Just told my best bet mate about my swinging lifestyle and just got cast out out big time!!!!!
Feel very alone right now!!!!!!!!!!!!! :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:
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Sex God
Rainobws,
The SH community is here for you, maybe your friend will see your point of view about your life style in a few days time.
The SH community is here for you, maybe your friend will see your point of view about your life style in a few days time.
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Just told my best bet mate about my swinging lifestyle and just got cast out out big time!!!!!
Feel very alone right now!!!!!!!!!!!!! :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:
Babe,
That happened to me at New Year !!!.......... told 6 friends......2 of them stopped speaking to me altogether........... of the other 4...........2 accept if but don't want to know about it and the other 2 are about to join the site !!!!
Each to their own !!
Come here and I'll give ya a hug. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Just told my best bet mate about my swinging lifestyle and just got cast out out big time!!!!!
Feel very alone right now!!!!!!!!!!!!! :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:
It's really sad that your friend has been so judgmental and has reacted that way, after all you're still the same person no matter what you choose to do with your life. Perhaps Sarah's right and they'll chill out after a couple of days, that's for them to decide.
Take care
:therethere:
Sex God
You may have felt alone at 4 o'clock this morning, Rainbows, but all your many friends in here were around somewhere...I saw them. I don't know your best mate, but it springs to mind that she wasn't much of a mate anyway, if that was all it takes to fall out with you. And like someone else said, give her a few days.
You've got loads of friends in here, even if you are the shy newbie
Mike.
You've got loads of friends in here, even if you are the shy newbie
Mike.
Sex God
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Not much comfort i know , but if your friend dropped you so quickly s/he wasnt really a friend anywayand you havnt lost much!!!
I agree. Probably doesn't make you feel any better though, just at this moment in time. :cry:
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Just told my best bet mate about my swinging lifestyle and just got cast out out big time!!!!!
Feel very alone right now!!!!!!!!!!!!! :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:
You are your own best friend for having the courage to be yourself and be honest about who you are.
It is the toughest thing to be, but also the most rewarding.
You also gave your friend a gift, the opportunity to see someone she loves and trusts being herself. You are a hell of a role model. If she can't see through her prejudices to that it is unfortunate for her, but maybe she will see that too eventually.
Now please allow me to offer you a hug (I need one too, so I'm not exactly being selfless
)Best wishes and good luck for the future,
Mark xx
Sex God
'Bows. 
:therethere:
She will either come round or not honey. Is this the lesbian thing too? Telling her youre actually bi or just about the swing?
I have been very selective about who I tell and who I don't. My best friend was shocked at first then calmed down and tried to convince me I will give it up eventually cos I need intimacy more than sex. She knows me so well, but then she and I have known each other for a long time and been through thick and thin. She came round to the idea of what I did eventually, maybe the shock was a bit much for her.
Hang on in there chick and if you need a chat I'm only a PM away!
Gem. x
:therethere:She will either come round or not honey. Is this the lesbian thing too? Telling her youre actually bi or just about the swing?
I have been very selective about who I tell and who I don't. My best friend was shocked at first then calmed down and tried to convince me I will give it up eventually cos I need intimacy more than sex. She knows me so well, but then she and I have known each other for a long time and been through thick and thin. She came round to the idea of what I did eventually, maybe the shock was a bit much for her.
Hang on in there chick and if you need a chat I'm only a PM away!
Gem. x
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Not much comfort i know , but if your friend dropped you so quickly s/he wasnt really a friend anywayand you havnt lost much!!!
I agree. Probably doesn't make you feel any better though, just at this moment in time. :cry:
What they said.
Sorry to hear That Rainbows.
Steve told his mate and we didnt see him for 6 weeks after
To be happy in life you must be true to yourself. It is so unfair when doing that means taking a risk, putting your faith in someone, and ending up in turmoil.
Want to come over and sit in the sun in the back garden? - I'll put my shorts on and you can laugh at my chicken legs.
<HUG>From Kat
<HUG> From Kit
lhk
Kit + Kat
Sex God
hey bows ,"dildo" here ,, sorry mate .given time you never know .xxxx
.given time you never know .xxxx 
Sex God
I've lost "friends" over things I've told them, but at the end of the day, as others have said, if s/he is a true friend s/he will come round and although s/he might never agree with what you are doing s/he won't hold it against you. Time will tell. I know it is no consolation to you now, that's what I'd take up Kat's offer of chicken legs if I were you
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: sorry to hear that Rainbows...I guess your friend's reaction is a typical one from people not involved in this kind of community. 'Normal' folks often feel threatened by swingers, as they think that we have rejected 'conventional' lifestyles in order to pursue something better, so they feel when we make such a confession that we're saying 'monogamy is boring' and they take it as a personal crticism of how they live. I found a similar situation after my divorce, my 'friends' were fine when I was unhappy and living in restricted circumstances, but once I'd got myself sorted and found fresh and new happiness, their attitudes towards me changed negatively.
Hope your friend comes to realise that you are not a different person or advocating swinging as suitable for everyone..or even worse going to try and nick her husband!!
:P :P :P
Hope your friend comes to realise that you are not a different person or advocating swinging as suitable for everyone..or even worse going to try and nick her husband!!
:P :P :P
sorry to here about your fall out with ya best friend but just to echo what most ppl are saying and that a true friend would not be judgemetal on what type of lifestyle u to say it looks like you have some real good friends in the swinging community so wheras its sad to lose a person you regarded as a good friend you have made many more friends in your time in sh. hopefully your friend will get her head round what you have told her but it may take a few days .wishing u all the best
.wishing u all the best 
Sex God
xxxx
Sex God
Rainbows - we are really sorry to hear your news. :therethere:
As many have said, a true friend ought to be more understanding, but perhaps it was just a bit of a shock fo him/her. Anyway, I admire your courage for telling them. Sappho and I never let on that we belong to this site, except to other members, of course. It is just something that we keep private. I think that non-swingers think that swingers have no morals at all when, in fact, it is just that they have a healthy and uninhibited attitude towards sex. There is a huge difference.
We have made some wonderful friends through this site. Really lovely, genuine people. You certainly don't need to feel lonely on here. You have plenty of friends here and we certainly understand. Feel free to PM either one of us if you want to chat.
Will and Sappho
As many have said, a true friend ought to be more understanding, but perhaps it was just a bit of a shock fo him/her. Anyway, I admire your courage for telling them. Sappho and I never let on that we belong to this site, except to other members, of course. It is just something that we keep private. I think that non-swingers think that swingers have no morals at all when, in fact, it is just that they have a healthy and uninhibited attitude towards sex. There is a huge difference.
We have made some wonderful friends through this site. Really lovely, genuine people. You certainly don't need to feel lonely on here. You have plenty of friends here and we certainly understand. Feel free to PM either one of us if you want to chat.
Will and Sappho
Warming the Bed
Ditto to what everybody else has said 
Be true to yourself and keep smiling
Big HUGS and KISSES :inlove: :happy: :inlove: :happy:
Be true to yourself and keep smiling
Big HUGS and KISSES :inlove: :happy: :inlove: :happy:
Sex God
Rainbows :therethere: :rose:
Love and hugs to you hun, its not nice is it, been through it myself....
:therethere: :rose: Love and hugs to you hun, its not nice is it, been through it myself....
Soz to hear about that Rainbow :cry: but as you see from all the replies you have loads of mates 
:D
I told my best mate, he thought it was cool, but then the prat told his missus and now hes not allowed out to play with me no more, apparently I'm a tart and a bad influence, how naive the woman is
Fashion x
:D I told my best mate, he thought it was cool, but then the prat told his missus and now hes not allowed out to play with me no more, apparently I'm a tart and a bad influence, how naive the woman is
Fashion x
awww....
*gives bows HUGE hugs*
Its horrible to keep a part of you under wraps and secret from you friends. We finally got round to mentioning to some of our mates and now we are really open aobut our life style with most of our friends and although some think we're weird, they kinda accepted it.
If they've backed off then it might be because its a bit too much to take in? But if they dont come round, then they obviously dont want to be your firend, they want to have a friend that they have a picture of in their head, not the actual person. You are lovely and there are people who recognise that....
Know its cold comfort for the short term, but in the long run it will work its self out.
If you need to chat, just PM us - although you know others on here much better than us... but still.. when we're in an upset mood, we winge to everyone who will listen...
*Hugs*
Mav and Sini
*gives bows HUGE hugs*
Its horrible to keep a part of you under wraps and secret from you friends. We finally got round to mentioning to some of our mates and now we are really open aobut our life style with most of our friends and although some think we're weird, they kinda accepted it.
If they've backed off then it might be because its a bit too much to take in? But if they dont come round, then they obviously dont want to be your firend, they want to have a friend that they have a picture of in their head, not the actual person. You are lovely and there are people who recognise that....
Know its cold comfort for the short term, but in the long run it will work its self out.
If you need to chat, just PM us - although you know others on here much better than us... but still.. when we're in an upset mood, we winge to everyone who will listen...
*Hugs*
Mav and Sini
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I dont want to hijack the thread....
but this is to Fashion...I'm assuming that your avatar is a pic of your good self...
but is that a syringe sticking out of your neck???
just wondering..
:lol: :lol: :lol: Sedating me was the only way they could keep me still and quite long enough to take the photie, then again it could be me necklace
Sex God
Oh Rainbows....come ere !!! It maybe a shock to her, and she may need time to mull things over. You know where me and the other half are if ever you wanna pop down. 
Oooh mind you !! :shock: like Bluexxx says take up chicken legs offer
that would surely give you a giggle.
It maybe a shock to her, and she may need time to mull things over. You know where me and the other half are if ever you wanna pop down. Oooh mind you !! :shock: like Bluexxx says take up chicken legs offer that would surely give you a giggle.
