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Guess this topic will have been covered before but is there an age where swinging becomes just wrong? I am 46 and my partner 42, we are both fit and happy in our bodies but the thought of perhaps getting it on with another couple at say 55 seems scary and a tad wrong!! I see profiles here of couples that age and I think wow...............
Tricky one just wondered what you all think??
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Guess this topic will have been covered before but is there an age where swinging becomes just wrong? I am 46 and my partner 42, we are both fit and happy in our bodies but the thought of perhaps getting it on with another couple at say 55 seems scary and a tad wrong!! I see profiles here of couples that age and I think wow...............
Tricky one just wondered what you all think??

I don't agree that there has to be an age, I feel there are no boundarys
I think age is only a number and it's how you act that counts.
My old gf was a lot younger than me when I fell out with her and we were together for ten years.
Never thought I would meet someone younger who was as mature as her but then I met my present gf who again is younger.
Used to see her every day at work but never knew what age she was until one day I asked her out and she agreed and then told me "oh by the way Im a lot younger than you does that matter".
She does look and act older so I was taken aback but I fancy her and she fancies me so there you go.
So far, she is so much more mature than my last one, although she is trying to kill me wie sex. lol
The reactions we get are quite funny and very predictable.
The females go tut tut and the guys go, ffs the lucky baskit :lol:
Yup... it matters to me. :mrgreen: Or it used to. Since I don't swing any more I dare say that it's irrelevant but I didn't want to meet anyone who was (a) old enough to be my dad or (b) young enough to be my son. I generally have an over 30's and under 50's rule.
There are of course exceptions... mainly if I've actually met someone but on paper I tended to stick with that.
Of course I was completely sexist in my preference cause it was only about men. With women, I didn't really care what age they were. lol Not sure what the theory was behind that.
I'm sure I'll get to the stage in life where age is but a number but it's not happened as yet. I liked being with people I liked. If I met someone and he was outwith my under/over rule and I liked them then I dare say it wouldn't have mattered.
When I was on as a single fem I didn`t really go for younger guys or anyone over 50ish, its nothing to do with rights or wrongs but with personal preference and choice. I`m not ageist, others can meet who they like, it just was a boundary for me.
I don't think I have age boundaries anymore.
I've met guys who are in their early twenties and late fifties and all points in between. It totally depends on the person and whether I find them sexy for whatever reason.
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I am 46 and my partner 42, we are both fit and happy in our bodies but the thought of perhaps getting it on with another couple at say 55 seems scary and a tad wrong!!

This comment, I would put down as your own personal preference. I for one would never critisise anybody for having preferences of the people they hope to meet. The fact that you would put a blanket ban on all couples that are just nine years older than yourself is very limiting.
I ran a quick search and there are over 37,000 profiles (singles included) where they specify their age as 55+
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I see profiles here of couples that age and I think wow...............

Now this is where I come unstuck. Are you saying ewwwww people that are 55 should be on a veranda in a rocking chair reminising on the war? If I (/we) decide that at 55 years of age we are still having sex, and wish to remain in this lifestyle, then I hope that nobody will be judging our choices.
I was at Chams a couple of months and there was a 70th birthday party for one guy who I've seen there many times. I've also seen a frail old chap who carried two walking sticks (think of Old Mr Grace lol ). Anyway he had a leggy blonde on each arm and it was quicker for them to pick him up and carry him from room to room than it would have been to wait for him to try and shuffle there. :shock:
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Guess this topic will have been covered before but is there an age where swinging becomes just wrong? I am 46 and my partner 42, we are both fit and happy in our bodies but the thought of perhaps getting it on with another couple at say 55 seems scary and a tad wrong!! I see profiles here of couples that age and I think wow...............
Tricky one just wondered what you all think??

:giggle:
What happens when you get to 55? Do you think you'll get to a that age and stop swinging? Or perhaps other people will make that choice for you by not choosing to swing with people of your age! wink
Nine years... tick tock! :mrgreen:
(Yes... I'm aware that I have age issues but that sort of made me smile all the same!) lol
if you go on to have a sexuality which keeps developing, then it just brings into play new stages of frustrations and pleasures. so you more or less retain your equilibrium.
but after your own age moves on you change and providing your sexuality moves with you have just as much opportunity and success as you ever do.
but right now i find older women have sex appeal, some youngsters do.
i don't imagine getting together with someone frail and ailing. but if my sexuality stays with me, i expect i may be looking about for some new adventures.
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Yup... it matters to me. :mrgreen: Or it used to. Since I don't swing any more I dare say that it's irrelevant but I didn't want to meet anyone who was (a) old enough to be my dad or (b) young enough to be my son. I generally have an over 30's and under 50's rule

I am 55 but I was told down the pub this evening I looked 42 (ok they were drunk lol) but which category would that put me in ?
Niceguysdoexist - unfortunately that would put you in the same category as most other single males. Thinking you're different. You may well be, i'm not saying you're not but unfortunately, when someone puts preferences, they (imo) dont want mail from someone who doesn't fit the criteria for whatever reason, claiming to be different - mainly because every other Tom Dick or Harry will have done the same thing and you end up with lots of mail from guys who aren't what you're looking for.
It's a tough one because there are going to be men who are outside the upper (or lower) age limit I have preferences for, who I would really click with and happily swing with but unless I meet with them, say at a social first and decide that for myself - quite honestly, they haven't got a cat in hells chance.
To answer lol Age matters to me. Quite a lot.
I've never dated anyone younger than me and always had a preference for slightly older (in relation to me before anyone says anything) men so i've carried that through I guess into swinging. I'm just not usually attracted to younger guys (with one or two exceptions, but then I usually want to take them home to make them dinner :lol: )
It's like everything else within swinging - your preference. We have an ad which stipulates 30-42. The amount of response from 48+ is unbelievable. My mother is 50, my preference for upper age limit is on there for a reason! At some point, I might lift it but for now, it's my preference. To sleep with people younger than my parents! :lol:
*Her*
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Yup... it matters to me. :mrgreen: Or it used to. Since I don't swing any more I dare say that it's irrelevant but I didn't want to meet anyone who was (a) old enough to be my dad or (b) young enough to be my son. I generally have an over 30's and under 50's rule

I am 55 but I was told down the pub this evening I looked 42 (ok they were drunk lol) but which category would that put me in ?
It puts you in the wrong on paper but may be right if I met you at a social category. :mrgreen:
But just to make the point about personal preferences... I'm not slim as you state is your preference so I dare say it doesn't make any odds to you what my personal preferences to age are! wink
its something i have to battle with every time i met people, ive had people fly insults at me that im too young to even know what this scene is and ive had people tell me that they wish they had done it sooner...
i must admidt lol however i know 80% of people are always older then me i do tend to go couples who are in the late 30s mid 40s range it isnt a strict boundary but i have always felt comfortable and seem to have alot more things to talk about with people in that age...
i have personally had to really show people that i am differnt why .... so i can get into their pants O_o and amazingly ive had a few people say that i have a very mature out look on certain areas.
please dont get me wrong add alcohol and i want to be peter pan and never grow up.
but all in all if people dont want to play with you because all they see is a number in my eyes then fair enough move along to the next profile.
In my first comment I meant I couldn't imagine swinging at 55 not that we are hardened swingers by any stretch of the imagination anyway. I just wanted to provoke the debate really................
We may well hit that age and feel completely cool with it, hell at 46 i am no spring chicken! That said I keep reasonably fit and i think have a pretty young outlook.....
35,000 plus profiles at 55+ clearly says maybe I have to wait and seesmile
what an ageist comment to make that its wrong to swing in your 50,s or over
some people are sexully active throughtout their whole life, why should swinging matter if there are mutually interested parties out there
if your not comfortable with meeting older people thats your preference but you shouldnt be so judgemental, how would you feel if you were frowned upon by people in their 30,s thinking your past it? you are not that far off your 50,s yourself, what are you going to do then?
Where did I say it was wrong??
All I said was that I wondered how I would feel about it in my 50's/ 60's??
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Guess this topic will have been covered before but is there an age where swinging becomes just wrong? I am 46 and my partner 42, we are both fit and happy in our bodies but the thought of perhaps getting it on with another couple at say 55 seems scary and a tad wrong!! I see profiles here of couples that age and I think wow...............
Tricky one just wondered what you all think??

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There are no hard and fast rules for me as it depends on the person and whether we click. I suppose I tend to get on best with people in their 30s to 50s - but that is purely a generalisation. For me sexual attraction starts with the brain. If I really like someone then whether they are older or younger than me is largely irrelevant and actually becomes 'invisible'.
Will
I'll get my coat bolt
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Yup... it matters to me. :mrgreen: Or it used to. Since I don't swing any more I dare say that it's irrelevant but I didn't want to meet anyone who was (a) old enough to be my dad or (b) young enough to be my son. I generally have an over 30's and under 50's rule

I am 55 but I was told down the pub this evening I looked 42 (ok they were drunk lol) but which category would that put me in ?
It puts you in the wrong on paper but may be right if I met you at a social category. :mrgreen:
But just to make the point about personal preferences... I'm not slim as you state is your preference so I dare say it doesn't make any odds to you what my personal preferences to age are! wink
I have no problem with peoples preferences whether or not I am excluded by them. My comment above was meant as a tongue in cheek exploration of whether age is a real quantitative measure on which to base a selection criteria as so many characteristics and personality facets may combine to make people appear either much older or younger than their physical years.
Oh, and although I may have a leaning towards ladies of similar frame to myself I have encountered many very sexy ladies who would not describe themselves as slim, including being married to one such lady for 20+ years. So watch out at future socials :wink: lol
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I'll get my coat bolt
Oh no, please don't. Come and sit down here next to me with a glass of wine and let's have a chat. Conversation always turns me on :rascal: ......oh, and your pictures don't do any harm either! :twisted: wink
Will
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Guess this topic will have been covered before but is there an age where swinging becomes just wrong? I am 46 and my partner 42, we are both fit and happy in our bodies but the thought of perhaps getting it on with another couple at say 55 seems scary and a tad wrong!! I see profiles here of couples that age and I think wow...............
Tricky one just wondered what you all think??

if you can click with someone on a mental (loony too) level then that answers your question. we don't actually set a limit on age, we let the first contact and subsequent chats decide it for us. anyone who can make me laugh and keep me in engaging conversation is 90% of the way there69position at the end of the day though, its your call wink