads would openly say if they would be intrested/open to a reply from a female of more generous proportions(i apreciate i aint for every one...dam! lol)....after all if they arnt its a waste of both our time isnt it :undecided:
Nicky
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But on a personal note being a happy cuddly big bubbly woman, i wish more ads would openly say if they would be intrested/open to a reply from a female of more generous proportions(i apreciate i aint for every one...dam! lol)....after all if they arnt its a waste of both our time isnt it :undecided:
:thumbup:
cos there's nothing worse than 'size / looks unimportant' which to me, equates to 'well u dont look at the mantlepiece when you're stoking the fire'
specifics are good
Sex God
Quote by Darkfire
But on a personal note being a happy cuddly big bubbly woman, i wish more ads would openly say if they would be intrested/open to a reply from a female of more generous proportions(i apreciate i aint for every one...dam! lol)....after all if they arnt its a waste of both our time isnt it :undecided:
:thumbup:
cos there's nothing worse than 'size / looks unimportant' which to me, equates to 'well u dont look at the mantlepiece when you're stoking the fire'
specifics are good
Or you get the feeling that they'd shag anything.
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when an ad states that the couple are "extremely good looking" it puts me off,they may be right but it smells of arrogance to me.
So if people are or class them selves as attractive do they have to put average looks simply to please those they are not looking to meet?
We've posted an ad because i'm modest I've classed myself as average looks but I've put PK as very good looking because she is, my point is at the end of the ad we have put looking for similar simply because we are, it's our way of sorting the wheat from the chaff so to speak.
It's not arrogance but more so what we are looking for.
It's a toughy, if someone puts that they are good looking or very attractive I don't answer because a) I think they're out of my league b) don't like arrogance. If someone puts 'looks, size, age unimportant' I don't answer because I'd like to think they'd have to be attracted to me before I'd consider playing with them.
Catch 22 really, Robbie. I tend to go for ads that are well written and witty rather than arrogant and read like a shopping list.
Nice to have you back though, where've you been?
H.x
Catch 22 really, Robbie. I tend to go for ads that are well written and witty rather than arrogant and read like a shopping list.
Nice to have you back though, where've you been?
H.x
Sex God
I think the whole thing is rather difficult when it comes to add's - I could easily put "Looks, size, age unimportant" and mean it in an add - but that doesnt mean I'll shag anyone it just means that personality, sexual compatability and being comfortable and relaxed with someone is much more important.
I dont have a body type I prefer so there is little point in trying to pretend to have one. But as I dont generally either write an add or browse them it doesn't really matter.
I find meeting people socially makes it much easier for me to find what I am looking for, although I will admit there are a few people who I look at and think "They're out of my league" I will happily chat to them but would certainly not make the first move.
Roger
(Average and quite happy with that. 
)
I dont have a body type I prefer so there is little point in trying to pretend to have one. But as I dont generally either write an add or browse them it doesn't really matter.
I find meeting people socially makes it much easier for me to find what I am looking for, although I will admit there are a few people who I look at and think "They're out of my league" I will happily chat to them but would certainly not make the first move.
Roger
(Average and quite happy with that. ) Quote by rogerthedragon
I think the whole thing is rather difficult when it comes to add's - I could easily put "Looks, size, age unimportant" and mean it in an add - but that doesnt mean I'll shag anyone it just means that personality, sexual compatability and being comfortable and relaxed with someone is much more important.
I dont have a body type I prefer so there is little point in trying to pretend to have one. But as I dont generally either write an add or browse them it doesn't really matter.
I find meeting people socially makes it much easier for me to find what I am looking for, although I will admit there are a few people who I look at and think "They're out of my league" I will happily chat to them but would certainly not make the first move.
Roger
wow, a rarity, a rogerism that i agree with
Sex God
Quote by essex34m
I think the whole thing is rather difficult when it comes to add's - I could easily put "Looks, size, age unimportant" and mean it in an add - but that doesnt mean I'll shag anyone it just means that personality, sexual compatability and being comfortable and relaxed with someone is much more important.
I dont have a body type I prefer so there is little point in trying to pretend to have one. But as I dont generally either write an add or browse them it doesn't really matter.
I find meeting people socially makes it much easier for me to find what I am looking for, although I will admit there are a few people who I look at and think "They're out of my league" I will happily chat to them but would certainly not make the first move.
Roger
wow, a rarity, a rogerism that i agree with
Thanks Wideboy - I think. :lol:
Sex God
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i have to admit i very much so lack self confidance and i do tend to decide for people if they will like me or not, even if they reply to me after seeing me on cam etc i still turn them down if i think they 'to good looking' some men get quite annoyed at my dessision making for them
And your bloody gorgeous,
but I feel the same when it comes to self confidence. I often seen someone in the forms, at munches etc and think wow, but would never make the first move just incase I got knocked back, and would then feel really shite about it all I do perv, I mean look at the photo ads but again, wouldnt reply incase they either ignored me or sent a 'thanks but no thanks' pm back (confidence would really go out the window). Even if I have played with someone, I would never contact them and ask if they wanted to meet again, just incase they said no 
I might send a nice thank you pm and continue chatting, but just couldnt make that first move!Also, got to agree about the looks/size unimportant, if they worded it more like the way roger did, then I would definately be interested in contacting, but not those who come across as 'Id shag anything if it dont run away' types :wink:
I personally find it very difficult to classify what I might find attractive
and on the flipside... I wouldnt know where to put myself on a sliding scale of whatever may be attractive to others... (not too bad i guess...but hey!)
ll tht business of *looks/size unimportant*.. it does sound bit "I'll have anything"... but then again... a couple of emails, and maybe social meeting relly gives better impression of how you might get along... so.. yeah..."looks/size..."etc etc...hehe
also... how to describe *what* you might want.... as well as *who*...
Blimey! Im all over the shop here arent I?
mybe I should have started writing when awke and alert, rather thn only shortly in after work!
Might not be the right time to pen my own ad right now eh?
LP
where was I....?
and on the flipside... I wouldnt know where to put myself on a sliding scale of whatever may be attractive to others... (not too bad i guess...but hey!)
ll tht business of *looks/size unimportant*.. it does sound bit "I'll have anything"... but then again... a couple of emails, and maybe social meeting relly gives better impression of how you might get along... so.. yeah..."looks/size..."etc etc...hehe
also... how to describe *what* you might want.... as well as *who*...
Blimey! Im all over the shop here arent I?
mybe I should have started writing when awke and alert, rather thn only shortly in after work!
Might not be the right time to pen my own ad right now eh?
LP
where was I....?
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I often seen someone in the forms, at munches etc and think wow, but would never make the first move just incase I got knocked back, and would then feel really shite about it all
I've heard a few people say that NWC..... but what happens if we all think like that, and the one's you think 'wow' about, or think get all the pm's and attention actually dont get any at all because we're too 'scared' to ?
>> prepares to get knocked- back again
typically ive flicked through the ads tonight and replied to 2 that on balance imo seem similar to me,this may be contrued by the reciever as me being very complimentary or me being downright rude!!!! i guess my main requirement would be that the people i meet are clean,good fun and fairly local.
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But on a personal note being a happy cuddly big bubbly woman, i wish more ads would openly say if they would be intrested/open to a reply from a female of more generous proportions(i apreciate i aint for every one...dam! lol)....after all if they arnt its a waste of both our time isnt it :undecided:
:thumbup:
cos there's nothing worse than 'size / looks unimportant' which to me, equates to 'well u dont look at the mantlepiece when you're stoking the fire'
specifics are good
And your point is????
:D :lol: :D :lol: :D :DOnly kidding hun xxx
Mike xx
