It's not fair!!!!
:cry: :cry: Consequently, it's a very, very touchy subject with me and that's why I got mad and split it from my thread. :smug:
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Anal sex... painful?
A word of caution for those men that like to keep themselves well trimmed .
As most have said anal is enjoyable but very much when the mood is right unfortunatly after a bottle of wine or to my other half decided it was they way to go but hadent thought of the stuble
lef ther uncomfortable for a good few days mind hasnt put her off and would def recommend the use of a battery appliance at the same time :shock:
Pete
As most have said anal is enjoyable but very much when the mood is right unfortunatly after a bottle of wine or to my other half decided it was they way to go but hadent thought of the stuble
lef ther uncomfortable for a good few days mind hasnt put her off and would def recommend the use of a battery appliance at the same time :shock: Pete
Ah i love it, but i have to hav alot of foreplay 1st, then of course the all essential lube!
its a case of take ur time, hav patience and listen to her if she says "wait! take it easy!" lol
seriously though, its uncomfortable gettin in there, but it works a treat if u do it in missionary with ur arse supported by a coupla pillows. get him to put pressure on while you do little circular movments wiv ur hips. this help ease him in. b4 u know it, Bobs ur uncle and he's in! :P
I also agree with the "hav a shit earlier in the day and its all alot more bareable!!!! lolol
Ah well , Enjoy!! x
its a case of take ur time, hav patience and listen to her if she says "wait! take it easy!" lol
seriously though, its uncomfortable gettin in there, but it works a treat if u do it in missionary with ur arse supported by a coupla pillows. get him to put pressure on while you do little circular movments wiv ur hips. this help ease him in. b4 u know it, Bobs ur uncle and he's in! :P
I also agree with the "hav a shit earlier in the day and its all alot more bareable!!!! lolol
Ah well , Enjoy!! x
Quote by Ian_MidsHey I don't cough on purpose!
ever wondered what its like for the "giver" if the receiver decides to cough?
Lying on your side with the man behind you (is that what they call spoons?) works well to. If your not finding it that easy when you first try to enter then gentle rubbing of the clit helps, or so I hear
I think you have to be farely well in for it to feel comfortable, having the cock only a little of the way in is more uncomfortable that having all of it in.Dawn :silly:
I'm surprised nobody mentioned the simple trick of "pushing it out" with your muscle, as if you wanted to expel it. Or to put it a bit more bluntly: "push as if you wanted to shit it out, it will slide in much more easily" (pardon my French )
Of course this is definitely not a substitute for lube and more importantly LOTS of preparation, kissing, playing, groping, etc.
(speaking from very limited but much enjoyed experience)
Possibly everybody thought it was obvious and didn't care to mention it (in which case I'm making a fool of myself again
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Thomas,
25yo, Birmingham - Student for life, practicing every day.
)Of course this is definitely not a substitute for lube and more importantly LOTS of preparation, kissing, playing, groping, etc.
(speaking from very limited but much enjoyed experience
)Possibly everybody thought it was obvious and didn't care to mention it (in which case I'm making a fool of myself again
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Thomas,
25yo, Birmingham - Student for life, practicing every day.
Personally I don't think it's painful at all............... but then again being the giver and not the receiver it wouldn't be would it? But seriously folks for me there are two rules if you both want to enjoy anal sex. Guys, listen to the woman. When she says gentle, that's more than likely exactly what she means and ladies have a s**t before you try to stuff someones dick up your arse. Nothing is such a turnoff as a condom coming out with brown streaks on it. Then again being black when I put one on it looks brown anyhow!
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Since I was in my 20s, anal has been a part of my sex life, and many of my partners have been "virgins" before being with me. I've always taken it slowly at first, lots of lube, lots of tongue, lots of fingers, and lots of attention to all the other body parts as well. Getting the "angle of attack" is critical.
More recently, I've found that I like receiving as well. Not from a guy, but with a lady's fingers, or a vibrator. To all the guys on here, there's nothing quite like having your prostate stimulated while getting a blow job - you should give it a try!
My ex and I fantasised about her giving me a good rogering with a strap-on, but sadly we split up before we ever got to realise that one..... (sigh.....)
Getting used to having something stuck in yer bum does wonders for understanding what the lady's going through when you try to put your cock up there.
More recently, I've found that I like receiving as well. Not from a guy, but with a lady's fingers, or a vibrator. To all the guys on here, there's nothing quite like having your prostate stimulated while getting a blow job - you should give it a try!
My ex and I fantasised about her giving me a good rogering with a strap-on, but sadly we split up before we ever got to realise that one..... (sigh.....)
Getting used to having something stuck in yer bum does wonders for understanding what the lady's going through when you try to put your cock up there.
Sex God
I actually really enjoy anal sex, though not with everyone and not all the time.
I have to feel TOTALLY relaxed and comfortable for me to be able to even consider it without backing away, and I also have to be very turned on to do it.
What I have found works best for me is me being on all fours using a vibrator on my clitoris at the same time as he is SLOWLY and gently entering me from behind.
I have been known to use in excess of half a tube of lube before (this is one situation where less is most definitely NOT more!!!).
even when he is fully in - I need him, to keep still for a cpl of mins (patience guys) so I can get used to the feeling before he can start the action.
Once I am ok with it though.. I find all positions are good!
My own personal fave is when I am ontop facing away, but the guy has to be quite well endowed for this to work without it slipping out every time I move.
I actually like to do it in the missionary position with my legs up, but I think there has to be enough trust that he is not going to get carried away with himself and be a bit too hard when u do it like this. :shock:
As for the feeling that u need to use the loo, I think this has a lot to do with the stimulation of the muscles rather than an actual need, if you KNOW you physically do not need to go, u should be able to relax enough and not panic about whats going to happen.
I have just read back through what I have written.,…. And this does NOT look like a WBB post!
Will have to add a joke somewhere!
WBB
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I have to feel TOTALLY relaxed and comfortable for me to be able to even consider it without backing away, and I also have to be very turned on to do it.
What I have found works best for me is me being on all fours using a vibrator on my clitoris at the same time as he is SLOWLY and gently entering me from behind.
I have been known to use in excess of half a tube of lube before (this is one situation where less is most definitely NOT more!!!).
even when he is fully in - I need him, to keep still for a cpl of mins (patience guys) so I can get used to the feeling before he can start the action.
Once I am ok with it though.. I find all positions are good!
My own personal fave is when I am ontop facing away, but the guy has to be quite well endowed for this to work without it slipping out every time I move.
I actually like to do it in the missionary position with my legs up, but I think there has to be enough trust that he is not going to get carried away with himself and be a bit too hard when u do it like this. :shock:
As for the feeling that u need to use the loo, I think this has a lot to do with the stimulation of the muscles rather than an actual need, if you KNOW you physically do not need to go, u should be able to relax enough and not panic about whats going to happen.
I have just read back through what I have written.,…. And this does NOT look like a WBB post!
Will have to add a joke somewhere!
WBB
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yeah I agree, lots of lube, in fact always lube, never without, fingers first and tongue action. The women should be very worked up before hand with oral sexa dn so forth. then just take ur time, be really gentle and listen to what she says. Also you can try using "butt plugs" before hand or gradully over time so she gets used to it and it has a bit more stretch to it.
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As for the feeling that u need to use the loo, I think this has a lot to do with the stimulation of the muscles rather than an actual need, if you KNOW you physically do not need to go, u should be able to relax enough and not panic about whats going to happen.
So does this 'loo' feeling always happen :shock:
I thought it was maybe because I wasn't used to it or because he didn't get all the way in before I lost my bottle (metaphorically speaking of course! :shock: ) ...... where is the pleasure in someone giving you the sensation of needing the loo - specially when a curry does the very same thing but without the discomfort
I dunno - the idea to me is a huge turn on, but if it does give you that feeling all the time then maybe my little fantasies should wander off in another direction.
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I dunno - the idea to me is a huge turn on, but if it does give you that feeling all the time then maybe my little fantasies should wander off in another direction.
I find personally,that after a while,that feeling passes and becomes very may find it easier if you stimulate your clit either manually or with a toy to help distract you from the poo sensation.
Sex God
no it WILL go after a bit, at first your body is getting used to the feeling of the muscles being stretched and u pushing out against something... of course i thinks you are having a poo!!!! :shock:
lol
after a cpl of mins... the feeling will go... and its all pleasure pleasure pleasure.
that said though, i have a lot of mates who have tried and will NEVER enjoy anal sex... its a very personal thing and will not be to everyones taste.. all i can say is try it once, then try it again just incase!
lol
after a cpl of mins... the feeling will go... and its all pleasure pleasure pleasure.
that said though, i have a lot of mates who have tried and will NEVER enjoy anal sex... its a very personal thing and will not be to everyones taste.. all i can say is try it once, then try it again just incase!
Ahhhh right, think I'm with you now..... So that is why guys are reccommended to take it v. slowly at first? To let that feeling pass? Can't say that when I did try it (long time ago now) I felt any pain, just that discomfort.
Am I on the right track?
By the way, I do appreciate all this advice, thank you for not making me feel stupid or boring cos I've never done it properly
Am I on the right track?
By the way, I do appreciate all this advice, thank you for not making me feel stupid or boring cos I've never done it properly
First time it happened to me it was an accident and I was very very embarrased and that was me married! Then I saw it on video and thought about it as a possibility. Fact is idea is far more interesting than actual far far more erotic (my thoughts). Most great sex goes on in my head and definately when I am sober not drunk when all erogenous zones on my body seem to bugger off!!! ! dont think you should ever do anything that you dont like but being relaxed and having a great laugh is definately the best way to try out things
and that was me married! Then I saw it on video and thought about it as a possibility. Fact is idea is far more interesting than actual far far more erotic (my thoughts). Most great sex goes on in my head and definately when I am sober not drunk when all erogenous zones on my body seem to bugger off!!! ! dont think you should ever do anything that you dont like but being relaxed and having a great laugh is definately the best way to try out things Quote by MISSCHIEF
So does this 'loo' feeling always happen :shock:
I don't get that feeling at all anymore I'm glad to say but I used to.
If your finding it too painful then I would suggest either your not relaxed enough or don't have enough lube on. I have to admit to not always needing lube though
I know several people that have never tried anal for one reason or another. I don't think it comes naturally for some but I think its worth trying even if you decide you don't like it in the end.
I really can't believe how open everyone is being on this subject. I think its brilliant being able to share experiences that may help others.
Dawn :silly:
Sex God
Quote by MISSCHIEF
Ahhhh right, think I'm with you now..... So that is why guys are reccommended to take it v. slowly at first? To let that feeling pass? Can't say that when I did try it (long time ago now) I felt any pain, just that discomfort.
Am I on the right track?
By the way, I do appreciate all this advice, thank you for not making me feel stupid or boring cos I've never done it properly
you are more than welcome honey...... i think of it as my good deed for mankind!
wonder if they award nobel prizes for this type of thing?
Sex God
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I really can't believe how open everyone is being on this subject. I think its brilliant being able to share experiences that may help others.
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i agree, but i have to admit to being slightly worried!
i just hope that all the men reading this will not start associating us with talking about "poo" rather than thinking of us as sex personified!!!!
Sex God
Quote by well_busty_babeSorry? :shock: I have to provide jokes on demand now? :eeek: This was a fascinating thread, but I am not sure I can come up with something amusing that might not sound a bit feeble.
Will have to add a joke somewhere!
WBB
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Quote by well_busty_babeI agree with the ':shock:' . WBB, your use of capitals is starting to worry me :shock: . This looks like a personal instruction again.
WILL, go after a bit, at first your body is getting used to the feeling of the muscles being stretched and u pushing out against something... of course it thinks you are having a poo!!!! :shock:
I don't want 'go after a bit' - I am happy as I am, thank you! I am not sure I want my 'muscles stretched' either. :eeek: Still, never say never I suppose. WHAT THE HELL IS THAT THAT bluexxx IS WAVING AT ME???? :shock: :shock:Quote by well_busty_babeWHAT???? WBB, we have never even exchanged PMs let alone met and you seem to have a lot of information on me. In fact you seem to know things about me that I hadn't even discovered for myself yet. Are you something from my future that has come back to terrify the life out of me? (It's working, by the way!!! :shock
Will NEVER enjoys anal sex... its a very personal thing and Will's not to everyones taste..
Will - reaching for a bottle of 'therapy' even as I type!!
With two-fold apologies
. First for being flippant on a very interesting and educational thread. Secondly for selectively quoting WBB, who I am sure didn't really mean to terrorise me. 
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[ Are you something from my future that has come back to terrify the life out of me? (It's working, by the way!!! :shock
Secondly for selectively quoting WBB, who I am sure didn't really mean to terrorise me.
correct on the first count, incorrect on the second!!!!!!!!
mwah
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Sex God
Quote by MISSCHIEF:rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Will, you're priceless
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Priceless? I am f**k*ng terrified! (sorry! I don't usually swear
). What the hell is in this glass in front of me? I thought it was an innocent Aussie Shiraz. Now I am wondering if Carpy has slipped some absinthe into it when I wasn't looking :shock: and I am hallucinating. I only logged in hoping to see you-know-who, now I am feeling as if people are plotting against my sphincter! It's a very uncofortable feeling, I can tell you!! :shock:A very nervous Will
PS - Just because you're paranoid doesn't mean that they're not out to get you!!
Sex God
WBB grins at will, as she buckles the strap on the 11 inch strapon.
be afraid......VERY afraid!
be afraid......VERY afraid!
