Advice on first-time meet please?

4 Feb 2005

Hi,
I'm a first time single guy who is about to meet with a first-time couple. As we're both new to this we would like to know the best and safest way to going about it.
My idea was to get to know each other via email first, then maybe a bar meet, then a neutral meet at a hotel, before deciding to go for home meets.
Can anyone advise us whether this is the best way. All advice is welcome!
Thanks
D

4 Feb 2005

Meet in a public place. That way you won't all feel that you're committed to doing something. See how/if you get on, then take it from there.

4 Feb 2005

Having been in this situation I can only tell you what we did and it worked OK.
We had a couple of conversations on the phone first. You can both bar your numbers if you don't want the other party to know it. The phone gives you more personal contact, e-mail can be very deceptive. The phone also lets you get a 'feel' for the person at the other end.
Then we met in a pub at lunch time. We all agreed before that if any one was not 100% happy then it was a no goer and we could walk away - politely of course - without any one taking offense.
It all worked fine and we went on to have a great friendship and lots of sex.
Just don't go there thinking it is certain to happen, it may not and nothing is sure to put your prospective partners off more than you assuming it is.
Enjoy!!!

4 Feb 2005

Hi D,
I feel you really should meet in a neutral environment with no expectations on either side first. That way you can all just relax and get to know each other. If the chemistry is there and you want to take it further - great - you can decide from there, but it also gives you all the opportunity to walk away more comfortably if the connection/chemistry isn't there.
As for a hotel meet when you know the chemistry is there? I have mixed feelings on that. Personally I wouldn't like to meet in a hotel. It takes something away from the experience for me. But that is just me - and that view is therefore highly subjective.
I think the main thing is to ensure that you are ALL comfortable before taking it any further. And trust me - even when comfortable - it can be a nerve wracking - but extremely exhilarating experience.
Good luck and have fun kiss

4 Feb 2005

What they all said - and don't be tempted to imbibe too much dutch courage either, it is bad enough being a gibbering nervous wreck, without being a gibbering nervous tipsy wreck! rolleyes

lhk

4 Feb 2005

Quote by VFR Rider
You can both bar your numbers if you don't want the other party to know it.

How does that work then? lol

P.

4 Feb 2005

Phone from a pay phone! wink

lhk

4 Feb 2005

More than likely, the couple will set the terms and conditions, despite any other muted arrangements. So be prepared for last minute alterations and such like.
Don't worry, most first times are very successful.

4 Feb 2005

A meet? What's that? Never had one - not via SH anyway!

4 Feb 2005

Ok for what it's worth we'll add our bit!!!
From our own experience our "adventure" started with email back and forward before a quick chat between Her and Him on the phone and some MSN. We then arranged a quick meet in the car!! Gasp, horror not dogging but not a public place or a neutral venue , I hear you cry, (It was a service station car park) but we felt that we had judged his character well and weren't dissapointed. To us, and we said it at the time, albeit the whole "first meet" was nerve wracking for us, it must have been even more so for him as a single guy meeting a couple and we were very careful that the first meet didn't turn into a job interview... :shock: .
Perhaps we have just been lucky (on obviously more than one occasion and kisses to you....you know who you are!! wink

) but with MSN, Email and mobile phone, we feel that we can get an idea early on if the right ingredients are there for us.
Take it all at YOUR pace and if it feels good do it!!
If it all just clicks then you'll never look back cool

Good luck
LadyFeeBee and the Laird

7 Feb 2005

Hi there,
thanks to everyone who has replied here (and PM'd me). It's a really helpful and friendly community you've got here - I think may have to make the effort (should I manage to pluck up the courage) and see if I can attend one of your munches and meet some of you in person?
Nothing happened this weekend but we are looking to have our first social meet this weekend - after that, who knows??????
Thanks again guys 'n' gals, you've been great!
D

7 Feb 2005

call me daft, but after phone chat perfere to meet my house, for proper chat drinks etc, making it clear that either party can leave if not happy that theres no pressure to do anything, had 4 cpls, only one left without anything happening saw rest on few more occasions
if it feels right go for it if it don,t >don,t :!:
wink