From what I read on here and on other sites, it seems that all men want is a shag.
Sometimes it's in a loving relationship, some times in a 'swapping' situation, and on some sites it's just to achieve 'notches on the bed post'. But the aim is typically just to 'get their end away'.
But for me, intercourse is not essential. Don't get me wrong it's great, and 'if' it happens in a session, it can happen later; after a lot more other fun has taken place.
I'm sure the common quote that 'foreplay is under-rated' is not really true, and most everyone enjoys it. But for me, I think that sure be the major part of a session.
A lovely evening might start with a meal out, flirtive conversation across the table. A kiss of the neck, a brush of the leg. Nothing too overt, but all suggestive of what might happen later in the evening.
And then later.....kisses and cuddles....a slow strip...
I love slowly exploring a woman's body. Kissing and caressing her all over. Seeking out those sensitive places that illicit a little groan of pleasure.
I love seeing a woman getting turned on, and feeling her getting turns on, and hearing he getting turned on.
I absolutely adore giving oral and hence tasting her as she gets turned on.
Am happy for her to lie back and just enjoy the attention.
It turns ME on to turn the woman on, so I devote all my attention to that.
I love seeing a feeling a woman orgasm. I don't need to be fucking her at the time. I love bringing her to orgasm with my fingers, as I watch and feel and hear her enjoying the attention. Perhaps licking her as she cums.
What about others?
I first joined this site AGES ago, but stopped coming on here as I didn't think I was suited to it. From what I've seen the ads are full of men (usually single) who are just desperate for a shag. I am not. I am looking for intimacy, erotica, fun.
I've had a few meetings in the past with women who enjoyed the same things as me. Sessions would last all evening and through the night (with rests, of course). They might cum many times, and I might cum once or twice - which is fine by me. I love the feeling of being turned on right up to the point of orgasm.
But finding these women is so difficult :-( Most women understand that most men are after a quick shag, and would assume I am just another of these. I could put an ad up explaining what I like, but again these still look like a man who will put anything in an ad to get a woman, and 'then' have a shag....lol...
Oh well...enough of me blathering on, and on.....lol..
I thought I'd come back to the site and see what's changed. Perhaps chat to a few people and see what they are looking for. Perhaps I am looking in the wrong place, or the wrong way. Perhaps this site isn't for me after all.
Feel free to reply with comments/views....
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Casanova
Speaking from a very similar position myself I must say I believe there is space for everyone here 
So good luck this time round.
What you describe is the prevalent social stereotype regarding male sexual behaviour. But I think very few men are actually like this, and I even know a few that are oppressed by it. Still, most single men's profiles here seem to champion it even when they are not like that at all - perhaps they believe this is what is expected of them? And I have certainly heard complains from other men that their more sensual/sensuous approach to sex is not so popular on here... though I don't believe this to be true. I think it is the same problem for everyone (just not enough single women to go round!).
So good luck this time round.What you describe is the prevalent social stereotype regarding male sexual behaviour. But I think very few men are actually like this, and I even know a few that are oppressed by it. Still, most single men's profiles here seem to champion it even when they are not like that at all - perhaps they believe this is what is expected of them? And I have certainly heard complains from other men that their more sensual/sensuous approach to sex is not so popular on here... though I don't believe this to be true. I think it is the same problem for everyone (just not enough single women to go round!).
Sex God
Don't think your the only one that thinks that way really. Given the time then I would think that most people would enjoy doing the stuff you like to do but unfortunately busy lives can get in the way of it. As swinging is 'extra curricular' for a lot of people its just not feasible. But hey the stuff you elude to can be and is condensed and there is still flirting and foreplay its just not done on the courting scale.
There are also times when an impromptu meet with one idea in mind, to get your rocks off, is just the ticket or other times when being in the company of others at a swinging party is whats called for. Think it all goes to make a fun and varied swinging time for us at least. All horses for courses i guess.
In your post you just talk about what you do or like to do with a woman as if she is on her own. Your profile says you look for couples as well so how do you go about doing stuff with a couple and there's another guy present? I've been and seen a few MMF's but as yet have not really experienced an intimate gentle cuddling type of spit roast or double BJ. Would it be different for you in a MMF scenario?
There are also times when an impromptu meet with one idea in mind, to get your rocks off, is just the ticket or other times when being in the company of others at a swinging party is whats called for. Think it all goes to make a fun and varied swinging time for us at least. All horses for courses i guess.
In your post you just talk about what you do or like to do with a woman as if she is on her own. Your profile says you look for couples as well so how do you go about doing stuff with a couple and there's another guy present? I've been and seen a few MMF's but as yet have not really experienced an intimate gentle cuddling type of spit roast or double BJ. Would it be different for you in a MMF scenario?
Sex God
Don't get hung up by stereotypes. It's a big world out there.
Not into the quick fuck, or the long fuck you describe (which would bore me to sleep).
Variety is the spice of life. Don't put people in boxes.
Unless they have a fetish for enclosed spaces.
Hehehehehehe
Not into the quick fuck, or the long fuck you describe (which would bore me to sleep).
Variety is the spice of life. Don't put people in boxes.
Unless they have a fetish for enclosed spaces.
Hehehehehehe
Orgasminator
Quote by don9999
From what I read on here and on other sites, it seems that all men want is a shag.
That's a bit of sweeping statement, while it may apply to a lot of guys its certainly not all.
I am definitely here for some no strings fun, but its always mutual fun I'm after and so are many guys.
I'm guessing you have not had much response due to lack of involvement, your profile has less than 300 views since 2004. You have no live adverts, only 25 forum posts, pictures, videos or anything to make you stand out in your profile text.
I would suggest you put in some more effort, there are all sorts of ladies and couples on here, many of who are worth finding ;)
If you are going to advertise for 'dates with the possibility of more' you may be better off elsewhere, but who knows....
Most of the girls and couples I have met from here have been quite direct about wanting a fuck out the occasion :rascal:
good luck
Hi,
I would agree with Don. The male cumming however/wherever is not the B-all and end all for many, myself included. Whether you are in a 1 to 1, 4some or whatever there is a great amount of pleasure to be gained for the guy who is reasonably skilled with tongue and fingers. From times gone by it has been extremely satisfying to bring the lady very close to climax over a period of an hour or more and then stop at the crucial moment before for a few seconds. The next time her tension will mount further. It's not a controlling thing but purely giving pleasure. Often in the past the lady has begged me to continue with tounge and fingers with endearments of "don't stop you bastard!!!!!!"
And on several occasions the lady in question has ejaculated, perhaps for the first time.
The joy in seeing that you have achieved that for someone cannot be described.
There is another issue here as well and that it removes the pressure from the guy to perform like some stud, particularly if the equipment is a bit undersized or does not work as well as would be wished.
Smooth1
I would agree with Don. The male cumming however/wherever is not the B-all and end all for many, myself included. Whether you are in a 1 to 1, 4some or whatever there is a great amount of pleasure to be gained for the guy who is reasonably skilled with tongue and fingers. From times gone by it has been extremely satisfying to bring the lady very close to climax over a period of an hour or more and then stop at the crucial moment before for a few seconds. The next time her tension will mount further. It's not a controlling thing but purely giving pleasure. Often in the past the lady has begged me to continue with tounge and fingers with endearments of "don't stop you bastard!!!!!!"
And on several occasions the lady in question has ejaculated, perhaps for the first time.
The joy in seeing that you have achieved that for someone cannot be described.
There is another issue here as well and that it removes the pressure from the guy to perform like some stud, particularly if the equipment is a bit undersized or does not work as well as would be wished.
Smooth1
Oooo, I'm sure they are members here that fit your bill perfectly.
I'm always fascinated seeing adverts/profiles that state *no kissing* was nice to see one last week that said *if you don't kiss I don't meet*
I couldn't have sex with anyone without a good snog.
Still - its peoples preference/choices and nothing wrong with that.
Pop in the Bristol chat room and get to know the local members. Ya never know :-)
Good luck
Anais
I'm always fascinated seeing adverts/profiles that state *no kissing* was nice to see one last week that said *if you don't kiss I don't meet*
I couldn't have sex with anyone without a good snog. Still - its peoples preference/choices and nothing wrong with that.
Pop in the Bristol chat room and get to know the local members. Ya never know :-)
Good luck
Anais
Sex God
I would take all of the original post and draw a ring round it as sex, minus the wine and dine stuff as people dont always have time for that in meet situations. Though I do agree quite often in meet situations it is all dick in as quick as possible. Its part of the reason that we have stopped doing meets with other couples at the moment and prefer to attend clubs/partys as an alternative. You can socialse at a club or party and get all of the above then choose to progress if you wish.
I didn't realise there where people that sat and monitored peoples time spent on here or indeed the number of forum posts!
' That's a bit of sweeping statement, while it may apply to a lot of guys its certainly not all.
I am definitely here for some no strings fun, but its always mutual fun I'm after and so are many guys.
I'm guessing you have not had much response due to lack of involvement, your profile has less than 300 views since 2004. You have no live adverts, only 25 forum posts, pictures, videos or anything to make you stand out in your profile text.
I would suggest you put in some more effort, there are all sorts of ladies and couples on here, many of who are worth finding
If you are going to advertise for 'dates with the possibility of more' you may be better off elsewhere, but who knows....'
I think the original post was valid and deserved merit, but then I guess as it appears it all boils down to numbers you've notched up below your avatar, quantity not quality huh!
' That's a bit of sweeping statement, while it may apply to a lot of guys its certainly not all.
I am definitely here for some no strings fun, but its always mutual fun I'm after and so are many guys.
I'm guessing you have not had much response due to lack of involvement, your profile has less than 300 views since 2004. You have no live adverts, only 25 forum posts, pictures, videos or anything to make you stand out in your profile text.
I would suggest you put in some more effort, there are all sorts of ladies and couples on here, many of who are worth finding
If you are going to advertise for 'dates with the possibility of more' you may be better off elsewhere, but who knows....'
I think the original post was valid and deserved merit, but then I guess as it appears it all boils down to numbers you've notched up below your avatar, quantity not quality huh!
well that post has certainly managed to put up some interesting viewpoints! To be able to sit and check how many views, posts etc. a member has put up seems to me to indicate something anyway. Perhaps a lack of a life? On the other hand it could be that the responder has really thought about the subject!
My view, and I'm also one of those that doesn't get that involved so don't have the numeric involvement, is that the original poster is round the bend! It's a well put forward view, nicely put in all ways. Hard really to find fault with the way the piece is written.
There's one issue with it though that I find hard to agree with. It's just wrong.
My view, and I'm also one of those that doesn't get that involved so don't have the numeric involvement, is that the original poster is round the bend! It's a well put forward view, nicely put in all ways. Hard really to find fault with the way the piece is written.
There's one issue with it though that I find hard to agree with. It's just wrong.
A lovely evening might start with a meal out, flirtive conversation across the table. A kiss of the neck, a brush of the leg. Nothing too overt, but all suggestive of what might happen later in the evening.
What will happen later will be to..... Crash out in bed for a good sleep and let the food go down. Sex on a full stomach is never a good idea.... lol
What will happen later will be to..... Crash out in bed for a good sleep and let the food go down. Sex on a full stomach is never a good idea.... lol
