I may be getting a little paranoid here BUT do most people go by JUST looks alone?
What chance dose a person who is stocky/well built (and i dont mean down below!) have against a person who shows a six pack or well toned?
Some people cannot have a six pack /toned body what ever they do to try and change things
Am i being Paranoid about this?
Look lets be honest here. If a couple or female is judging on looks alone ( I make no judgement here, cos thats their right), then average guys (like you & me) have to work harder at showing the side of us that appeals to the couple or female.
I have been in clubs many times and find that guys fail to socialise or communicate with the objects of their desire (I'm as guilty, cos I'm no don juan). Us average guys have to get up and let them know, its no good hovering in the playrooms if you can't string together a couple of sentences in the main rooms.
Sorry if this seems negetive but having once been part of a swinging couple who were seeking guys, we both felt that guys wern't getting off to a good start with couples.
I do know that there are people who just cant get it on unless they are attracted by looks alone, but I can also say that (from experience) YOU have to get out there & make it happen. How do they know what they are missing unless you let them know there is some attraction eh. I'm not advocating being pushy, just being a social person.
Hugsss all
Looks are just part of plethora of variables which causes us to find people (un)attractive. Of course they're important, but it doesn't mean you have to be Brad Pitt, you just have to appeal to whoever you're trying to appeal to.
Personally I find personal attitude WAY more important. If I don't like the way you think/act then you won't turn me on no matter how pretty you are, but if you share my sense of humour and come accross as being what I consider a nice person well...the rest is history!
Thank you all for your replies
some i know are meant in good faith to
will try to take everything on board
Hi robbiem, I just wanted to say looks are sort of important but not as you think. You dont have to be the most gorgeous thing on this earth not that im saying your not but whoever you meet, you will at least have to like the look of them and everyone (including you) probably have preferences as do the ladies who may be looking at you. To find someone compatible, even if it is just for a night of passion you still have to have a personality that goes with a face that someone likes. So hold on to that and you will find your someone soon.
Robbie,
Great post that covered what I've been thinking ever since joining! Let me know how you get on as the responses are a bit of a mixed bag. I'm in the same boat as you mate so get in touch.
Cheers,
Jon
Why do people always list attractive celebrities when they are asked who they would most like to fuck?
Why do many women like to dress-up and put make-up on or get their hair done?
Why do people have ‘best clothes’ for going out to certain types of events?
Why do so many people have personal preferences?
Would you be happy being intimate and personal with someone if you knew they found you unattractive physically?
If looks wasnt important, then id have the confidence not to worry about how important looks are
Looks many not be the only deciding factor, but personally I feel it is foolish to think that they can be pushed aside as irrelevant as part of the selection process as to who we wish to be intimate with (be that consciously or not).
It does not mean we all need to look the same or that only stunningly beautiful people get laid – as different people find different physical characteristic appealing. It may well even be the case that all it takes on the looks front is … there is nothing we find unappealing. That is when the other factors come into play.
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