Hullo everybody, hope you all had a good new year, ive only just got in! :twisted: :twisted:
Right, my problem- my last girlfriend was amzing sexually, very adventurous, loved dressing up in her schoolgirl uniform for me and playing with the vibes i bought her, porn, erotica, all sorts of stuff like that. Now, since we broke up, i really miss it! Lol! I know that probably sound atrocious, but it was something that I really enjoyed doing. Now, all the girls I seem to meet run a mile when i mention the word 'vibrator'! Such a shame!
Just wondered if anyone had any suggestions on how to find a 'dirty' girl (terrible way to put it I know!) or even if anyone would like to help! :twisted: :twisted:
Happy hangovers!
Chris
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After my last gf......!
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Quote by Chris
Well, ive said it before, too many blokes come on here and lie and bullshit in their ads and profiles, i just like to be honest!
I'd rather have an honest ad that got me no sex but made me long term, open-minded friends, than lie and cheat my way into bed with somebody.
Some may see that as old-fashioned or whatever but, as it sounds like you do, I have to be true to myself first and foremost.
Actually, forum viewers, what are your thoughts on this ?
Carpathian
Agree with you entirely Carpathian, honesty and truthfulness are essential in this lifestyle. If "you" can't be "you" then "you" don't belong here I say.
In other words if you are not confident of yourself and your own mind and not prepared to show that to others then you are not really ready for the scene.
Fran
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In other words if you are not confident of yourself and your own mind and not prepared to show that to others then you are not really ready for the scene.
Fran
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Sex God
Back to the original post. You might be bringing up the subject of vibrators, dogging, outdoor sex, or even just sex at all, too early. That will give the impression that you're a bit too keen, and (worse) only after one thing.
Get yourself settled in the relationship first, and then go slowly. The last thing you want to do is to scare her off.
So the question is: how do you identify a potentially dirty girl without coming straight out and asking her?
Get yourself settled in the relationship first, and then go slowly. The last thing you want to do is to scare her off.
So the question is: how do you identify a potentially dirty girl without coming straight out and asking her?
Sex God
:lol: :lol: Errrrr, come straight out and ask her
. No, seriously, DJohn is right (he usually is, annoying isn't it!). Usually, you do have to broach subjects such as vibros, outdoor sex, and kinky things in general with a little bit of sensitivity or else you do appear a bit desperate. OK, you get the odd girl who is totally open about her kinks right from the outset, but not many. The same can be said of blokes - I mean, how many blokes admit they like the kinky side of life the first time you meet them? Even though this is a swinging site, the rules of real life still apply. Having said that, lots of people use this site purely for sex, rather than the social aspect of it, but if you are looking for an arrangement with a woman that is more than a one-off, you may well have to be patient.However, I am quite willing to discuss my liking for vibros, outdoor sex, uniforms and the like, at all available opportunities :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
Sex God
You should also be asking yourself some questions too. If you can't have your kinky dream girlfriend, would you rather have no relationship at all?
My own view is that life is never perfect, and compromise is usually inevitable (happiness comes from not brooding on what we don't have, but from enjoying what we do). But maybe it's very important to you, and you don't mind waiting.
Or you can just ignore me altogether. Hell, you're 19. You're young, and life is good. There's time for the serious stuff later.
Disclaimer: I'm the last person who should be offering relationship advice. God only knows why I keep doing it.
My own view is that life is never perfect, and compromise is usually inevitable (happiness comes from not brooding on what we don't have, but from enjoying what we do). But maybe it's very important to you, and you don't mind waiting.
Or you can just ignore me altogether. Hell, you're 19. You're young, and life is good. There's time for the serious stuff later.
Disclaimer: I'm the last person who should be offering relationship advice. God only knows why I keep doing it.
Mod
Now THAT could take some explaining to your mother when she comes round for tea! :grin:
Mal
Mal
Nah, I didnt really mean vibes were 'kinky' as such. just not the norm!
I dont bring up my 'preferances' early when I meet a girl, in fact, I havent done at all since the last gf, but I think that you can usually sort of tell about a girl quite quickly what she is into by her mannerisms and attitude to sex anyways.
Ah, well, doesnt matter anyhow, Im not that fussed about it, doesnt rule my life (yet!)
But if anyone does want to help, I'm young and virile! :twisted:
Chris
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I dont bring up my 'preferances' early when I meet a girl, in fact, I havent done at all since the last gf, but I think that you can usually sort of tell about a girl quite quickly what she is into by her mannerisms and attitude to sex anyways.
Ah, well, doesnt matter anyhow, Im not that fussed about it, doesnt rule my life (yet!)
But if anyone does want to help, I'm young and virile! :twisted:
Chris
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Sex God
Actually, I have a feeling that vibrators are the norm. It's just something that's not generally talked about openly.
I'd do a poll here, but something tells me that this isn't an unbiased sample group :-)
I'd do a poll here, but something tells me that this isn't an unbiased sample group :-)
Sex God
:lol: :lol: Yes, I suspect that at least 90% of the people reading this will have one vibro-like inplement in their possession. The question for a poll should be what type is prefered for which occassion :lol:
Quote by Carpathian
Vibrators...kinky!? Surely not.
Doesn't most women own one? Even secretly? I for one have my collection pride of place on my mantlepiece!
It would certainly put the "Ah" in modern art......
A new range of "Hornyments" for your shelf !
Carpathian
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: Carpathian, that was truly funny.
Is there not a case for saying trust and confidence come before kinky? Kit and I took forever to explore role play and sex toys, partly because we had a great sex life without them.
If you had told us two years ago we would be swinging we would have laughed in your face.
And if you had told me 22 years ago that Kit would have me posing for pictures in lingerie, :shock: I would still be single!
We spent 15 years having what would be described as very much a text book sex life, some outdoor stuff, mostly in the garden, and once on the back of a coach, but it took us 20 years to admit to each other that we both still masturbated
Kit has had a vibrator for - ooo years - but we never discussed whether she used it while I was away!
How daft is that?!?!?!?
Where am I going with this?
Two things
1) Don't assume that because someone does not enjoy something now, they will never enjoy it. Sexual tastes grow and change the same as any thing else in life.
2) Sex does not HAVE to be kinky to be enjoyable.
Kat
If you had told us two years ago we would be swinging we would have laughed in your face.
And if you had told me 22 years ago that Kit would have me posing for pictures in lingerie, :shock: I would still be single!
We spent 15 years having what would be described as very much a text book sex life, some outdoor stuff, mostly in the garden, and once on the back of a coach, but it took us 20 years to admit to each other that we both still masturbated
Kit has had a vibrator for - ooo years - but we never discussed whether she used it while I was away!
How daft is that?!?!?!?Where am I going with this?
Two things
1) Don't assume that because someone does not enjoy something now, they will never enjoy it. Sexual tastes grow and change the same as any thing else in life.
2) Sex does not HAVE to be kinky to be enjoyable.
Kat
Sexlightened
I second that Kat,I once went out with a woman who was still a virgin before she met time we gradually started experiment with all kinds of thing that would be considered different from norm
Sex God
A "text book sex life", Kat :shock: - so it's you who writes all those sex manuals!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
