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Are all 'straight' guys bi?

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It's reductionist to say all straight men are bi. None of us fit into boxes like that. But it seems even on sites like this where tolerant sexual people congregate that it seems hard for men to say they are bi in some way or another. The stereotype couple here is straight male, bi curious female. Yet on the bi chatrooms you see plenty of 'straight' men either singles or part of couples browsing. I think this is sad. And I think it means men think rightly or wrongly that there are negative consequences to be identified as bi. And women don't seem to face that fear.
For the record, I'm in the group who fall in love with women, admire their beauty, want to kiss, cuddle and cherish them while male beauty does nothing for me. Yet I'm a randy personality and a cock means some sexy time and it makes a great toy and lord knows how you fit labels to that.

Personally I like both cock and cunt. Cunt is probably nicer but cock is easier to get and way less hassle. So why not have both. Don't care what label you put on me.

Definitely not for me.

Women are lovely sexy and turn me on for lots of reasons and my thinking is i love my cock i like playing with it the feel of it so why wouldn't you like a different one ? Out dogging one summers evening decided to enter the bushes to see what goes on stumbled upon a guy with his cock out slowly wanking came straight to me putting his hand into my joggers touching my rapidly rising cock as he said what you looking for i just said a suck and he was on it and wow i was touching his warm cock and he gave me best blow job ever.

I stopped at that dogging spot lots of times over the next year or so and had many many wonderful blow jobs and got to play with and wank lot's of various size and shape cock then place got redeveloped so came on here and met with few men eventually tried to suck cock and its good to return the favour but i don't fancy men or look at them and think about cock and certainly wouldn't want to kiss one or have any kind of actual sex with them and certainly wouldn't consider any kind of relationship.

A lot of the men i met dogging were straight married men not at all gay but like cock to play with but i think it's just the sexual contact they want cause that's all i wanted and with your eyes closed you can't tell who's got your cock in there mouth and in my experience men understand how men work but still love women and everything about them so MFM is perfect

I don’t think it’s fair to say all straight guys are secretly bi. In my experience I’ve found that guys who identify as straight who I’ve played with haven’t always been looking for the closeness. It’s more about the physical act of sex than anything affectionate like kissing or cuddling. Again, this has been true of most but not all. I’ve been watched and touched by women whilst playing with guys but I’d still categorise myself as gay when someone asks. I think we’re maybe in a time where the old boxes don’t fit and so long as there are two consenting adults (or more if you’re lucky!) then what does it matter if you enjoy it.

Yes. It is just a matter of the right circumstances.

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Yes. It is just a matter of the right circumstances.

After over 20 years doing this, I can safely say there are no circumstances under which I would ever want or will have sexual contact with another man.

10 years ago I was straight then a husband touched my balls as I was in his wife. after that nothing happened for two years.

Now I consider myself flexible. Very happy to play with both husband and wife.

Some straight men ask me for a meet, I guess they don't want to scare women, it does scare some.

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Yes. It is just a matter of the right circumstances.

I totally agree! Many men will say never in the presence of their wife/girlfriend but on their own it's a totally different story.

What an odd question. The answer is simply no, not all straight me are bi. It's entirely possible that a man is bi and unaware of it and therefore identifies as straight. But "straight" men don't "become" bi when they have an encounter with another man, they simply uncover what was always there.

I was straight 💯 percent.

Then a guy held my ball as I fucked his wife. A few years later I was fucking me and I am lucky enough to have a bi gf who loves to see me do it especially if she gets his cock.

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After over 20 years doing this, I can safely say there are no circumstances under which I would ever want or will have sexual contact with another man.

............That you have thought of so far.......

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............That you have thought of so far.......

I wouldn't dream of telling you what you might fancy or vice versa so please don't tell me. I have seen plenty of naked men of all shapes/sizes and in many different circumstances yet never wanted or had any sexual contact with them. I accept you feel very differently about it but I find the thought of me being intimate with another man repulsive and that isn't going to change.

Why does there have to be a label for everything? We are down as straight because that describes us best. But that is not the end of the story. This is from our profile.

"Some touching, licking, sucking may go on in the mix, if all agree. Although those actions are Bisexual, we think of it more like having fun that is acceptable to all."

If someone wants to call us Bi, go ahead, it makes no difference to us. If we get criticised for putting straight when we may do Bi things? Go for it, it doesn't bother us. You want to restrict yourselves, that is your choice, want to experiment, your choice again.

So no, not all straight men are Bi, but equally, not all who are vociferous in their defence of their straightness are straight! Forget labels and just go have fun that is "agreeable to all".

get a guy horny enough and he will let literally anyone suck him.

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get a guy horny enough and he will let literally anyone suck him.

I'm not enjoying the tone of your previous two replies- its entirely up to individuals what they will or wont do and gross generalisations don't apply here any more than they do elsewhere and can be incredibly dangerous for what I would hope are obvious reasons.

Please be careful not to project your own views and attitudes onto other people, as Osemlover eloquently explained the view that you've put forward just isn't true for everyone.

NEVER assume anything about what anyone else is prepared to do. If someone tells you they don't want something - believe them! Just because something is true for you, does not mean it is for everyone else. Enthusiastic, informed consent should ALWAYS be the minimum requirement. If you don't have that.. dont do it!

"Be careful not to project your own views and attitudes onto other people" just because you are "not enjoying some replies." Well said. Take note yourself please.

On topic, and within bounds.

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"Be careful not to project your own views and attitudes onto other people" just because you are "not enjoying some replies." Well said. Take note yourself please.

On topic, and within bounds.

Firstly- if you're going to quote me, do so correctly and not in edit so that the tone of my comments is changed- poor etiquette in any circumstance.

Secondly- you're clearly off-topic, as for within bounds- it's not for you to comment on my moderating- as I've said in the past, if you don't like the way I moderate you are perfectly within your rights to take that up with the site admin team and they will review it with you.

Thirdly- merely stating something is true (on topic and within bounds in this case) does not make it so- ironically exactly the point I was making about the previous comments....

From my experience as a single male in many clubs I’d say a lot of men will experiment with their bi side.

Like pointed out below it will usually be sucking and wanking and very rarely kissing or anal.

I love cock play but as said above would never kiss a guy.

I’ve fucked a few guys but would never take cock.

Sorry but no.. I don't think all guys are bi... touching within a 3sum does not make someone even curious imo

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Sorry but no.. I don't think all guys are bi... touching within a 3sum does make someone even curious imo

I presume you meant "doesn't"?

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I presume you meant "doesn't"?

Adjusted lol and yes

Some years ago I would have certainly said no! However nowadays I'm a lot more open minded and there's very little I'd not do including wanking a bloke off, being wanked, or even giving a blow job but I suppose it's because I'm just exploring a part of me that has developed over the years.

Feel free to contact me!

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Some years ago I would have certainly said no! However nowadays I'm a lot more open minded and there's very little I'd not do including wanking a bloke off, being wanked, or even giving a blow job but I suppose it's because I'm just exploring a part of me that has developed over the years.

Feel free to contact me!

I'm not sure open minded is the right phrase to use, it carries implications that anyone who's not up for bisexual encounters is closed minded, which absolutely is not the case.

I've always been 100% straight. never thought about doing anything with another bloke. just getting divorced now and become really bi curious. I'm really want to explore and experiment. whether I like it no idea but really intrigued.

I think most blokes would experiment with other guys just afraid to admit it

I don't know if men realise just how many girls get turned on by the idea of guys having sexual interaction between each other, especially in group settings 😉 I've asked my girlfriends on girly nights out and a few admitted to watching gay porn when playing with themselves. I think it's super hot! I might not get the chance to watch it real life (or may do, who knows), but the whole idea is horny 😈🔥

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I think most blokes would experiment with other guys just afraid to admit it

You couldn't possibly be more wrong, and you really should consider the validity of projecting your own experiences and views onto others, it's telling.

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I don't know if men realise just how many girls get turned on by the idea of guys having sexual interaction between each other, especially in group settings 😉 I've asked my girlfriends on girly nights out and a few admitted to watching gay porn when playing with themselves. I think it's super hot! I might not get the chance to watch it real life (or may do, who knows), but the whole idea is horny 😈🔥

To be encouraged to play with another man by his wife or partner would be an incredible turn on...for both of us to be experiencing something together for the first time is such a massive turn on. Swords crossing ⚔️🔥