Hi, I'm going to move this into the Cafe forum as it is a more general thread than an introduction.
Hopefully people will give you some constructive advice.
Nola x
I think everyone is nervous at first, you may be confident, but what if your wife is right? Unlikely, but it has happened. Only you and your wife know each other well enough to answer this question.
Maybe it would be better to attend a swinging club or a munch first just to test the water so to speak. I always used to let my wife do any choosing, of the third party, after meeting at a club, so that she was comfortable with the other male rather than me finding someone she didn't really gel with.
This is a very hard question to answer, but I can only talk by my own experience, as the female of a couple.
Firstly the reality from the fantasy is so very different for a number of reasons.
When you have had an mmf as a female the level of excitement is so high, before during and after again for a number of reasons.
The after effects are not known until you try, it is not easy to say before how you will both feel after.
Your partner is right to question this point, and many more besides, the main one being how would you feel after too?
Until you are both are so sure that this will not affect your relationship together by discussing every scenario that may occur, I would say really think about what you are doing.
We are lucky as our communication has always been open and we have been challenged as we have gone along, but we have ironed out all the hiccups some feelings are unforeseen, reassurance together and communication is paramount.
We have lived out some fantasies and very much enjoyed what we have done and will contuine to do so, but it doesn’t take over our lives, just look forward with excitement when we get the chance to meet our friends, which might be a couple of times a year, due to our personal lives being far more important to us.
So all I can say it is up to you both why you want to do this only you have control of how it affects your lives and feel after.
Whatever you decide good luck.
I agree with you lost, well I know hubby would see it from your view, it is mind blowing from him seeing it.
But as you said question do appear when you thought you have talked about every angle, as I said they were our main hiccups mainly built around the fact or what we saw as our own upbringing and beliefs.
I am pleased to say of which we have ironed out, and we see doing this feels right for us. So we are happy to counitue.
After being together 30 years we have found it is just an added element we can from time to time indulge in to heighten our pleasures together and with whomever we invite in to share that with too.
Conscience seems to be the biggest draw-back; I have been enjoying (as the 2nd cock) a great MMF with old friends for several years, but since my no-sex wife is also part of that circle of friends the very sexy lady in the trio has guilty feelings about this, although they do tend to dissipate when both her man and I are deeply embedded within her lovely body. If there are no relationship reservations, then go for it....I know of no instance where the lady has subsequently 'fallen in lust' with a 3-sum partner just through sexy fun.
lucky you unfortunately i have know someone fall for the fb and subsequently leave her partner for him it is rare but still goes on. honesty is the only thing that matters and then informed choice can be made
... first find your mumph....
lp
it is actually flying in the face of all that society has led you to believe is right. No one should underestimate the effect of that.
