Are looks &amp; age important?

15 May 2006

Quote by lets_kiss
I wish I could feel like that but i said I prefer slim & thats a hurtful, thoughtless thing to say.
BTW I saw your advert! Im sure I recognised the words & I hope its working xxxx :swingingchair:

I prefer women who are in the, not a matchstick not to far the other way. That's me! I do not wish to up-set anyone. I know some women would never feel attracted to me, (6 feet 1 inch, 85 K.) but that is not an insult. They still talk to me. It is their choice. So you may say no thank you. That's your choice. It is not hurtful the way you put it. So please a polite no thank is no more than that. It is not an insult. It is your choice, just like it is the choice of everyone else, all can say no, there is nothing to be ashamed of in the word no.

15 May 2006

I like tall men I'm not going to appologies for it, it's not a consious decission, just happens to be a fact. Most men prefer women who are better endowed in cirtain areas than I happen to be, do I expect an appology from them? No, they can't help that either. We all like what we like, it doesn't mean we think any less of the people we don't fancy and equally we shouldn't feel that they think any less of us. Most of the time sexual attraction is inexplicable anyway, you try to put into words what it is about someone who's clothes you want to rip off and its not that easy to explain why you feel that way about someone who looks fairly similar to 'the next guy' whom you don't.
H.x

15 May 2006

Quote by H-x
I like tall men I'm not going to appologies for it, it's not a consious decission, just happens to be a fact. Most men prefer women who are better endowed in cirtain areas than I happen to be, do I expect an appology from them? No, they can't help that either. We all like what we like, it doesn't mean we think any less of the people we don't fancy and equally we shouldn't feel that they think any less of us. Most of the time sexual attraction is inexplicable anyway, you try to put into words what it is about someone who's clothes you want to rip off and its not that easy to explain why you feel that way about someone who looks fairly similar to 'the next guy' whom you don't.
H.x

No need to apologies for liking tall men. Women who like tall men are intelligent, pleasant and in your case attractive. ..but then I may be a little prejudice, being 6 plus.

17 May 2006

Quote by lets_kiss
I wish I could feel like that but i said I prefer slim & thats a hurtful, thoughtless thing to say.

How?

To say, "No, I don't shag fat ugly gits like you" is hurtful and thoughtless, to pretend to be interested rather than be honest is hurtful and thoughtless, to say "Sorry, I prefer slim people but thanks for the interest biggrin

" is polite and honest.
In answer to the original questions "Are size and age important?", the answer to that is yes - if those happen to be the critera you use to select partners. Everyone has a preference somewhere along the line: age, size, gender, ethnicity, location, hair colour, cock size, boob size, fetishes, whatever.
If you back down and apologise every time someone has a different view point to you, it's no wonder you feel pressurised by others - and the ability to say No and stick to your own choices is an essential tool in swinging or dogging.

17 May 2006

Dont worry ill be ok i'm still only playing with people I feel chemistry with. I won't back down in that respect

18 May 2006

Quote by Serendipity
I wish I could feel like that but i said I prefer slim & thats a hurtful, thoughtless thing to say.

How?

To say, "No, I don't shag fat ugly gits like you" is hurtful and thoughtless, to pretend to be interested rather than be honest is hurtful and thoughtless, to say "Sorry, I prefer slim people but thanks for the interest biggrin

" is polite and honest.
In answer to the original questions "Are size and age important?", the answer to that is yes - if those happen to be the critera you use to select partners. Everyone has a preference somewhere along the line: age, size, gender, ethnicity, location, hair colour, cock size, boob size, fetishes, whatever.
If you back down and apologise every time someone has a different view point to you, it's no wonder you feel pressurised by others - and the ability to say No and stick to your own choices is an essential tool in swinging or dogging.
Nicely put

18 May 2006

Quote by lets_kiss
i'm still only playing with people I feel chemistry with. I won't back down in that respect

Aren't we all? That's your own preference hunni, your rules so you stick with them :thumbup:

21 May 2006

I have watched this string develop and have been thinking about past experiences. Yes we ALL have personal preferences, its only natural. I remember an ex who would start out saying exactly the same as you, but usually ended up taking on all the guys in the room (even when I reminded her of her preferences confused

). So I can see exactly what your saying and apreciate the thoughts behind them, but sometimes we all get carried away with the moment. Personally I dont see this as a problem, but it may be if you latter regret having fun with somebody who doesnt fit in with your ideal mate.
I do wonder if, by expressing your preferences openly, you have made yourself a victem of those who would hang lables on people. I tend to be of the opinion that PERSONAL preferences are just that....personal...not public.
As a single guy I never appreciated the women of a more fuller figure, but having experienced a most wonderful woman (thankyou Jools 69position

), I have a more meaningfull outlook and....more fun. YAYYYYYYY.
Hugsss Ian

21 May 2006

Quote by donnyguy
I have watched this string develop

:smackbottom: :smackbottom: :smackbottom: :smackbottom: Thread ffs, its a thread rolleyes

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sheesh

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: only jokin mate, :welcome: to the nuthouse wave

as for the origional question :shock: being old, fat and ugly, I plead the 5th innocent

21 May 2006

hi just wanted to say im not offended by your post. Im a bbw, old and i suppose not so attractive but i would always tell a guy all this b4 meeting them, its only fair. I know im not what everyone is after and have no problem im not what some guys want - thats prefectly ok with me. I much prefer honesty every time, its just a pity sometimes more people arent so honest and will shag anything in sight just to get a shag. As a big girl i have preferences too so it would be pretty unfair if i got upset with those guys who express a preference for a thinner model.
By the way id love to b a thinner girl but at the moment i just have to make the most of what i've got

21 May 2006

Hi runtie

welcome hunni kiss

I gotta say I've seen more guys stipulating the lady be larger than smaller and quite a few saying they really go for bbws so you hold your head up and be proud of your lovely curves hunni. I know quite a few bbws and just because they're large, doesn't make them any less attractive than the thinner ladies, sometimes more so as they tend to have a personality too. As for age, who gives a rat's arse? I'll be 46 in 3 weeks and have had guys as young as 21 messaging me. Age is but a number hunni
:kiss:

21 May 2006

well runti you look dam good to me x i do feel looks are not as important as much as being a nice person .. i have met a few swingers that would not classed as models take a look at us we are an ordinary couple hopeffuly some one would find us ok and have some fun with them we are not every ones cup of tea and the knock back does kick your ego a bit but you just have to get on with it and try again . we have found most of the people we meet in the townhouse very nice and friendly so that means a lot to us even if we dont get to play with people its still a good night out

21 May 2006

I answered "yes" to your poll, but it was only half-way true. We've enjoyed swinging with a wide range of ages, the youngest being 21 and the oldest being 60. Thus, age is a total non-issue. However, there are still some physical characteristics that we're attracted to and others that we are not, and we prefer to swing with those whom we find attractive both inside and out. Thus, our "yes" response regards only the looks part of your poll, not the age.

21 May 2006

Quote by runtie
hi just wanted to say im not offended by your post. Im a bbw, old and i suppose not so attractive but i would always tell a guy all this b4 meeting them, its only fair. I know im not what everyone is after and have no problem im not what some guys want - thats prefectly ok with me. I much prefer honesty every time, its just a pity sometimes more people arent so honest and will shag anything in sight just to get a shag. As a big girl i have preferences too so it would be pretty unfair if i got upset with those guys who express a preference for a thinner model.
By the way id love to b a thinner girl but at the moment i just have to make the most of what i've got

Now in all honesty I've not botherd with this thread and beleave it or not I don't read the ones that I don't think will interest me but.......................I'm glad I just had a quick scan through as I like your outlook biggrin

I'm not shallow enough to go for looks I spend hours on MSN to differant people and I find I'm atracted to personalities more than looks, however as you say your allways up front about yourself this brings to mind what I've always said If I turn up to meet and the person i'm meeting turns out to look nothing like they have claimed to look during MSN chats then its home I go. Not because of what they look like but for the simple fact that they have been lying to me so the personality I thought I knew is fake because if they are prepared to lie to me about looks when I make it obvious thats not my hang up how can I be certain there persona on MSN is genuine :D :D :D

22 May 2006

Quote by lets_kiss
Most women when they get like this have a boyfriend or husband who talks some sense into them .

Lets_kiss - this bothers me. Swinging as a single female is something that requires a bit of faith in yourself - you WILL have to be brave sometimes, you WILL have to learn to deal with unwanted attention, and you WILL have to find the emotional maturity to deal with what can be a complicated set of circumstances - and you have to do that yourself, for yourself. YOU need to have the strength and self-respect to keep yourself safe here.
If you genuinely think you need a man to 'talk sense into you', you are not safe here. If you continue to get this upset about the effect your (entirely reasonable, it seems to me) views have on others, you are not safe here. If you have trouble refusing to play with people you don't want to play with, you are not safe here. At the very least you're going to spend all your time crying over threads like this, and at the other end of the scale, being a lone single female in a club who is incapable of saying 'no' is an extremely uncomfortable and potentially damaging scenario.
There's some good advice in this thread - if I were you, I would have a good read of it and think seriously about what you want to get out of this scene, and what kind of self-respect you need to have in order to manage it safely.
Cocoa x

22 May 2006

Cocoa, I feckin love you wink

brilliant brilliant post worship

22 May 2006

Cocoa~
Truer words were never spoken. passionkiss

~Reese

23 May 2006

Are looks & age important?

Feckin well hope not! :giggle:

23 May 2006

Quote by HornyLittleBlonde
In edit:
If you don't like the unwelcome attention from single guys at the club you go to, have you considered going on a Couples & single fems only night?

Why have I got this mad idea about an all girlies-with-attitude SH outing to a club on singles night? :twisted:

26 May 2006

Oh my, sounds like sharks in a swimming pool LOL :shock:

29 May 2006

Mine you not everyone likes stick insects:P

Are looks &amp; age important?

Are looks & age important?