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are married men outcasts???
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Zepsix,
Married men generally aren't social outcasts on here. However the community is divided between those who will play and those who won't play with married men.
Reasons for this vary but there is a feeling that married men out for a quick thrill and who are just cheating on their wives for the hell of it aren't that welcome. There are a number of reasons why married men do play either with or without their wives permission and that's up to them.
Married men who complain bitterly about their wives, aren't prepared to be honest with their wives, and if there are problems aren't prepared to work at saving their marriages are generally the ones in for a hard time.
I must admit to having concerns about playing with married men without knowing their wives ~ I guess my concern is the wife finding out and starting an unholy row into which I get dragged. Self protection I guess.
Cx
Married men generally aren't social outcasts on here. However the community is divided between those who will play and those who won't play with married men.
Reasons for this vary but there is a feeling that married men out for a quick thrill and who are just cheating on their wives for the hell of it aren't that welcome. There are a number of reasons why married men do play either with or without their wives permission and that's up to them.
Married men who complain bitterly about their wives, aren't prepared to be honest with their wives, and if there are problems aren't prepared to work at saving their marriages are generally the ones in for a hard time.
I must admit to having concerns about playing with married men without knowing their wives ~ I guess my concern is the wife finding out and starting an unholy row into which I get dragged. Self protection I guess.
Cx
I am VERY open minded, as some other forum members will vouch, but I draw the line at having sex with married men. My reason is because my ex husband hurt me very badly by shagging behind my back and I am very unwilling to be the 'other woman', especially if/when the wife finds out! It is immoral and unethical and can hurt a lot of people, it doesn't matter how discreet you are, you will get found out in the end and I don't want to be in the crossfire.
Of course if that married man is at a party with his wife and they both consent to sharing each other then that is a completely different matter.
Of course if that married man is at a party with his wife and they both consent to sharing each other then that is a completely different matter.
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open minded yes, cheating no....sorry think that goes for most of people on here.
We do this "swinging" malarkey as a couple.....I would hate it if Jensen did it on his own......and I would totally despise him if he did it behind my back.......
Jensen adds.....ditto
:love:
Netsuke
Sex God
Quote by zepsix
just a thought what about the married women on here who go behind there partners back and get a pap on the is that okay then:
It is no different really however you will find there is much higher demand than supply for single females and there will always be people who do not mind. However there is a surplus of single males which makes it easier for couples or females who mind about married men to only see those they know are single or playing with permission.
Roger the Dragon.
Sex God
Quote by zepsixwell if i had a pap on the back(your words) when i came home the shit would hit the fan
just a thought what about the married women on here who go behind there partners back and get a pap on the is that okay then
Quote by zepsix
just a thought what about the married women on here who go behind there partners back and get a pap on the is that okay then
No - I would include anyone going behind their partner's back as cheating - man or woman. I personally haven't seen anyone giving pats on backs to married women cheating. Please correct me if I am wrong.
Sex God
i dealt with this subject about 2 weeks ago ended up as a huge fight and row breaking out....
i think what this really relies on is consent... or in this case "implied" consent.... if he said that he had consent from the wife and said something to the fact of "you can talk to her" we would not being having this conversation now....
we all read something in the way that someone writes something... in the way that it is written it "implies" that he doesn't consent...rightly or wrongly.....
i suppose if the wifes doesn't know then the person i feel sorry for most of all is her....
some people can play and not have that gulit... after all it is not them who is lying...
others with and will steer well clear of the entire situation knowing that they could be contribution to a situation.......
each to there own... agree to disagree....... and move on....
seanxxxxxxxxx
i think what this really relies on is consent... or in this case "implied" consent.... if he said that he had consent from the wife and said something to the fact of "you can talk to her" we would not being having this conversation now....
we all read something in the way that someone writes something... in the way that it is written it "implies" that he doesn't consent...rightly or wrongly.....
i suppose if the wifes doesn't know then the person i feel sorry for most of all is her....
some people can play and not have that gulit... after all it is not them who is lying...
others with and will steer well clear of the entire situation knowing that they could be contribution to a situation.......
each to there own... agree to disagree....... and move on....
seanxxxxxxxxx
Personal opinion here....
On the site itself I don't have a problem with married men at all - I will take everyone for who they are individually...... on the personality front, I could dislike a single guy as much as I like a married one!! So no, it makes no odds to me
I tend to gravitate towards people of the same attitude too, not really into people that have to pigeon hole everyone before they've got to know them, instead of taking them on their own merit.
As for playing with a married guy..... I don't know I don't really find it a huge issue personally - I have enough of my own worries, without fretting about someone elses. As far as I'm concerned you have your own situations, worries etc, they are not my problem............. unless we got caught :shock: then it would be my problem :? Oh I don't know 
On the site itself I don't have a problem with married men at all - I will take everyone for who they are individually...... on the personality front, I could dislike a single guy as much as I like a married one!! So no, it makes no odds to me
I tend to gravitate towards people of the same attitude too, not really into people that have to pigeon hole everyone before they've got to know them, instead of taking them on their own merit.
As for playing with a married guy..... I don't know
I don't really find it a huge issue personally - I have enough of my own worries, without fretting about someone elses. As far as I'm concerned you have your own situations, worries etc, they are not my problem............. unless we got caught :shock: then it would be my problem :? Oh I don't know 
Sex God
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hiya again
i play as a single fem to sometimes im looked on as a outcast for playing without my hubby
well thats what they think im no outcast just up4fun
jo x
not at all jo.... the thing is if i was wanting to meet you and i was unsure.. i could talk to lee... hence the consent... and my mind would be put at ease.......
again i think it actually comes down to that....
sean xxxxxx
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hiya again
i play as a single fem to sometimes im looked on as a outcast for playing without my hubby
well thats what they think im no outcast just up4fun
jo x
Yeah but Jo - if he knows it is different surely?
Well its very different in our book. If your partner knows where you are and what you're doing then your not cheating....however if he/she thinks you nursing a sick relative when you're actually playing ... you're most definitely cheating.
Quote by zepsixNo, it is not you. There is a significant body of opinion that do have something against married men or women on here.
hi dont know if its me but is there something against married men on here then?
we all have or resons why we do i am giving anybody the chance to have there say
It has been discussed many times, and it is clear from those discussions that there is no one reason for this. For some, it is a moral issue, for some, it is a practical issue. Some feel very strongly about it and have a huge resentment about what the feel is cheating, and will have nothing to do with cheaters socially or sexually.
On the other hand, there are also those that are specifically looking for married men or women, because they feel that discretion is assured that way.
Most people are shades of grey between those two extremes.
There are also those that do not really care either way, and wonder why such a boring subject comes up time and time again.
So yes, there are some on here who treat men and women in your situation as outcasts. There is nothing that can be done to change this - they have made their own personal choices just as you have.
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Kat
Sex God
Quote by zepsix
just a thought what about the married women on here who go behind there partners back and get a pat on the is that okay then
We (myself and hubby) certainly don't give them a pat on the back. You will also notice that they don't come into the forum asking questions like 'are married women outcasts?' and generally don't come in complaining that they are in a marriage that they don't want to be in, their husband doesn't understand them , has gone off sex etc
Quote by zepsix
just a thought what about the married women on here who go behind there partners back and get a pat on the is that okay then
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I am VERY open minded, as some other forum members will vouch, but I draw the line at having sex with married men. My reason is because my ex husband hurt me very badly by shagging behind my back and I am very unwilling to be the 'other woman', especially if/when the wife finds out! It is immoral and unethical and can hurt a lot of people, it doesn't matter how discreet you are, you will get found out in the end and I don't want to be in the crossfire.
Of course if that married man is at a party with his wife and they both consent to sharing each other then that is a completely different matter.
not my faverate topic because I have strong beliefs here
married men OR women who play away from home are in the wrong, if their partner knows and says it is OK, no problems.
I was the guy whose wife was cheating, it hurt me,it hurt my family, it definatly hurt my kids who lost their dad through it all
I look at who gets hurt, usually its the innocents. That pisses me off.
I wont say anymore except this.... please think before playing away from home
Sex God
I think some people, OK then a lot of people, perceive married men playing singly as cheats being deliberately deceptive and disrespectful to their wives. Now, I'm not saying that's not true, but then again I wouldn't want to tar everyone with the same brush. I'm not trying to make some kind of blanket justification for infidelity here, but I do think we should not be too quick to make moral judgements about people whose motives we're not fully aware of, and I think that applies to men and women equally. If a woman is mistreated, or deprived of affection, or for whatever reason doesn't get all that she needs all the time from her husband, I think many people regard that as a plausible motive, even if they don't necessarily see it as an excuse. It might seem less plausible for a man to have similar motives, particularly on the mistreatment, but that's mainly because battered or sexually deprived husbands tend to keep that sort of thing a secret. What I'm saying is, let's not judge married men any more harshly than we would judge married women, because to be honest, I think some people do have a double standard on this issue.
Ice
Ice
Sexpert
You know something?
Some of you people are such hypocrites - you spout forth about not "playing " with married men ! BUT how many of you would say the same thing about playing with a married woman??????
NOT MANY I BET!
Some of you people are such hypocrites - you spout forth about not "playing " with married men ! BUT how many of you would say the same thing about playing with a married woman??????
NOT MANY I BET!
There are lots of married people whose relationships change over time - for whatever reason. There are lots of married people who have very different views from their partners and why shouldnt they? The bottom line is we are all individuals, and I can think of much worse faults in a husband than him having sex with someone else.
