another question for the SH masses

29 Nov 2004

it is not normal for me to start a thread, but on this occasion it thought i would....so here it goes...
is size an issue????.............
no, not in that way, but something has been bugging me for the last few weeks and i finally worked out what it is ....
in the "i love big women"thread, i was really glad there is a acceptance of anything larger than what you would call the slim or skinny woman..... but when i go to clubs or parties, i see all sizes of women but normally just slimmer men................
so the question i ask is...... it there an acceptance of the larger men in swinging circles as there is of larger women, sadly i don't think there is such a general acceptance.......
i have thoughts of several reasons why............
maybe lagrer men aren't as comfortable with their bodies as are larger women....maybe something that could and should be addressed,
maybe more men like larger women more than women liking larger men... and if that is the case then i would never knock anyone for having preferences because we all have them.....
and before any of you cynical people put this down as a rant (yes you all know who you are!!!) it isn't... i am having a blast on here and having fun with loads of people i meet, and hopefully will in future....
it is just merely an observation and if it wide of the mark then i will hold up my hand and say i got it wrong.......but it is an observation that has made me feel a lot more self aware in the last few weeks, actually maybe that says a lot more about me than anything....
sean xxxxxxxxxxxx

29 Nov 2004

Well from personal experience, redface

, larger men are often preferable, they can pound harder and thereby offer more satisfaction!!! sometimes with a , shall we say, lighter man they just dont have the weight to satisfy!!!

29 Nov 2004

I don't have problems with larger men at all and think body size has very little to do with what turns me on redface

A relaxed personality in a large frame body will do it for me every time :P
From experience I would agree with Foxy - skinny guys often don't have the thrust required wink

We too have noticed that there aren't many really large guys taking part in this lifestyle and I for one wish there were. There's nothing like a bit of flesh on the bones to get me going :twisted:
Tracy-Jayne

29 Nov 2004

in response to some of the comments on this thread, i have now started my doughnut only diet...as 9 months ago i weighed in at nearly 16 stone, and had to go on a diet under doctors orders, and have now reduced my weight to 12.5 stone, i have decided, that i do neet to put a couple of pounds back on...as i look a bit skinny confused

, any doughnut donations greatfully recieved...jam or caramel prefered, although i do love the custard ones as well biggrin

29 Nov 2004

Im a fat twat and i have done ok in life (i think!) :shock:
People can think what they like and do what they want but once you get to know me im a nice guy and as much fun as anyone else - size doesnt matter as fdar as im concerned.
It may hepl to break the ice (no pun intended lol) but once you get past the image thing your ok.
you can get fat nice guys, medium nice guysand skinny nice guys, on the same token you can get fat assholes medium assholes and skinny assholes, the the personality that makes a person likeable or not.
Fabio, dont let anyone get on your case about it mate. :cheers:

29 Nov 2004

well i was(mr northeast) at least 15 st and i got down to 11st 11ps and our lass told me id did not look right at all ,but i feel fine by it,now i did try n put some more on and now am 12st6p and feel much better, so i thinks its the person inside the body that matters ,and personailty ,if ya up for a laugh then ya can enjoy life,i am 40 an aint grown up yet and never will,life is for living and ya only get one chance.

29 Nov 2004

did you say you were big,it must have been a different person who came to the party then rolleyes

honestly fabio you have nothing to worry about,your just big built(and im mean all over girls and boys wink

)
it was a pleasure to have you here and your all ready on the list for the next one lol

dee(satin)

29 Nov 2004

I hope that counts for me too Satin biggrin

I hope this is helping you, like everyone says it's not the size or shape that makes you sexy, it's your attitude. Confidence is a huge turn on and in return being admired (and fucked wink

) builds up your confidence so it is a sprial that keeps going as long as you do.
Hope to see you again very soon at a party or on our own :D
MQ xx

29 Nov 2004

Fabio In my opinion personality is more important..If someone has a Issue with how big the other person is.. then thats their own problem, They are not worth worrying is important is your own self worth!! And not what others think of you!!
Hugs&Kisses
Lucyxxxxxxxx

29 Nov 2004

Having thought seriously about this for sometime (mainly to also work out if I was a shallow person), I have several thoughts on the matter:
Thought 1
The guy could have the body of a greek god - but if he is a twat, boring, full of himself ... and so on ... it's not happening sexually.
Thought 2
The guy could have the body of a greek god and have personality - but be selfish in bed. Not to over generalise, but guys that don't have to try too hard generally DON'T mad

Thought 3
When someone is damn near perfect - personally it makes me a little self concious of my own imperfections - resulting in the sexual experience being less satisfying than it could have been.
Thought 4
Preferences can be effected by time. Immediate attraction is usually physical, I tend to be drawn to eyes and smiles. I have found though that some people I have not initially thought I was attracted to, after getting to know them .... I found them to be incredably horny. And like wise, some people I had an instant attraction to... I went off quite quickly after getting to know them.
Thought 5
I thought of all the guys I find really horny and satisfying - and concluded - they are all different shapes and sizes.
Make of this babble what you will redface

29 Nov 2004

Not much for to add to this, as a lot of good points have been made! But would to add on a personal level, that i found you to be a chatty friendly individual... although your directional skills leave a lot to be desired! biggrin

:D :D
If you ever need a lift to another of blue's parties, you are more than welcome.
(big hint to blue.. lol)
And this time, i'll do the directions lol

29 Nov 2004

Sean, I don't honestly think you have anything to worry about, but maybe that's because I prefer men to have a bit of meat on their bones anyway. Look at the evidence, I'm happily involved with a self-confessed "fat twat"!! (Although I would never have described him as that :shock: )
I think it's a case of each to their own, but you could be right in the thought that men are seen as being more accepting of larger women than women are of larger men dunno

for instance, in the larger women thread.
Like Pololady, I've looked at my past partners, and there isn't a trend at all. They have ranged from very slim to fairly large, but I've come to the conclusion that I do prefer bigger built blokes but that it wouldn't stop me from fancying a slimmer man. Does that make sense? :dunno:
Either way, I think it's more down to how you feel about yourself than how you actually look. Chin up chuck smile

:therethere:

29 Nov 2004

Bloody hell, I'm only a shade under 11 stone, I'd better start on the cake diet.

29 Nov 2004

Sean,you know my feelings on this one hun,now stop worrying about it and start thinking about better things :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:

29 Nov 2004

As usual I'm glad I waited and let someone else say what I was thinking (in this case - well said Pololady).
I guess it is all down to personal preference. I personally am usually more immediately attracted to larger blokes (I mean tall and large framed). Skinny guys give me scary images of Jack Sprat and his wife :shock:
But as has been said the more you get to know someone the less important build or any aspect of their appearance becomes.

29 Nov 2004

Grrrrr.
I'll have to bail now.

29 Nov 2004

Mmmmm, the bigger the engine the harder the thrust :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
Sorry Sean but you know me!!!!!!
Seriously babe, you have absolutely no need to worry about anything.
You are a top bloke and anyone that is bothered by your large frame isn't really worth getting to know. You ain't fat at all.
Personally, i don't really see a guy as big or small, just sometimes useful!!!!!! :twisted:
If a guy looks presentable and has made an effort with his appearance it really doesn't matter if he's on the larger side.
Chin up hunni.
Gill & Del x

29 Nov 2004

Thank you folks.
Being naturally stocky (it runs in the family) and a labourer i am over weight according to my gp and as such been told to lose weight on several times. The thing is for my build i am quite physically fit but that usually dont matter to a lot of women nowadays as they just take one look at you and turn away.
But thank you folks i now feel more at ease with my body having just read the posts above.

29 Nov 2004

I may have a small willy, but have 16stone to push it in with!!!!!!!!!!!

29 Nov 2004

Quote by zootle
Bloody hell, I'm only a shade under 11 stone, I'd better start on the cake diet.

Well I'm 12.5 to 13 stone at the moment..... & wanting to lose some weight :shock:
If I DO achieve the impossible & get a few pounds off.... hope I still have sufficient THRUST hump

29 Nov 2004

Mr naughty is slim, he has a great body and he is more than capable of thrusting good and proper but I dont think weight matters much to myself.

29 Nov 2004

Quote by celticq
Jack Sprat and his wife

Bugger. I think that's me & Reese. I often think we look like a hippy version of the Great British Sea Side Postcard.
I am currently about 2 stone heavier than him, and over a foot shorter.
I'm trying to shed the lbs and he's trying to gain them.
Anyhooo... looking back at my previous... generally been tall skinny guys. Had more than my fair share of cuddlies, though. Big and tall is good too. Mind you, when you're a shortarse, like me, someone like Fabio is wonderfully intimidating. I don't get intimidated much, so when I do, I lose the plot. Marv! Sean, you had me dumbstruck when you assisted my escaping flesh, that time. My silence was not due to being offended (as I wasn't), was due to being in awe. biggrin

29 Nov 2004

Sean
Mr Pink is not a small man by any means, a happy larger that life man to be honest, but it doesnt mean I love him any less. I have never been the type to judge on size, Im not a size 10 myself but a 14. Although Im not happy with this, as I used to be a size 10, I accept it and I dont care what anyone else thinks. Its not me who has a problem with my size but the people who look at me and think I'm big. As long as you enjoy your life and are happy then f**k everyone else. Its no ones business but your own.
Ruth (mrs pinkbubble) x

29 Nov 2004

Wow, what a fascinating thread...... smile

Sean.....I think you're lovely, and I don't care what size you are.....I haven't met you yet but guaranteed when we do there'll be a huge big snog for you..... :twisted:
I love bigger guys.......there is more to hold onto when they're thrusting into you wink

29 Nov 2004

can i just say thank you to everyone who has replied to the thread... a lot of people know that i have been down with a lot of different things on my mind and the people i talked to last night know i was in a state.. and i came close to posting one of those "i'm leaving" posts...... i actually wrote it and saved it....
but i am glad i didn't because i'd actually miss you all.....
anyway back to topic.... i am glad that i brought it up and feels like a weight so to speak, has been lifted from my shoulders...
i think i am like saffy... naturally big, but do loads of exercise and go to the gym....so i am fit, but it is re-assuring that you guys feel the same way at times...
sean xxxxxxxxx

29 Nov 2004

Honey on a much more personal level - after Saturday night I had NO complaints wink

29 Nov 2004

Quote by fabio grooverider
i am glad that i brought it up and feels like a weight so to speak, has been lifted from my shoulders...
i think i am like saffy... naturally big, but do loads of exercise and go to the gym....so i am fit, but it is re-assuring that you guys feel the same way at times.

Stick with it Sean. Good on yer mate!!

29 Nov 2004

its all about confidence and belief in yourself .in many case ppl are more interested in a persons personality and not what shape,size they cant all be models but we can all make the best of what we have got and enjoy the lifestye that we have chosen to be did i say i am realy brad pitt :crazy:

29 Nov 2004

Quote by fabio grooverider
it is not normal for me to start a thread, but on this occasion it thought i would....so here it goes...
is size an issue????.............
no, not in that way, but something has been bugging me for the last few weeks and i finally worked out what it is ....
in the "i love big women"thread, i was really glad there is a acceptance of anything larger than what you would call the slim or skinny woman..... but when i go to clubs or parties, i see all sizes of women but normally just slimmer men................
so the question i ask is...... it there an acceptance of the larger men in swinging circles as there is of larger women, sadly i don't think there is such a general acceptance.......
i have thoughts of several reasons why............
maybe lagrer men aren't as comfortable with their bodies as are larger women....maybe something that could and should be addressed,
maybe more men like larger women more than women liking larger men... and if that is the case then i would never knock anyone for having preferences because we all have them.....
and before any of you cynical people put this down as a rant (yes you all know who you are!!!) it isn't... i am having a blast on here and having fun with loads of people i meet, and hopefully will in future....
it is just merely an observation and if it wide of the mark then i will hold up my hand and say i got it wrong.......but it is an observation that has made me feel a lot more self aware in the last few weeks, actually maybe that says a lot more about me than anything....
sean xxxxxxxxxxxx

Well Sean, I've had the pleasure of your company twice now and honey you have nothing to worry about at all. You've met both me and Morbius and so you will know that Morbius is a larger man ...
He has worried about it in the past and although he has just admitted that he felt "flumpy" :giggle: (his words not mine) he never felt ill at ease with anyone and is prepared to accept that his weight isn't to everyone's preference ................. but he has an awesome personality and we hope that people would go more on that than weight alone.
For us personality and the "click" factor is more important ....
passionkiss

29 Nov 2004

Sean, hun, what you worried about, your totally gorgous, and I just love you the way you are!
:inlove: :inlove: :inlove:
I am not a small girl, (well, I am in height, but not in width lol

)and in the past have been worried that I might put some people off by being bigger, but I have now come to the conclusion that if someone has a problem with my size, then that is their problem, not mine (I remember you giving me a pep talk about size not being an issue)
You have a fantatic personality, a great smile, a wonderful sense of humour and lovely eyes (flipping eck, I will be proposing next. Sean quickly bolt

)
Personally I am attracted by personality, if I click with someone thats what matters. I love a nice smile, and someone who just makes me feel safe and comfortable in their presence. I can honestly say that I never even consider what size someone is, it is the last thing I would think about!
Sean, just get your self over to Wigan and I will show you that you are a fantastic size, the right size, and my favourite size!