Age and looks are unimportant to us...

31 Jul 2009

Question: What do you think when you read the above in an ad. or profile?
It really puts me off to be honest! It's not the age thing that really bothers me, it's the 'looks' bit - it always sounds to me like they may as well just write 'we'll shag anything!' I have a type and whilst it's certainly not perfection it's also not 'anything'.
Mind you the same can be said of wording like 'exceptional male/female/couple (delete as appropriate) wanted for exceptional couple' - that's kind of at the opposite end of the scale for me too and equally a turn-off.
What do you think? confused

I'm on a roll this week... :P

31 Jul 2009

That's my meal ticket.
I don't look at it as "We'll shag anything", more so "We prefer personality and what's underneath
your clothes :twisted: "

31 Jul 2009

I can only tell you what it means to me.....this is what i ended up putting in my ad
"Age-wise, for me age is nothing but a number (although some peoples may be larger than others)
Look-wise, again doesn't mean a great deal to me and I am more attracted to personality than looks...and nothing is sexier than brains, intellect and personality
I know that lot about doesn't really give much away, but it doesn't also mean that age/looks unimportant... it just means that i don't really have a type and therefore open to suggestion/corrupting"
I can imagine that there those people that don't care, and you are probably right, however after all the times on the site that we talk about labelling and pigeon-holing people then it still sad that people do make gross-generalisations
If you have a set type... then good for you, stick with it!!!, but there are those that don't, if someones ad doesn't do anything for you... move on, I think that is a lesson we would have all learnt by now.....

31 Jul 2009

I have had people telling me to bring two poly bags when I meet them.
One for over my head and one for over hers in case mines slips off wink

31 Jul 2009

I think if the poster says "age and looks arent important its personality that we prefer" it doesn`t sound as bad as just the age and looks thing, it does kind of sound as if they would just have anything on offer. And for those who advertise as "exceptional" well we mere mortals wouldn`t dare reply.
I`m not too bothered by the looks thing (if you knew my ex husband you`d understand what i mean ) as i do prefer personality but even then i think i have a sliding scale as to the looks and age thing if i`m honest

31 Jul 2009

Age and looks are important to us,I have to be physically attracted to them first...

31 Jul 2009

Age is not necessarily important to me, in so far as since being on this site I have broadened my outlook on the ages of the people I find attractive and will play with.
Looks? Well yes, looks are important. I have to be attracted to a person to enjoy fucking them. But that said, it's not necessarily 'good looks' that will do that. I've mentioned it often, but anyone with the proverbial 'glint in the eye' can usually do it for me!
I don't use the phrase "age and looks aren't important" and yep, I do kinda see what you mean about it implying a certain lack of standard...

31 Jul 2009

I ain't proud
lp

31 Jul 2009

I do have an age preferance, but looks I don't know what look I am attracted too really as the people I have met don't look anything alike. I guess I know when I see it so I don't ask in my profile. But I would need to like the look of them, but a cheeky smile a certain look can win me over.

31 Jul 2009

Read it with an open mind they may actually mean it or may be saying it to sound politically correct. You can't really tell untill you start talking to them and meet them.
Speaking for me personally age and looks aren't as important as sexual chemistry when swinging .....I've learned that someone can look gorgoeous to me but doesn't do it for me when it comes down to business where as someone else could start playing with me who I didn't think was my type but were afterwards lol

4 Aug 2009

To all those who say "Age dont matter its just a number"
Why tell lies ?.
As for me + I am 70 now and have recently had a Coronary.
Age does matter but you just dont like to admit it.
This question has been going on for years and the same old lines always appear usualy by the same people.
Platitudes mumbled to excuse the lies given.
Said my bit now watch this be locked, deleted and my account closed.
Do I care ? Do I hell.

4 Aug 2009

medi why would you think your post warrented a banned account?
any how back to the op,
when i read the statement as written in the op i do kinda think, ewgh umm maybe not as it makes me think you are just here to shag anything. we alllike to feel sexy and that can be by being with someone who finds you sexy, so to be with someone cause any holes a goal isnt what im after.
i never state a preference to a set look, ideally i like taller than me and not skinny guys. but it would depend on the chemistry.
age wise i will not meet up with any one who is closer to my daughters age than me for a swinging meet, this includes conversation with people my own age or older. i dont find that with youngsters.
xx fem xx

4 Aug 2009

Quote by medic_1
To all those who say "Age dont matter its just a number"
Why tell lies ?.
As for me + I am 70 now and have recently had a Coronary.
Age does matter but you just dont like to admit it.
This question has been going on for years and the same old lines always appear usualy by the same people.
Platitudes mumbled to excuse the lies given.
Said my bit now watch this be locked, deleted and my account closed.
Do I care ? Do I hell.

I'm one of those people who say that age is just a number and doesn't matter. It's not a lie at all. I stand by that. It doesn't mean I'd just fuck anyone, whatever their age. There still has to be a 'spark' between us to want to fuck one another.
With regard to looks, I'm with Nola on the 'glint' in their eye :twisted:

4 Aug 2009

You just never really know whether the profile text writers really think about and mean what they say, or whether they are just trotting out the same phrases they read in many other profiles. Having said that, I would not automatically think that "age and looks are unimportant to us" means "we'll shag anything". More likely it means something like "we're average looking, and we want others who are similar".
I like the couple ads/profiles where they say something like "want to broaden our horizons, up for anything, no single males". rotflmao

4 Aug 2009

Age to me is less important than looks, I can't connect with anyone if there is no attraction. I couldn't see myself meeting anyone who didn't at least stir my attention a little.
Age on the other hand is no issue for me, and I never make any comments when taling to someone about their age, or any difference there might be between us.
So if someone mentions either, then we just carry on the convo and I think i'm man enough to tell them that sorry, but there isn't anything there..

4 Aug 2009

There may well be some to whom age ( and looks) don't matter but as an "older" guy on here, I know very well that age DOES matter to the majority. sad

A quick survey of the photo ads section and/or profiles will confirm this.
I do realise and readily accept this is down to everyones' personal preferences. Age is not an issue to me and never has been but an attraction either through looks or personality is vital.
Getting back to the original question, whilst not an expression I would personally use, I would never take the phrase "age and looks aren't important" as meaning they would shag anything, I prefer to think it meant a degree of open mindedness.

4 Aug 2009

I'd do you lol bloke rolleyes

hehhe lol xxx

4 Aug 2009

I think people that say age doesn't matter are generally older people, I think they need to ask themsleves honestly, if they were still in their 20's 30's would they have said age doesnt matter then?
I think just because we are open minded about swinging, does not mean we are open minded about all.
We can still have our preferances and within those preferances be open minded.
To say someone that has preferances isnt open minded is asking for people to have no mind at all.

5 Aug 2009

Quote by Theladyisaminx
I think people that say age doesn't matter are generally older people, I think they need to ask themsleves honestly, if they were still in their 20's 30's would they have said age doesnt matter then?
I think just because we are open minded about swinging, does not mean we are open minded about all.
We can still have our preferances and within those preferances be open minded.
To say someone that has preferances isnt open minded is asking for people to have no mind at all.

If you are referring to my post Minx, you have misunderstood what I said or maybe my post wasn't clear enough. I wasn't implying that those with preferences are any less open minded and indeed did acknowledge people's preferences in my first paragraph.
With regard to the question in the OP, I meant that maybe the advertisers were attempting to appear open minded by stating that "age and looks are not important" not that they would shag just anyone.
Age would not have mattered to me when I was in my 20s and 30s as along with many other guys I always appreciated the older woman.