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another question for the SH masses
Sex God
Sean,
You've got nothing to worry about.
I told you that on saturday night when we were talking, just think back to our conversation.
You've got nothing to worry about.
I told you that on saturday night when we were talking, just think back to our conversation.
Fabio well done for putting this topic up.
There is one person even more hung up about this than you - me.
You've spoken for us all - and,pertinent to yourself - look at the reaction you've got on this thread!If I had a 10th of the charisma..!
When I drop all the am I this?,am I that stuff? - when I just am - I AM.
Sings:I am what I am!
There is one person even more hung up about this than you - me.
You've spoken for us all - and,pertinent to yourself - look at the reaction you've got on this thread!If I had a 10th of the charisma..!
When I drop all the am I this?,am I that stuff? - when I just am - I AM.
Sings:I am what I am!
Quote by Flirty Fruitcake
Fabio well done for putting this topic up.
There is one person even more hung up about this than you - me.
You've spoken for us all - and,pertinent to yourself - look at the reaction you've got on this thread!If I had a 10th of the charisma..!
When I drop all the am I this?,am I that stuff? - when I just am - I AM.
Sings:I am what I am!
And it would be difficult to improve on that
Orgasminator
I think size is irrelevant, it,s about personality, and having fun,...Baz is a large guy too 
he has a big frame so will never be slim, he did get to 13 stone once and looked ill, and he was a late developer as far as sex was concerned as he always played sport 
but since we,ve been into this scene he has grown in confidence and does,nt feel embarressed about his weight anymore,, but i think slim guy,s do have the hard thrust power too !!! 
he has a big frame so will never be slim, he did get to 13 stone once and looked ill, and he was a late developer as far as sex was concerned as he always played sport but since we,ve been into this scene he has grown in confidence and does,nt feel embarressed about his weight anymore,, but i think slim guy,s do have the hard thrust power too !!! I'm really not qualified to answer this as I'm so new to this whole scene but perhaps I can give you a different perspective. I think it is much easier for women to get sex than it is for men, therefore women can be much more picky about who they sleep with. If we could all describe our perfect sexual partner I would guess that most women would pick the Brad Pitt's or something similar, but that's because our perfect sexual partner has so little to do with sex.
Again remember I'm not talking about the swinging scene but life in general but when I'm in a bar or club with friends and we go through our usual routine of sizing up more of less every guy who enters we're not thinking about screwing them in the toilets, we're thinking about marrying them and having their babies. Not consciously but those elements are definitely in our selection process. Therefore we're looking for physical perfection or as close as you can get to it, we know the reality is that we'll end up with just a regular guy with the usual collection of foibles and imperfections but like I said we can be more picky then you.
However, what I'm talking about is the huge subject of sexual politics and what you're talking about is sex and let me tell you the best sex I have ever had was with a guy who must have been 18 stone. He was simply amazing and since then I definitely prefer larger guys. I used to think I wanted a Brad Pitt but now I want a Rick Waller (well I would if he wasn't such a wanker!!). You want to know what lets down big guys? It's confidence, nothing else. Confident men make me wet regardless of their weight.
Again remember I'm not talking about the swinging scene but life in general but when I'm in a bar or club with friends and we go through our usual routine of sizing up more of less every guy who enters we're not thinking about screwing them in the toilets, we're thinking about marrying them and having their babies. Not consciously but those elements are definitely in our selection process. Therefore we're looking for physical perfection or as close as you can get to it, we know the reality is that we'll end up with just a regular guy with the usual collection of foibles and imperfections but like I said we can be more picky then you.
However, what I'm talking about is the huge subject of sexual politics and what you're talking about is sex and let me tell you the best sex I have ever had was with a guy who must have been 18 stone. He was simply amazing and since then I definitely prefer larger guys. I used to think I wanted a Brad Pitt but now I want a Rick Waller (well I would if he wasn't such a wanker!!). You want to know what lets down big guys? It's confidence, nothing else. Confident men make me wet regardless of their weight.
Quote by amylou
You want to know what lets down big guys? It's confidence, nothing else. Confident men make me wet regardless of their weight.
WOW Time to get a self help book on confidence :shock: :P
Seriously though, if you can put a post like that up I think you are well qualified to comment on many things Amylou. An excellent post, & very interesting to me as I wouldn't have the courage to approach someone in a bar & chat them up (regardless of my body shape).
Confidence is the Key , i have always thought my self as average nothing more nothing less, and that really takes a hammering on my confidence!!
I find it hard sometimes to approach someone in a bar, because straight away i think i am average why would they be interested in me, so it's not only the bigger guys who have issues about themselves.
Now alternatively put me in a situation where i know i am not average - for example work (sad i know it but i am really committed at work and good at my job) and i am a competley different person. Outgoing a good laugh and i think i can charm anything with a pulse!!!
So the key for me is confidence and i am working on my confidence in social situations - but it's bloody hard to lock up and deal with all thoses "devils" you walk around with. So my task is to take away from work the things that make me feel good about myself and keep them in my social life.
Hell in about 3 years time i may even be able to go to a bar without the paper bag over my head!
Also the thing you've got to remeber, the majority of people who you look at and seem really outgoing and confident usually aren't - they've just adapted themselves in that way to cover up insecuriities.
I find it hard sometimes to approach someone in a bar, because straight away i think i am average why would they be interested in me, so it's not only the bigger guys who have issues about themselves.
Now alternatively put me in a situation where i know i am not average - for example work (sad i know it but i am really committed at work and good at my job) and i am a competley different person. Outgoing a good laugh and i think i can charm anything with a pulse!!!
So the key for me is confidence and i am working on my confidence in social situations - but it's bloody hard to lock up and deal with all thoses "devils" you walk around with. So my task is to take away from work the things that make me feel good about myself and keep them in my social life.
Hell in about 3 years time i may even be able to go to a bar without the paper bag over my head!
Also the thing you've got to remeber, the majority of people who you look at and seem really outgoing and confident usually aren't - they've just adapted themselves in that way to cover up insecuriities.
Sex God
Quote by amylou
Iwe're not thinking about screwing them in the toilets, we're thinking about marrying them and having their babies.
Damn evolutionary theory... it gets misquoted everywhere
But I guess blowing them in the bogs is OK cos that doesn't involve babies, or just take it up the ass :grin: :grin: :grin:
Sean
Quote by darkstranger
Im 15 1/2 stome so according to my gp im overwieght for my BMI. Im healthy and with the job I do I walk about 6hours a day continually and briskly. The full english doesn't help me much. Im proportionate to my size thou. Anyway im not fat im just big bones. :twisted:
It's just relaxed muscle innit!!
Thats what i've always said!
Sex God
Quote by amylou
I wasn't quoting or misquoting evolutionary theory, I was giving my opinion based on my feelings and the feelings of many of the women I have known throughout my life.
So, just as unscientific an interpretation of the human psyche as evolytionary psychology is then ... thanks for the clarification
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :grin:
I say forget the science, just go for a fuck in the bogs :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: .....
Quote by amylou
I think you're the only person who raised science as as issue, I know I didn't.
Don't make it into an argument - i think blue was joking - read the post again and look at all the smilies!!
She does have a poinrt about blowing them in the bogs - Blue which pubs do you frequent!??
Quote by amylou
I didn't mean it to come across like that, I'm not trying to make it into an argument. I'm just explaining that my comments are based on how I feel rather than trying to state facts.
Yeah - i think posting on Message board is quite hard to get the tone of your message right - thats why smilies are helpful - sort of break tone up!!
A good technique I did to boost my confidence was to train myself to BELIEVE it when someone paid me a compliment. First instead of being coy and saying 'oh no I'm not pretty, I'm fat' (for instance) you teach yourself to just say 'thank you'. Get into the habit of accepting the nice things that people say about you and start believing them, worked wonders for me!
Quote by MQ
A good technique I did to boost my confidence was to train myself to BELIEVE it when someone paid me a compliment. First instead of being coy and saying 'oh no I'm not pretty, I'm fat' (for instance) you teach yourself to just say 'thank you'. Get into the habit of accepting the nice things that people say about you and start believing them, worked wonders for me!
I think thats great for women, but for guys we don't tend to get as many compliments paid to us. Like i say totally agree, in fact there is nothing worse than when you pay a compliment ot a women and they turn around and say something to the opposite - sort makes you want to say "You calling me a liar"?
Sex God
Compliments can be hard to accept at times but it all depends on how u feel about yourself.
Swinging has given me a lot of confidence and I have stopped worrying about extra weight cos most of the people I've met aren't vain and are more interested in personality, friendship etc.
Some guy once said from pics I had on my ad (when I had an ad) that I must have a size 10 figure and that was great cos he didn't meet overweight people - how wrong he was and I had no problem telling him my dress size and yes the person in the pics is definately me - I've nothing to be ashamed of.
Personality, confidence and being able to get on with people is so much more important than size.
Swinging has given me a lot of confidence and I have stopped worrying about extra weight cos most of the people I've met aren't vain and are more interested in personality, friendship etc.
Some guy once said from pics I had on my ad (when I had an ad) that I must have a size 10 figure and that was great cos he didn't meet overweight people - how wrong he was and I had no problem telling him my dress size and yes the person in the pics is definately me - I've nothing to be ashamed of.
Personality, confidence and being able to get on with people is so much more important than size.
Sex God
Quote by AndyS-NE
She does have a poinrt about blowing them in the bogs - Blue which pubs do you frequent!??
Yes, I was joking. Sex is bogs is now illegal - so don't try it folks.... :shock:
I've never done anything like that..... honest
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Quote by bluexxx
She does have a poinrt about blowing them in the bogs - Blue which pubs do you frequent!??
Yes, I was joking. Sex is bogs is now illegal - so don't try it folks.... :shock:
I've never done anything like that..... honest
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Something about that post gives me the suspicion you could be telling fibs.
Obviously nowt to do with the picture of you have a d*ck in your mouth while in a toilet like................. :oops:
Confidence?
I know I'm genuine,sincere,caring,have depth,soul,whatever you would call it.I'm a good conversationalist,a good listener,non-judgemental,I love having fun,to laugh,love to dance,love to party,love quiet walks in the countryside,love music,love art,love movies,I respect women,care about them,love sharing affection and sexual pleasure with them,I'm loyal,appreciative,giving,love Shredded Wheat,Jaffa Cakes - WHATEVER..I'm a largeish built single guy over 40 who doesn't look like Colin Firth so all that fancy dancy stuff counts for zip in the big bad woman I've ever loved either left me for someone else or left me to be alone - that one's THE most flattering - to be worth less than nothing.
But now I'm putting on my bravest face and on here and I want to go to places and meet people and perhaps play with them - the concept that it ISN'T bound by any expectation other than friendship and mutual pleasure shared with whoever,wherever,whenever it feels good to all concerned.I've already seen a beautiful glimpse of how this works - and I've seen what I've denied in myself,my lapses into self pity,my of all I've seen people here who have bourne far worse than I in terms of loss and disappointment - but the sexy so-and-so's are on this Forum,eager to live,laugh and love - and so we shall,yes,we shall!
I know I'm genuine,sincere,caring,have depth,soul,whatever you would call it.I'm a good conversationalist,a good listener,non-judgemental,I love having fun,to laugh,love to dance,love to party,love quiet walks in the countryside,love music,love art,love movies,I respect women,care about them,love sharing affection and sexual pleasure with them,I'm loyal,appreciative,giving,love Shredded Wheat,Jaffa Cakes - WHATEVER..I'm a largeish built single guy over 40 who doesn't look like Colin Firth so all that fancy dancy stuff counts for zip in the big bad woman I've ever loved either left me for someone else or left me to be alone - that one's THE most flattering - to be worth less than nothing.
But now I'm putting on my bravest face and on here and I want to go to places and meet people and perhaps play with them - the concept that it ISN'T bound by any expectation other than friendship and mutual pleasure shared with whoever,wherever,whenever it feels good to all concerned.I've already seen a beautiful glimpse of how this works - and I've seen what I've denied in myself,my lapses into self pity,my of all I've seen people here who have bourne far worse than I in terms of loss and disappointment - but the sexy so-and-so's are on this Forum,eager to live,laugh and love - and so we shall,yes,we shall!
