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Holy smokes it feels like only yesterday I was broken hearted, horny, in a hotel room on my own, and googling <single girls and sex clubs..>
"oooh what's this? SH forum..umm I guess I could join for JUST a month to ask my question on the forum and then cancel the membership..":confused2:
Look at me now!!
:grin:
"Hi all,
I am a single girl and really interested in attending a club/event etc.. Just not sure how/where to begin as a single girl. Obviously feeling slightly nervous approaching this on my own. Advice?
Thank you!!"
Have a look in the club section, and see when there is a SH meet in a club, ask for an invite, and a 'hand holder' for the first part of the evening, and enjoy yourself.
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewforum/21.html
Quote by Sarah
Have a look in the club section, and see when there is a SH meet in a club, ask for an invite, and a 'hand holder' for the first part of the evening, and enjoy yourself.
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewforum/21.html

I'm sure your advice was well intended Sarah but, as all regular contributors to the forum know, any young single lady who is new to the site should be sent to stay for a weekend with skinny here in Brighton......after that things can only get better for her!
AH but skinny, she didn't ask for a private meet, she wishes to go / advise on a club! lol :lol:
(anyway you would have to tidy up before anyone came to visit!! :lol: )
Quote by Sarah
Have a look in the club section, and see when there is a SH meet in a club, ask for an invite, and a 'hand holder' for the first part of the evening, and enjoy yourself.
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewforum/21.html

Thank you Sarah for this advice! I shall explore the events section and see what is on.
Skinny, one step at a time ;)
Also have a look at the Club Meets forum and Commercial Events forum for club related activities/events
Ab-Fabs is near to you. Not been myself (yet) but apparently it's all a nice crowd and very much go as far as you like, or not at all.
I'll be getting the momentum to give it a go sometime soon.
Sam
Quote by M1ssVery
Hi all,
I am a single girl and really interested in attending a club/event etc.. Just not sure how/where to begin as a single girl. Obviously feeling slightly nervous approaching this on my own. Advice?
Thank you!!
why not find a guy who is also interested but nervious and go together. make it clear you are both single but mates. see how you get on. at least you have a wing man. but choose wisely. not offering myself so no worries.
Quote by NEEDFORFUN
why not find a guy who is also interested but nervious and go together. make it clear you are both single but mates. see how you get on. at least you have a wing man. but choose wisely. not offering myself so no worries.

I like your idea thanks for that. Actually that sounds like the perfect scenario for me..
Quote by M1ssVery
why not find a guy who is also interested but nervious and go together. make it clear you are both single but mates. see how you get on. at least you have a wing man. but choose wisely. not offering myself so no worries.

I like your idea thanks for that. Actually that sounds like the perfect scenario for me..
I can get nervous rolleyes
Quote by skinny
why not find a guy who is also interested but nervious and go together. make it clear you are both single but mates. see how you get on. at least you have a wing man. but choose wisely. not offering myself so no worries.

I like your idea thanks for that. Actually that sounds like the perfect scenario for me..
I can get nervous rolleyes
yeaaaah I might be a newbie, but somehow I can still tell you are the most collected set of nerves on here! ;)
Quote by skinny
why not find a guy who is also interested but nervious and go together. make it clear you are both single but mates. see how you get on. at least you have a wing man. but choose wisely. not offering myself so no worries.

I like your idea thanks for that. Actually that sounds like the perfect scenario for me..
I can get nervous rolleyes
Skinny good try lol :lol:
Homework mark 8/10 for effort! :giggle:
I've been to a club as a single girl - the owners and staff made me feel very welcome and actually, it was a chilled night of fun.
I would echo Sarah's idea that going when an event is on might be a good option though.
:welcome: by the way!
x
Quote by noladreams
I've been to a club as a single girl - the owners and staff made me feel very welcome and actually, it was a chilled night of fun.
I would echo Sarah's idea that going when an event is on might be a good option though.
:welcome: by the way!
x

Thanks for the feedback Nola, appreciated smile
Hi Miss Very,
:welcome:
I have been to a few clubs on my own as a single woman. It can be daunting but it can also be a lot of fun.
My best advice would be to check out the club reviews on this site - they are a helpful starting point. If you like the sound of any of them then get in touch with the club, they are used to people being new and nervous and any club I know of would be delighted to have a single woman present, and will treat you with respect and kindness.
If you are going on your own, then my advice would be to go on a night, for your first visit, where it is a couple and single ladies night - as there won't be single men there on their own, so you will be in company of other single women and couples either there on their own or looking for women and or couples.
It can be a bit pressurised to go on a night where there are single men present when you are on your own, that said I have been to events like this and had a great night, but I had been to clubs with friends quite a few times before.
Finding a guy, girl or a couple to go along with is a good idea, but further advice is to meet for a drink with that person(s) somewhere public on the night first, in case they can't make it, or you don't feel comfortable or are just too nervous, this will save you the trouble of finding them in the club or vice versa (most clubs do not allow mobile phones inside the club).
More random advice is to bring flat shoes for the end of the night, condoms, a good map of the location and to take the number of the club with you on the way there!
If you don't know the area ask the club to book a taxi for you, they will know reputable local firms for a single girl.
Above all else - ENJOY, it is a lot of fun, and it certainly broadens the horizon.
Amber V xxxx
Quote by ambervixen
Hi Miss Very,
:welcome:
I have been to a few clubs on my own as a single woman. It can be daunting but it can also be a lot of fun.
My best advice would be to check out the club reviews on this site - they are a helpful starting point. If you like the sound of any of them then get in touch with the club, they are used to people being new and nervous and any club I know of would be delighted to have a single woman present, and will treat you with respect and kindness.
If you are going on your own, then my advice would be to go on a night, for your first visit, where it is a couple and single ladies night - as there won't be single men there on their own, so you will be in company of other single women and couples either there on their own or looking for women and or couples.
It can be a bit pressurised to go on a night where there are single men present when you are on your own, that said I have been to events like this and had a great night, but I had been to clubs with friends quite a few times before.
Finding a guy, girl or a couple to go along with is a good idea, but further advice is to meet for a drink with that person(s) somewhere public on the night first, in case they can't make it, or you don't feel comfortable or are just too nervous, this will save you the trouble of finding them in the club or vice versa (most clubs do not allow mobile phones inside the club).
More random advice is to bring flat shoes for the end of the night, condoms, a good map of the location and to take the number of the club with you on the way there!
If you don't know the area ask the club to book a taxi for you, they will know reputable local firms for a single girl.
Above all else - ENJOY, it is a lot of fun, and it certainly broadens the horizon.
Amber V xxxx

Wow Amber V thank you so much for this detailed response! Really good to hear from someone who has done it before as a single gal!
And your tips are really helpful. It is a totally new experience for me and I don't want to ruin it by rushing and going about it the wrong way. But it is something I have thought about for ages now. Everyone on this site has been very nice and helpful.
Thank you again!
xx
Hi Miss Very and welcome!
My partner and I found it useful going into the chat rooms here and talking/ flirting with couples and girls! We also started to use our cam and be a little naughty which was great for helping us to feel more comfortable about our bodies and because people have seen that we are real and not a single guy acting as a couple we have had loads of messages from likeminded couples and girls who we now consider friends! Lets face it, it will be a lot easier going to a social or club if you are meeting people you already know a little!
M&J
Thanks M&J for the tips! smile
And love your photos on your profile ;)
Quote by livelife_cpl
Hi Miss Very and welcome!
My partner and I found it useful going into the chat rooms here and talking/ flirting with couples and girls! We also started to use our cam and be a little naughty which was great for helping us to feel more comfortable about our bodies and because people have seen that we are real and not a single guy acting as a couple we have had loads of messages from likeminded couples and girls who we now consider friends! Lets face it, it will be a lot easier going to a social or club if you are meeting people you already know a little!
M&J
Thanks for making this a year full of experience..good..bad..fun..filthy..and genuinely friendly..Here's to more :swingingchair:
:cheers:
It's a misleading subject line, given that your first post offers no advice whatsoever.
But it's nice to see that you've enjoyed your time here. wink
experience.
no matter what people offer it is only you who can determine if it is the right experience for you.
a wise man said:
There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth; not going all the way, and not starting.
Quote by M1ssVery
Holy smokes it feels like only yesterday I was broken hearted, horny, in a hotel room on my own, and googling <single girls and sex clubs..>
"oooh what's this? SH forum..umm I guess I could join for JUST a month to ask my question on the forum and then cancel the membership..":confused2:
Look at me now!! :grin:

And we still haven't got round to using those pier tokens! :doh:
We're glad you decided to make SH your home. ;)