well shynewbie.
personally i have no worries about my face being on my ad, but i just choose not to post it as an avatar. but i'm a bloke and allegedly a huge slut, so i have no worries who finds me on here. so long as it ain't me mum i'm happy! :lol2:
as for meeting someone i knew at a munch? well they're hardly in a position to think anything of you are they? even if they're only browsing the site and come across you, well what are they doing here too? personally i'd find it funny, and possibly a bit interesting! ;)
it's not a problem for me, but i well understand how it is for many. it's just a personal thing, and whatever you're comfy with is fine, so long as you are comfy.
neil x x x ;)
Thanks for your reply Neil.
I see your point and I wonder if that is a more male orientated feeling? Or am I being sexist here?
I don't knwo what you do for a iving - but I'd be interested to know how you would react to me if you had a meeting tomorrow with a large supplier and I walked through your door as part of the supplier project team? Or how about - if you found out that I lived just down the street from you.
Would that change how you would interract with me if I wasn't a member of this forum?
Hi Shynewbie
Im in a similar situation as you except i am self employed, therefor not only do my actions reflect on my job but also the business as a whole!!
Ive pondered exactly the sme questions as you are doing and came to the conclussion that the risks are too great. Its taken me ten years to build the business so Im not going to lrisk it for one night or one meeting.
I guess its different for males but whatever is said on here, socienty still dosnt aprove of women swingers in their own right.
Ive never been to a munch and i guess i wont get to as i know there are people from my home town that may recognise me that go regularly. Whilst I hope that they would never intentionally give me away, who knows what they may say to their friends unintentionally?
When i meet anyone off here I always insist on seeing their face first so i can make sure i do not know them in real life, also i never meet anyone from my home town, even though there is one guy i would dearlylike to meet, again the risks are too high.
Sorry to ramble on and sorry im not more opptomistic, be careful.
Try not to worry,remember if you do bump into someone you know there in the same boat as you!
I think only 2 people in our village do not know our fave hobby - and they're my children. (Who am I kidding, I bet they do know) Everyone I work with knows, too.
I work as a cashier in a bank, so I am in face to face public situation, and my face is there for all to see (and other bits of me too) here and in various other places on the web. (And printed media, etc)
As has been said already, if you are recognised, then the person who recognises you must at least have been looking if not participating in the same stuff as you.
It's only sex.
We feel the same, especially with me working at a school wouldnt want people to find out. We do have pics on our add and am considering changing our avatar though not showing our faces still.
F
Changed it now!
The only reason I decided to become a S.H. member was because I can be anonymous, I would be very embarrassed if I met someone who knows my family and I, although it is nothing to be ashamed of, I would rather not be recognised.
To be able to mix with likeminded people who are strangers is no problem at all and this site provides an excellent oportunity, these days, one can indulge in their own private fantasies and contact others with the same and meet via P. Ms. and keep everything private which suits me fine.
I met a very nice guy from on here and had some great fun with him, 3 days later i'm at work ordering some guys to do some maintance work in the Cemetery when I look up who should be one of the guys? yep thats right! we smiled at each other and got on with our jobs, no problems. xxxx
Hi there,
Interesting thread - I have say that I would be a bit upset if a work colleague discovered what I get up to in my spare time, but no-one's doing anything wrong, so what the heck. In fact it might prove quite amusing as they all seem to think I'm a nice shy innocent girl :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
But I would be mortified if my family found out! :shock:
T x
Watch it Eager ........... I know where your couch is :evil2: :evil2:
Nope I think your right my family (brothers and sisters) hubby and his brothers and sisters and 1 of my closest friends know I’m bisexual oh and you lot on here! But I don't feel the need to tell anyone else so yes I do live a double life as such. I think most people on here do to a curtain extent
I agree with every thing Judy just said. A few years ago before children and new jobs my husband and I were in the habit of having sex at least 3 times a day more if we could. It became a standing in joke with my friends because they samed to have the knack of phoning in the middle of it.
The guys thought I was damm lucky the girls thought I was abnormal and asked why? when I said because we enjoyed it they said it was impossible to enjoy it if you where doing it so offten it must get boring!
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... but if you're just a normal person with a regular life, people don't really give a shit!
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