Ive got a major problem (for me anyway) that i would like a bit of advice on from you wonderfull ladies
Ive been seeing this wonderful lady for around 6 months and we have a great sex life. she is a fantastic person . we often go to places where we know guys are watching us and that is a big turn on for her ( just watching us, not joining)
my problem is this - as wonderfull as she is she will never perform oral on me. im very very clean and past girlfreinds have loved to give me blow jobs , but she just wont do it. ive never asked her outright but she never offers. i love to please her with my tounge and can spend ages down there, even when i move into the 69 position nothing happens. as i said im very clean and have a nice cock.
my question is this - is she a woman who will never give me a blow job or is there women reading this who never used to do it, tried it and found they loved it
i think she is being a bit selfish to be honest but im never going to make her do something she doesnt want to, but theres no nicer feeling than a womans lips on your cock
ant advice would be appreciated please before i crack up
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Advice please ladies
right well personally if a guy didn't go down on me he wouldn't get a bj sex is not a 1 way street lol
But i would suggest u talk to her about it see what she says and point out u feel its a bit unfair, i have only known 1 women who didn't like giving bjs and that was because she said guys always try and force her head down to much and it put her off, which i agree they do tend to do that lol but i was thinking maybe she has a bad experience in the past and talking about it may help
But i would suggest u talk to her about it see what she says and point out u feel its a bit unfair, i have only known 1 women who didn't like giving bjs and that was because she said guys always try and force her head down to much and it put her off, which i agree they do tend to do that lol but i was thinking maybe she has a bad experience in the past and talking about it may help
Hiya
Maybe your lady has tried giving bj's in the past but has been told that she is not very good, so this has knocked her confidence and she has decided not to bother. Talk to her about it and say you would like her to try, but let her come round in her own time and slowly.
Good Luck
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Maybe your lady has tried giving bj's in the past but has been told that she is not very good, so this has knocked her confidence and she has decided not to bother. Talk to her about it and say you would like her to try, but let her come round in her own time and slowly.
Good Luck
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Hi
I had a similar problem with Katie, it went on for years and its a bit of a long story, but the upshot was that the only reason she wouldnt do it was because she thought she would be crap at it and didnt want to dissapoint me (silly girl) then, purely by chance she saw one of these sex educatin progs on channel 4 where a sex therapist was showing a bunch of women how to do it properly
Well anyway, armed with a little knowlage she decided to try it, and once she saw how wild it drove me she nevver looked back, absolutley loves it now.
so just maybe this woman thinks so much of you that she is scared of dissapointing you?
just a thought in my head, probably crap like most of the other stuff thats in there lol
I had a similar problem with Katie, it went on for years and its a bit of a long story, but the upshot was that the only reason she wouldnt do it was because she thought she would be crap at it and didnt want to dissapoint me (silly girl) then, purely by chance she saw one of these sex educatin progs on channel 4 where a sex therapist was showing a bunch of women how to do it properly
Well anyway, armed with a little knowlage she decided to try it, and once she saw how wild it drove me she nevver looked back, absolutley loves it now.
so just maybe this woman thinks so much of you that she is scared of dissapointing you?
just a thought in my head, probably crap like most of the other stuff thats in there lol
Seeing as you are already going to be talking to her, I'll leave that bit out...
all I'd say is, that if you have found somone you like so much, and it sounds like you do, maybe it's one of those things you have to sacrifice. Not good, but if you put everything onto a "weighing scale" .. then do the other parts of your relationship outweigh the lack of a BJ?
all I'd say is, that if you have found somone you like so much, and it sounds like you do, maybe it's one of those things you have to sacrifice. Not good, but if you put everything onto a "weighing scale" .. then do the other parts of your relationship outweigh the lack of a BJ?
well here's a letter to my favorite sex advice columnist and his reply:
I'm a 24-year-old male, and I lost my virginity to my girlfriend last year. She is three years younger than I am, but I'm the 10th man that she has fucked. This is not a problem with me, as I'm not a jealous guy. What bothers me is that she's unwilling to perform oral sex on me. I enjoy giving oral to her. I am really in love with her and could see myself marrying her, but I need to be assured that I will get a blowjob at some point in my life. She says she doesn't like the taste of semen, which makes me just the slightest bit jealous because that means she's done this for other men but won't do it for me, a man whom she's ostensibly considering marrying.
-- Been Lost Oral Woman
Dump her, BLOW. Sucking cock can no longer be regarded as some sort of above-and-beyond-the-call indulgence. Blowjobs are standard. Any make or model that doesn't come with blowjobs should be immediately returned to the showroom.
but seriously, talk it out, maybe she's willing to at least give it a go.
I'm a 24-year-old male, and I lost my virginity to my girlfriend last year. She is three years younger than I am, but I'm the 10th man that she has fucked. This is not a problem with me, as I'm not a jealous guy. What bothers me is that she's unwilling to perform oral sex on me. I enjoy giving oral to her. I am really in love with her and could see myself marrying her, but I need to be assured that I will get a blowjob at some point in my life. She says she doesn't like the taste of semen, which makes me just the slightest bit jealous because that means she's done this for other men but won't do it for me, a man whom she's ostensibly considering marrying.
-- Been Lost Oral Woman
Dump her, BLOW. Sucking cock can no longer be regarded as some sort of above-and-beyond-the-call indulgence. Blowjobs are standard. Any make or model that doesn't come with blowjobs should be immediately returned to the showroom.
but seriously, talk it out, maybe she's willing to at least give it a go.
Master of Sex
ok, im one of these girls that BJ's dont come as standard... i judt dont like it unless im very very very horny, then he gets one....
I was forced to give BJ's before so i dug my heels ina d said no, and its just a habit that has stuck with me...
so maybe a bad experience has caused her mouth to clam up...
I was forced to give BJ's before so i dug my heels ina d said no, and its just a habit that has stuck with me...
so maybe a bad experience has caused her mouth to clam up...
Orgasminator
Speaking from experience I can honestly say that if you pressure her, she won't do it. Ask her why she feels uncomfortable going there and go at her pace.
I have something that I just can't do (I'm not going to go into details!) and that did affect my recent relationship as he thought I didn't want to do it or just wouldn't do it but in the end I felt so bad about it as he pressured me all the time.
It made it worse in a way as if he'd have shut up about it I would have done it eventually but as he kept making a big deal about it, it made me feel as if I couldn't do it as he'd made it this massive obstacle.
The reason I couldn't do it was because of the past and I'd told him all the details etc - he said he understood but then 10 mins later he was pressuring me again! That isn't the way to go about it.
I'm sorry of this doesn't make sense - it does in my head though!
I have something that I just can't do (I'm not going to go into details!) and that did affect my recent relationship as he thought I didn't want to do it or just wouldn't do it but in the end I felt so bad about it as he pressured me all the time.
It made it worse in a way as if he'd have shut up about it I would have done it eventually but as he kept making a big deal about it, it made me feel as if I couldn't do it as he'd made it this massive obstacle.
The reason I couldn't do it was because of the past and I'd told him all the details etc - he said he understood but then 10 mins later he was pressuring me again! That isn't the way to go about it.
I'm sorry of this doesn't make sense - it does in my head though!
Warming the Bed
good luck ..and enjoy it when it happens!
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