ok here goes
I have screwed up big time here on the forums, I have allowed my personal feelings to wildly affect ,y behaviour to the end that I am almost hounding people who post threads that look as though they are playing away from home. I have upset a few people by this action, to those especially I offer this apology.
I never intended to cause anybody any insult, yes I did target those people who appeared to be playing awayy from home, and yes it was wrong and something that if I am allowed to remain a member of this site, I will do my dammdest not to repeat.
I know that being a newbie here probably I should have kept my mouth shut, but I always believe the way to let people get to know you was to talk and take part in talks, or in this case in threads. I would like to think that the vast majority of my post were in no way offensive to anybody, but I accept that those cheat posts should not have been made.
Thats why I am here now, to make this apolgy ,
Thank you for taking the time to read this
Kris
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An apology to all Mods and members of Swinging Heaven
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Sex God
Well I don't know what you're referring to but, yes, it's best to avoid contention, especially when you're not yet very well known yet.
It's not always easy to stand up and apologise but I'm sure you'll be forgiven.
Take it easy and ease yourself in gently.
Have a good day!
:smackbottom: :twisted:
It's not always easy to stand up and apologise but I'm sure you'll be forgiven.
Take it easy and ease yourself in gently.
Have a good day!
:smackbottom: :twisted: 
Sex God
Quote by kristof
I know that being a newbie here probably I should have kept my mouth shut, but I always believe the way to let people get to know you was to talk and take part in talks, or in this case in threads.
Thats why I am here now, to make this apolgy ,
Thank you for taking the time to read this
Kris
On the contrary, being a newbie, the more you join in and talk, the better we will get to know you.
However, as you pointed out, lecturing other newbies is not constructive and will only drive them away and probably to other sites where they will slag off SH and tell everyone what a crap site it is
I'm sure you meant no personal insult by your posts on the various *cheat* threads, but since these guys have not yet joined our happy band, we have no idea of their personalities, lifestyles etc and won't get the chance to find out now once they have left the site
Thank you for apologising. That in itself says more about you than your *constructive critisism*
Tracy-Jayne
Kristoff, it was good of you to apologise, but as Sarge said, you certainly haven`t been the only one. No doubt you won`t be the last. However in such a social environment I at least recognise how difficult it is NOT to bounce off of the same people again and again, especially when you are new and trying to find your niche, if these people have adopted a bandwagon posting style, then it`s all too easily adopted. There are longer term members here who should know much better. I myself have said my piece on many of the topics Neil raised on that thread, most probably more than once. I just hope to god I haven`t made a hobby of it. This time I don`t feel the need to apologise, because my intentions and approaches were always offered with an independant and balanced sentiment (I hope). I have also tried to inject enough humour and irony to put a point across in a manner which wouldn`t provoke a road accident. A sentiment not appreciated here it seems. People just love rubber-necking.
Although I`m certainly not accusing Sarge of this, because I know him well enough that NOONE is immune for his point of view, somebody somewhere would have probably used you as an example....ironically because you are a newbie, and therefore fair game above all others.
I just think it`s a damn shame it is you who is doing the apologising here.
Venusxxx
Although I`m certainly not accusing Sarge of this, because I know him well enough that NOONE is immune for his point of view, somebody somewhere would have probably used you as an example....ironically because you are a newbie, and therefore fair game above all others.
I just think it`s a damn shame it is you who is doing the apologising here.
Venusxxx
Sex God
There's nothing wrong with giving your twopennyworth when someone here is obviously out after doing something you disapprove of - I have often chipped in with similar comments, but it is usually best to keep it somewhat low-key. Also it is sometimes possible to read between the lines and tell whether someone welcomes comments or not, some actually invite comments, maybe in a subtle way, others definitely don't.
I take my hat off to you for coming forward in such an honest and sensible way Kristof.
Mike
I take my hat off to you for coming forward in such an honest and sensible way Kristof.
Mike
Sex God
Hope you don't mind kristof but I'm doing a blatant hijack of your thread just to say..............................
If I've ever offended anyone on here then I'm not apologising. In fact, if I have then they probably deserved it so they can go jump in the big lake out the front!!
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Hijack over! :twisted:
If I've ever offended anyone on here then I'm not apologising. In fact, if I have then they probably deserved it so they can go jump in the big lake out the front!!
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Hijack over!
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Sex God
I too have an public apology to make to Hagrid.
On his first thread I flew at him hammer and tong about not wanting to play with married folk. I started off a contentious and heated debate through my temper fueled explosion which actually had very little to do with the content of his post and more to do with my personal mood at the time. I then left everyone else to battle it out in public forum while I PMed Hagrid and offered an olive branch, which he graciously accepted.
Apologies to all the married folk I upset with that particular flame of mine and as Neil has quite rightly said, I have been around long enough to know better.
Gem. x
I feel at this point I will add my own points to this thread. I have aired my own opinion on a few of the cheating threads.
Although Im not sorry for my own personal opinion (this site has a wonderful variety of opinions, so from time to time people will clash), I am sorry for railroading new members to this site with my own views. Its not fair and not a very good impression. As I said Im not sorry for my opinions, but from now on I will not post on these threads and keep my opinions to myself. It is not my place to openly judge these people, as mentioned numerous times we have no idea of their lives, personalities or personal situations.
Everyone here is fantastic and its this colourful mix of people that makes SH what it is.
To anyone I have offended, please accept this as a personal apology
Ruth
Although Im not sorry for my own personal opinion (this site has a wonderful variety of opinions, so from time to time people will clash), I am sorry for railroading new members to this site with my own views. Its not fair and not a very good impression. As I said Im not sorry for my opinions, but from now on I will not post on these threads and keep my opinions to myself. It is not my place to openly judge these people, as mentioned numerous times we have no idea of their lives, personalities or personal situations.
Everyone here is fantastic and its this colourful mix of people that makes SH what it is.
To anyone I have offended, please accept this as a personal apology
Ruth
Sex God
Nope someone else who hasn't a clue what your on about, but who will be scrolling around trying to search it out...
I am offended today
I am not offended today
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I am not offended today
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:shock: fuck it!
it's come out as being offended :kick: take that in yer nuts .....had a lovely day until I came on here and found out that I'm gonna be offended later and it's your bloody fault :x in fact :kick: have another for putting me through the trouble of finding the thing that's gonna offend me!
I am offended today
I am not offended today
I am offended today
I am not offended today
I am offended today
I am not offended today
I am offended today
:shock: fuck it!
it's come out as being offended :kick: take that in yer nuts .....had a lovely day until I came on here and found out that I'm gonna be offended later and it's your bloody fault :x in fact :kick: have another for putting me through the trouble of finding the thing that's gonna offend me! Quote by davej
Nope someone else who hasn't a clue what your on about, but who will be scrolling around trying to search it out...
Try here:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/34801.html
Sex God
Quote by northwest-cpl
Nope someone else who hasn't a clue what your on about, but who will be scrolling around trying to search it out...
Try here:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/34801.html
northwest-cpl thankyou for the link, you've clearly heard that I'm a lazy fuckwit that couldn't find a thread unless it was clearly labelled.
My curiousity has been quenched and I am satisfied that the swift kick to the nuts that I administered to Kristof was justified, firstly on the grounds that leaving a thread alone if you don't like it is the best way to go and secondly that our cat 'Steven' will not now get the size nine, well polished, expensive, Jeffrey West, left shoe, up her arse tonight as my frustrations are now vented.
Quote by davej
and secondly that our cat 'Steven' will not now get the size nine, well polished, expensive, Jeffrey West, left shoe, up her arse tonight as my frustrations are now vented.
Glad to have been of help ... polishing a shoe after it's been removed from a cat's arse is never a pleasant job.
:lol: :lol: Wow not sure what I think about this thread or the one in lets meet up but I am going to comment as I am not a newbie (been here a year today :shock: ).
There have loads of threads where people have said what they think and I for one DO have a problem with married people (men or women) or people in a long term relationship cheating and I will be honest and say it and NOT apologise for my view. It does not stop me talking to anyone who is married but it will always be an issue to me as I have my personal morals and values that I want to stand by. I would only comment on it if the person who starts the thread in the cafe asks for opinions however and I think that is what threads are there for - a wide range of opinions. I hope that open and honest debates will continue and SH doesnt get into double standards.
The Lets Meet Up Section I personally feel is different and I leave it to mods to make judgements on acceptability. I am not going to go in and give my view in there as its not my business and individual men and women and couples will make their own decisions as to whether they will respond to the thread in LMU.
Corrie
There have loads of threads where people have said what they think and I for one DO have a problem with married people (men or women) or people in a long term relationship cheating and I will be honest and say it and NOT apologise for my view. It does not stop me talking to anyone who is married but it will always be an issue to me as I have my personal morals and values that I want to stand by. I would only comment on it if the person who starts the thread in the cafe asks for opinions however and I think that is what threads are there for - a wide range of opinions. I hope that open and honest debates will continue and SH doesnt get into double standards.
The Lets Meet Up Section I personally feel is different and I leave it to mods to make judgements on acceptability. I am not going to go in and give my view in there as its not my business and individual men and women and couples will make their own decisions as to whether they will respond to the thread in LMU.
Corrie
Sex God
oh hell . . .
i think i should apologise too. i genuinely wasn't having a go at anyone in particular, though i know full well that responding to posts kinda makes it personal. it was general comment to what i see as a general trend, and i'm sorry it was a bit strong, and no doubt read as personal comment!
kristof, PB, apologies cos i wasn't offended at you per se, or having a particular dig.
so much more reasonable and succinct than my little rant!
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n x x x ;)
i think i should apologise too. i genuinely wasn't having a go at anyone in particular, though i know full well that responding to posts kinda makes it personal. it was general comment to what i see as a general trend, and i'm sorry it was a bit strong, and no doubt read as personal comment!
kristof, PB, apologies cos i wasn't offended at you per se, or having a particular dig.The Lets Meet Up Section I personally feel is different and I leave it to mods to make judgements on acceptability. I am not going to go in and give my view in there as its not my business and individual men and women and couples will make their own decisions as to whether they will respond to the thread in LMU.
so much more reasonable and succinct than my little rant!
ops:n x x x ;)
Sex God
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Neil! You are a big girl`s blouse.
Venusxxx
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Sex God
Still haven't got any intention to apologise to anyone about anything.
If anyone wants an apology go jump in the lake ok?
:whistling: :whistling:
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If anyone wants an apology go jump in the lake ok?
:whistling: :whistling: :twisted: :twisted:
I have seen a few examples where you and some others had appeared to carry out a well rehearsed exercise in framing and pinning down some peeps, expecially the newbies. It looked a bit nasty and vindictive. And also very easy to do, judging by the slick execution of the work.
However I think you have shown excellent good judgement in arriving at your new enlightenment. Well done, and thanks for showing us other sides of your character.
However I think you have shown excellent good judgement in arriving at your new enlightenment. Well done, and thanks for showing us other sides of your character.
Quote by duncanlondon
I have seen a few examples where you and some others had appeared to carry out a well rehearsed exercise in framing and pinning down some peeps, expecially the newbies. It looked a bit nasty and vindictive. And also very easy to do, judging by the slick execution of the work.
You make it sound like this is/was a rehearsed and planned attack.
I have never been party to anything planned like this and am amazed to think it happens.
Quote by duncanlondon
I have seen a few examples where you and some others had appeared to carry out a well rehearsed exercise in framing and pinning down some peeps, expecially the newbies. It looked a bit nasty and vindictive. And also very easy to do, judging by the slick execution of the work.
However I think you have shown excellent good judgement in arriving at your new enlightenment. Well done, and thanks for showing us other sides of your character.
I agree with Vix on this - I don't believe it's planned in anyway - even though I'm one of the offended!!
However, I can see why you'd think that the "pitchfork and firebrand" attacks might seem that way at times. Judge not lest yea be judged seems appropriate right now....
Sex God
Quote by Vix
I have seen a few examples where you and some others had appeared to carry out a well rehearsed exercise in framing and pinning down some peeps, expecially the newbies. It looked a bit nasty and vindictive. And also very easy to do, judging by the slick execution of the work.
You make it sound like this is/was a rehearsed and planned attack.
I have never been party to anything planned like this and am amazed to think it happens.
He didn't say planned. But it has happened so many times that it can easily be described as well rehearsed.
Most of 'em deserve it for being a pillock but I feel sorry for some.
