What limits do you have when regarding age?
I'm 25 and have found a lot of women and couples tell me I'm too young for them (even couples who are mid 30's)
I personally don't take age into that much consideration, if i find them attractive then thats all that matters, to me anyway!
What's everyone else's views on this?
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Great thread.
I confess to 45 and age is one of the factors I take into account. I dont know if its squeamishness ( young enough to be my offspring) or whether I genuinely think older people are more likely to be fun to have fun with.
That said I dont choose or dismiss folk simply because of age, its much more to do with the indefinables.
I confess to 45 and age is one of the factors I take into account. I dont know if its squeamishness ( young enough to be my offspring) or whether I genuinely think older people are more likely to be fun to have fun with.
That said I dont choose or dismiss folk simply because of age, its much more to do with the indefinables.
When we were meeting I did prefer to meet and talk to men over 35, as I am in my mid 40’s I just found men over 35 in general more mature of mind, and knew what we wanted out of invited someone to share in our relationship. This doesn’t mean I didn’t talk to younger men, but I just found in general I never really felt a connection with them as I did the older man. I also have a nephew that is 30 it just never seemed right for me to go with a younger man than that.
A lot did say to me you don’t know what you are missing, but I guess what you don’t have you never miss.
A lot did say to me you don’t know what you are missing, but I guess what you don’t have you never miss.
Some interesting points, i guess the hardest part for me is arranging a meet with people, even for a drink, so that they can get to know me because i act older than 25 and maybe once they see that, my age won't be important??
Anyway, i've just created a group 'young men for older women'
Anyway, i've just created a group 'young men for older women'
Orgasminator
Yes of course age is a factor, both at your end of the scale and at mine. Being “Over 50†seems to be just as much a barrier as being under 30, however much you look and act older and I look and act younger. You of course have the advantage that you will grow out of it!
Do not despair – there are lovely ladies here who will be attracted to you just as there are a few who are attracted to older men, and lets face it if the chemistry isn’t there its not really going to work.
So I wish you lots of luck in your search and I’m sure someone nice will come your way. And in the meantime remember that there are an awful lot of us single guys and only a limited number of lovely ladies -- make yourself stand out from the rest by forum posts, chatroom (with camera if possible) and by visiting socials.
Do not despair – there are lovely ladies here who will be attracted to you just as there are a few who are attracted to older men, and lets face it if the chemistry isn’t there its not really going to work.
So I wish you lots of luck in your search and I’m sure someone nice will come your way. And in the meantime remember that there are an awful lot of us single guys and only a limited number of lovely ladies -- make yourself stand out from the rest by forum posts, chatroom (with camera if possible) and by visiting socials.
We are a mid 50's couple. We have a son of 21. As a starting point we would not have considered anyone that young even plus a few years. The youngest we would consider is 40's and much prefer late 40's to late 50's. Why? Because we feel more comfortable with our own age. No one has anything to prove. If a guy has erection probs, so what? We take people as we find them and have fun other ways. A young 20's couple approached us some time ago. We politely told them that we were not interested as we felt that at that age they did not know eachother well enough to risk their relationship by swinging. The indignant reply came back "We have lived together for two years and been married TWO WEEKS!!! Yes OK.
Sex God
Quote by Sexonfire
What limits do you have when regarding age?
I'm 25 and have found a lot of women and couples tell me I'm too young for them (even couples who are mid 30's)
I personally don't take age into that much consideration, if i find them attractive then thats all that matters, to me anyway!
What's everyone else's views on this?
so you do have preferences then...but you judge someone on how attactive they are rather than age, rather nice of you but it that not exactly the same thing? all you have done is just swopped "age" for "beauty"
swop age for tall/short/fat/thin/black/white/straight/gay ect ect ect it is human nature... if people feel comfortable or are attacted to certain types, then such is life, so be it.
with regards to age...
some people don't feel comfortable playing with people old enough to be there mum or dad,
some people don't feel comfortable playing with people young enough to be there sons or daughters......
thats just life.
sean
Quote by fabio
What limits do you have when regarding age?
I'm 25 and have found a lot of women and couples tell me I'm too young for them (even couples who are mid 30's)
I personally don't take age into that much consideration, if i find them attractive then thats all that matters, to me anyway!
What's everyone else's views on this?
so you do have preferences then...but you judge someone on how attactive they are rather than age, rather nice of you but it that not exactly the same thing? all you have done is just swopped "age" for "beauty"
swop age for tall/short/fat/thin/black/white/straight/gay ect ect ect it is human nature... if people feel comfortable or are attacted to certain types, then such is life, so be it.
with regards to age...
some people don't feel comfortable playing with people old enough to be there mum or dad,
some people don't feel comfortable playing with people young enough to be there sons or daughters......
thats just life.
sean
where do i say that i don't have preferences??
Also, my post wasn't 'look at me a don't judge people, aren't i wonderful', my post was a question on age and peoples opinions / perceptions of it on this site.
Sex God
Quote by Sexonfire
where do i say that i don't have preferences??
"age" is as much of a preferance and as important to some people as any other, you said it was "attractiveness" that mattered to you..whatever floats your boat, I just used your comparison in my arguement
so what have you found so far...
you say you don't take age into consideration..... as you have found some people do
you also said you do take looks into consideration... as you will find thats isn't high on some peoples lists...
each to there own... there is no right or wrong...
you ask a hundred different people and you'll get a hundred different views, heck I know people who are 20 going on 60.... I also know 40 years olds who act like they are 14, maturity isn't always aged-based
and I did say and pointed out that age can be a factor in some situations that I can fully understand
some people don't feel comfortable playing with people old enough to be there mum or dad,
some people don't feel comfortable playing with people young enough to be there sons or daughters
However everyone is entitled to make there own choices with regards to whom they play with... and if "age" is one of those high on peoples lists.. then so be it....
some peoples views may change over time, for some people it will simply be non-negoitiable
human nature
Besides the well intentioned advice about everyone having the right to choose etc., the majority of people who are 'avoiding' you do so mainly because they consider themselves at your age and remember that they had little or no inkling to be swinging.
So they are a bit concerned that you may not actually have the mindset for swinging as it often comes to people later in life. That you may find an encounter a bit advanced etc. And they simply don't want to be in that situation, because they never were at your age etc.
So they just don't want to go there.
So they are a bit concerned that you may not actually have the mindset for swinging as it often comes to people later in life. That you may find an encounter a bit advanced etc. And they simply don't want to be in that situation, because they never were at your age etc.
So they just don't want to go there.
Quote by duncanlondon
Besides the well intentioned advice about everyone having the right to choose etc., the majority of people who are 'avoiding' you do so mainly because they consider themselves at your age and remember that they had little or no inkling to be swinging.
So they are a bit concerned that you may not actually have the mindset for swinging as it often comes to people later in life. That you may find an encounter a bit advanced etc. And they simply don't want to be in that situation, because they never were at your age etc.
So they just don't want to go there.
What would you consider a swinging 'mindset' ??
Quote by Sexonfire
Besides the well intentioned advice about everyone having the right to choose etc., the majority of people who are 'avoiding' you do so mainly because they consider themselves at your age and remember that they had little or no inkling to be swinging.
So they are a bit concerned that you may not actually have the mindset for swinging as it often comes to people later in life. That you may find an encounter a bit advanced etc. And they simply don't want to be in that situation, because they never were at your age etc.
So they just don't want to go there.
What would you consider a swinging 'mindset' ??
Something you move onto after a 'conventional';(hetero,monogamistic, happy ever after expectation) period of sexual activity.
You may well have it now, but that's not your problem, its what others perceive and will do.
Quote by duncanlondon
Besides the well intentioned advice about everyone having the right to choose etc., the majority of people who are 'avoiding' you do so mainly because they consider themselves at your age and remember that they had little or no inkling to be swinging.
So they are a bit concerned that you may not actually have the mindset for swinging as it often comes to people later in life. That you may find an encounter a bit advanced etc. And they simply don't want to be in that situation, because they never were at your age etc.
So they just don't want to go there.
What would you consider a swinging 'mindset' ??
Something you move onto after a 'conventional';(hetero,monogamistic, happy ever after expectation) period of sexual activity.
You may well have it now, but that's not your problem, its what others perceive and will do.
Is there a swinging gene then??
Quote by Sexonfire
Besides the well intentioned advice about everyone having the right to choose etc., the majority of people who are 'avoiding' you do so mainly because they consider themselves at your age and remember that they had little or no inkling to be swinging.
So they are a bit concerned that you may not actually have the mindset for swinging as it often comes to people later in life. That you may find an encounter a bit advanced etc. And they simply don't want to be in that situation, because they never were at your age etc.
So they just don't want to go there.
What would you consider a swinging 'mindset' ??
Something you move onto after a 'conventional';(hetero,monogamistic, happy ever after expectation) period of sexual activity.
You may well have it now, but that's not your problem, its what others perceive and will do.
Is there a swinging gene then??
If it was necessary to establish it, then I expect the scientists and psychologists could easily find that, and make it a recognisable 'ailment'. But I think the era when 'oversexed' people were considered to be mentally ill, has passed.
Anyway in a more lighthearted tone. Get yourself along to some of the advertised events and see how you get on. I started in my late 20's and saw some younger ones than me at the parties, although they usually kept together as couples and didn't really swing.
Quote by duncanlondon
Besides the well intentioned advice about everyone having the right to choose etc., the majority of people who are 'avoiding' you do so mainly because they consider themselves at your age and remember that they had little or no inkling to be swinging.
So they are a bit concerned that you may not actually have the mindset for swinging as it often comes to people later in life. That you may find an encounter a bit advanced etc. And they simply don't want to be in that situation, because they never were at your age etc.
So they just don't want to go there.
What would you consider a swinging 'mindset' ??
Something you move onto after a 'conventional';(hetero,monogamistic, happy ever after expectation) period of sexual activity.
You may well have it now, but that's not your problem, its what others perceive and will do.
Is there a swinging gene then??
If it was necessary to establish it, then I expect the scientists and psychologists could easily find that, and make it a recognisable 'ailment'. But I think the era when 'oversexed' people were considered to be mentally ill, has passed.
Anyway in a more lighthearted tone. Get yourself along to some of the advertised events and see how you get on. I started in my late 20's and saw some younger ones than me at the parties, although they usually kept together as couples and didn't really swing.
Its an interesting topic to talk about...
maybe i'll conduct some controlled research for my dissertation next year!
I'm slowly integrating into this wonderful world, looks like a social is my next port of call!
Warming the Bed
Some people do tend to worry about age and the like. I'd just rather someone who is happy and interesting... all the other stuff is nonsense to my mind.
A well stacked cleavage is also a bonus, as is the willingness to allow me to do rude things with them
A well stacked cleavage is also a bonus, as is the willingness to allow me to do rude things with them
I'm 25 and have been swinging for 5 years, on and off, as a single and as a couple. I've occasionally encountered the mindset that 'Anybody under X years old is too young to swing / doesn't know their own mind / isn't emotionally mature enough / shouldn't risk their relationship / doesn't know their partner well enough' yadayadayada. It's complete bollocks
That said, everyone has preferences and sometimes an age range is one of them - I've never minded that, feel free to tell me I'm too young to swing with you, just don't tell me I'm too young to be swinging at all!
That said, everyone has preferences and sometimes an age range is one of them - I've never minded that, feel free to tell me I'm too young to swing with you, just don't tell me I'm too young to be swinging at all!
Quote by redpantherman
I don't give a flying flubber dubb about age!
My fuck buddy's 23 & I also swing with a couple in their 60's
My only criteria is as long as anyone has an attitude that don't sucks then I'm happy!
Says the age-defying git, who no-one ever believes is anything over 30. Normal people hate you, I just wanted to clarify that.
