I am meeting a guy tomorrow night, and am giving my virginity to him - I am after hints and tips to make the time count - I am a first timer who will be giving hima blow job (any tips please) before he takes me - I know lube, lube, lube, but how do I get the best out of this experience for him and (more importantly) myself?
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Any tips for first time anal
Best to stick a finger or 2 inside before hand to check for any suprises!
Baby wipes on a finger also make sure everything is clean.
Most important is to relax especially first time and as everyone says ...loads of good lube!!
Also, if you are tense and nervous, it helps to bear down as though going to the loo. Helps relax the muscle
Above all enjoy it!!!
Lydia
Baby wipes on a finger also make sure everything is clean.
Most important is to relax especially first time and as everyone says ...loads of good lube!!
Also, if you are tense and nervous, it helps to bear down as though going to the loo. Helps relax the muscle
Above all enjoy it!!!
Lydia
Sex God
Brace yerself ! :shock:
the only advice i can give is BE CLEAN to put it bluntly have a good clear out and get some cream or lube and get a dollop on the fingers and get every bit out that could be left over have a nice bath and while in bath when done cleaning have another clean inside so your spotless dont eat much a while b4 the big event and you will have a lovely time theres alot of bacteria up there and to have any waste could cause problems i would die of shame if i ever made any mess and my partners have always been happy bunnys ..not that im an eggsburke or anything 
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( polishes halo ) I just love this place
yeah I am a straight guy, but seeing as the idae of having a guy in my mouth and in my ass is turning me on, well its not easy admitting to myself about it
I decided I would add this post to the thread that was already started because that way I cant chicken out and delete the thread again. Once its here in black and whiteand up for all to see, well its going to make it easier for me.
I dont know if thats going to make any sense to most of you guys and gals, but to me, by the act of actaually putting it out in view like this settles my nerves a lot more, I am not hiding it anymore, I want to go for it.
Ok, nervous as hell about the 1st time still
yeah I am a straight guy, but seeing as the idae of having a guy in my mouth and in my ass is turning me on, well its not easy admitting to myself about it
I decided I would add this post to the thread that was already started because that way I cant chicken out and delete the thread again. Once its here in black and whiteand up for all to see, well its going to make it easier for me.
I dont know if thats going to make any sense to most of you guys and gals, but to me, by the act of actaually putting it out in view like this settles my nerves a lot more, I am not hiding it anymore, I want to go for it.
Ok, nervous as hell about the 1st time still
Quote by dragonlly
Best to stick a finger or 2 inside before hand to check for any suprises!
Baby wipes on a finger also make sure everything is clean.
TOO much information
One of the biggest mistakes that most people make is thinking the same positions that work for vaginal sex, work for anal sex - they don't as things are in different places so tell him not to get frustrated and keep trying
Warming the Bed
plenty of foreplay to start of course
plenty of lube
take it slowly,a bit at a time and try and relax as much as poss
i find that the spoons position is great to start off with.
ooops and remember to breath lol.
plenty of lube
take it slowly,a bit at a time and try and relax as much as poss
i find that the spoons position is great to start off with.
ooops and remember to breath lol.
Sex God
Its all too graphic i tell you !!! :shock: :uhoh: 
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Sex God
Quote by lily666
I reckon having a few glasses of red wine helps. The first time I tried it was on holiday after lots of local wine and I was so relaxed it was great
Hope it all goes well for you :D
Did you ever get that waiters name Lily ??
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Sex God
Sex God
take something to bite down on!!!1
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:lol: :lol: I checked the thread Marmalaid mentioned and, although there’s lots of moral support and a few helpful mentions geared to the lady, there’s very little on actual technique. Now it may be too much information for some (in which case stop reading here), but if we can’t discuss such stuff as technique for anal, oral, whatever on here, well where can we??
For a guy, if he’s never done it before, it’s not (in my own experience) all that simple. The first time I tried it, with a partner who was very keen (but as far as I know hadn’t done it before either) we did try to take it slowly, use lots of lube etc, but still didn’t manage it.
While I’m sure there are different things for different people, it’s easier when you’ve done it a few times – or at least one of you has (for the man and the woman), but for starting off there’s a few basic physical things that I would imagine are common to most people.
It’s necessary to have a certain amount of relaxation of muscles around the anal area, otherwise there’s a reflex reaction that will severely limit penetration. The best way I’ve found to start this is with some energetic penis-vaginal action, though it’s not essential. One way (not the only way but a way I’ve found quite effective, especially if the woman has not done it before) is to go to ‘doggie’ position for a while. The man can grip the woman’s buttocks firmly whilst thrusting into her vagina. If you’re not sure whether she is interested in anal, a fingertip straying to that area during missionary position or any other normal groping of the buttocks will often get her to give you a fairly clear signal if the answer is no.
Once in doggie position, the man can change his grip so that his thumbs are near to the woman’s anus and, by squeezing, ease her cheeks apart a little. No sudden diving in to her bum, just working the general area a bit. Then try one thumb, see if the end of the thumb fits or will slide in and about and if she is comfortable with that. After a while, and slightly deeper penetration with one thumb, try the two thumbs, perhaps as an extension of the squeezing of the buttocks so they can be inserted with a natural movement. The man should be able to visualise if his penis, its width, could enter the woman’s anus. If the two thumbs have been able to penetrate fairly deeply, without uncomfortable muscular responses, then it might be time to sensitively see if the woman is ready to have them replaced with the penis (It’s worth being mutually clear at this point – even slipping the penis out of the vagina and asking, ‘Yes’? and waiting for the response, or whatever seems appropriate so that you both know you are agreeing – if the man starts to enter her anally and she pulls away he must acquiesce – it was too early – but crucially it would be bad form to then re-enter the woman vaginally in case germs from the anus were transferred – another reason for making sure the timing is accurate and agreed).
Once, in, all the things mentioned so far apply – very gently at first, an inch or two at most, and only proceed the extra half inches when it’s clear she’s comfortable with the length inserted so far.
Lube may not even be necessary following this method. The anus has some natural (quite clean) moisture of its own, and the penis should be well lubricated (with or without the condom, according to both partners wishes, though with is nice I think). If a bit of extra lube seems appropriate, it is easy and very sensual to add it in the latter stages of vaginal penetration doggie style.
Ok that’s my tuppence – hope it helps someone get into it without the embarrassing learning curve I went through years ago to get there.
I should add – if the woman is experienced in anal penetration she will possibly have a favourite way of accomplishing it – the man simply has to follow directions!
Now . . . who’s going to write about oral . . . ?
For a guy, if he’s never done it before, it’s not (in my own experience) all that simple. The first time I tried it, with a partner who was very keen (but as far as I know hadn’t done it before either) we did try to take it slowly, use lots of lube etc, but still didn’t manage it.
While I’m sure there are different things for different people, it’s easier when you’ve done it a few times – or at least one of you has (for the man and the woman), but for starting off there’s a few basic physical things that I would imagine are common to most people.
It’s necessary to have a certain amount of relaxation of muscles around the anal area, otherwise there’s a reflex reaction that will severely limit penetration. The best way I’ve found to start this is with some energetic penis-vaginal action, though it’s not essential. One way (not the only way but a way I’ve found quite effective, especially if the woman has not done it before) is to go to ‘doggie’ position for a while. The man can grip the woman’s buttocks firmly whilst thrusting into her vagina. If you’re not sure whether she is interested in anal, a fingertip straying to that area during missionary position or any other normal groping of the buttocks will often get her to give you a fairly clear signal if the answer is no.
Once in doggie position, the man can change his grip so that his thumbs are near to the woman’s anus and, by squeezing, ease her cheeks apart a little. No sudden diving in to her bum, just working the general area a bit. Then try one thumb, see if the end of the thumb fits or will slide in and about and if she is comfortable with that. After a while, and slightly deeper penetration with one thumb, try the two thumbs, perhaps as an extension of the squeezing of the buttocks so they can be inserted with a natural movement. The man should be able to visualise if his penis, its width, could enter the woman’s anus. If the two thumbs have been able to penetrate fairly deeply, without uncomfortable muscular responses, then it might be time to sensitively see if the woman is ready to have them replaced with the penis (It’s worth being mutually clear at this point – even slipping the penis out of the vagina and asking, ‘Yes’? and waiting for the response, or whatever seems appropriate so that you both know you are agreeing – if the man starts to enter her anally and she pulls away he must acquiesce – it was too early – but crucially it would be bad form to then re-enter the woman vaginally in case germs from the anus were transferred – another reason for making sure the timing is accurate and agreed).
Once, in, all the things mentioned so far apply – very gently at first, an inch or two at most, and only proceed the extra half inches when it’s clear she’s comfortable with the length inserted so far.
Lube may not even be necessary following this method. The anus has some natural (quite clean) moisture of its own, and the penis should be well lubricated (with or without the condom, according to both partners wishes, though with is nice I think). If a bit of extra lube seems appropriate, it is easy and very sensual to add it in the latter stages of vaginal penetration doggie style.
Ok that’s my tuppence – hope it helps someone get into it without the embarrassing learning curve I went through years ago to get there.
I should add – if the woman is experienced in anal penetration she will possibly have a favourite way of accomplishing it – the man simply has to follow directions!
Now . . . who’s going to write about oral . . . ?
Quote by bivirgin
I am meeting a guy tomorrow night, and am giving my virginity to him - I am after hints and tips to make the time count - I am a first timer who will be giving hima blow job (any tips please) before he takes me - I know lube, lube, lube, but how do I get the best out of this experience for him and (more importantly) myself?
Take it slow and gentle, remeber to RELAX and breath alot (the more oxygen - the less chance of tensing). If you breath and relax, use lube - it should be fab!!!
My first time with anal - it was a slow start.. but once I got into it I loved it and I ended up riding him and not stopping until I had my fill.....
Sini
Quote by well_busty_babe
take something to bite down on!!!1
Lol damn you got there first, lol. maybe someoen to give you a really bad chinese burn to take ur mind off things! lol
Jon
For any women that have had a baby out there - think "push through the ring of fire" type feeling, for anal sex done too fast with a fairly well-endowed bloke.
For any men that don't understand or can't relate to that - think "take your foreskin and pull it over your head (on your shoulders)" for similar-kind-of-pain feeling :shock:
Hope that helps
For any men that don't understand or can't relate to that - think "take your foreskin and pull it over your head (on your shoulders)" for similar-kind-of-pain feeling :shock:
Hope that helps
Orgasminator
Quote by dragonlly
Best to stick a finger or 2 inside before hand to check for any suprises!
Baby wipes on a finger also make sure everything is clean.
No way! Baby wipes can cause irritation as can any lotions or oily lubricants. Let's not get paranoid here or someone will soon suggest we use brushes!! LOL
One does not have dirt in there if one is regular. If one is worried, they should prepare their body a few days in advance by eating lots of grains, veg and fruit and drinking heaps of water to avoid constipation. A plain water body temperature enema also helps but that is advanced play and not at all necessary under normal circumstances.
Quote by Tania
Best to stick a finger or 2 inside before hand to check for any suprises!
Baby wipes on a finger also make sure everything is clean.
A plain water body temperature enema also helps but that is advanced play and not at all necessary under normal circumstances.
Isn't that why the heads come off shower fittings?
Orgasminator
Anal sex without lubrication is NOT advisable. Even the slightest injury to the sensitive skin can cause big problems. You wouldn't run the pistons in your car engine without oil, so don't even think of going in there without KY!
Also for those who do it without a condom... you are brave, you are very brave! I know you can go there many times and nothing untoward happen to you afterwards but one time... one time is enough for a life full of regret. Just some food for thought.
Also for those who do it without a condom... you are brave, you are very brave! I know you can go there many times and nothing untoward happen to you afterwards but one time... one time is enough for a life full of regret. Just some food for thought.
Orgasminator
Quote by Bloke2005
Best to stick a finger or 2 inside before hand to check for any suprises!
Baby wipes on a finger also make sure everything is clean.
A plain water body temperature enema also helps but that is advanced play and not at all necessary under normal circumstances.
Isn't that why the heads come off shower fittings?
No, that is not it and don't even dare suggest such a thing as some fool may go out and do it and rip their gut apart!
I have always campaigned for safe sex and safe kink. Always willing to advise people on it having tried most things.
Lighten up Tania - it was a joke
Try this:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopicpage/20523/620.html
Try this:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopicpage/20523/620.html
Sex God
Quote by Tania
Anal sex without lubrication is NOT advisable. Even the slightest injury to the sensitive skin can cause big problems. You wouldn't run the pistons in your car engine without oil, so don't even think of going in there without KY!
Also for those who do it without a condom... you are brave, you are very brave! I know you can go there many times and nothing untoward happen to you afterwards but one time... one time is enough for a life full of regret. Just some food for thought.
So do you reccomend the conventional mineral 20/50 Duckhams (better for all round oil pressure) Or the fully synthetic 15/40 ( better at high temperatures) ??
Quote by Silk and Big G
Anal sex without lubrication is NOT advisable. Even the slightest injury to the sensitive skin can cause big problems. You wouldn't run the pistons in your car engine without oil, so don't even think of going in there without KY!
Also for those who do it without a condom... you are brave, you are very brave! I know you can go there many times and nothing untoward happen to you afterwards but one time... one time is enough for a life full of regret. Just some food for thought.
So do you reccomend the conventional mineral 20/50 Duckhams (better for all round oil pressure) Or the fully synthetic 15/40 ( better at high temperatures) ??
PMSL
is it me? It's different for different people. Using the style I suggested at least two regular former partners would decline further lubrication. The cool thing in my opinion is to always have some lubricant available - I always carry a sachet in my 'clubbing' bag. In a home situation, massage oil is nice too, but if you combine it with condoms you need the type that aren't affected by non-water-based lubricants (and as Tania points out, oils can sometimes cause irritation). The use of enemas is a bit over the top for many people I know, but you can get glycerin suppositories from the chemist that provide a quick clean out. As with most things, it's generally ladies' choice!
As for the use of condoms, I always have but there are many long-term couples that don't - it's a very personal choice.
As for the use of condoms, I always have but there are many long-term couples that don't - it's a very personal choice.
Orgasminator
Quote by Bloke2005
Lighten up Tania - it was a joke
I just feel we have public responsibility to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth in matters that concern one's health. I have seen too many people try things at home without enough knowledge and then rush to the A&E or worse even, not dare tell anyone and sit home and suffer...
Quote by Tania
Best to stick a finger or 2 inside before hand to check for any suprises!
Baby wipes on a finger also make sure everything is clean.
No way! Baby wipes can cause irritation as can any lotions or oily lubricants. Let's not get paranoid here or someone will soon suggest we use brushes!! LOL
One does not have dirt in there if one is regular. If one is worried, they should prepare their body a few days in advance by eating lots of grains, veg and fruit and drinking heaps of water to avoid constipation. A plain water body temperature enema also helps but that is advanced play and not at all necessary under normal circumstances.
Afraid I have to disagree on the baby wipe thing. If you look at the ingredients on your tube of KY and compare it with the ingredients in the wipes (the sensitive non fragranced type) I think you will find them comparable if not even in favour of the wipes.
Do agree however on other lotions and oily stuff. Baby oil in particular causes thrush in a lot of women. Something to do with upsetting the Ph balance.
Lydia
