Reading about (and knowing!) how nervous people can be going for a meet, what are people's views on drinking and swinging?
I know a lot of people will have a drink or two to relax and/or get warmed up, others like to know alcohol played no part in the decision to swing... any thoughts?
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Alcohol and swinging
Have to say exallent subject.
The first time we met anyone it was a cpl at our home, which was good i didn't really feel the need to have a drink, tho the woman bought a bottle of wine round so i did have a glass or two and it was a great night.
However the first time i went to a club i was really nervous and took a bottle of vodka and drank the whole bottle in about a hour and spend the whole night in the loos throwing up, not a good idea, a drunk person is not an attractive person now matter how good u usually look
A couple of glasses is fine but to anyone going 2 a club for the first time my advice is don't take enough drink to get drunk on cause if u are nervous u will drink it ;)
The first time we met anyone it was a cpl at our home, which was good i didn't really feel the need to have a drink, tho the woman bought a bottle of wine round so i did have a glass or two and it was a great night.
However the first time i went to a club i was really nervous and took a bottle of vodka and drank the whole bottle in about a hour and spend the whole night in the loos throwing up, not a good idea, a drunk person is not an attractive person now matter how good u usually look
A couple of glasses is fine but to anyone going 2 a club for the first time my advice is don't take enough drink to get drunk on cause if u are nervous u will drink it ;)
First time i met anyone we had a bottle of wine between ys and it helped.
Since then i have learnt that anymore than say a glass and a half and all i want to do is sleep!!
The more i get to know aperson before i meet them then the less i need alchohol. Last time i met anyone i didnt have a drink at all and it was brilliant!!
Since then i have learnt that anymore than say a glass and a half and all i want to do is sleep!!
The more i get to know aperson before i meet them then the less i need alchohol. Last time i met anyone i didnt have a drink at all and it was brilliant!!
Yep! you learn from past experiences alright,i'm not a big drinker myself but my partner is and the first time we went to a club she drank too much(she was very nervous bless her) and couldn't stand too well,because of this it wasn't best to play with anyone now she sticks to Breezers instead of Wine...which does really go to her head!
Sex God
I don't see the problem with one or two small drinks, but actually being drunk I disagree with unless it is someone's house party and then the rest fo you are pissed anyway so it doesn't really matter 
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Never do anything while your drunk that you wouldn't do sober. It can lead to all sorts of problems of you overstepping personal boundaries and then beating yourself up about it the following day.
The crap thing about alcohol is you don't always realise what you have done until the following day so for me personally I'd rather stay sober when in a club, keeps my wits about me.
Rambled ops:Never do anything while your drunk that you wouldn't do sober. It can lead to all sorts of problems of you overstepping personal boundaries and then beating yourself up about it the following day.
The crap thing about alcohol is you don't always realise what you have done until the following day so for me personally I'd rather stay sober when in a club, keeps my wits about me.
This is a good topic and from experience I can say that too much alcohol makes the evening a blur (if you don't pass out first) and hence a waste of time.
A little bit of wine or a brandy or two will relax nervous people but you have to remember why you're there in the first place and get on with it. The second time I was in a club I wasn't nervous at all but then the people there made me feel very welcome.
A little bit of wine or a brandy or two will relax nervous people but you have to remember why you're there in the first place and get on with it. The second time I was in a club I wasn't nervous at all but then the people there made me feel very welcome.
Sex God
it is a good topic......
me personally.... if i am swinging in a club then i won't drink alcohol,, i have seen other people hammered in clubs (both male and female) and i just find it so unsexy to be in that position.... yes losing inhibitions is one thing but losing your dignity is something else...
i don't think i would ever want to be in a situation where i didn't remember what i did... anything could have happened and that is very dangerous......
sean xxxxxxxx
me personally.... if i am swinging in a club then i won't drink alcohol,, i have seen other people hammered in clubs (both male and female) and i just find it so unsexy to be in that position.... yes losing inhibitions is one thing but losing your dignity is something else...
i don't think i would ever want to be in a situation where i didn't remember what i did... anything could have happened and that is very dangerous......
sean xxxxxxxx
Sex God
I never drink in swingers clubs and would not even walk through the door if I had been drinking. I also won't go within 20 feet of anyone who appears drunk in a club. Not worth it. Intoxicated people cannot legally consent to sex. Nuff said.
Private parties - different matter entirely, I've well been known to get more than a bit wasted on Vodka jelly
:lol: :lol: :lol: ...... same rules apply though, I wouldn't swing in private with anyone who was obviously drunk.
Social events, again a different matter. I will drink but I know my limits so I will control it. I tend to space drink out and drink a lot of water in between. Not only is it safer, it saves a lot of money too! :lol:
Private parties - different matter entirely, I've well been known to get more than a bit wasted on Vodka jelly
:lol: :lol: :lol: ...... same rules apply though, I wouldn't swing in private with anyone who was obviously drunk. Social events, again a different matter. I will drink but I know my limits so I will control it. I tend to space drink out and drink a lot of water in between. Not only is it safer, it saves a lot of money too! :lol:
Orgasminator
I enjoy a drink ...or two as some people on here will know but that is at social gatherings and at munches a private meet or at a club i do have a couple of glasses of wine ( sipped slowly ) to put me at ease 
but i would,nt get drunk in a club
but that is at social gatherings and at munches a private meet or at a club i do have a couple of glasses of wine ( sipped slowly ) to put me at ease but i would,nt get drunk in a club I very rarely drink at all.....either in Public or Private......
Though I DO think that people shouldn't get so drunk that they don't know what they're doing as it can lead to major regrets in the morning......
I personally would not want to sleep with anyone who was too drunk as a) They might not be able to get it up
and b) Like Blue says, they can't consent to it.
Though I DO think that people shouldn't get so drunk that they don't know what they're doing as it can lead to major regrets in the morning......
I personally would not want to sleep with anyone who was too drunk as a) They might not be able to get it up
and b) Like Blue says, they can't consent to it. Its all about knowing when to stop. Getting rat arsed is deffinately not a good idea, but there is a fine line between being a little tipsey and being fully pissed. I know what an obnoxious sob I am when I'm off me face, but if I just have two or three pints, or one bottle of wine, I can be the life and soul!
Then there is another thing to consider, brewers droop! :shock:
Then there is another thing to consider, brewers droop! :shock:
Sexpert
I think it is far better to swing with a clear head. 
lets face it theres nothing worse than some drunken arse that cant stand up or talk. no matter where you are.
i myself would rather have some dutch courage. but surley any decent person would have the manners not to get arseholed.
even for those who can genuinly 'hold there ale' you've gotta be able to appreciate that you dont smell to hot to those who havent. :shock:
i myself would rather have some dutch courage. but surley any decent person would have the manners not to get arseholed.
even for those who can genuinly 'hold there ale' you've gotta be able to appreciate that you dont smell to hot to those who havent. :shock:
Sex God
first time at a b n b swing club was drunk ,first time anywhere so was very nervous the mrs a bit tight (always a first time lol) now just have a drink to kill the nerves still always get them ,mind you mrs n/e can take it or leave it ,when she takes it its taxi time lol but still never get so drunk where we are in a situation where a helping hand is needed, mind we have seen a situation where drink and swinging dont were in a club one night when we were talking to a couple who brought a single female (her lad did drop out at the last minute) any way she was really pissed the couple who she came with went to play and she ended upstairs and well there was a very big que ,afterwards we were sitting down stairs and we heard her crying ,i asked what was up her very words were " i am not a swinger i feel like i have been " can you imagine if the police were involved and you had to be interveiwed ,any the owner of the club got her calmed down filled with coffee and even payed for a taxi home ,so drink and swinging welll got its plus and minuses ,take enough to make yourself feel good
Sex God
Quote by fabio grooveridermy feelings exactly fabio :thumbup:
it is a good topic......
me personally.... if i am swinging in a club then i won't drink alcohol,, i have seen other people hammered in clubs (both male and female) and i just find it so unsexy to be in that position.... yes losing inhibitions is one thing but losing your dignity is something else...
i don't think i would ever want to be in a situation where i didn't remember what i did... anything could have happened and that is very dangerous......
sean xxxxxxxx
Our first visit to a club we got quite drunk...and couldnt remember much of the night before, it was all just nerves, we started drinking before we even left the hotel.....so now we still have a drink, but know when we have had enough, that way we dont forget all the fun we have had the night before
Sex God
For me, the right amount of alcohol is……Enough to lose the edge on my inhibitions, but not enough to lose them completely.
The idea of waking up hung-over and wondering what I have done sexually is abhorrent to me.
The idea that I might have played with someone who I don’t fancy is more than enough to make me want to stick to O.J.
I would never play with anyone who was not in a position to consent, partly due to the reasons blue gave, but also don’t like the idea of someone regretting playing with me the next morning.
The idea of waking up hung-over and wondering what I have done sexually is abhorrent to me.
The idea that I might have played with someone who I don’t fancy is more than enough to make me want to stick to O.J.
I would never play with anyone who was not in a position to consent, partly due to the reasons blue gave, but also don’t like the idea of someone regretting playing with me the next morning.
