After 20 years meeting again a lady I very much took a liking to

Hi, 

Some 20 years + ago I spent many a pleasant evening with a work colleague and his wife. Always vanilla but slowly, and very surely, I began to really take a liking to her and sexually fantasised about her. Altered working arrangements meant we drifted apart and lost contact. 

A fortnight ago I learned that my former work colleague had passed away and sent a note of condolence to his wife. In her reply she invited me around to her home for a coffee and 'catch-up'. I am going next week but never having been in this position before would appreciate advice on how to confer with her should the situation of our past friendship arise. I have no wish at all to put my foot in it or besmirch my past relationship with them but already the fantasies have returned. I have no idea at all whether or not my past feelings were noticed but would not like to betray myself if she is not interested at all.

Advice asap please.

Careful and gentle Allan, one step at a time, she may be struggling with her immediate situation, loss can be very traumatic, perhaps it is a genuine catch up with a colleague she feels can be trusted, that she needs. On the other hand she may be dreaming of what you are dreaming of !!!!!!  Careful steps, good luck.

What was the outcome? I would have suggested that you go with the flow and play it by ear. It has been a long time, but I think if she is interested she will let you know in some way.

Hello Scotchlander, thanks for reply and sorry for delay replying.  The need for any 'sparring' was immediately removed when i arrived to find her son in attendance. He paid a surprise visit and his mother genuinely did not know - she told me later that had she known she would have postponed my calling. Am seeing her again next Monday.

Regards.

Seems that if you are invited back then she may be interested, but as the hurt maybe fresh in her mind, take things steady It would be best to let things happen rather than force the issue?