I do not judge anyone by the color of their skin or where they were born or their accent. I generally judge people by their actions and what comes out of their mouth.
However I have never had sex with a black man (or any other ethnic group)
Am I racist without realising it?
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Am I racist?
I suspect only you can answer that question. Have you had many opportunities which you've declined?
I know we wouldn't think twice about swinging with people from other national/ethnic backgrounds, but the chance hasn't yet come up. So by that measure would we too be racist? Don't think so - just unlucky. ;-)
I know we wouldn't think twice about swinging with people from other national/ethnic backgrounds, but the chance hasn't yet come up. So by that measure would we too be racist? Don't think so - just unlucky. ;-)
Have you signed up to the equal opportunities for swingers deal or something? Heck no you're not being racist. Just because employers have quotas with regard to the number of ethnic and less able bodied people on their workforce doesn't mean that as a swinger you should adopt those rules too.
I say shag who you want to and stuff the daft quotas
:wink:
NB I have nothing against people of a different skin colour than my own or people who are differently abled than myself. My comments are not meant maliciously but please feel free to give me a gobful via pm if you think I'm out of order
I say shag who you want to and stuff the daft quotas
:wink: NB I have nothing against people of a different skin colour than my own or people who are differently abled than myself. My comments are not meant maliciously but please feel free to give me a gobful via pm if you think I'm out of order
Sex God
Quote by Abilene
I do not judge anyone by the color of their skin or where they were born or their accent. I generally judge people by their actions and what comes out of their mouth.
However I have never had sex with a black man (or any other ethnic group)
Am I racist without realising it?
well the first question that begs to be asked is have you found any that you have found attractive enough personally to want to play with..... If the answer is no, then why lower the standard you have already?
Me personally, I'd find it more of an insult if The reason someone was playing with me was just because I was Black, rather than because someone liked me and my personality (yes.. been there, done that and explained that to them as to why I wouldn't be doing it again)
can't think of a bigger and quicker turn off than feeling as if someone is doing me a favour by playing with me......and i am sure if the roles were reversed you'd feel the same...
sean xxxxxxxxx
Sex God
If you go down the road of worrying are you a racist because you have not had sex with a black man, then will you have to worry that you haven't had sex with people of a certain age, therefore your ageist? Of course not! Or someone of a certain body shape, therefore your bodyist (just made that up but feel free to use it 
) Again of course not!
John & Shel
) Again of course not!John & Shel
Quote by ForestFunsters
...... or Elton John.
:giggle:
Seriously though, to answer some of the questions above.
Yes, I have had offers from black guys and a few black girls.
Why did I turn them down?
Some on the basis of their profile. "Wanna great fuck" is no more charming no matter what color the person saying it is.
However, after sitting here and really doing some soul searching I do think I have turned some down based on not being attracted. Yet I don't know if it was looks or color that I wasn't attracted to. Does that make sense.
I am actually sitting here feeling rather sick in my stomach with the thought that I might be a closet racist. Yet how do you combat a feeling like this. I certainly wouldn't do what Sean talked about and go have sex 'because' of the color of skin. I am in a quandry. I am horrified at myself.
I pray that my honesty about myself and this subject has not angered anyone.
Quote by Abilene
...... or Elton John.
:giggle:
Seriously though, to answer some of the questions above.
Yes, I have had offers from black guys and a few black girls.
Why did I turn them down?
Some on the basis of their profile. "Wanna great fuck" is no more charming no matter what color the person saying it is.
However, after sitting here and really doing some soul searching I do think I have turned some down based on not being attracted. Yet I don't know if it was looks or color that I wasn't attracted to. Does that make sense.
I am actually sitting here feeling rather sick in my stomach with the thought that I might be a closet racist. Yet how do you combat a feeling like this. I certainly wouldn't do what Sean talked about and go have sex 'because' of the color of skin. I am in a quandry. I am horrified at myself.
I pray that my honesty about myself and this subject has not angered anyone.
sick to the stomach??.....i think your worrying too much about nothing!
My wife would only ever shag Denzil Washington...no other black guy does it for her...that doesn't make her racist.
Quote by Abilene
...... or Elton John.
I pray that my honesty about myself and this subject has not angered anyone.
It hasn't angered me - I can't answer for Mr John, but it was his own fault for "Don't go breaking my heart".
Seriously though, don't go beating yourself up about this - if you don't find a dark skin colour attractive (or whatever colour) and don't want to have sex with them on that basis, it's your body and your choice. Nobody here (I hope) would dispute that. We don't like piercings or really spotty people. Are we piercist or zittist??! :crazy:
Quote by Abilene
...... or Elton John.
:giggle:
Seriously though, to answer some of the questions above.
Yes, I have had offers from black guys and a few black girls.
Why did I turn them down?
Some on the basis of their profile. "Wanna great fuck" is no more charming no matter what color the person saying it is.
However, after sitting here and really doing some soul searching I do think I have turned some down based on not being attracted. Yet I don't know if it was looks or color that I wasn't attracted to. Does that make sense.
I am actually sitting here feeling rather sick in my stomach with the thought that I might be a closet racist. Yet how do you combat a feeling like this. I certainly wouldn't do what Sean talked about and go have sex 'because' of the color of skin. I am in a quandry. I am horrified at myself.
I pray that my honesty about myself and this subject has not angered anyone.
you hit the nail on the head hun, you werent attracted, it doesnt matter why, you just werent, i certainly wouldnt play with someone i wasnt attracted to for whatever reason, and certainly do not beat yourself up about it ffs.
there is absolutely no need
Ok, I just burst out laughing at an email at certain somebody just sent me. I just have to share a little part of it with you ....
"you're american right? you've shagged a brit right? (bloody hope so now I've said that) So you can't be racist ffs"
Fuck, that made me laugh.
Ok, so I may be reading too much into this as some of you have pointed out. Yes, 'sick to my stomach' may sound too harsh. Can't help how I feel right now though. I absolutley abhor racists and to think I may have turned down guys/girls based on skin color is something that bothers me. Yes, I know that I don't have an attraction to shorter guys and all the other things that someone just mentioned in email to me but this feels different.
Anyway, I shall deal with in typical Abi fashion. Where's the wine?
"you're american right? you've shagged a brit right? (bloody hope so now I've said that) So you can't be racist ffs"
Fuck, that made me laugh.
Ok, so I may be reading too much into this as some of you have pointed out. Yes, 'sick to my stomach' may sound too harsh. Can't help how I feel right now though. I absolutley abhor racists and to think I may have turned down guys/girls based on skin color is something that bothers me. Yes, I know that I don't have an attraction to shorter guys and all the other things that someone just mentioned in email to me but this feels different.
Anyway, I shall deal with in typical Abi fashion. Where's the wine?
Quote by Abilene
Ok, I just burst out laughing at an email at certain somebody just sent me. I just have to share a little part of it with you ....
"you're american right? you've shagged a brit right? (bloody hope so now I've said that) So you can't be racist ffs"
Fuck, that made me laugh.
Ok, so I may be reading too much into this as some of you have pointed out. Yes, 'sick to my stomach' may sound too harsh. Can't help how I feel right now though. I absolutley abhor racists and to think I may have turned down guys/girls based on skin color is something that bothers me. Yes, I know that I don't have an attraction to shorter guys and all the other things that someone just mentioned in email to me but this feels different.
Anyway, I shall deal with in typical Abi fashion. Where's the wine?
god i've missed you ya mad yank
Quote by Abilene
god i've missed you ya mad yank
Oi !!!! Are you being Yankist???
America was where you was born maybe....but we adopted you....so you're honorary British now. :giggle:
As for the subject itself...I've felt the same way as you....but I realised like many have said already - I haven't have sex with someone who is black because I didn't fancy them - not because of their colour. I mean if Jada Pinket Smith (will Smith's other half) or Beyoncé Knowles came a callin'.....
If you'd been in comunication with someone without knowing their race, liked them, fancied them - purley on personality, then met them and found you couldn't go through with it because of their race, then yes I'd say you were racist. But that hasn't happened. I think you'll find that is merely that the situation hasn't arisen yet that you met someone you fancied who also happened to be of a different colour skin to you.
Positive descrimination is still discrimination.
I hope this makes sense, it does in my head.
H.x
Positive descrimination is still discrimination.
I hope this makes sense, it does in my head.
H.x
Sex God
rac·ism /ˈreɪsɪzəm/ noun
1. a belief or doctrine that inherent differences among the various human races determine cultural or individual achievement, usually involving the idea that one's own race is superior and has the right to rule others.
2. a policy, system of government, etc., based upon or fostering such a doctrine; discrimination.
3. hatred or intolerance of another race or other races.
I dont see that under the definitions of racism you have a problem.
What i find is that i cannot help but notice people who are of a different colour. I have lived most of my life in a small provincial town where apparently 7 people in its 15,000 circa 1980/81 (who came up with that figure i dunno i just remember it from school) were Black. So, yes it was a case that those Black people stood out as did the few Asian folk.
I used to feel guilty and ashamed at the fact that i did notice differences. but hey thats crap innit. In the end i notice if someone is blind or in a wheelchair extremely overweight has noticeable mental health issues or the numerous other things that make us all who we are. I dare say if i was a black man in a small predominantly black populated town I would feel the same.
Previous to being married i had three black girlfriends 1 african and two west indian i always noticed the skin tone difference. I do however really like the dark skin tones of black women finding them incredibly sexy, Yet my wife is quite, if not very pale skinned and i still fancy her like hell.
Enjoy whatever you enjoy
"vive la Difference"
1. a belief or doctrine that inherent differences among the various human races determine cultural or individual achievement, usually involving the idea that one's own race is superior and has the right to rule others.
2. a policy, system of government, etc., based upon or fostering such a doctrine; discrimination.
3. hatred or intolerance of another race or other races.
I dont see that under the definitions of racism you have a problem.
What i find is that i cannot help but notice people who are of a different colour. I have lived most of my life in a small provincial town where apparently 7 people in its 15,000 circa 1980/81 (who came up with that figure i dunno i just remember it from school) were Black. So, yes it was a case that those Black people stood out as did the few Asian folk.
I used to feel guilty and ashamed at the fact that i did notice differences. but hey thats crap innit. In the end i notice if someone is blind or in a wheelchair extremely overweight has noticeable mental health issues or the numerous other things that make us all who we are. I dare say if i was a black man in a small predominantly black populated town I would feel the same.
Previous to being married i had three black girlfriends 1 african and two west indian i always noticed the skin tone difference. I do however really like the dark skin tones of black women finding them incredibly sexy, Yet my wife is quite, if not very pale skinned and i still fancy her like hell.
Enjoy whatever you enjoy
"vive la Difference"
Quote by Abilene
I do not judge anyone by the color of their skin or where they were born or their accent. I generally judge people by their actions and what comes out of their mouth.
However I have never had sex with a black man (or any other ethnic group)
Am I racist without realising it?
lol....... in that case am i racist too? :confused:
I've not been out or had sex with any asian/black/or any thats non english people.
if i am then, am i really cause im not english myself.
so where does that put me?
Sex God
Quote by Abilene
Seriously though, to answer some of the questions above.
Yes, I have had offers from black guys and a few black girls.
Why did I turn them down?
Some on the basis of their profile. "Wanna great fuck" is no more charming no matter what color the person saying it is.
However, after sitting here and really doing some soul searching I do think I have turned some down based on not being attracted. Yet I don't know if it was looks or color that I wasn't attracted to. Does that make sense.
I am actually sitting here feeling rather sick in my stomach with the thought that I might be a closet racist. Yet how do you combat a feeling like this. I certainly wouldn't do what Sean talked about and go have sex 'because' of the color of skin. I am in a quandry. I am horrified at myself.
I pray that my honesty about myself and this subject has not angered anyone.
Firstly, let me say 'wow, what a brave person you are' :thumbup:
secondly, in answer to your question, NO, you're not.
thirdly, "shouting" answer ur fekin messages :lol2:
Quote by Abilene
...... or Elton John.
:giggle:
Seriously though, to answer some of the questions above.
Yes, I have had offers from black guys and a few black girls.
Why did I turn them down?
Some on the basis of their profile. "Wanna great fuck" is no more charming no matter what color the person saying it is.
However, after sitting here and really doing some soul searching I do think I have turned some down based on not being attracted. Yet I don't know if it was looks or color that I wasn't attracted to. Does that make sense.
...Not attractive by your standards, that is a good enough reason. Stop knocking yourself.
Now if you said he is a really nice guy. Intelligent, humorous, charming, hansom and all the rest, but I would never fuck him, he is a Anglo-Saxon. Then I would think you Racist.
...and remember there are some who are not attracted to you, and if it is the colour of your eyes, so be it.
Quote by Abilene
I do not judge anyone by the color of their skin or where they were born or their accent. I generally judge people by their actions and what comes out of their mouth.
However I have never had sex with a black man (or any other ethnic group)
Am I racist without realising it?
I don't think so at all. I've never had sex with a guy who wasn't white but that doesn't make me a racist, it's just that I'm not sexually attracted to them. To me, it's a matter of personal choice.
there IS one guy who pushes all the right buttons though so this could change in the near future
Quote by fabio
Me personally, I'd find it more of an insult if The reason someone was playing with me was just because I was Black, rather than because someone liked me and my personality (yes.. been there, done that and explained that to them as to why I wouldn't be doing it again)
sean xxxxxxxxx
:shock: There are people out there that would do that? How low will people go? I've swung with a black man before but only because I actually liked him, he made me laugh (oh and come
) but all this because he was a nice guy not because of the colour of his skin or the size of his tadger! Quote by Abilene
I do not judge anyone by the color of their skin or where they were born or their accent. I generally judge people by their actions and what comes out of their mouth.
However I have never had sex with a black man (or any other ethnic group)
Am I racist without realising it?
in this country somebody will probably construe that as racisim by denial or some such thing
Sex God
Quote by Sassy-Seren
I do not judge anyone by the color of their skin or where they were born or their accent. I generally judge people by their actions and what comes out of their mouth.
However I have never had sex with a black man (or any other ethnic group)
Am I racist without realising it?
I don't think so at all. I've never had sex with a guy who wasn't white but that doesn't make me a racist, it's just that I'm not sexually attracted to them. To me, it's a matter of personal choice.
there IS one guy who pushes all the right buttons though so this could change in the near future
Sassy fancies PantherMan, Sassy fancies PantherMan :giggle: :giggle: :giggle:
