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I’ve just managed to get myself into an awkward situation…….. rolleyes
After a bit of chit-chat the conversation this morning between me and my soon to be ex wife (we’re still friends but have been separated for a while and we’re at the stage between decree nisi and decree absolute) went something like this:
Her: “I see you’ve got another girlfriend?”
Me: “Have I?”
Her: “I was at Lynne’s (her friend across the road) and saw the car parked outside”
Me: Errrm “That was a friend’s car”
Her: “You’re having more luck than me, that’s the third friend you’ve had recently”
Me: Errrm “They’re just the boyfriend situation?”
Her: “There is no boyfriend……..where do you meet these friends?”
Me: Errrm “On an internet site”
Her: “What kind of internet site?”
Me: “Just an internet site”
Her: “What kind of internet site?”
Me: Errrm “You know, an internet site”
Her: “No I don’t know, what kind of site?”
Me: “Ok, ok, a swingers site”
Her: Errrm “Swingers?”
Me: “I’ve made some good friends on there”
Her: “And you think I want to do that?”
Me: “I never said that, that would be up to you”
Her: “I don’t think so!”
Me: “I never suggested that you did”
Her: *scowl
Me: “Give me your home e-mail address”
Her: “Why?” *writing down e-mail address
Me: “I’ll send you an e-mail”
Her: “Why?”
Me: “I’ll see you later” *picks up e-mail address and departs.

The cat is out of the bag! Now what do I do? confused
Do I really want an exmrssteveg_nw perusing everything I’ve written or shall I send her a link to the wrong site? Should I just pretend it never happened?
NogoodatlyingSteve
rotflmao :rotflmao:
Just don't give her THIS address... tell her you lied (!) and give her another address.
Sorry if this isn't helpful but it's hard to type or think from lying on the floor and wiping the tears away at the same time.
kiss
Give her Local Swingers, Steve. The chatroom there is really duff. She'll never get any info because there isn't a forum.
love Sappho xxx
Oh christ Steve! Hugs!
I agree with Jags.
If she gets on here - she could make your life hell.
I'd also delete that posting!! - If she stumbled on the site by accident and came across it -there would be no doubt which site it was.
And the search engines bring this site up quite near the top of the list - so be careful!
If she does cotton on - get Mark to delete your user (et al) and re-register.
Whatever happens - at least you know your friends are still here.
Big Hugs
Alex x x
Quote by Alex
If she gets on here - she could make your life hell.

Don't get the wrong idea......that wouldn't happen. We're still friends but we've been separated for a long time and the divorce is being done through the court by mutual consent.....no solicitors or bitterness involved.
The awkward situation is do I want her to discover the new me or not. confused
Steve (trying to take foot out of mouth)
Ahhh OK - sorry i jumped to the wrong conclusion.
I suppose it would depend if you felt you could be yourself if she was also online!
Alex x x
What's Lynne like Steve? wink
steve
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WYSIWSG

What you see is what steve_1 got??
Steve
Typo! wink
I thought it was a typo too..
made me smile now.
steve
Eeeek! That is a bit tricky! :eeek:
I have to say that everyone else is right though. Point her somewhere else. You are an established character here and it would be awful if she cramped your style. Though if she gets on here by mistake methinks she might recognise this thread!
I hope it sorts itself out.
I still think - no matter how amicable the split was - you would be wise not to have her watching over your shoulder.
It would be unreasonable of you to expect that she wouldn't check what you have been up to - just out of natural curiosity. And do you really want that?
Hugs,
Alex x x
Got to agree with everyone else here, Steve. You've built up an excellent reputation on this site and some things, no matter how amicable your split, have to be kept to yourself.
Good luck in everything sorting itself out.
James
Hi Steve,
Think that this could be your ultimate nightmare (or not, depends on your outlook!).
The only thing I would say about this site is that it is one of the places where you can be yourself, or can pretend to be who you want to be. If someone who knows you well was on here, would you be so happy to express your opinions and thoughts? I do not go around telling people that I am a swinger (I'm not embarrassed, but can you imagine the derision from your workmates etc?), but on here I can say that without feeling awkward!
confused
Also, picture the scene, you go to a swinging club, and find that she is there to try and get one over on you. What would you do, leave or join in???! :shock:
Chris
Steve,
Want to join me and Fred in the GFZ for the week??
You are friends at the moment, and it sounds like you want to stay that way. What is that old chestnut "Oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive"
What about the truth. You are on a swingers site (can't get out of that bit now). It is something you do because you feel good about it, however, it is private, it is personal, is part of your new life, and you would prefer Lynne not to ask about it, or be involved in.
I can't think of ANYTHING you have written that you need to hide, you can be proud of the way people in here view you.
lhk
Kat
Kat
I don't think he NEEDS to hide anything either. Just whether he feels he could be himself if his ex was here too! Not everyone is in the same fortunate position as you two are. In fact far less than you think may be!
I like Steve just as he is, and would hate for him to feel uncomfortable here.
Love,
Alex
Hi Steve, hi everyone,
Always going to be a difficult one - how much to reveal and how much to hide. It would be nice to think we could all be honest and discuss everything freely, but its not like that, is it? Wait till you have teenage kids who keep interrogating you. I'm no good at lying either, but you have to draw the line somewhere short of full disclosure.
Actually, Steve, re-reading your transcript and what you say about the current relations with the ex, I wonder if we are not focussing on the wrong problem. Her turning up and harassing you sounds unlikely. More worrying is that she tells someone else and they tell someone else, and so on...
This is where it makes a big difference what sort of work and other social life you both lead and whether you live in a big city or a small village.
Not sure what to suggest, except calling her and saying that the info was of course given in confidence and you're sure she'll respect that.
Red Baron
Her turning up and harassing you sounds unlikely. More worrying is that she tells someone else

Wise words from the Baron, particularly in his advice to ask your ex-wife to keep the information in confidence.
Sappho xxx
Wow.....this is all getting a bit heavy. :shock:
I'm not going anywhere and I'm not going to change.....WYSIWYG with me. Besides.....I'm only passing through.... biggrin
I don't think she's going to tell anybody and we're certainly not going to fall out over it. We lead separate lives now (well, almost).
Having had time to think about it and also taking into account the comments made so far I think I'll leave the next move to her. If she asks me about it I'll give her the link and if she doesn't then obviously I won't.
Steve
.......still looking for a new squaw! biggrin
Steve
kiss
Good luck - you deserve it.
Did I see those famous bum cheeks puckering????? lol :lol: :lol:
If in doubt......do nothing !!!! rolleyes
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.......still looking for a new squaw!

You called :haha:
Only if I can be a chief as well missy........def not looking for a domme squaw! :shock:
Steve
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domme squaw!

Had to do a double take there :shock:
Should put that in the SH dictionary. The SH version of the proverbial blonde! lol :lol:
Hi all, Slim. I agree with you and the sarge sit tight, well not too tight and let it come to you. As you say your just passing thru.
Slow thinking there SteveG_NW, not like you at all. You should have said it was one of your bosses with some extra work for the weekend. lol
Harry0
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She knows all the bosses and their cars Harry, we work at the same place.......I see her nearly every day. :shock:
Steve
steveg_nw Wrote:-
She knows all the bosses and their cars Harry, we work at the same place.......I see her nearly every day.

Well you could have said it was me. lol
Harry0
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