not knowingly, but saying that a club or party environment does not give you the option of viewing a profile so its all on how we get along. same goes for age preferences on profiles and other preferences we place on our profile and those we read about on others. we have met with 1 half of a couple from the site but that has always been knowing that the other knows about what is going on or will be asap if it is a short notice meet. that is a trust issue that will tell and its only ever been after having previously chatting to both sides
I always ask about cheating, I can't bear it, makes my skin crawl; in a club you can't check, but you can use best judgement, I like to have a conversation first anyway.
Honesty is the biggest aphrodisiac out there, closely followed by intellect.
In the past i have met men who weren't single and were playing without their partners knowing and at the time i was too.
Im not bothered about the fact that they were cheating and i was too.
I wouldnt call it an affair though, just nsa fun.
However i wont meet them now simply because many of the guys i met who were cheating on their partners got found out and i had many phone calls from angry wives and some got so bad that i had to involve the police, so that's why i prefer not to meet men unles they are single now, less hassle and nothing to do with the fact they are cheating, what they do is up to them and vice versa.
We will not knowingly play with a couple or single person if we know they are cheating no matter how desirable they are and we do our best to check their status even at clubs, it is not fool-proof but there are signs both online and at clubs, we have a "if in doubt kick it out" policy which no doubt has sometimes precluded us from playing with people who were innocent of cheating but better that than break our moral code, yes swingers can still have morals, you all do.
We even extend this to not meeting people who admit to meeting others who cheat, judgemental ? perhaps but we see it as making our personal choice and following our own hearts, what they do is up to them but we don't want to be a part of it, that is up to us.
