I'm currently in a quite long term relationship, and in general things are pretty well, I'm happy with the girl I'm with we've both been faithful to each other, but it's started to niggle on my mind, that most other women I've been with are all so much better in bed, don't get me wrong my current isn't bad, but it's always very plain, this is really starting to get to me now, and I've found myself thinking about my ex('s) alot more whilst 'on the job'. Can someone please offer me some advice or your opinions at least.
Regards
R
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I see this as being your fault :P Surley its your job as the man taking the lead to show her the way You never said wether or not you have talked about this with her and if not why not. I as part of a couple would certainly let my man know if I was un happy about something in our sex life and I bet you a fiver now she knows nothing about you posting messages about your problem on a swingers site 
Oo harsh Bifem... taking this from a bloke point of view sex goes up and down (no pun intended). Having been married for a few years (and together even longer) I know. We went through a couple of years of almost no sex, maybe once in 2 months, that was tough...
You need to rekindle that old flame, a break can sometimes do it, some open discussions of ideas may also help. Why not try some new locations, a new outfit, a new hairstyle, some sexy underwear, you dont have to be kinky to really add somthing.
Equally though maybe somthing else is wrong, look outside the bed at things like finances, workload, even somthing as silly as the bed being uncomfortable can affect sleep, and a tired person is not going to make the earth move.
A downturn need not be the end, if you love each other work through it with that and you will get this back. Whatever you do be sensitive though, this is no persons fault, it just one of lifes little challenges. Start with small ideas and work up from there, woo her all over again and see what happens.
Best of luck mate...
You need to rekindle that old flame, a break can sometimes do it, some open discussions of ideas may also help. Why not try some new locations, a new outfit, a new hairstyle, some sexy underwear, you dont have to be kinky to really add somthing.
Equally though maybe somthing else is wrong, look outside the bed at things like finances, workload, even somthing as silly as the bed being uncomfortable can affect sleep, and a tired person is not going to make the earth move.
A downturn need not be the end, if you love each other work through it with that and you will get this back. Whatever you do be sensitive though, this is no persons fault, it just one of lifes little challenges. Start with small ideas and work up from there, woo her all over again and see what happens.
Best of luck mate...
Yeah I expected some replys like that from blokes lol 
with different wording
Orgasminator
Quote by rstrich
I'm currently in a quite long term relationship, and in general things are pretty well, I'm happy with the girl I'm with we've both been faithful to each other, but it's started to niggle on my mind, that most other women I've been with are all so much better in bed, don't get me wrong my current isn't bad, but it's always very plain, this is really starting to get to me now, and I've found myself thinking about my ex('s) alot more whilst 'on the job'. Can someone please offer me some advice or your opinions at least.
Regards
R
theres no replacing sex with someone you love mate, no matter how good the other woman can be, whats long term, ten years ten months twenty years twentt days?
Orgasminator
spot on judy, however i have great sympathy and understanding for the guy, if you want a chat pm me mate, ive been there for twenty years and am just comming out of it
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from a womans point of view
compareing her with your ex's is so bad and so dis respectfull
if you love her its your job to teach her how to please you
sometimes we need to show how to do things to the less experianced
and when they learn they never forget
so stop thinking of your ex's and guide your girlfriend in to bed and show her the delights of how to make love
from a womans point of view
compareing her with your ex's is so bad and so dis respectfull
if you love her its your job to teach her how to please you
sometimes we need to show how to do things to the less experianced
and when they learn they never forget
so stop thinking of your ex's and guide your girlfriend in to bed and show her the delights of how to make love
Quote by redstilletto
:shock:
from a womans point of view
compareing her with your ex's is so bad and so dis respectfull
if you love her its your job to teach her how to please you
sometimes we need to show how to do things to the less experianced
and when they learn they never forget
so stop thinking of your ex's and guide your girlfriend in to bed and show her the delights of how to make love
I know it's disrespectful, and that's I asked for advice, we had a long chat last night and we're going on holiday, and in short forget about every other fcuker.
I can't remember who posted it, but yeah we're both going through a weird time, With me selling my house and moving, I've only just sorted out my financial problems, fortunately through a new job, she's however just lost hers and is slowly putting herself into a pit of depression (only over the work side of it, she has no bills etc to pay out), which, in turn, stops me wanting to put pressure on her.
She knows I've started to come on this site, and tbh she's not bothered, she has no care of what I say or do over the internet, so long as it doesn't affect "real life".
So thanks for the words peeps, and if nothing else, the slating I got opened my eyes lol!!!
Anyways onwards and upwards, here we come euro disney!!!
Warming the Bed
well
to be honest swinging cant make a relationship better in fact if you are not stable in the first place this probably isnt the place to be
you need to look at your relationship
take the time to talk to your g/f and sort out what is wrong both for you and her
maybe she isnt any happier than you are sexually
and maybe together you can improve your sex life together as it shud be
you must have been happy with it at one time take a look and see what has changed
is it just the romance that needs putting back into both your lives
if you have someone you love dont spoil it by swinging
love lemons xxxx
to be honest swinging cant make a relationship better in fact if you are not stable in the first place this probably isnt the place to be
you need to look at your relationship
take the time to talk to your g/f and sort out what is wrong both for you and her
maybe she isnt any happier than you are sexually
and maybe together you can improve your sex life together as it shud be
you must have been happy with it at one time take a look and see what has changed
is it just the romance that needs putting back into both your lives
if you have someone you love dont spoil it by swinging
love lemons xxxx
you know what, that actually makes sense
thanks to you all, for the brief time we've spoken, and sorry for seemingly wasting your time lol. If things don't work out I'll be back, if we get everything sorted (like I hope we will) then I won't.
admin can you please delete this thread and user account please.
Thanks again and best Regards
RICHÂ¥
ps... swing happy!
Mods message: this topic is now locked and the username has been deacitvated. However I think the topic offered up a useful debate and will leave it for now.
thanks to you all, for the brief time we've spoken, and sorry for seemingly wasting your time lol. If things don't work out I'll be back, if we get everything sorted (like I hope we will) then I won't.
admin can you please delete this thread and user account please.
Thanks again and best Regards
RICHÂ¥
ps... swing happy!
Mods message: this topic is now locked and the username has been deacitvated. However I think the topic offered up a useful debate and will leave it for now.
