Hi to all
After a lot of years of marriage and two lovely children later
i am finding myself and it turns out my wife to that we are bored with each other,
sexually but not emotionally which seeems odd.
when we do connect it is like two 16 year olds but we both have different
sex drives me being the greater but her being more curious, but not brave enough to take the plunge.
I have already moved to the other side and have opened up to her which hasnt bothered her
one bit so long as our survival as a couple remains intact,and we are happy.
this has made me feel guilty but my wife assures me that she doesnt mind so long as we are commited to each other for all time.
To all you like minded alternative lifestyle couples out there can you add anything to this to help us clarify the path we are going is accceptable in our group of married couples as it feels to me to be a form of liberation from the expected path of marraige.
all the best
phil
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Sex God
Hi.
First of all, :welcome: to the forum bit of the site.
I'm not married, so I'm not sure I can help you, but I think one of the things that people may ask is does your wife know you have a profile on here? If she does, then I would suggest you put that in your profile text so that people know that you aren't playing without her knowledge.
Seems like you've made a good start in talking about stuff though. That's going to be the key.
Hopefully some of the couples will be along to add something of more value shortly!
x
First of all, :welcome: to the forum bit of the site.
I'm not married, so I'm not sure I can help you, but I think one of the things that people may ask is does your wife know you have a profile on here? If she does, then I would suggest you put that in your profile text so that people know that you aren't playing without her knowledge.
Seems like you've made a good start in talking about stuff though. That's going to be the key.
Hopefully some of the couples will be along to add something of more value shortly!
x
Orgasminator
i am only surmising but if she knows about you on this site and is happy for you to be here, what about adding her to your profile stating that she is not here to play but is available to confirm to people that she allows you to play alone, as i for 1 dont play with anyone attached without having had a chat to the partner first.
people play and are on here for all sorts of reasons, like yourself the physical side has subsided or disappeared completely for various reasons but would never think of ending the relationship. its whatever works for you but always try to be honest to each other and to any play partners so that all involved are aware
people play and are on here for all sorts of reasons, like yourself the physical side has subsided or disappeared completely for various reasons but would never think of ending the relationship. its whatever works for you but always try to be honest to each other and to any play partners so that all involved are aware
you may still be using your 'sex head', and revelling in some much needed self healing. but the response from you social circle could be various and not always beneficial to your own partnership. so weigh it up before going too far too soon.
you are in effect asking your friends to accept you as a practising adulterer. are they equipped for that?
also this 'lifestyle' may not atually suit you as much as you think it might.
so a bit of caution and discretion to begin with.
you are in effect asking your friends to accept you as a practising adulterer. are they equipped for that?
also this 'lifestyle' may not atually suit you as much as you think it might.
so a bit of caution and discretion to begin with.
Sex God
hi and welcum ...
a good idea is to let yr wife join u on the site....
go forums n chat rooms...chat to others watch cams...if u have a cam both go on it...
it might be what u both need to re-light yr sex lives...
kids can drain u dry ...n u never get much chance to be alone together for that odd cuddle...she might find being chatted up is a turn on......would u let her or would u get upset?
just dont push n take it steady....
a good idea is to let yr wife join u on the site....
go forums n chat rooms...chat to others watch cams...if u have a cam both go on it...
it might be what u both need to re-light yr sex lives...
kids can drain u dry ...n u never get much chance to be alone together for that odd cuddle...she might find being chatted up is a turn on......would u let her or would u get upset?
just dont push n take it steady....
Quote by noladreams
Hi.
First of all, :welcome: to the forum bit of the site.
I'm not married, so I'm not sure I can help you, but I think one of the things that people may ask is does your wife know you have a profile on here? If she does, then I would suggest you put that in your profile text so that people know that you aren't playing without her knowledge.
Seems like you've made a good start in talking about stuff though. That's going to be the key.
Hopefully some of the couples will be along to add something of more value shortly!
x
Many thanks for the lovely welcome from everybody.
My wife is on board with me being on the site and has expressed interest after having
a brouse around.
i am being open with this right the way through and in a strange way it feels to be a mild liberation from marital pressures which we both find to oppressive.
There must have been a starting point for many couples who simply get bored or go very stale with each other but still cant do without each other.
Thanks to all
Best phil
Quote by duncanlondon
you may still be using your 'sex head', and revelling in some much needed self healing. but the response from you social circle could be various and not always beneficial to your own partnership. so weigh it up before going too far too soon.
you are in effect asking your friends to accept you as a practising adulterer. are they equipped for that?
also this 'lifestyle' may not atually suit you as much as you think it might.
so a bit of caution and discretion to begin with.
Hi
Very wise thoughts indeed,which with a lot of caution i am treading.
A good couple i know have been active for years and they to have met the rough with the smooth,regarding social acceptance and have survived well.
I think it would be managable as personel lives do stay personel and the public face remains the same,and as my wife is fully on board with me being on the site then if anybody else knows then they to are on there aswell.
Lovely talking to normal people for a change
Best regards phil
Quote by sara2010
i am only surmising but if she knows about you on this site and is happy for you to be here, what about adding her to your profile stating that she is not here to play but is available to confirm to people that she allows you to play alone, as i for 1 dont play with anyone attached without having had a chat to the partner first.
people play and are on here for all sorts of reasons, like yourself the physical side has subsided or disappeared completely for various reasons but would never think of ending the relationship. its whatever works for you but always try to be honest to each other and to any play partners so that all involved are aware
Hi Sara
We are going to experiment for a while and see how it works out as,at first we talked
about having an open marraige rather than losing each other,but with my wifes knowledge
she is allowing me freedom to explore more and in time hopefully she will make an apearance with me.
we are both rock solid but need something to ignite us once more.
lovely talking to you
Phil x
Quote by twos_company
hi and welcum ...
a good idea is to let yr wife join u on the site....
go forums n chat rooms...chat to others watch cams...if u have a cam both go on it...
it might be what u both need to re-light yr sex lives...
kids can drain u dry ...n u never get much chance to be alone together for that odd cuddle...she might find being chatted up is a turn on......would u let her or would u get upset?
just dont push n take it steady....
Hi Thanks for the lovely welcome
We are becoming more and more open to the lifestyle and i did suggest
that my wife takes on a role with me in a capacity she feels comfortable with.
i have always told her everything which is why there is no shock horror suprises
or screams of divorce,(to far down the line for that)which hopefully in time
will bring us closer again.
Lovely talking to you
Phil x
Sex God
Quote by philonu
Hi.
First of all, :welcome: to the forum bit of the site.
I'm not married, so I'm not sure I can help you, but I think one of the things that people may ask is does your wife know you have a profile on here? If she does, then I would suggest you put that in your profile text so that people know that you aren't playing without her knowledge.
Seems like you've made a good start in talking about stuff though. That's going to be the key.
Hopefully some of the couples will be along to add something of more value shortly!
x
Many thanks for the lovely welcome from everybody.
My wife is on board with me being on the site and has expressed interest after having
a brouse around.
i am being open with this right the way through and in a strange way it feels to be a mild liberation from marital pressures which we both find to oppressive.
There must have been a starting point for many couples who simply get bored or go very stale with each other but still cant do without each other.
Thanks to all
Best phil
Ref the bit in bold. For us thats a no. We all enter here for varying reasons I guess and ours was out of curiosity due to some TV documentary's. We still had a decent sex life and we considered this to be an extension of that. Just a word of caution that if in time you do enter this with your partner. Most of us have known of people in this lifestyle whos partner got great sex then suddenly the marriage is over and one is off on a swinging journey and the other is left feeling dejected. Guess what I am trying to say is I think this works better from an already good sex life and maybe not so well from a failing one. Why not try and improve yours first? What steps have you taken in that direction?
Hi Tweeky
Soz for the late reply but been very buisy alround and after much discussion with the wife it actually turns out that she has a fairly big yearning to explore her bi curio side which does involve me to.
we still ignite each other and she has got straight on board with the whole scene and wants to try out a club or two as we have friends that frequent several,and have had good times.
Have enjoyed speaking to everyone and getting a first hand knowledge from some lovely people. P&J x
Soz for the late reply but been very buisy alround and after much discussion with the wife it actually turns out that she has a fairly big yearning to explore her bi curio side which does involve me to.
we still ignite each other and she has got straight on board with the whole scene and wants to try out a club or two as we have friends that frequent several,and have had good times.
Have enjoyed speaking to everyone and getting a first hand knowledge from some lovely people. P&J x
Sex God
:cool: Best of luck with all of that.
Sex God
Quote by philonu
Hi Tweeky
Soz for the late reply but been very buisy alround and after much discussion with the wife it actually turns out that she has a fairly big yearning to explore her bi curio side which does involve me to.
we still ignite each other and she has got straight on board with the whole scene and wants to try out a club or two as we have friends that frequent several,and have had good times.
Have enjoyed speaking to everyone and getting a first hand knowledge from some lovely people. P&J x
far better for your relation ship if you both do it together rather than just you doing it with the lady sitting indoors wondering with a million different scenarios of where it could lead
your both obviously very in love so why not strengthen that bond by swinging together it just makes sense :thumbup:
Orgasminator
Hey P&J
It sounds to me like you are approaching this in the right way, with an open mind and together.
There is no guaranteed path to happiness, so find it along the path as much as you can. If you are travelling with a partner, you don't always need to walk hand in hand. Make sure you know where each other want to go, this will you give you the best chance of staying close and finishing the journey together.
My own personal life doesn't give me much experience of your situation, but my interactions with couples (esp cuckolds) have shown me they can have very intense emotional bonds, with very, very, very, different sexual needs
best of luck
fraser
It sounds to me like you are approaching this in the right way, with an open mind and together.
There is no guaranteed path to happiness, so find it along the path as much as you can. If you are travelling with a partner, you don't always need to walk hand in hand. Make sure you know where each other want to go, this will you give you the best chance of staying close and finishing the journey together.
My own personal life doesn't give me much experience of your situation, but my interactions with couples (esp cuckolds) have shown me they can have very intense emotional bonds, with very, very, very, different sexual needs
best of luck
fraser
Sex God
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