Hi all
A little background: I am mid 30's and married. In my early 20's I had some experience of the swinging lifestyle - those contacts I made were established using face pics on my behalf. Although we have discussed the lifestyle my wife is not interested in participating so I am available as a single male.
As a teacher I am extremely loathed to send out a pic that has my face on it (even if the rest of the pic is clothed) attached to a message concerned about swinging. One hears too many scare stories of papers running articles etc
I was wondering if there are any other teachers (or others) out there who find themelves in a similar position or who have in fact posted face pics with no problem.
Any advice welcome
Cheers
MrE
A lot of people (regardless of occupation) don't like sending face pics until they are totally sure the recipient is genuine. This is sensible. Most people understand if you are nervous about such things. Indeed, I'm always suspicious of folks who want a face pic straight away. As long as you have a boidy pic to send, I can't see a problem.
As an ex-social worker I was always too wary to put a face pic in any ad I had, and even though I am now in a different, less "public" line of work, I still stick to that. I do send a face pic to anyone I've chatted with or exchanged emails for a while, if I feel I can trust them, usually people who have posted on here for a while. You will find a number of teachers on this site (even some who have trouble spelling! - it's "loth" or "loath" by the way, though this was probably a typo rather than a mistake), and nearly all of them will also be wary - being involved in the world of contact ads is really not worth risking losing your job for. Like blue, I am surprised that some people so readily put up a full face pic, but good luck to those that do. As to those in ads who insist on receiving a face pic from a contact straight away, my advice is don't comply unless you feel okay about it, it's their problem if they are restricting their chances by insisting on this.
Good luck,
Mike.
Just a word of caution..... remember that if you have your email address displayed on the site and someone types that email address into Google, SH is likely to be one of the first hits! If you have a clear face pic on the site and an email address, you are really not that difficult to root out!
Just pointing that out again for newbies who might not be aware :shock:
Frecklebird, I think you are in less danger of being outed at a club than having a recognisable picture on the site. Kids and wannabes can and do access sites with no difficulty and I'm sure they would be quick to pass on the information to their mates if they saw their teacher in an advert. Clubs, on the other hand, are for the truly committed to the scene and people who use them are much more likely to be discreet.
We are regular clubbers and have been at a club where folk have met relatives/neighbours on three occasions. This has not put us off clubs but we would never post a face picture on an advert.
Ric (and Jax)
northwest couple i know of a parent who went in a club then came into school shouting to all who wanted to listen that she'd been to a wife swapping club and told em all what she'd done, imagine if i'd been there at the same time....what uproar this would have caused !! we dont send out face pics to just anyone and i dont think our ad pic is even slightly offensive or able to be viewed as a swinging picture, if anyone asked if it was me then my response would depend upon who asked. mostly i'd say it's nobody's business and being a swinger doesn't make me a better or worse person than anyone else. it doesn't affect my teaching so why should it be a problem to anyone?dunno how i would have reacted to the gobby parent if she'd confronted me tho lol
). We don't make a habit of sending rude pics with faces visible anyway, except for people who we've played with and trust. There is an argument that if a parent/colleague/boss saw the pics or you in a club or on a site such as this, then they shouldn't have a problem with it as they are obviously interested in the lifestyle. However, I would be very cautious about going to a club, particularly if it's a local one. As someone already pointed out, swinging teachers may be frowned on by a child's parent even if the parents are themselves swingers...double standards but there you go.
,just edit your pic with mickey mouse ears ....blurred face etc etc.........
